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Why won't he orgasm when I give him a bj?

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Question - (30 November 2006) 7 Answers - (Newest, 20 May 2008)
A female , anonymous writes:

I have tried giving my boyfriend oral and I know I am very good at this, But I want to know why he wont cum. I know he enjoys but it's upsetting me he always seems to worry more about my orgasm that his own what am I doing wrong?? Please Help I feel like nothing when I cant get him hard and to cum.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008):

To get him to shoot, suck him for a few minutes, then jack him with your hand. Few guys can get of on oral alone. The hand gets it ready, then slip your mouth on him and finish him off.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2007):

As a guy I can say that I've had some great head from girls, but for me it more relaxes me rather than gets me excited. I've actually never cum without significant hand assistance... Some people might say 'you're just doing it wrong', but in this regard I would say that men are like women - some are easier to bring to orgasm than others

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A male reader, Learning2Love +, writes (2 December 2006):

Learning2Love agony auntMy ex had the same 'problem' with me and I know it frustrated her, but I couldn't help it I was just having too much fun to spoil it by cumming. It might sound selfish but the pleasure is mostly in the act not the climax. She once gave me a bj that lasted almost 2 hours :), although she did have a sore neck for a few days :( But anyway if you want him to cum it's not your technique but the length of time you spend on any one of those techniques. Look at him while you're down there, and see his reaction to what you're doing at that moment... Remember that usually there's a combination of techniques that gets the job done. Spend some extra time on something that has him going over the top, but do change the techniques every so often. I never told my ex this because then it would've been over quicker. I was hardly ever worried about me getting off, as long as she was having a great time then I'd be happy. That's because I loved her deeply and so does your boyfriend.

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A male reader, lboy United Kingdom +, writes (1 December 2006):

lboy agony aunthi reader,

look at this from his point of view, he just might not want to cum because he is afraid that you don't want him to or he might just be embarassed to cum infront or inside you. don't think of it as him trying to insult you, think of it as he is trying to make you feel comfortable, well talk to him and i'm sure you can sort this thing out.

good luck



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A female reader, lonleyheart +, writes (30 November 2006):

lonleyheart agony auntyour not in the wrong hun don't be upest about it its just it's a possiblity that he doesn't want to come before you but think of it in this way when he does give you somthing and he gets all excited about it and then i would think maybe after you you couls try it then as he would be spurred up enough and just maybe he wants you just to have pleasure first thne it get's him all roused up that you have orgasmned which turns him on more

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2006):

dont worry this lad i was seeing hardly ever "came" but he loved it i think some men just dont as much as others x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2006):

Ok dont get upset over this its not as big a problem as you think.

Trust me all guys are different, just because you may have been with guys who could cum when you gave them a BJ, it doesnt mean all men are the same.

Some men just take a really long time and he may like a different techinque.

maybe you should ask him if he would like you to try a different technique.

I think you should ask him if it bothers him that he doesnt cum that way, if he says no then I would think that he just prefers to orgasm through sex.

Its only a problem if you make it one.

Speak to your man and tell him how you feel about this, he will tell all you need to know.

I think you are a luck woman to have a man who is more concerned with your pleasure, it sounds as though he really gets a kick out of it!.

So maybe that is why he doesnt want to cum b4 you.

ok just have fun and speak to the man.

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