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anonymous
writes:me and my partner have been together for about 4 months and want a baby is it to soon and am i too young
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reader, HaileyBurger  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 No i don't think it's to soon, cause i'm in the same position only difference is that we are together for about 6 months now but know him a bit longer. I feel as tough we have been together much longer. I love him dearly and our relationship is strong. When both of you really feel ready go ahead and i hope for the best for you.
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reader, baby duck  +, writes (6 June 2008):
 Yes
It's perfectly normal and natural to feel the urge to procreate. As *evolved* as we are, we are still in the animal kingdom.
That said, the demands of babies (that grow into children that morph into teenagers) are tough on the most stable relationships that have plenty of money ... never mind four month old relationships amongst young people barely on their feet, financially.
Acknowledge your feelings. They're real and should not be dismissed or labeled as immature or irresponsible. They're valid feelings. However ... the mature, responsible choice is to wait until you both are thoroughly financially independent, educated or trained in a sufficiently stable career, and have been together long enough to have rational reasons to believe that your relationship is for the long haul.
Best wishes.
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (6 June 2008):
 now i dont think your too young but it is way to early in the relationship. my mom always used to say that people show there best side for the first 6 mounths of the relationship. i think you just want to have a baby and not that you want to have a baby with him. find a good partner or find out how good the one you have is, get married then have a kid. its a long process but a kid will be a lot harder to raise on your own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): The fact you have to ask, shows you have your doubts. Wait a few months at least and see how the relationship is then, and re-address the situation.xxx
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reader, little ninja +, writes (6 June 2008):
 hey if you say 16 weeks which is the equivelent of 4 months id have to say yes i think personally its to soon to consider babies..end of the day you should be getting to know each other first experiencing new things,you are at this moment in time in the honeymoon period and happy and in love take them heads out the clouds and see babies are a big commitment and get to know each other properly first before considering bringing a third person into a new relationship thats only just developing.
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