We haven't had sex in our 5 year relationship because of contraceptive worries
Q. I'm a rare brand of guy, I'm 22 and a virgin. I've been with my girlfriend for slightly under five years now. We never had sex yet because well, I always assumed at some point she would get birth control. I was hoping she'd get the birth contr...
A. 2 July 2007: Statistically condoms and spermicidal cream are nearly as protective as the pill anyway, it depends on how careful you are. Based on the fact that you have waited 5 years because of this, I expect that you would be a lot more careful than most. You ... (read in full...)
Any idea on how to word an email to him?
Q. i'v been on 2 dates with a guy who is 10 yrs older... he is not my type, but i thought it would be fair to give him a chance as he really likes me and has done for a while..... after the second date he became less shy and we were getting on ...
A. 22 June 2007: It would be better to phone him really - email is a bit wimpy - but anyway -
Hi John,
About Monday night, I have been asked out on a date and have accepted because I really like him. I am sorry to let you down, but would prefer to be hon... (read in full...)
He's in a wheel chair with bipolar- he loves me but I don't love him. How can I tell him?
Q. I have a big problem,and if anyone can offer some good advice,I'm open to it. How do you get out of a bad relationship? I can't just walk away cause my guy is handicaped,in a wheelchair,bipolar and I am probably the only in the free world that ...
A. 22 June 2007: This is a really difficult one to answer. I think you might be asking for permission to leave, because although you are unhappy, your guilt is holding you back at the moment. That’s straight talking, but I think that’s what I can hear from what you ... (read in full...)
My ex is harassing me, his wife found out, and now SHE's harassing me!
Q. My ex boyfriend (now married) has been calling me from pay phones and his friends cell phones. I have been returning his phone calls because I thought something happened to him. So, I gave up. So, I get this phone call thinking it was him unfor...
A. 15 June 2007: I don't know how threatening she was. If she has only called twice, and no more, maybe she's happy that she's "scared you off", as she imagines, and will leave it at that. I would keep her message though, and any more that you get. If he calls ... (read in full...)
How do I get over him now he's getting engaged??
Q. hello, I need help... It's been a year since my boyfriend of 6 years and i broke up. I know it's been long but i miss him like crazy. We did continue to sleep together a couple of times after even though he had a new gf.. yes i know it's bad but ...
A. 15 June 2007: The reason that you aren't over him is that he continued to see you for a while, and allowed you to think he might come back. He was using you. You get over him by stopping all contact with him, no exceptions. You are fooling yourself if you think ... (read in full...)
Was I in the wrong for doubting her after receiving a tip off ?
Q. Well, its me again. I was the one who received the email about my girlfriend cheating on me. To recap: I received an email that said look in her myspace inbox in september. I found some incriminating evidence, it supported the accus...
A. 14 June 2007: No. You invaded her privacy, which was wrong. But if she had been innocent, she would have gone berserk about that far more than about the privacy issue. Then you gave her another chance, which she rejected. If she was unfaithful, maybe the ... (read in full...)
Im always trying to be helpful and romantic, so how do I deal with him cussing and not returning the favour ?
Q. hey hey..this question is to anyone..Im with my bf for 3 yrs and we r living together. When it comes to dinners, well, I do them every single day. I like to experiment when cooking so that gives me fun. And once in a while, I do some "romanti...
A. 14 June 2007: Has he always been like this? If so he’s a taker, not a giver. There are a lot of them about – both sexes. Wait till he’s not in a bad mood, and tell him that he isn’t treating you with the same consideration that you treat him, and that you want to ... (read in full...)
If a women wears a ring on her ring finger does that always mean she is taken ?
Q. If a woman has a ring on the ring finger of her left hand is she necessarily engaged or married, regardless of the style of ring (apart from something obviously temporary, like a Hula Hoop or something out of a cracker)?...
A. 14 June 2007: That's what it should mean. In fact that's the whole point of wearing a ring on that finger. I would assume that yes it does mean that, until she tells you otherwise.... (read in full...)
She broke up with me but still uses me as a security blanket
Q. hey... i recently got the dear jon letter from my ex... i love her but everytime i try and walk away and move on ...she starts smsing and calling me like crazy...what should i do..? is there hope?...
A. 14 June 2007: No there isn't. You are right, she is using you as a security blanket until she finds a new man to love. Like a lot of us, she is insecure and panics at the thought that she might not find another man to replace you. This doesn't mean that she still ... (read in full...)
How do I lose weight?
Q. how do i lose weight? well you see i am 15 years old and i am over weight i am a size 14/16 clothes and weigh 12 stone. it is really embarrasing but i cant seem to get rid of the weight! i eat at least 4 pieces of fruit a day. i get up have ...
A. 14 June 2007: As you don’t give your height, then I can’t tell if you are overweight. 12 stone is fine for a tall girl. Tall girls should be a bigger dress size. Also, if you exercise a lot, you will have more muscle, which weighs a lot more than fat. You are ... (read in full...)
Would it hurt to lose my virginity when I'm drunk?
Q. I'm almost 17 and am ready to have sex. I'm going to be honest, I'm gorgeous and a party girl - so boys date me under the impression we'll have sex. Of course once they find out I'm a virgin they run. If I have never done anything beyond making out ...
A. 14 June 2007: No lectures. Well it would hurt a little bit less I suppose, but it sounds a sad way to start out. I regretted my first time, because I picked the wrong man and he hurt me. I had drunk a couple of glasses, but wasn’t plastered. It hurt so much, that ... (read in full...)
How do I show her that I want to fix and will fix everything that was wrong in our relationship so we can still be together?
Q. So I need some help and advice. I have been with the same girl for three years. I met her online, and moved from Ohio to Las Vegas to be with her back in 2005 (we started dating and had a successful long term relationship at the beginning). Back in ...
A. 13 June 2007: What a sad letter you wrote there. You have got yourself into quite a state. Well how to put this? If the trimmings of a relationship are so very important to her – the romance and flowers that sometimes (but not always) come at the start of a ... (read in full...)
Is my husband making a mountain out of a molehill by complaining about these things?
Q. Been married for 5 years together for 7, I have a 19 1/2 year old son and a 171/2 year old daughter, their real dad (a lowlife but they love him) only lives 20 minutes away. My current husband, I feel targets my 20 year old constantly with tedious ...
A. 13 June 2007: His attitude is way over the top. I mean, shouting in the street in a bath towel – that’s a man that has totally lost it – and over what?! Saying that “stuff has built up” is no excuse. Niggles happen in families – it’s called normal life. And like ... (read in full...)
What are the dating rules for belching and farting?
Q. I need your help. I have started the process of dating after being widowed. I am now in my mid 40's and dating has changed significantly... I recently met a man online and we have been seeing each other for 2 months now. Things are going...
A. 13 June 2007: I don’t know anyone that thinks it’s OK to belch and fart openly in front of friends and family. But I suspect if his whole family does it, then he has been doing it for a long time and he isn’t going to change. After all, he must have noticed that ... (read in full...)
I am 35 and my parents seem to resent my relationship..how do I talk to them about this?
Q. I am a divorced man for the last 4 years. now I have a Girlfriend and we have been together for a year. We have discussed our relation ship and would like to take it to the next level. But my parents are very against it. I am 35 and I am only ...
A. 13 June 2007: It would obviously best to talk to them, but if you can’t then you have to figure out what to do without involving them. Maybe they just don’t want you to be hurt again, or maybe they thought your ex-wife was perfect and still regret the divorce. ... (read in full...)
I think he wants me just for sex..how can I make him want me in a proper way?
Q. Dear Cupid. There is this guy that I really seem to like. When im not with him, I want to talk to him, and I constantally think about him. The proble is, I know that he doesn't feel the same way. I really think that his whole intentions for c...
A. 13 June 2007: The hard truth is that you can’t make someone like you more. He knows you as you are, and for whatever reason, he hasn’t fallen in love. Unfortunately that’s life some of the time. It doesn’t mean you are at fault; he just isn’t destined to be the ... (read in full...)
Are relationships are all about being nice to others, no matter what you think about them or how nasty they may be? Any views?
Q. Pressure to be nice to others to gain a sense of acceptance gets on to my mind and i become impulsive and take some steps that may not be justified, like quitting a job, disowning a family member / friend etc. It's like relationships are all abou...
A. 13 June 2007: If someone expects you to treat your family or other friends badly, or compromise your career for them, then they aren’t your friend. Relationships do involve taking some flak in the bad times, but this should not be the norm. Relationships are a 2 ... (read in full...)
We're engaged but it seems like he's lost interest in the wedding... if we ever fix a date!
Q. Hi there, My fiance and I have been together for 5 years and we've been engaged since March of this year. He's 38 and I'm 33. He didn't proposed, but we've just talked about it. We plan to marry on November or at least this year sometime...
A. 13 June 2007: I planned my wedding in 3 months. I managed it because it was a very simple day – 50 guests – no bridesmaids or fancy cars etc. Believe me it was still hard work. I still didn’t get everything that I wanted because of the short timescale. The thing ... (read in full...)
Should I get my boyfriend a gift for father's day (even though he isn't the daddy)... ?
Q. I don't know if I should get my boyfriend a gift for father's day. i know he isn't my father. but we just had our 1st baby 2 months ago, and he is a really good daddy to her. He also works and supports us. I just want to let him know he's ...
A. 13 June 2007: Of course it’s OK to get him a father’s day gift. Men buy gifts on mother’s day on behalf of their young children. I don’t know your man, so it’s difficult to suggest something. Can you ask one of his friends, or his family? If all else fails, get ... (read in full...)
She wants to rebrand us as friends... will our 2 month travelling over summer be able to fix this?
Q. I had been going out with my girlfriend for 10 months. I am 26 and she has just turned 22. She had been on a university placement in a nearby country for most of this time and we made a point of seeing each other every 2-3 weeks. In addition, we ...
A. 13 June 2007: This is a tricky one. I would worry about spending 2 whole months away and alone with her, when your intentions are so different from hers. It will be very painful for you if she doesn’t respond in the way you hope, and it would ruin the trip. I ... (read in full...)
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