A
female
age
30-35,
*tsmith
writes:So its my senior year in school and with the idiots that go to my school I gave up on finding someone. But my first day I met this new guy and we hit it off right away. Hes smart, he has a great sense of humor, and we have a lot in common. We've been flirting since we met I thought for sure we were going somewhere but when I added him on facebook I found out hes in a long distance relationship. Hes been acting like hes interested and I'm really interested in him. I want to let him get to know me and fall for me even more and realize he wants to be with me and break up with his current girlfriend. Is that wrong?
View related questions:
facebook, flirt, long distance Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, GhostChild  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 Try and find out more about his relationship, how long distance is it and how serious is he about it? If he's really committed and serious, then it'd probably be best to try and leave him well enough alone. But if he's more interested in you and his relationship isn't overly serious, maybe show you that you're interested and let him decide for himself.
A
female
reader, natalie_X +, writes (15 September 2010):
 I've been in a long distance relationship before and it sucks! It doesn't last very long either! Definitely hang in there and be a great friend to him and he'll come around eventually!
It's not wrong, but exactly like jmc930 said, how would you feel if you were the girlfriend?
Him leaving his girlfriend for you shows that he might not be the most dedicated boyfriend either, so him being loyal to her and not messing around with any other girls can show you that he'll be a wonderful guy once it's all worked out.
...............................
A
male
reader, The Realist  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 You should get to know him and see what what he descides to do. If his relationship with the LD gf is strong you won't get to date him but if he sees you as the better choice then you're there. I'm not saying its not hurtful to his gf but you really can't worry about people who you don't have anything to do with. Some temptation is good to test a relationship to see how strong it really is.
Get to know him but don't push for him to break up with her. Just let what ever is going to happen be natural.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): I wouldn't say that you wanting him to fall for you and break up with his girlfriend is WRONG, but how would you feel if you were his long-distance girlfriend?
It's possible he was so nice to you and seemed interested because he's new and doesn't know a lot of people, but it's also possible that he is interested, too.
The fact is, long-distance high school relationships don't usually end well. I'd say you have a chance here. Continue being a good friend to him without crossing the line into pushy or too forward (i.e. don't put him in a situation where he's cheating on his girlfriend). You might find yourself with a great boyfriend.
...............................
A
female
reader, acey lacey +, writes (15 September 2010):
 Hi, Just take things slowly. its up to him to decide if he wnats to end his long distance relationship or not, i think its wrong to convince him to anything like that. try to casually bring up his girlfriend and see what he says.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): nononononononononononnoooo that is totaly not wrong, i mean from what i hear long distance never works out & i mean im sure hes not strapping himself down to this one girl, he def keeping his options open so you should snag him before someone else does!
...............................
|
