How should I control my jealously and this shock that my girlfriend defeated me in a game of soccer?
Q. Six months back, I started teaching Soccer to my girlfriend. We have been together two years. Two days ago, we had one-to-one match and I got shocked to death that she beat me by 6 goals to 3, out smarting me in every aspect of the game. It got ...
A. 7 October 2011: Get over it dude, so a girl beat you, what's the big deal?
It just means that you're a good teacher and hey, you have a girlfriend that's good at soccer!
Don't let this eat you up, jealousy can consume you and kill a relationship. Ju... (read in full...)
Why did my last guy refuse to give me another chance? I know I cheated. What should I do?
Q. Since as long as I can think back I have cheated on every guy I dated. I had been with my soul mate now for 9 years. For 2 years I did resist cheating except for the first 6 months. We was about to set a date to marry when he found out I was sex ...
A. 7 October 2011: This is not his responsibility. Perhaps you no longer find him fun because you lack patience in relationships, which would explain why you can't settle down and cheat on all of your boyfriends. He was ready to marry you, but you started sexting ... (read in full...)
Could this just be lack of experience on his part?
Q. I have a question about men and sex. Recently I started seeing a new man, he is in his late 20's and not very experienced. He told me he didn't really enjoy penetration and could take it or leave it. When he does have sex he tends to favour girl o...
A. 7 October 2011: He might not enjoy certain aspects of sex because he hasn't had good sex partners in his past, or perhaps like you said, he's just lacking experience. Experiment with new things, new positions and ideas etc. If he's cumming too fast, maybe ... (read in full...)
Do I tell her I invaded her privacy and looked through her phone to get some answers?
Q. I've been seeing this girl for 4 months now and things have been great. I knew she had an x-boyfriend, as most people do by your early 20’s, but when she spoke of him it was never that she longed for him, there was mostly resentment for the way ...
A. 7 October 2011: Hi, I understand your pain and paranoia. If you've had trouble with exes from your past relationship, it's only natural to expect similar trouble in future relationships, and its understandable to be uneasy about her and her ex too. She soun... (read in full...)
What are the ethics of dating and intimate relationships in the workplace?
Q. I would like to ask a question....what do ypu think of intimate relationships/dating between co-workers? for example are they right? should they be avoided? also is dating between a boss/supervisor and a lower worker ethical? also can some of the ...
A. 7 October 2011: I've tried dating a co-worker once, and I really regret it. It made work an awkward and difficult place to be, other people gossip and you get scrutinized a lot more by your boss. In my opinion, relationships and business should stay far away from ... (read in full...)
I'm just not interested in having a relationship. What's wrong with me?
Q. I'm just gonna' jump right in here... Almost a year ago I lost my Dad. At the time I was in a relationship that was coming to an end. Anyway, when my Dad passed my partner at the time told me she was pregnant. But because of the timing of my Dad...
A. 7 October 2011: A relationship just might not be what you need at this time in your life. It's a good idea to keep dating to keep yourself out there, but if you're not interested then you're not interested.
I've had dates where I haven't had the slightes... (read in full...)
Does this profile picture mean she's in a relationship?
Q. Hi. This girl I really like uploaded a profile picture on Facebook with her smiling in a photo with a boy. I'm not added as a friend so I can't see her relationship status. Does this mean that she's likely in a relationship? Why else would she u...
A. 7 October 2011: It could mean that. Are they hugging or holding hands or doing anything sort of close like that?
She could just be good friends with this person.
Do you know the girl in real life? You should ask her, or perhaps just send her a friend reque... (read in full...)
I'm terrified that I'll never fall in love again
Q. Ever since I broke up with my ex 2 years ago I havent been able to have feelings for any other guy. I was madly in love with him and he broke my heart. I have been on many dates but when it becomes remotely serious I just back out and think I can'...
A. 7 October 2011: Hi, What your experiencing is normal. You had a deep and serious relationship that you poured a lot of love into and it ended in heartbreak. The reason that you have feelings of panic when you get close to this new guy is because you're afraid of... (read in full...)
The relationship has lost its spark
Q. I am 20 years old. I have been with my boyfriend who is 25 for a year and a half. We moved in with each other pretty much straight away, about three months in... for the first 3 months of being with him we had sex maybe twice a day... always t...
A. 4 October 2011: This man is abusive to you. Perhaps you see your issues as just another relationship that may be losing its spark, but he has physically, emotionally and mentally been abusing you.
What the problem I believe is, is that you two moved in too quic... (read in full...)
How can I control my lust?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I think my lust level is way too high compared to normal women. I swore to myself I won't sleep with anyone til I'm married, but I think about sex 24/7. I know this sounds like a paradox, but I really don't want to have sex...
A. 4 October 2011: Self-control and keeping busy.
Idle hands are the devil's playground, if you keep yourself busy then your mind won't be on sex all the time. Take up a hobby or a class, go out with friends more.
Thinking about sex is only natural, especia... (read in full...)
I'm only 15, if nothing's happened with a guy yet, will it ever?
Q. im 15 and i have not had any interact with a boy. ive never been kissed, or had a boyfriend or had sex. i get attention quite a bit from older men. but im worried that if i havent manged to do anything so far it will neverhappen. like i keep ...
A. 4 October 2011: You're only 15. I know that might feel old and like the clock is ticking away, but you have so much time ahead of you.
I didn't get my first kiss until I was 18, and I didn't lose my virginity until I was 20. It really isn't a big deal. These th... (read in full...)
No husband or boyfriend. Am I wrong to feel bad about this?
Q. Is it wrong for me to think that my life is over because I don't have a husband OR boyfriend? I'm 35 and I hardly even date. I'm extremely shy and not a positive thinker. ...
A. 4 October 2011: No it is not wrong at all, and your life certainly isn't over because of it.
35 isn't old, you still have a long time to go. That's a lot of opportunities to meet new people and form new relationships.
And if you're not interested in relationship... (read in full...)
I gave him $9000 dollars. Could that be the only reason he stays? He still hasn't paid it back.
Q. My and my bf of 1.5 years had a fight a week back which was not my fault. But anyway i apologiazed and we made up. But the thing is he used to call me/msg me at least once a day. For the past few days he is not calling, even if he does just talk...
A. 4 October 2011: This is something that you have to talk to him about.
Nine thousand dollars is an awful lot of money, you have to make sure that you get that back.
Talk to him and ask him how he feels about the relationship, ask him why he doesn't call or ... (read in full...)
Was I Wrong for Talking to Another Guy?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me almost a month ago. We were having some troubles about a year ago and just took a break for about two months. In that two months he talked to other girls and i talked to this guy. I had a crush on him and so di he. We ...
A. 4 October 2011: All you did was talk to this other boy? Whilst your were broken up?
That is a ridiculous over reaction on his part. You have every right in the world to talk to whoever you want. It would be different if you had sex with this other guy whilst y... (read in full...)
I'm worried about how I will handle my first relationship. Can anyone give me any tips?
Q. Hi. Okay, so I'm sixteen and I've never had an actual relationship before. Like, I've liked a guy and they've liked me back but its never gone as far as that, kinda like a 'flirtationship'. I'm scared that when i eventually get into a relation...
A. 4 October 2011: Relationships can be daunting things when you haven't been in them before, but trust me it will all come naturally when you meet the right guy that you really like.
A partner is really a lot like a best friend. You spend time together, do things t... (read in full...)
I broke up with b/f to make him realize he took me forgranted, but it backfired!
Q. i don't know what to do... i was in a long distance relationship for almost 5 years, and things were not going well... he's always been insecure, never trusted me enough and i was going through a rough time in my life... i really needed his suppo...
A. 4 October 2011: You made a really risky move, and it backfired on you. If you really miss him and really want him back, then all you can do is talk to him and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you miss him and breaking up was a mistake. If he agrees and is w... (read in full...)
How do you meet people when you're new in a city?
Q. A few months ago, my ex and I broke up. I'm in the process of moving to a new city, and I'm ready to get back into dating. My question is, how do you meet people when you're new in a city? I used to be shy, but I think I've become really confident ...
A. 23 February 2011: Over time you'll start to meet new guys, say when you start a new job or if you study, you'll meet people there.
Or try to find some kind of interest you like and see if there's any clubs or communities in the area
Otherwise, just keep an eye ... (read in full...)
I said I'd propose, but I'm not ready!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now in a long distance relationship. There's about a 700km distance between us but we still manage to see each other nearly every month. Ever since we started going out, she's brought up engagement an...
A. 9 February 2011: Just an update, I spoke to my girlfriend tonight about the situation. There were some tears, and it was a difficult conversation. But once I started talking it all just came out. She was definitely upset by it, and said that she felt hurt that I... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend, but having sex with him isn't as fun as it use to be. What should I do?
Q. When my boyfriend and I have sex. It usually is extremely amazing and leaves me breathless. However, lately, it's becoming like a routine, we have sex almost every day. But it's getting boring. I don't really get turned on by him anymore. Most of ...
A. 7 February 2011: Try spicing things up, suggest new positions, roleplay etc.
If it starts becoming routine, then do things to change that routine. Try surprising him, wearing costumes even, or doing it in different places.
But like debsman said, maybe talk t... (read in full...)
My girlfriend became a prostitute during our relationship
Q. My girlfriend became a prostitute during our relationship. I knew about it but did nothing as she said she was feeling depressed and this helped. She made me feel bad about asking her to quit. I absolutely hated it. Its still eating me up inside ...
A. 7 February 2011: Just to clarify, while you were dating your girlfriend, she became a prostitute and began receiving payment in return for sex, and she expected to be okay with it because it makes her feel better?
It's good to support partners in their career d... (read in full...)
My girlfriend became a prostitute during our relationship
Q. My girlfriend became a prostitute during our relationship. I knew about it but did nothing as she said she was feeling depressed and this helped. She made me feel bad about asking her to quit. I absolutely hated it. Its still eating me up inside ...
A. 7 February 2011: Just to clarify, while you were dating your girlfriend, she became a prostitute and began receiving payment in return for sex, and she expected to be okay with it because it makes her feel better? It's good to support partners in their career dec... (read in full...)
My friend wont get over her EX, how much longer do I allow her to mope?
Q. My friend is really depressed after her boyfriend broke up with her. It was her first relationship and she is in her 20's. He left her a few days before New Years. They had been going out for a little over 2 years. She wont get over him, she mopes ...
A. 7 February 2011: It's a bit of a bind you're in there. I know first hand how frustrating it can be when all friends ever do is complain, mope and bring you down because of how depressed they are. At the same time, you still feel inclined to be there for them and to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always think I'm flirting and can not accept that I am bisexual
Q. I'm female and I am bisexual. My boyfriend knows it! I don't deny it and I never will. He hates the fact that I am and he even told me so. I make it clear to him as much as I can that I love him and no one else. However, everytime we are with my f...
A. 7 February 2011: Some men have tendencies to become very possessive and jealous. While he might think he's being caring and protective of your relationship with him, he's really being controlling and forceful. He needs to understand your sexuality, it's ... (read in full...)
Am I masturbating too much?
Q. I have a girlfriend as of now, but I still masturbate at least once, usually twice per day. All told, between my time with her and my own time I'm getting off about 13-16 times per week. I know that this may qualify as over-masturbation, but I'm not ...
A. 6 February 2011: That's not too much. You're a 17-year-old guy. All teenage guys do it a lot. 13-16 times a week might be more than normal, but I wouldn't say it's unhealthy. If you were doing it sixteen times a day then that might be a different question. But you'... (read in full...)
I want to get to know this guy better, but I cant leave my boyfriend because of his threats each time I try! Help!
Q. Please help, I don't know what to do. This is a long story and very confusing too. I'm in a relationship for 6 years, on and off. When i said on and off, I meant, i was looking a better different bf. However, my current bf and I fight all the time. ...
A. 6 February 2011: Just like wants2behappy said, your boyfriend is emotionally blackmailing you. The odds are, he probably won't kill himself if you leave him. When someone threatens to harm themselves in an ultimatum, it's generally a last ditch effort to maintain... (read in full...)
I doubted my boyfriend and now we're on a break...
Q. What can I say to my boyfriend?? I broke his heart:(? So my boyfriend told me something that happened with him and some girl that likes him.. Anyways I got it all wrong and thought he cheated on me with her..but it turns not to be true. I got re...
A. 6 February 2011: Give him time and space. Crying on the phone for two hours will only push him further away. Don't smother him, don't force yourself on him and don't pressure him. Let him know that you are sorry, that you jumped to the wrong conclusion becau... (read in full...)
Its so hard to break up with someone when you don't have the power to stay away!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together about 2 and a half years. We always planned to move in together this year but things just never seemed to favour that plan, so as it is we see each other once or twice a week. The first year was pretty good,...
A. 5 February 2011: I know what you mean, it's a difficult situation you're in.
Despite your differences, you have to decide if it's worth staying in a relationship. Do you see either of you improving or working through your problems? Do you see much of a future toge... (read in full...)
Broke up after 10 yrs she already searching eharmony
Q. we have been together for 10 yrs have 2 kids. I told her I wanted to end it a month ago because I catch her in lies all the time....including cheating on me 7 yrs ago in which I found out 2 yrs ago...we have been arguing a lot the last year or so. ...
A. 5 February 2011: First of all, I'm sorry to hear about what's going on. Breaking up is a difficult thing to do, especially when there are kids involved
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It sounds like your wife doesn't know what she wants. When someone starts cruising for other guys on dating w... (read in full...)
I said I'd propose, but I'm not ready!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now in a long distance relationship. There's about a 700km distance between us but we still manage to see each other nearly every month. Ever since we started going out, she's brought up engagement an...
A. 2 February 2011: Thanks to everyone for replying, it's very much appreciated. My stomach has been in knots for ages about this, I don't quite know how to bring it up to her. But I've decided that this weekend, I'll call her and tell her that I love her, want to be ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend cries all the time
Q. My girlfriend likes to cry... a lot. When I first met her, she wasn't overly emotional at all, I mean, she still showed emotion, but she never really cried. But when we started going out and became more serious, she just became more and more em...
A. 1 February 2011: I know this reply is probably three months overdue, sorry for the lateness!
But thankyou to everyone that replied! All your advice was helpful and its good to know that I'm not alone with this.
I decided to take the direct approach and spoke to... (read in full...)
Is there recovery from cybersex/emotional infidelity?
Q. I recently found out about one of my boyfriend's cyber sex partners while we were vacationing together. I was using his computer to email my family when a woman named Rachael popped up on his skype to talk to him. I told she was asking for him and ...
A. 1 February 2011: It won't be easy, it'll be hard, you will have paranoid thoughts and you will worry. But if you both work through it together and he's willing to sort things out by talking and working through it as a couple, rather than talking to girls online, ... (read in full...)
Help!!!! Is my relationship worth saving?
Q. Hi and thanks in advance. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. Its been a constant trust issue on his behalf. Accusations, of me being unfaithful(I've never been I'm loyal) I'm not allowed to speak to the opposite sex. If I do, th...
A. 1 February 2011: No, I don't think it's worth saving.
He may have some good qualities, but he sounds jealous and manipulative. He physically grabs you and restrains you, belittles you and brings you down. He's an obsessive and he's overly possessive.
I think... (read in full...)
So there's this guy...
Q. So its my senior year in school and with the idiots that go to my school I gave up on finding someone. But my first day I met this new guy and we hit it off right away. Hes smart, he has a great sense of humor, and we have a lot in common. We've ...
A. 15 September 2010: Try and find out more about his relationship, how long distance is it and how serious is he about it? If he's really committed and serious, then it'd probably be best to try and leave him well enough alone. But if he's more interested in you and his ... (read in full...)
Did I over-react to the nurses comments?
Q. My boyfriend had knee surgery today. We r both in our thirties and the nurse looked about our age. Well she called him sweetie which didn't bother me but then she said babe r u ready to go in,well that mad me mad and I walked out. As I was walking ...
A. 15 September 2010: The nurse sounds like she was acting in a very casual and somewhat unprofessional manner. Call me old fashioned but she probably should've been referring to your boyfriend as "sir" or "mister" not "honey" and "babe."
However, you'll also have to a... (read in full...)
Should I call her?
Q. We were in love for 10 months and we were so happy together, the problem was that i hardly got to see her so we wud spend most our time on the phone or i.m-ing each other. then one day she just started ignoring me, she wouldnt answer my calls or ...
A. 14 September 2010: If you both still have feelings for each other, then I would say that you should give her a call. See how she really feels and if you're both willing to give yourselves another chance, then maybe you could give it another try. If not, then at least ... (read in full...)
I like him but I turned down sex and eating out and I'm afraid he feels rejected.
Q. I'll go ahead and say up front that I am inexperienced in dating, and take physical intimacy very slowly. Well, I went out dancing with this guy, and when he drew me aside for kissing, his hands started exploring and I was friendly about ...
A. 14 September 2010: You don't have anything to feel bad about or regret, he shouldn't have been pushing to go further so soon. If you're not comfortable, he can't make you do anything you want to do.
If you really like him and are afraid you've driven him away, th... (read in full...)
Does he really want to be a good guy or is he a player?
Q. I met this guy on the internet dating site. He likes me and want to know me in a better way. Right now we are in a long distance relationship. He has been very free and open to me about the fact that he has had sex with girls in the pasts. And he ...
A. 14 September 2010: He sounds like a genuinely good guy that just has a bit of a long past as far as sex goes. And it sounds like he legitimately likes you and is faithful to you.
I wouldn't test a guy like that though, if he found out that you had your friend hitt... (read in full...)
The man I love is three hours away and another guy is right here! what should I do?
Q. I have been dating a guy for a couple months already, and i really really like him, at a point were i love him. but i moved three hours away to go to school. And there is a guy who likes me and hes alright the thing is hes here where i can see him ...
A. 14 September 2010: This all comes down to convenience essentially. Do you want to be with the boyfriend you love but who lives far away, or the guy that you like that is close by.
How well do you know the guy that you're living close to? It might be more convenie... (read in full...)
My emotionally unstable ex-girlfriend wants to get back together, how do I say no without crushing her?
Q. Okay, so, I ended a long distance relationship that I had with a girl the next state over from me, we were together for 3-months, I ended it in February. I ended it for a number of reasons, the main one being that I couldn't cope with the distanc...
A. 25 April 2010: Yeah, I don't think that she'll actually do it, but then again, I think that's what everyone likes to think. I have to accept the truth of it. One of my friends' ex-boyfriend committed suicide a couple of years back because they had a really messy ... (read in full...)
My emotionally unstable ex-girlfriend wants to get back together, how do I say no without crushing her?
Q. Okay, so, I ended a long distance relationship that I had with a girl the next state over from me, we were together for 3-months, I ended it in February. I ended it for a number of reasons, the main one being that I couldn't cope with the distanc...
A. 24 April 2010: Just another update. I told her my answer today. I told her that if being with me again would bring her closure, that I'd do it, but I also told her that I don't think it's fair request, that I'm almost positive that the relationship wou... (read in full...)
My emotionally unstable ex-girlfriend wants to get back together, how do I say no without crushing her?
Q. Okay, so, I ended a long distance relationship that I had with a girl the next state over from me, we were together for 3-months, I ended it in February. I ended it for a number of reasons, the main one being that I couldn't cope with the distanc...
A. 23 April 2010: Thankyou all for the advice.
She's been continuously pressuring me, calling me up, crying telling me that she doesn't think she can hold out for my answer until Monday, wanting an answer as soon as possible, and trying to tell me that I have not... (read in full...)
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