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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (23 November 2006):
 When I was single a few years ago I had a male friend and we were good pals. Then he told me how he felt and I didn't feel the same way - he would start getting drunk and bitterly recount how I dated other guys but not him! It all got a bit obsessive really and I had to end the friendship for his sake as much as my own - I knew it was torture for him to see me with my (now) husband and the bitter resentment was eating him alive. I still miss his company but there you go. As for your situation, I suppose it depends on how mature your friend is and if he can handle platonic friendship...that determines it all really.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (23 November 2006):
 Once the cat is out of the bag, I think it's too late. He likes you. And the other response put it correctly, you have different hopes and expectations. What you see as just ebing nice or sociable, he'll read as you becoming weaker. This is especially true because he knows you're aware of his feelings.
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (23 November 2006):
 Hi Girl,
If he is already in love with you, the friendship is already over. Even though you might say you just want to be friends, he will only accept it falsely, as he will secretly hang on, hoping you will change your mind later.
It is rare that a real friendship blossoms when deep feelings come into play.
Good Luck.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Learning2Love +, writes (23 November 2006):
 The problem is that you both have different expectations. But if you somehow down the line see a future with him or you don't want to loose his friendship, then the best thing is to have some space and time apart especially if he keeps hounding you.
Remember to be kind but firm when you speak with him. And DON'T play with his feelings or give him false hope.
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