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writes:My boyfriend broke up with me almost a month ago. We were having some troubles about a year ago and just took a break for about two months. In that two months he talked to other girls and i talked to this guy. I had a crush on him and so di he. We never did anything tho.After a while, my boyfriend and i got back together, i never told him about the guy. He didnt tell me about the girls, i found out through someone else. I was mad, but understood and let it go. About a month ago he found out about the guy i talked to during the break. He ended up leaving me because i never told him about it. He said he's not comfortable around me and that he sees me differently now.We went out for almost 5 years....and he just ends things.I just want to know if he will ever come back. He barely even wants to talk to me now. I feel like its because he's just as hurt as me...and he would rather not talk to me so he can get over me faster.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (4 October 2011):
 No, you were on a break from the relationship. That applied to BOTH of you. If the rules ONLY applied to him, then he is being a jerk.
Consider yourself fortunate to be free!
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reader, GhostChild  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 All you did was talk to this other boy? Whilst your were broken up?
That is a ridiculous over reaction on his part. You have every right in the world to talk to whoever you want. It would be different if you had sex with this other guy whilst you were still together, but the fact that all you did was talk means that your ex boyfriend is immature, jealous and petty.
If you want my advice, he's not worth the trouble. He left you over nothing at all. There are better guys out there who wouldn't care if you made friends with other guys, the best thing for you to do is forget about this one and move on. There's plenty of fish in the sea.
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reader, Wheeler +, writes (4 October 2011):
 This seems to me to be a clear lack of maturity on his part. He is not mature enough to handle you being emotionally involved with someone else.
Giving you the silent treatment is probably the only way he knows how to try and hurt you. And that is surely a reason for his actions.
The more you let him know this is really bothering you, and that you want him back, the more satisfaction he will have.
Now, you must decide if this is a game you want to spend the next year or two of your life playing. It can be a very hurtful game, because what follows is a back and forth with both of you seeing other people (naturally, as the two of you are not together), then being hurt by knowing the other is involved with someone else.
The two likely outcomes is that one of you eventually ends up staying with one of these other people and moving on, or you both wake up and realize that what happened during your break must be let go.
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 you're young..find someone new..don't waste your golden years on someone who's just wasting your time
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