I've just broken up with a player, I'm not devastated and I didn't love the bloke, but I soooooo want to teach him a lesson!
Q. Ok ok, for starters I don't want do gooders here! I don't want comments or advice from people who think I'm sad and bitter and I should move on and forget and forgive ok? I've just broken up with a player, I'm not devastated and I didn't love the ...
A. 9 July 2007: I have changed my mind about my advice further down. What if you try to set up a fake meeting to get back at him, and he says "No". Don't risk it. Just walk away. Someone will break his heart one day. Not your problem.... (read in full...)
How can I make my mum and dad approve of my boyfriend and allow us to marry?
Q. Ok here goes I am 16 years old and my fiance is 20 years old we are now 9 weeks pregnant and we have been together for a while, I was 15 when we got together and I'm about to be 17 in September. I want to marry him but my parents hate him and don't ...
A. 9 July 2007: Hi there,
I absolutely agree with flower girl. Your parents are behaving like this because they love you and want the best for you. You think they are wrong, but you have done a good job of proving them right so far.
You are pregnant, so you... (read in full...)
I've just broken up with a player, I'm not devastated and I didn't love the bloke, but I soooooo want to teach him a lesson!
Q. Ok ok, for starters I don't want do gooders here! I don't want comments or advice from people who think I'm sad and bitter and I should move on and forget and forgive ok? I've just broken up with a player, I'm not devastated and I didn't love the ...
A. 9 July 2007: I wouldn’t do anything myself, but in the spirit of helpfulness –
The one sure way of convincing him that you are hurt and bitter is to do something drastic to pay him back. It is usually bitter people who do that kind of thing. So do somethin... (read in full...)
Female in love with female. Need some advice on why after I told my best friend that I loved her she denied it, but she would continue to flirt.
Q. Female in love with female. Need some advice on why after I told my best friend that I loved her she denied it, would she continue to flirt. She refers to me as "Kimmers" just so you know. She is unhappily married and I don't need a lecture on that ...
A. 9 July 2007: Hi kelsi,
Yes, mixed messages. I don’t know your friend as you do, so can’t say why she is doing this. One explanation is that she is bisexual or gay and not comfortable with admitting it. I have no idea how likely this is to be the case. If she i... (read in full...)
Do I stay put or emigrate to be with my bf? What is the best thing to do?
Q. I am 35, separated (after 13 years of marriage) and have no children. I have wanted to change career for years and have just taken the plunge now to start on a degree course as I regretted not doing a degree in my late teens / early twenties - many ...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi,
This is a biggy isn’t it? Lots going on at the moment. I think the most important thing that I read from your question is that you seem to be spiralling down into a mild depression. This isn’t a state from which you can make such a huge dec... (read in full...)
Still thinking about a past female teacher. How do I stop?
Q. Hi thanks for the replys to my other question which was "i just want to know why i'm having these dreams and what they mean" they really made sense to me and i can see your point of view and how it does match my life in some way, infact in some ways ...
A. 6 July 2007: This is a tricky question. I don’t think you should try to see her. If you saw her once, it wouldn’t really help you get over this, you would just want to do it again and again. You don’t want to freak her out do you? So best to leave her be.
If... (read in full...)
Not sure if I'm ready for marriage and kids with this guy! Does that make me weird?
Q. I don`t know whether I am in love with my boyfriend. I dont know whether I am in love with my boyfriend , I think I love him. We firstly moved in together when we were just mates and he kept asking me out and asking me out and I said no unti...
A. 6 July 2007: I take it that on your salary you could afford to enjoy yourself more if you were on your own, but living with your boyfriend leaves you with little spending money? Do you think that if you could get out more, you might feel less trapped and happier ... (read in full...)
I think I might be pregnant; my boyfriend and I are happy but I'm worried about how others may react
Q. Hey guys. My name is Gemma and I am 18 years old. At the minute I am worrying about whether I could be pregnant or not and I don't know what to do. Me and my Boyfriend would love to have a child together and feel ready and committed to have a child ...
A. 6 July 2007: I agree with yummy mummy. No point agonising about this until you know for sure. Then, if you are pregnant, break it to your parents together. It doesn't matter what others think, but I suspect that they will be fine with it. Having a child is a ... (read in full...)
Afraid my small weiner will put her off!
Q. This is really urgent i am new to ths so i hope it gets sent out. I have a really small penis it is roughly 5 inches when erect. Can anyone tell me what the average size is? But thats not all my girl wants us to masturbate each other this SATURDAY. ...
A. 6 July 2007: OK, some men have bigger ones - but yours is normal - it isn't tiny at all. I'm not just saying that to reassure you, it is. If you act like everything is fine, so will she. She isn't going to whip out a tape measure, you know. There is one really ... (read in full...)
My gf and I can't go a day without arguing! She says being around me makes her angry. What should we do?
Q. My girlfriend of 2 years and I have been fighting alot lately. We can't seem to get along and not argue for more than a day. She says lately being around me makes her angry and in a bad mood. I really want this to work but I am not sure on what to ...
A. 6 July 2007: I agree with Danielepew, it looks like you 2 are finished. If there was a particular thing that was causing this trouble, you would have mentioned it. As there isn't, what can you fix? You just don't get on any more. It's painful, but its how ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone who is very overweight and won't try to lose it!
Q. What do I do if the person I'm in a serious relationship with, desiring marriage mostly on their part, is 135+ lbs overweight and despite my encouraging request to my significant other to lose weight and eat healthier has done almost nothing, if ...
A. 6 July 2007: The virtuous reply here is to say, if you love them, love them as they are. That's true. But. If you feel this will cause a problem for you long term, then be honest with yourself now because otherwise you might be looking at divorce in the end. No ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with paranoia?
Q. I suffer from extreme paranoia. What should I do?...
A. 6 July 2007: I agree. Medications, or counselling, or both. You need to ask for help.... (read in full...)
He's 34, I'm 21 and still live at home. My parents found out and went proper mental... !
Q. I am a 22 year old who still lives at home with her parents. I met this great guy through a woman that I know (he works for her). He is 34 and that is no issue to me, but when my parents found out, they had a heart attack. They freaked out on me ...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi there,
Your parents have not grasped the fact that you are a grown-up have they? They still want to believe that you are their little girl. Maybe they are quiet traditional in their views? Sure they worry about you, they can’t help it. They hav... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my girlfriend to bring us closer but she wants to wait
Q. Hi there. Im a 17year old virgin. Well... ive been with my girlfriend for 5 months now. I love her so much but i wanna feel so much more. And we were discussing sex. And she says shes going to wait til she gets married. I heard sex takes your ...
A. 6 July 2007: I don't think you want to "take it to a higher level", you just want to have sex, and are too embarassed to admit it because it sounds selfish. This waiting is important to her, and you must respect her wishes. If you pressure her into what she ... (read in full...)
I don't want to leave him but he's getting violent because I don't feel like having sex
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two years, and we have been engaged for five months. Although he's eleven years older than me, we've always gotten along together really well, with no problems. We have arguments every now and again, that don't ...
A. 6 July 2007: He doesn't love you. He may be dependant on you, it may be lust, but it is not love. Don't let yourself be another statistic. Get out. It has all been said by the other people on here. No need to say any more except to agree with every word so that ... (read in full...)
What's the average penis size?
Q. what is the average penis length and girth im 6.5 in lenght and 5.5 in girth iv read so many websites and suryes and im still as confused as before as to what the average is iv never had any complaints and always asked women who iv been with how ...
A. 6 July 2007: I think you are a bit worried or it wouldn’t have occurred to you to ask. Size really, really makes no difference, except in men’s minds. Concentrate on making a woman happy, and you can be a great lover whether it’s big or not. A man with a big ... (read in full...)
Can you get AIDS from sweat?
Q. Could you get STD,AIDS,HIV from sweat or somebody elses sweat?...
A. 6 July 2007: I should ahve said in my reply below, that an open wound can mean the tiniest cut that you don't know you have. Which is why unprotected sex isn't safe.... (read in full...)
Can you get AIDS from sweat?
Q. Could you get STD,AIDS,HIV from sweat or somebody elses sweat?...
A. 6 July 2007: It is passed between people by bodily fluids getting into an open wound. Sweat doesn't count, it's just salty water.... (read in full...)
What's the best excercise plan for losing weight?
Q. is it better to eat before you exercise or after you exercise? in the morning i prefer working out. should i eat my breakfast first, then wait 45min then workout? or should i eat after? what's the best? OR should i just eat when i'm hungry and also...
A. 6 July 2007: Rk06 obviously knows a lot more about the way things work than I do. The only thing that I would add, is to emphasise what he said about not trying to take off too much too fast. Every dieter who loses a lot of weight fast puts it all back on, and a ... (read in full...)
My best friend told my girl a lie that made her dump me; how do I win her back?
Q. my best friend told my girlfried sumthing that made her mad cuz i didnt say anything to him now she broke up with me and everything i say she shoots it down what do i do to fix this and get her back...
A. 6 July 2007: Not a very good best friend is he? Is he still your friend after all this? If he says he is, then ask him to tell her that he lied. It will be embarrassing for him, but he owes it to you. If he won’t do that for you, then I would find another best ... (read in full...)
My husband treats me so badly but I don't want to leave for our kids; what can I do?
Q. Hello, My husband and I have been married for 4 years, but together for 7. He's is 24, and I am 25. This is also my 2nd marriage. My husband just recently got out of the military. He was a military cop, so he has that attitude like a cop. He is also ...
A. 6 July 2007: Hi sweetheart,
So sorry to hear about this situation. It is never a light thing to suggest that someone leaves their spouse once they have children. If you didn’t have children, there would be no question. And in this case, I think there is also ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I don't fancy him anymore
Q. I love my boyfriend and have been with him for 4 years, but i just dont fancy him anymore. I dont want to leave him i want our relationship to work. Hes sweet and kind and he loves me too. How can i get the desire back for him physically....
A. 6 July 2007: I had this exact problem. I stayed for several more years than you because I loved him and we were so compatible in many ways. In the end I left for other reasons, although it was incredibly painful to do it. A few months later, I met my husband, ... (read in full...)
When my husband is upset he wakes me up; I get angry and he calls me mean
Q. I don't know how to handle this situation. My husband keeps me awake when he is upset. If I get angry after he wakes me up he turns the situation around and says I am mean to him. I don't understand why he does this....
A. 6 July 2007: You know that he is being unreasonable of course. I can well understand that your patience is wearing thin. The cod-psychologist in me wonders if he struggled to kick the habit of calling for his mum in the middle of the night when he was unhappy, ... (read in full...)
I feel he shouldn't be spending time with her with he should be with me
Q. my boyfriend of 8 yrs plays darts and his friends wife calls him when her husbands out of town to take her to the bar; she too is his friend they all play darts together when her husbands home i cant stand the idea of him spending time with her when ...
A. 5 July 2007: I don't agree FoxyR at all. Until you know that your boyfriend and this woman have done something wrong, you don't want to embarass yourself by letting her know that you are jealous. If something is going on, your problem is with your man not her. ... (read in full...)
Can a guy lose a lot of weight and his man boobs?
Q. dear cupid i would like to know is it possible for someone who is fat to lose all his weight and look slim along with losing the man boob and having a slim chest aswell. if so can anyone tell me how long it will take and one mre thing, it seems ...
A. 5 July 2007: The man boobs will reduce if you lose weight. A male friend of mine had trouble getting rid of them totally, and he did it by doing some weight training as well as watching what he ate. Everyone is bigger on one side than the other. ... (read in full...)
I have to choose one of two friends, but I love both of them!
Q. im love with two guys and both are friends they know each other very well.the problem is i dont know which one to choose...
A. 5 July 2007: You can’t love 2 people at the same time. You can love one person and be in lust with another. Or like one person and be in lust or love with another. But you aren’t at that stage yet. You just fancy both of them, so it isn’t that serious. Do they ... (read in full...)
How do you tell if a lesbian/bisexual woman is hitting on you?
Q. what are the signs that a bisexual female or lesbian is flirting and trying to get close with you? just very curious........
A. 5 July 2007: Well, the only time this happened to me, which is hardly a representative sample, it was pretty much the same as when a man chats you up. She was a complete stranger who got chatting to me, and then asked me if I wanted to go on to another club with ... (read in full...)
I am confused about when to try to have a baby
Q. Ladies I really need help from you. My husband and I are really wanting to have a baby but there is one thing that comes between us, its my period I am very inrregular sometimes I go a year with out it. the doctor put me on loestrin24 fe a birth ...
A. 5 July 2007: Excellent answer from deejuliet. You need to see your doctor about your fertility. As she said, this a separate issue from getting your periods regular.... (read in full...)
I dont trust my boyfriend because he talks to other girls
Q. Me and my boyfriend recently got back together after a break up that happened about a week ago, we've been dating almost 2 years. Over that past week he told me he needed to find himself, so I gave him the time and space to do so, and we got back ...
A. 5 July 2007: I agree with ariel and flower girls as regards your insecurity so I will just say what I think about your boyfriend’s ‘inability to communicate’. I hope male readers will forgive me for a bit of a sweeping statement. It often seems to be the case ... (read in full...)
I am feeling shut out from my daughter because of the boy she is dating
Q. I am a married woman with a 20 year old daughter. In the past few months she has been seeing a boy who we have not met and they have become very close. He is also 20 and is her first boyfriend and I have just found out that their relationship has ...
A. 5 July 2007: You are very lucky to have such a close and trusting relationship with your daughter. A lot of girls would have gone ballistic if their mothers asked about anything personal, let alone their sex life. I know this is very hard for you, and of course ... (read in full...)
I havent seen him for years but now my feelings for him are stronger than ever. Should I contact him?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for more than 5 years but but I have felt our relationship has stalled and we are more like brother and sister. I love him alot but can't picture myself with him even though he constantly talks about having a family ...
A. 5 July 2007: I think you are thinking about the other guy purely because you aren’t happy with your boyfriend. It’s very easy to look back nostalgically at what you had, or might have had, with another person. The rose-tinted specs come out, and the more you ... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend be able to tell that I am a virgin?
Q. My Boyfriend Thinks I Have had Sex But Im A Virgin Will He Know?...
A. 5 July 2007: Not unless you want him to. Not many women bleed the first time and if they do, it isn’t much. Also, there isn’t a sudden and drastic change in how you feel inside after the first time. All that stuff about getting loose if you have a lot of sex is ... (read in full...)
Do you bleed on your first few times having sex, or just on your first?
Q. Do You bleed on your first few times of having sex or just your first ??...
A. 5 July 2007: You don't necessarily ever bleed at all. It's only if your hymen was intact at the time. Some women aren't even born with an intact hymen, some tear it with tampons. If you keep bleeding each time, then you probably have a small tear, and you keep ... (read in full...)
Can you be pregnant and still get your period?
Q. erm can u be pregnant but come on your period?xx...
A. 5 July 2007: The mixed responses are confusing. The truth is that, no you can’t actually have a proper period. But you can get some bleeding early on in the pregnancy that might be confused with a period. Usually there is only one of these episodes, but it can ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I split up and I want him back
Q. Right well where do i start. me and my ex boyfriend were with each other for a long time and split up over something stupid. so i wanted to get him back. so i went with one of his best friends, who has a girlfriend. i'm still in love with my ex ...
A. 5 July 2007: If your response to losing him was to try to get back at him, then you don’t love him, it was hurt pride. Maybe he weakened last time, but he has said he doesn’t love you, and I would be inclined to believe him. Give up on this one.... (read in full...)
I gave him another chance and he proved himself but now I fancy his best friend
Q. I have a boyfriend I love him so much and he loves me back too. We are already 3 years and 6 months. He can't live without me, but when we were still in our 1st year of relationship, he moved in another location, which is very distant from where we ...
A. 5 July 2007: It would be really mean to get involved with your man’s friend. Being betrayed by both the woman he loves and his best friend would be terrible for him. So this is not an option, whatever happens between you and your man. If you have been together ... (read in full...)
He told me I was too young but we got drunk and kissed; am I doing the right thing?
Q. hi,im 16 and i really fancy this lad for almost a year now, only thing is, hes 20,i told him this a while ago and he said i was too young but that it was a shame because he thought i was the perfect girl. i was at a party in his house and we both ...
A. 5 July 2007: 4 years is a big gap at your age. People change so much in the 4 years between 16 and 20. Of course individual people vary, so it isn’t possible to have hard and fast rules. Like the other responder asked – is it nearer 3 years or 5? 20 and 17 ... (read in full...)
We've broken up twice and he's broken my heart; what is he playing at now?
Q. Hi, Long story last year three days before my birthday my bf broke up with me by phone... After three years. I'll admit i was not the best in a relationship i loved him to bits but was clingy. But then again he was not best boyfriend either, picked ...
A. 5 July 2007: He comes back because you let him. Don’t let him. If he loved you, he wouldn’t have left. There are loads of other men out there, and like sunrise says, life is too short for holding on to someone who doesn’t love you. At the moment, you can’t see ... (read in full...)
Does a guy say what he means when he's drunk?
Q. Hey, are what a guy says and does when he's drunk really what he thinks and feels? How do i know if he actually likes me or if he's just drunk and wants to get some skin?...
A. 5 July 2007: I'm afraid there is no sure answer to this one. Some people blurt out the truth that they were too shy to say when sober. But some do say things that they don't really mean - just jabber away not really thinking about what is coming out of their ... (read in full...)
I suffer extreme jealousy
Q. I have a serious jealousy problem. I cannot control it. There's this guy that my girlfriend is friends with; I don't even know the kid, I've never met him, and I hate his guts. I don't know why but whenever even his name comes up in a conversa...
A. 5 July 2007: How bad is this urge to hurt him? Have you suffered with violent jealousy before? I agree with the other responses as far as it goes, but if you really suspect that you might not be able to control yourself just with your own efforts, then get some ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend had sex with my mother!
Q. I came home from work the other day early and found my boyfriend who is 39, having sex with my mother, aged 69, on my bed. My parents live with me, as does my boyfriend who moved in last year. He does drink a lot as he is having problems with post ...
A. 5 July 2007: If he has slept with your mother a few times - what wouldn't he do? What on earth does he mean “only a few times”, as if that makes it OK. Once is unforgivable. He is about as low as it's possible to go. Being drunk is not an excuse, not even a ... (read in full...)
I respect girls and treat them right. So why won't they date me?
Q. Dear Everybody I'm 14 and surrounded by people my age with boy/girlfriends. All the boys in my year group are perverted and simply 'use' these girls to feel them up etc which is highly inaporpriate and In my opinion, very rude! I am one of onl...
A. 5 July 2007: Yos thinks he will get in trouble, but speaking as a woman, I think he’s right. I don’t think it’s anything to do with ‘nowadays’ as the other poster suggested. I’m pretty ancient, and when I was at school, most of the girls fancied a small number ... (read in full...)
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