Is it weird for a male teacher to call you hunny?
Q. Is it weird for a male teacher whos like 30 to call a 14 female hunny? Cause today in class i went up to him privately and asked him if i could redo a quiz and he was like whats that hunny? and he kinda tends to flirt sometimes... but i dont know if ...
A. 19 February 2011: It's weird only if it keeps on happening. He's supposed to be your teacher. Your not his pet, and you are certainly not his "hunny". Call him on it next time. Tell him, my name is "________". If it doesn't stop, go to the principal.... (read in full...)
Having an affair with a married man...
Q. I'm a daycare teacher and currently having an affair with one of my parents. I know it's horrible but I'm enjoying every second of it. Every morning he drops his child off we chat but don't flirt to not make it obvious. But we know deep down we want ...
A. 18 February 2011: If you don't feel guilty, than what do you care what other people think? You obviously don't care enough to consider the damage you are doing to other people, so there you have it. I can tell you that this has disaster written all over it. Not only ... (read in full...)
I work with her -- how do I move on from these feelings?
Q. I am a 32 year old man and have been attracted to a co-worker (26 years old) for a few years now. I never acted on my feelings towards her because I knew she had a boyfriend. Within the last 6 months we have become a lot closer and I thought that ...
A. 16 February 2011: It's very hard when you are into someone with whom you work. The trick to reducing your feelings is distance and focusing on others or other activities. That becomes very difficult when you have to see someone every day. It will take a tremendous ... (read in full...)
How can love turn to indifference in a second?
Q. When D-Day came my xMM dumped me like a hot potatoe after a year of telling me how much he loved me...does he still care for me, think of me or did his feelings evaporate with the panic of W finding out? I just find it so difficult to understand how ...
A. 15 February 2011: Your story is not unusual at all. Take a look around this site and you will find plenty of horror stories of women (and men) who have wasted valuable time chasing a married or otherwise unavailable lover and who deluded themselves into believing ... (read in full...)
After having led me on with the promise of a life together, he suddenly decides to bail out. Should I tell his wife about the whole sham?
Q. Where to start. I fell in love with a married man. He told me that he was on his way out of his marriage. He gave me horror stories about his wife. 8, 9, 10 months go by and he and I are more in love than I've ever been with anyone and I'm not ...
A. 13 February 2011: Leave the wife alone. You got yourself into something you knew you should not have and now it's time for you to pay the price. The wife is paying her own price for staying with your cheating paramour. Stay away from married men. It's a losing game ... (read in full...)
How can I rake up the courage to end this relationship with this very over sensitive controlling guy?
Q. I apologize in advance if this gets long. I have a feeling I may start to vent. I've had bad relationships in the past. I seem to keep going after the same people, though, I don't realize it until it's months in and their true selves start shi...
A. 13 February 2011: This sounds to me to be a very unhealthy relationship (again, as you have pointed out). You strike me as a rescuer; that is, you boost your self-esteem by trying to rescue people who pay you back by making your life miserable. I'm not a ... (read in full...)
Can one person fall in love with two people?
Q. Is it possible to be in love with two people?...
A. 12 February 2011: Yes, but it will make you crazy eventually. You will someday have to choose one over the other.... (read in full...)
He gets SOOO angry! Is this normal?
Q. My boyfriend grabbed my head and slammed it against the door. He said that I wouldn't shut up (we were having an argument) and that because I followed him through the house (I was trying to get him to talk / listen) then I tip him over the edge and ...
A. 10 February 2011: This will only escalate to the detriment of your physical well being. You are in danger. Get out now, but do it with the help of family or a group that protects victims of domestic violence. ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that I don't hear from her as much or is she genuinely busy?
Q. I have been dating a woman 10 years younger than me for about a month and a half. When we first met it was instant fireworks. She called me every day texed me all the time and told me how much she misses me. She does live an hour away, is going t...
A. 9 February 2011: Probably being silly. If you start freaking out, you will definitely scare her away. Clingy and whiny is not attractive. Keep in mind, she's going to school and has 2 kids. That you hear from her at all is a miracle. Chill out.... (read in full...)
Got boyfriend but planning on sleeping with a married man!
Q. I live with my boyfriend, we have been together for 2 years! i met a young newly married man who is making passes at me! i now have strong feelings for him, and we are now planing on taking it to the next level'(sex). am so confusd! should i give ...
A. 9 February 2011: Confused? Let me add a little clarity. What you are planning is lower than low. Whatever disastrous consequences your reap from this planned atrocious conduct, you will deserve.... (read in full...)
In love with a man whom I dated in school. The catch: He's married.
Q. Why do women fall in love wih married men? This is my situation. After 22 years, I got back into touch with this guy that I date in middle school. Back then, we were really close. We lost touch, because my family moved from one side of town to ...
A. 7 February 2011: You may be afraid to be in a real relationship, which is why you get hung up on married men. You know this guy is unavailable, yet you spend time pining away for him. What a waste of time! Start working on yourself, and try and find out why it is ... (read in full...)
Worried I might get sucked back in...
Q. Hi, I hope i can get some good advice, the story is, I've been friends with a guy for 5 years. We've always just had a really good affinity, always just get on so easily. There was always a natural chemistry between us. I was in a relationship f...
A. 7 February 2011: It's very hard to do the "friend" thing if one or both parties still have romantic feelings. Time and distance can sometimes -- but not always -- take that away. It's a tall order, but it is possible. However, if you are worried about getting sucked ... (read in full...)
How can I tell someone I love him, when he's getting married in two months?
Q. Hi, I'm kinda at the end of my tether with something... how can I tell someone I love him, when he's getting married in two months? Or should I? But what can I do? Nothing has happened between us. I'm trying so hard to keep things platonic. I real...
A. 6 February 2011: The only method I'm aware of to "disenchant" oneself of another is through a strict regimen of no contact. No calls, no emails, no txts, no anything. I'm sure you can arrange it with your friends to avoid being around when your married friend is ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to act on my first date
Q. Well im about to go on my first date. I've never been on a date. Ever. So to me, this is a big deal! I'm going on a double date with my best friend and her boyfriend and I'll be going with my crush. We're going to go see a movie and then go eat to ...
A. 5 February 2011: Just relax, be yourself, and go with the flow. Have fun!... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my married lover's relationship with his wife won't end
Q. Help! I met this guy online last summer and fell completely in love with him. The problem is he confessed to me that he was married and his wife was pregnant. To make matters worse he is in the military and recently got transferred to another city ...
A. 5 February 2011: The minute he told you he was married, you should have run the other way as if your hair was on fire. Married men are nothing but asphalt on the road to ruin for a single girl. Forget this guy, or get used to a lonely and depressing life.... (read in full...)
How can I tell someone I love him, when he's getting married in two months?
Q. Hi, I'm kinda at the end of my tether with something... how can I tell someone I love him, when he's getting married in two months? Or should I? But what can I do? Nothing has happened between us. I'm trying so hard to keep things platonic. I real...
A. 5 February 2011: The 'ol "do unto others...." applies here (as it does almost everywhere). Don't mess up your friend's love affair with his fiance. That would be the height of selfishness. And, you will come off looking like a real drag and will definitely kill any ... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and I feel like I wasted my life!
Q. I know this is going to sound stupid, but I just turned 23 and I feel old. I remember being a pre-teen, looking up to all the twenty-somethings and wishing for time to speed up so I could move out, and do all the things adults are allowed to do. Now ...
A. 5 February 2011: 23, old??? Are ya serious, girl? Sweety, you have your whole life in front of you! The key to breaking out of your rut is YOU. Stop checking in with mommy and daddy (or whomever comprises "the whole family") and start living your life on your terms. ... (read in full...)
Contacted by my love from college, and it's awakened the old feelings
Q. Well I guess I should start from the beginning. I am a male and of Arab decent (Lebanese) born in the United States. I come from a family that is very Anglo looking, with blue eyes and light brown hair. I have been married about 6 years with two ...
A. 5 February 2011: I am always amazed at people who have no qualms whatsoever interfering in another person's marriage. It is so beyond the pale of what should be considered acceptable conduct in a civil society. Yet, the "me, me, me" attitude in today's modern world ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for not wanting her to be friends with this guy? Do you think it is a trust issue?
Q. I've been married for almost 11years. At the 3-4yr mark I found out my wife had an affair with one of our older friends son. He is about a year younger than us, we were around 19-20 and he was 17-18, he was in college. Okay so when I found out, I ...
A. 1 February 2011: She cheats, and you're the bad guy? I don't think so. She's doing this because apparently she's hardly ever wrong. And, when she is wrong, you're not allowed to really say anything about it. You are not wrong wanting her away from this guy. Wifey ... (read in full...)
My wife's male friend told her he loved her and she ask me what to do!
Q. My wife of 8 years with two kids asked me what she should do about her male friend who told her he love her. He said he knows she is married and she can't help him, but he can't stop thinking about her. He loves to talk the whole day with her. ...
A. 30 January 2011: I gotta tell ya, this guy has some balls saying that sort of thing to your wife. In most places in the world, hitting on someone's wife can get a guy seriously hurt. It's a blatant interference in your marriage by this clown. And, yes, your wife is ... (read in full...)
I love him & he loves me, but he has a girlfriend! How do I win him over?
Q. My issue is confusing me. I'm absolutely head over heals for this guy at work, but he has a girlfriend. Truth is he has been with this girl almost 2 yrs and he complains about her every single day to me. I'm sure he cares about her, but he has just ...
A. 27 January 2011: To female reader anonymous who thinks it's ok for other women to intefere with committed relationships on the theory that the intruder has no responsibility to the married woman or girlfriend -- I say nonsense!! I heard this same argument on ... (read in full...)
Does attitude really matter?
Q. Does attitude really matter??? Everybody keeps telling me to "be positive". ...
A. 27 January 2011: Attitude is everything.... (read in full...)
Married lover wants me back into his life after everything he's put me through!
Q. I was dating a married man who never told me that he is a A pastor as well, we were so much in love I got pregnant with his child but then he begged me to Terminate the pregnancy as I was not planning to have a child With him I terminated ...
A. 27 January 2011: First Rule of Dating: Don't Date Married Men!... (read in full...)
How is it possible after so many years to be still in love? Especially when we are both happily married to other people!
Q. Hi everybody my story follows: Met my first love 18 years ago. We were both teenagers and we had a very intense relationship for 3.5 years. This relationship was the first sex experience for both of us. To make long story short, she left th...
A. 27 January 2011: I'm not going to beat around the bush with you. It is breathtaking to me to see how foolish and selfish some people can be. All I hear from this post is "me, me, me". You say nothing of your wife who has committed her life to you, given you ... (read in full...)
Is he just flattered or is my marriage really in trouble?
Q. Ive been with my husband for around 5 yrs now and I can tell he's unhappy. Seems depressed alot and then all of a sudden about a week ago he started talking to a girl on a web-site and now he jumps up out of bed and cant wait to email her....this ...
A. 27 January 2011: Fairygal, I think you need to sit down with hubby and ask him what it is that this other woman supplied that he wasn't getting in the marriage. But, to answer your question, yes...I think in the final analysis that most men simply want to feel ... (read in full...)
I always helped him out and now it feels like he's deserted me!
Q. i think theres something wrong with me. i worked with a guy for the last 2 years and i know from the start i had feelings for him. he was in a bad way with work and everything so i took on the role of being his ' angel' if you like and got him back ...
A. 26 January 2011: There's nothing wrong with you. Lots of people get enmeshed in "special friendships" that are not reciprocal. It's a painful process. He's already told you he doesn't want a romantic relationship with you. He views you as a friend. The problem you ... (read in full...)
I love him & he loves me, but he has a girlfriend! How do I win him over?
Q. My issue is confusing me. I'm absolutely head over heals for this guy at work, but he has a girlfriend. Truth is he has been with this girl almost 2 yrs and he complains about her every single day to me. I'm sure he cares about her, but he has just ...
A. 26 January 2011: I think you need to step back and assess this situation. Unfortunately, you're already in deep -- and you work together -- which can be very difficult if it becomes necessary to move on.
It seems to me that this guy wants his cake and eat it t... (read in full...)
I asked for nude pictures of my ex! Was this cheating, and should I tell my girlfriend?
Q. I have a problem that I'm trying to figure out and I hope that I can get some help on here. I appreciate any and all advice. Ok, so I've been in a relationship for a little over 3 months now. It's been amazing every second. I really think that she...
A. 26 January 2011: It's not cheating. It's incredibly boneheaded, but it's not cheating. Some things are better left unsaid. Just let it go, and don't do it again. ... (read in full...)
I need an outsiders prospective...Does my husband just want out of this marriage?
Q. I have been married to my husband almost 5 years, and been with him for almost 12 years. Up until 10 days ago, if anyone would have asked, I would have told them that I have a very happy marriage. But that all changed. My husband blows up on me o...
A. 26 January 2011: Something is up. People don't turn on a dime without a reason. The abusive behavior leads me to believe he may be having an affair (emotional or physical). I say this because nobody does these sorts of things to their spouse unless there is some ... (read in full...)
Trying to get over my wife's affairs, but every time I dream I see her with other men......
Q. I am 45 year male married past 21 years My wife had 2 affairs in recent times when i was away on tours One with my friend and other with some internet man She said it was emotional thing which somehow eneded on bed She say now everything closed ...
A. 26 January 2011: Yeah...this isn't as if your wife put a dent in the fender and you can simply focus on getting the car repaired. What she has done is taken a flamethrower to your marriage. The woman is a true two-timer. Let her suffer the consequences. I'd kick her ... (read in full...)
Does she still care......
Q. I bumped in to my ex the other day I havnt seen her for six months, the breakup was hard she cheated on me with someone i walked away, the otherguy never worked out, but i remained in my view dignified. Communication since the split has been limited ...
A. 26 January 2011: You clearly have not moved on and you are assigning significance to what is meaningless conduct on her part. She hasn't seen you in six months for a reason. That you fortuitously bumped into her is mere happenstance, nothing more. I think the ... (read in full...)
We are not yet officially dating. So is it illogical for me to be jealous of his flirting with girls?
Q. This guy and i have been friends for a few months. Recently he told me he gets nervous around me because he's very attracted to me. After some more texting and flirting he then told me he wants to be my boyfriend. A few days later, we are still comm...
A. 26 January 2011: His conduct is certainly a red flag that you should pay attention to before getting involved.... (read in full...)
She left me when things were going great!
Q. I'm so confused right now. We were doing great and it's been 4 months. It starts off like this. I met her at a party 6 months ago while I was playing a guitar. She found me on facebook the next day and told me how amazing I was and wanted to get to ...
A. 25 January 2011: Marbles...with all due respect...if you try and stay "friends" with this flake of a woman while really wanting a full on relationship with her...you'll feel like your losing your marbles. And, let's be honest. You don't want to be buddys with her. ... (read in full...)
She left me when things were going great!
Q. I'm so confused right now. We were doing great and it's been 4 months. It starts off like this. I met her at a party 6 months ago while I was playing a guitar. She found me on facebook the next day and told me how amazing I was and wanted to get to ...
A. 25 January 2011: The woman is crazy. She's a flake. Do yourself a favor and forget her.... (read in full...)
Is it ok to send her a surprise gift while she's at work?
Q. Hey there people I am friends with a girl on facebook whom I really like. I am sure she likes me as well as we often exchanges playful messages on facebook. I however don't have her number yet. She recently updated her work information and...
A. 25 January 2011: Naahhh. Bad idea. That's too much, too soon. Take her out a couple of times before you start doing that sort of thing.... (read in full...)
He cheated, I cheated, then he cheated again.
Q. I am so confused. I can't decide whether to stay with my fiance or leave him for another guy. My fiance and I have lived together for the past 5 years. In the beginning he was cheating on me another girl that was his actual girlfriend at the time. ...
A. 25 January 2011: My head is spinning with all the cheating going on here. I'm not sure what you should do with regard to this so called "relationship", but I can tell you what not to do: Don't get married as that monogamy thingy is going to really cramp your style.... (read in full...)
Should I keep my married boyfriend's baby?
Q. I have been seeing a married man for almost 4 years he has been married 6 yrs. I know I will be judged and for the most part for what I have read on this topic, answers seem to be one sided. Always blaming the mistress. It takes two selfish,cheaters ...
A. 25 January 2011: I think people are entitled to weigh in with their opinion that what the two of you have done is just plain wrong. It needs to be said, especially in this day and age when it's so easy to cheat and when many people view marriage as a form of dating ... (read in full...)
Is he just flattered or is my marriage really in trouble?
Q. Ive been with my husband for around 5 yrs now and I can tell he's unhappy. Seems depressed alot and then all of a sudden about a week ago he started talking to a girl on a web-site and now he jumps up out of bed and cant wait to email her....this ...
A. 25 January 2011: I agree with Kenny. You're marriage is in trouble. Your hubby is having an emotional affair with another woman. Something is missing between the two of you. Get your hubby to see the reality of the situation. This isn't harmless goofing around. ... (read in full...)
Married and have feelings for another man
Q. I am a married woman. I have been married to the same man for almost 20 years. He loves me with all his heart. He is loyal, a good father to our kids, and he does everything for me. He puts up with me even when I am not nice to him. Any woman would ...
A. 25 January 2011: Nobody is blaming the woman here. It just so happens she is the one who sought advice, so the advice is directed at her. And, we really don't know what the guy has done here. All we know is that the person seeking our advice "thinks" the other guy ... (read in full...)
Married and have feelings for another man
Q. I am a married woman. I have been married to the same man for almost 20 years. He loves me with all his heart. He is loyal, a good father to our kids, and he does everything for me. He puts up with me even when I am not nice to him. Any woman would ...
A. 25 January 2011: I'm sorry, but I think female anonymous is dead wrong advising you to tell the married guy how you feel. That's how affairs start. You should be talking to your husband for crying out loud, not some married man! Talking to the married man is putting ... (read in full...)
Is my baby disrespecting me or cheating?
Q. Hi I'm Alex I don't know if I'm being used or cheated on, or whats going on but something doesn't seem right and it's hurting me. Ok Ive known my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. We started out dating for a whole month and oddly enough tha...
A. 25 January 2011: OP, you wrote"I want to trust her and I wanna remain with her and I want us to be happy is this possible and will her ex ever get out the picture?" You're not getting it. She's untrustworthy. You're basically saying "I wish things were different." ... (read in full...)
Married and have feelings for another man
Q. I am a married woman. I have been married to the same man for almost 20 years. He loves me with all his heart. He is loyal, a good father to our kids, and he does everything for me. He puts up with me even when I am not nice to him. Any woman would ...
A. 25 January 2011: I don't mean this in a mean way, but when I read the type of things you wrote I feel it is my duty as an Agony Aunt to lay it on the line. You are being selfish and self-absorbed. All of a sudden your "feelings" constitute the center of the known ... (read in full...)
Is my baby disrespecting me or cheating?
Q. Hi I'm Alex I don't know if I'm being used or cheated on, or whats going on but something doesn't seem right and it's hurting me. Ok Ive known my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. We started out dating for a whole month and oddly enough tha...
A. 25 January 2011: This girl cheated on her former bf with you, and now you are paranoid that she may be cheating on you -- ironically with the former bf (Payback is surely a bitch, ain't it?). Have you ever heard the saying, what she'll do with you, she'll do to you? ... (read in full...)
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