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writes:My boyfriend had knee surgery today. We r both in our thirties and the nurse looked about our age. Well she called him sweetie which didn't bother me but then she said babe r u ready to go in,well that mad me mad and I walked out. As I was walking she asked my boyfriend who I was abd he said that's my girlfriend and she didn't say anything after that. Was I wrong she wasn't prettier than me but she also wasn't ugly. Did I over react? Reply to this Question
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reader, lainey23 +, writes (15 September 2010):
 I think "babe" is a little too friendly. But, I doubt she meant anything by it as you were a female who was standing RIGHT THERE. I work with RN's everyday and they are usually just very friendly people who want to make someone feel at ease before a nerve-racking procedure. Plus, if you trust your man, you shouldn't be threatened. He was going into surgery for God's sake...not a brothel!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): Yes, you overreacted. If a waitress call him honey do you get mad? The nurse is just trying to make him feel cared for before he is made unconscious and his body is cut open with a knife. Why would you make that situation all about you and your feelings?
My wife is a nurse, and I would not be in the least upset to hear her talk to her male patients this way. I know I appreciate it when I am facing surgery. There is nothing sexual about it.
Now, if she saidmit during his sponge bath, well...
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (15 September 2010):
 I think it's REALLY unprofessional when a nurse calls her patients honey, sweetie, babe.... She has his chart she can call him by his name.
Though I wouldn't be upset. Some women just talk like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): If I was you I get your boyfriend to lodge a complainant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): I work in a hospital and its totally fine for them to them ”hun”, ”dear”, ”sweetheart”, etc. Unless the patien feels uncomfortable, nurses do a very hard job and they doing their best. Stop being silly and go apologies to that sweet nurse.
I see them sometime go to the level of young children and say sweet thing to them. I don't think they trying to steal the children or replace the mother.
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reader, Battista  +, writes (15 September 2010):
Calling someone babe like that is not hitting on them.
Yes I would say that is a massive over-reaction. And to walk out and make a scene out of it, even worse.
Are you always like this when women talk to your bf?
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reader, xanthic +, writes (15 September 2010):
 In any other context, she would've been crossing the line. In this case, she was just trying to put your boyfriend at ease.
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reader, Myrrh +, writes (15 September 2010):
 It might have been a slight over reaction to walk out at the time but in a professional sense, the nurse was behaving inappropriately. And your boyfriend could lodge a complaint should he wish. Calling patients by names other than their given names can be regarded as abusive, if the name calling is over familiar and the patient doesnt like it. So the rule of thumb is, a patient is called by their given name unless they give permission to be called by something else.
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reader, Myrrh +, writes (15 September 2010):
It might have been a slight over reaction to walk out at the time but in a professional sense, the nurse was behaving inappropriately. And your boyfriend could lodge a complaint should he wish. Calling patients by names other than their given names can be regarded as abusive, if the name calling is over familiar and the patient doesnt like it. So the rule of thumb is, a patient is called by their given name unless they give permission to be called by something else.
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (15 September 2010):
over reacting way over the top thats what nurses say to put you at ease
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reader, GhostChild  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 The nurse sounds like she was acting in a very casual and somewhat unprofessional manner. Call me old fashioned but she probably should've been referring to your boyfriend as "sir" or "mister" not "honey" and "babe."
However, you'll also have to accept that some people are just really casual like that, my boss at work calls everyone honey or "hun", it might not sound professional but some people are just that way, it doesn't mean they're necessarily flirting or trying to pick up. You just have to sometimes let things slide, but just make it clear that you are his girlfriend.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 Over reacting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): yes, silly girl.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (15 September 2010):
 Being nice and affectionate is what nurses - at least the good ones - do. When a patient is being taken for surgery, calling him by a term of endearment can make him feel more comfortable about what can be a scary experience for a lot of people.
You are totally over-reacting.
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