Married and have feelings for another man
Q. I am a married woman. I have been married to the same man for almost 20 years. He loves me with all his heart. He is loyal, a good father to our kids, and he does everything for me. He puts up with me even when I am not nice to him. Any woman would ...
A. 25 January 2011: Nobody is blaming the woman here. It just so happens she is the one who sought advice, so the advice is directed at her. And, we really don't know what the guy has done here. All we know is that the person seeking our advice "thinks" the other guy ... (read in full...)
Married and have feelings for another man
Q. I am a married woman. I have been married to the same man for almost 20 years. He loves me with all his heart. He is loyal, a good father to our kids, and he does everything for me. He puts up with me even when I am not nice to him. Any woman would ...
A. 25 January 2011: I'm sorry, but I think female anonymous is dead wrong advising you to tell the married guy how you feel. That's how affairs start. You should be talking to your husband for crying out loud, not some married man! Talking to the married man is putting ... (read in full...)
Is my baby disrespecting me or cheating?
Q. Hi I'm Alex I don't know if I'm being used or cheated on, or whats going on but something doesn't seem right and it's hurting me. Ok Ive known my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. We started out dating for a whole month and oddly enough tha...
A. 25 January 2011: OP, you wrote"I want to trust her and I wanna remain with her and I want us to be happy is this possible and will her ex ever get out the picture?" You're not getting it. She's untrustworthy. You're basically saying "I wish things were different." ... (read in full...)
Married and have feelings for another man
Q. I am a married woman. I have been married to the same man for almost 20 years. He loves me with all his heart. He is loyal, a good father to our kids, and he does everything for me. He puts up with me even when I am not nice to him. Any woman would ...
A. 25 January 2011: I don't mean this in a mean way, but when I read the type of things you wrote I feel it is my duty as an Agony Aunt to lay it on the line. You are being selfish and self-absorbed. All of a sudden your "feelings" constitute the center of the known ... (read in full...)
Is my baby disrespecting me or cheating?
Q. Hi I'm Alex I don't know if I'm being used or cheated on, or whats going on but something doesn't seem right and it's hurting me. Ok Ive known my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. We started out dating for a whole month and oddly enough tha...
A. 25 January 2011: This girl cheated on her former bf with you, and now you are paranoid that she may be cheating on you -- ironically with the former bf (Payback is surely a bitch, ain't it?). Have you ever heard the saying, what she'll do with you, she'll do to you? ... (read in full...)
My husband will not stop looking at women wearing low cut tops
Q. my husband will not stop looking at woman with low cut tops on. it is anyone not just attractive woman. when i question him he always denies it.i am getting so frustrated because i no he is doing this.please can you help as i think i am going ...
A. 25 January 2011: That's like getting upset that your husband won't stop breathing air. Seriously, it's unfair for men to catch hell for looking when women are out there showing it off. What are we supposed to do? We're men. We're attracted to women. We look at other ... (read in full...)
Text messages lead me to believe she wants her ex boyfriend/casual partner more then me!
Q. My fiance and I have been together for over a year. At first, like all relationships, things started off great, we'd text all the time, the sex was regular, we were both affectionate to each other. However, over the last few months, things have cha...
A. 24 January 2011: I'm sorry, but you sound like you are a little bit in denial. You've essentially discovered your fiance professing her love for another man (how you discovered this information is really irrelevant to the bigger picture) and you don't know what to ... (read in full...)
Bathing suit problem!!!
Q. Hi everyone, I've written quite a few comments on here before but I'm having trouble thinking clearly when it comes to this. My bf and I sometimes go to the pool together and we also go to the sauna. My bf would like to go to the sauna without an...
A. 24 January 2011: That is certainly reasonable.... (read in full...)
Opinions please! Is this considered cheating?
Q. My ex-girlfriend liked to go out with friends to the bar without me. She went to this one bar and become good friends with the male owner. She started texting this person a lot when not at the bar. Then she started staying over at the bar due to the ...
A. 23 January 2011: It's good she's your ex-girlfriend. You were so getting hosed! Emotional affairs are just as bad as, if not worse than, physical affairs. She was cheating on you -- emotionally (I'm assuming she wasn't sleeping with the guy). Her heart was with Mr. ... (read in full...)
Is my marriage salvageable?
Q. Is my marriage salvageable? We are both 2nd marriage people. We have been together 20 years 17 if those married. We couldn't get enough of each other at first now we barely spend any time together. Sex is blahh and not often maybe one to two mont...
A. 23 January 2011: The only people who can answer your question are you and your husband. Have you told him that you think the two of you should go to counseling? It sounds as if you assume he won't go. If you do ask (or have already asked) and he won't go, then you ... (read in full...)
Bathing suit problem!!!
Q. Hi everyone, I've written quite a few comments on here before but I'm having trouble thinking clearly when it comes to this. My bf and I sometimes go to the pool together and we also go to the sauna. My bf would like to go to the sauna without an...
A. 23 January 2011: You're not irrational. Would he be ok with you sitting in a sauna with only a towel and a bunch of naked sweaty men? Probably not. Tell him to suit up or shut up : Good luck. ... (read in full...)
I do not wish to attend my mother in law's funeral if husband's "Friend" will be there
Q. Very long and involved post so thank you very much in advance for reading. I have been married for a year but for various reasons my husband and I do not live together. This is mainly because I have a house from my previous marriage that my...
A. 23 January 2011: I'm sorry...I don't get it. Why are you married to this guy? You live apart. You don't get along. He has other female friends with whom he reminisces about their prior sexual exploits. He thinks you're mean to his kids from "other relationships." ... (read in full...)
My married man just let me go with no reason. I'm trying to get over him
Q. help! Im still in love with my married man. How can i comlpetely forget him? We have not contacted for 2 months now.i dont know the reason why. He just let me go without saying a word. Im trying to move on. I have been dating with other guys and ...
A. 23 January 2011: You got used. That's why he simply dropped off the face of the earth. He has a wife at home. This invariably is what happens when you date married men. It's almost like a self-inflicted wound. I just don't get why women do this to themselves. Now ... (read in full...)
Do guys like flowers?
Q. I'm thinking of sending my boyfriend flowers for valentines day because he's at the United States Air Force Academy and I'm stuck in Vermont. Would he like that? Do guys like that? why or why not?...
A. 23 January 2011: Yeah...no flowers. Get him some expensive bottle of booze or some food (chocolate).... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty for talking to a married man in this way?
Q. Okay, so i previously asked a question about 'how to get over this married man that i'm ridiculously obsessed with' so, i guess you can go check that out if you want before answering the question so you know so background info but anyway, i did ...
A. 23 January 2011: Sweety...the sooner you learn this, the better off you will be emotionally. Stay away from married men. If they're yapping to you, they have issues. Do yourself and his wife a favor and stay away. Now, to answer your question...yes you should not be ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents that I masturbate???
Q. I am 13, and I masturbate. No one knows about it and I don't know what to do about it. How do I tell my parents??? Should I tell my parents??? ...
A. 23 January 2011: No...they already know you whack off. It's no big deal.... (read in full...)
I find myself falling for a man who already has a girlfriend.
Q. Hi I am 45, recently divorced and redundant. Due to all these reasons I have been fairly depressed. I recently met a 37 year old guy at a party socially who befriended me and showed me a lot of sympathy. He also seems attracted to me. As a result I ...
A. 23 January 2011: Do you really want to get involved with such a creep. I say this only because I can see this coming a mile away. This guy is an emotional vampire. He sees you are vulnerable and he simply wants to use you for his own benefit. He doesn't give a damn ... (read in full...)
I just want my fiance back!
Q. I have cheated on my fiance several times,he had an idea, but as nothing was admitted or had been confirmed was thinking he just may have got it wrong. Well thats how it seemed. Last week he walked in and showed me a text he`d been sent with the ...
A. 23 January 2011: Are you kidding us? You're engaged but sleeping around, and you want to know how to get your fiance back? "The guys [you] slept with have made [you] feel so cheap..."? That's because you are cheap. Now you don't like the fit of the shoe you're ... (read in full...)
I've been asked to participate in a threesome but have conflicting feelings about it
Q. Been asked to partisipate in a three some but have very pro/con views on it plus I like the guy and dont know who the other person is. Am worried that I'll chicken out, it wont be as good as expected and am very nervus about this. Should I do it...
A. 23 January 2011: Don't do it. Also, you like a guy who is willing to share you with others? He obviously doesn't "like" you the same way. ... (read in full...)
I'm scared my ex boyfriend is going to hurt me again
Q. Hi all, Please can you advise on this, as I am very confused. I went out with a guy for a while and fell totally in love with him. However, he took advantage of that, and we fell out over lots of things and the relationship became very stressful and ...
A. 22 January 2011: If it hurts when you do that, then don't do that. You've been burned once, and you know deep down in your heart that it will happen again. This guy has already told you once before who he really is. You should believe him.... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable for me to expect my boyfriend to be over it by now?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and he is very lovely and we are happy together. in the first stages of our relationship i "cheated" on him with this guy we'll call Harry. By "cheated" i mean we used to email eachother all the time, ...
A. 22 January 2011: Yes, he should be over it by now. However, he was right to be concerned about your secretive emailing to another guy whom you admit having a "small crush" on. That's how things start. One thing leads to another, and the next thing you know your ... (read in full...)
My wife has webcam sex chats with men, and hides things from me. Should I be worried?
Q. My wife does webcam sex chats and hides a lot of stuff from me. Should I be worried? ...
A. 22 January 2011: Yes.... (read in full...)
I'm feeling uneasy about her close friendship with this guy!
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half now, and just recently have been realizing the magnitude of her relationship with her male friend. He is living in North Carolina and we are in Arizona. They have been friends longer than we ...
A. 22 January 2011: Hmmmmm. Yeah, you don't want to come off as clingy or insecure. However, your gf is certainly putting you to the test. I think it would bother most people if their gf or bf were that involved with a member of the opposite sex. I know there's a ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty about masturbating
Q. I'm a 17 year old bisexual female. I started masturbating to porn about a year and a half ago and feel so much guilt about it. I'm very ashamed myself, I don't think any of my friends do this. Am I a monster? ...
A. 22 January 2011: If God didn't want us to masturbate, he'd have made our arms a lot shorter : Sex is supposed to be fun. Enjoy it. Just be safe.... (read in full...)
Last year I slept with a co-worker. Now she will not let me forget it. How do I handle the problems she's causing me?
Q. In November, I slept with a co-worker. I'm married and I know I screwed up. Right after it happened, I felt guilty and told her that it would never happen again.Well, my wife works with us, and the co-worker has been dropping hints left and righ...
A. 22 January 2011: Wow, you could be a poster boy for why married people should not sleep with co-workers (or anyone else, for that matter). Man, you were just asking for a sledgehammer upside your head, and it looks like your little foxy lady is about to bring that ... (read in full...)
I pushed my fiancee into having a boob job and now I regret it
Q. I'll probably get criticised for this............... I always had a thing about boob jobs on women n although my fiancee had nice size breasts and a fantastic figure i constantly went on to her about wanting her to have one. Stupid i know. ...
A. 21 January 2011: What's that old saying, "watch what you wish for, because you just might get it." Well, you got what you asked for. It wasn't broke, but you had to go ahead and break it. I don't know that there is really much that you can do except go with the ... (read in full...)
I'm married but don't want to lose this friend!
Q. I am married. But I am in touch with a person whom I have known for sometime now. I consider him as a good friend of mine. I met him sometime back and developed an immediate liking for him. My marriage lacked nothing as I married someone I really ...
A. 20 January 2011: With all due respect, you are being extremely foolish. You are married...to a man who you love and respect, and this is how you show it back to him -- by developing feelings for another man? If you continue investing emotional energy in your new ... (read in full...)
Even although I've fallen for her... should I cut my losses?
Q. I got so know someone a while back. We met up fairly recently, but since then things have cooled (on this person's part, or so it seems to me). I've had everything - no credit, lots on, need space, etc. Problem is, it's got to the point where ...
A. 20 January 2011: Really, it sounds as if you are in a imaginary relationship. She sounds preoccupied with someone else, while you are preoccupied with her in your mind. It's not so much a matter of cutting your losses as it is of moving on and living your life. ... (read in full...)
What about liking Bad Girls?
Q. We hear why bad boys are liked; because they live on the edge, are exciting, can't be tamed easily and are unpredictable. For all those reasons are why I like Bad Girls but you never hear about guys chasing women like that much. So do you...
A. 20 January 2011: In my opinion, the male ego really doesn't want a bad girl to be his girl because we boys generally don't like sharing our women. Bad girls are fun for a party, but not for the real deal. ... (read in full...)
Affair: I wish I could back in time and just walk out the minute I seen him
Q. I recently ended an affair that I've been in for seven months. If I could go back in time I would NEVER have done it. I was bored with my husband who I have been married to for 20 years. I actually thought that I could flirt around and that ...
A. 19 January 2011: It's a matter of time and making a commitment to working on your marriage. As for the intrusive thoughts, just roll with them. If you fight it, it will take longer for it to go away. You also need to forgive yourself. We're all human, we're all ... (read in full...)
What does this text my ex sent really mean?
Q. I just wanted to get a little insight on my ex's recent text. Here's a quick background: The ex and I were living/together for 6 years. He left me 4 months ago for another woman. I was/am heartbroken. I began NC about 2 months ago and have stu...
A. 19 January 2011: I would change my number. You have nothing to gain keeping in contact with him, or allowing him to stay in contact with you. You don't want to touch that hot stove twice. Good luck on the NC. ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want a relationship right now. What!??
Q. Hi all, So, I need a bit of advice, validation. Hope you've got your reading glasses on as this is too long of a post... I've been dating a girl for the past 2.5 months. We've been getting dinner, getting lunch, going to movies, grabbing...
A. 18 January 2011: Don't fall into the trap of worrying about being rude to her. The focus now should be on you, not her. There's really no need to meet with her to put a bow on this pile of dog doo doo. Just let it be. Otherwise, you're making it more difficult for ... (read in full...)
After hacking into my husband's facebook account, my gut tells me not to trust him anymore
Q. My husband and I have been married for a little over a year and he is a deployed contractor. Everything was going fine from what I can tell, but then I read one of his emails from his phone that he left behind asking if he "hooked up w/ the chick" ...
A. 17 January 2011: I agree with the all of the posters who replied. Just one more piece of advice -- be very careful about "hacking" into your spouse's email account. I believe it is a violation of federal law. And, it is illegal in some states. Just make sure you ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want a relationship right now. What!??
Q. Hi all, So, I need a bit of advice, validation. Hope you've got your reading glasses on as this is too long of a post... I've been dating a girl for the past 2.5 months. We've been getting dinner, getting lunch, going to movies, grabbing...
A. 17 January 2011: It does suck ... out loud. But, you've hit the nail on the head. You've been relegated to the dreaded "friend zone." Interest level on her part is at zero. While it does suck, don't get too down on yourself or the situation. You're a young guy. It's ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy mimics you?
Q. what does it mean when a guy mimics you? When I touch his face, he touches mine. If I rub his hand, he rubs mine back. I kiss his cheek and he kisses mine back. He will often repeat the things I say if he thinks they're funny. Is he do...
A. 17 January 2011: It's part of the subconscious flirting ritual between people. It's called mirroring. He's into you. ... (read in full...)
Help! Is he playing games - How would you handle this with your boyfriend????
Q. Hi... This past Friday my BF was suppose to come over for dinner. When I texted him suggestions on what to make for dinner, he texted back saying: "I might not be able to come - My daughter has a baseball game and I thought it was canceled because ...
A. 16 January 2011: I have a suggestion...call him. So much is lost in the translation in e-mails and texts. I've experienced this where I've sent well-intentioned good-hearted emails that were taken the exact opposite of what I intended. There is no voice in a text ... (read in full...)
If she's engaged then why is she acting like this?
Q. I'm married. So no "you know better" talk....I already know. Here goes. I have been working with a very attractive, and up till recently, single girl. We've known each other 3 years. For the first couple of years she seemed kind of attracted to me. ...
A. 16 January 2011: Yes, it is a q & a forum and that is exactly what is happening. You should be thankful people are being so frank with you inasmuch as what your are contemplating is potentially disastrous for you and your family. Sometimes we all get a little lost ... (read in full...)
Am I a whore for wanting casual sex, sometimes with guys from the same circle of friends?
Q. I'm 24, single, and I have had 10 sexual partners, my sister is younger than me and is in a relationship, and she constantly dissaproves of my "love" life. She thinks I'm a whore. I've had my one night stands, also my serious relationships, ...
A. 16 January 2011: You're young, sound beautiful, and are single. No, you are not a whore. If you were a guy, you'd be considered a "stud" with a normal sex life. Enjoy yourself, but be careful of course. Also, watch out when doing guys who all hang together. That can ... (read in full...)
Why my married friend wants to communicate with me on the side?
Q. I have a married friend who we use to keep in touch in teh Skype b/c he's military deployed in Afghanistan. His year there was over so he told me we still kept in touch in the Skype, so i told him I didn't want any trouble if his wife would get mad ...
A. 16 January 2011: You are being set up. He plans on you becoming the "mistress" or girl on the side. Don't let him do this to you. I admire you for telling him that you didn't want to be the girl on the side, and even asked to meet his wife. He doesn't want that, ... (read in full...)
Dating etiquette...???
Q. Can someone advise me about dating etiquette and so on? I have been on three "dates" with a man that I really like but I am not sure if this is just the normal way that things go as I have not dated for a long time. We are colleagues, and each time ...
A. 16 January 2011: Ummm...yeah...he's interested in more than friendship. If he weren't interested there would be no kiss on either cheek. Call him and tell him you'd like to see him...like a real date...with no pretext necessary. You've got nothing to lose. Just be ... (read in full...)
My sister is moving to Australia, should I distance myself from her so it doesn't hurt when she leaves?
Q. My sister is going to a local college. We are very very close and even her leaving to go to college 20 minutes away and stay on campus was terribly difficult for me and i cried myself to sleep for about 2 weeks while she was moving in, and after she ...
A. 16 January 2011: Sweety, life is long. Please...listen to me....do not distance yourself from your sister. Show her all of the love you possibly can before she goes away. Yes you will miss her, but that's a part of life. It's not all rainbows and kittens 24-7 (sorry ... (read in full...)
Don't want to hurt my brother but I want to get my sister in law into bed
Q. i need help for years i`ve had a sexual attraction to my sister in law and hurting my brother is the last thing i want to do but this sexual attraction is really strong i really want to get her in bed what should i do?...
A. 15 January 2011: I think some of these questions are people pulling our chains. I say this because I can't imagine anyone could be so heartless and stupid to even begin to think that such a thing as this would be a good idea.... (read in full...)
Need advice on rebuilding trust in gf who cheated on me
Q. So my gf and I have been together for 4 and a half years and we love each other very much. I had a lot of trust in her about being with her guy friends. Then one day, while she was in the bathroom, I found some pictures of her with one of her ...
A. 15 January 2011: I don't know that there's much you can do other than stay with the cheater, or leave her and find someone who is worthy. I get a kick out of how your "gf" blamed you for her atrocious behavior. And, if you really believe she did nothing with this ... (read in full...)
If she's engaged then why is she acting like this?
Q. I'm married. So no "you know better" talk....I already know. Here goes. I have been working with a very attractive, and up till recently, single girl. We've known each other 3 years. For the first couple of years she seemed kind of attracted to me. ...
A. 15 January 2011: You're in your 30's? Really? You sound like a 7th grader. What's the point of your post? You want to know if an engaged woman likes you? Get a grip and go home to your wife!... (read in full...)
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