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writes:Hi.Okay, so I'm sixteen and I've never had an actual relationship before. Like, I've liked a guy and they've liked me back but its never gone as far as that, kinda like a 'flirtationship'. I'm scared that when i eventually get into a relationship i wont know what to do, how to act or anything. I'm nervous, awkward and very self concious around people which doesnt help. Is there any tips or advice you could help me with. Reply to this Question
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reader, GhostChild  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 Relationships can be daunting things when you haven't been in them before, but trust me it will all come naturally when you meet the right guy that you really like.
A partner is really a lot like a best friend. You spend time together, do things together, talk a lot etc. there's no real pressure.
You just have to relax, take it easy and be yourself. And remember, there's no pressure to get into a relationship if you're not comfortable with the guy.
When I first started dating, I was confused and intimidated, but it comes to you pretty quickly. Just loosen up and take it in small steps :)
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reader, landomando  +, writes (4 October 2011):
Best thing I think that will help is if you are sexually active. Dont have sex with him for a couple months (at least). it shows u mean more to him then sex. and that he really likes you for who you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2011): My biggest tip is to remember the golden rule of "treat others as you wish to be treated." So if you would be hurt if your boyfriend flirted with other girls, then don't flirt with other boys. Be respectful of yourself. If you're not ready for sex, don't let him push you into it. If do have sex, then use double protection (condoms plus birth control pills.) Don't be too clingy or controling, and don't be a push over. Guys like to go hang out with guy friends and you should continue hanging out with your female friends.And most important, first relationships don't always last forever or for very long. If it ends then just take the time to learn from what you experienced and move on. It doesn't mean you're unlovable or you will never have another boyfriends.Last, if you're ever in a relationship with a guy who physically or emotionally attacks you, then dump him and move on. And you don't be physical or emotionally attacking him, either. Otherwise, just be yourself. You don't get to the stage of relationship if they don't like you already.
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reader, Thelaird1 +, writes (3 October 2011):
 Just be yourself and take each day as it comes.Communication is the key for any relationship, so don't be afraid to ever say what's on your mind and spend time talking.You can only really learn from experience and mistakes will teach you many valuable lessons.Never rush into anything, nor do anything you are not 100% comfortable with. Play safe and enjoy while it lasts.Lastly, remain honest and never put yourself under pressure. Learn to explore yourself and all your inner feelings and desires, but portray them in the appropriate manner. Above all, be respectful of who you are
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