Guys: Does it bother you if your girl uses a vibrator?
Q. This is a little embarrassing. I have enjoyed masturbation for many years, and then for my seventeenth birthday my weird but lovely best friend bought me a vibrator. Ever since then I have loved using them on a daily basis. I was quite a late ...
A. 10 June 2009: Absolutely not,my partner and i use them all the time,infact he goes and buys mine.Its all part of our love making ritual.I feel i can be myself and let myself go with him.I would gently put it to him,and ask how he feels about it.The look on his ... (read in full...)
How do you know if you're being dumped?
Q. My boyfiend and I met online and in person in Feb 2009 We visit monthly, as he is from Canada. He called a lot in the beginning, but now hardly at all. Am I being dumped? How do you know you're being dumped, if you have long distance issues...
A. 8 June 2009: I personally can't stand the not knowing in a problem.If i was you ask him out straight,at least then you will know and move on from that.Good luck... (read in full...)
My mom said things years ago that still bother me -- could she be the one with issues?
Q. When I was 13 my mom and I got in an arguement and she told me I was so ugly. Her saying that had absolutely nothing to do with what we were arguing about. I actually can't even remember what we were arguing about, but I do remember her telling me ...
A. 7 June 2009: I can tell you i would never call my daughter ugly,whether she ment inside,outside or up side down.Was this a one off incident?I would maybe tackle your mom on this.Go out to lunch with her and ask her if she remebers it.If this is still bothering ... (read in full...)
My wife has left me after her mother's death!
Q. My wifes mother was diagnosed with cancer in October last year and died on January 13th of this year on Mothers Day she said she does feel the same anymore everythings changed and she doesn't love me anymore. We only got married in December, she ...
A. 4 June 2009: Hi,your wife could feel emotional numb after her mothers death and maybe feel she can't be the wife you want.However she must understand that the children need you,as you are like a father to them.I would suggest giving her space,but say if she ... (read in full...)
Is it right that american girls do oral sex easily ?
Q. I am french, so please excuse my english which is not very good. I have heard that in USA, american girls do oral sex (blowjobs) easily, it's not a big thing for them. To make love with them may be hard, but to be sucked may be easy. Is that...
A. 3 June 2009: if you talk to french girls,as you have written this i'm not surprised they haven't'sucked you' or done anything with you.Try getting to know a girl without thinking,is she good at oral,you might get lucky.... (read in full...)
How do I warn this woman off my man?
Q. My boyfriend has a lady that is trying to get with him and he was honest enough to tell me. Now, how do I help him stop this woman from coming on to him. ...
A. 19 May 2009: I'm afraid you can't.Your boyfriend seems like an honest bloke.He should put her straight.... (read in full...)
He's the love of my life but his kids always come first to him.
Q. Dear cupid I am 20 and I am In a realtionship with a guy whi is also 20 but he has two kids from a previous realationship. I love him and I feel that he is the love of my life. But I can't help but to feel a little selfish because not that I would ...
A. 7 May 2009: I think when you become a mom,you will know how it feels.X... (read in full...)
I don't want to be known as the homewrecker
Q. 6 months ago I met this great guy through friends and we started hanging out. He is a newly wed and just moved into my community for work. One thing lead to another and I find myself in love with him. We both tried to deny our feelings for each ...
A. 4 May 2009: I feel you should end the relationship whilst he is still married,then if he does leave his wifehe may not,give it 6 wks,then pursue the relationship.At least this way you can start with a clean sheet.Good luck... (read in full...)
Current relationship is depressing me
Q. Hi there, I have been in this relationship with my girlfriend for about 10 months now. But lately I am depressed, when i asked myself ; 'why?' I came to the conclusion that this current relationship is depressing me. She is very indifferent a...
A. 4 May 2009: Hi,it seems to me that you may need to sort out some issues.Its a pretty big statement saying'I can't remeber when i was genuinly happy in my life'Go to your Doctors and tell him how you feel about things.xGood luck.... (read in full...)
He swept me off my feet, then revealed a temper that was scary, should I even consider being with him, he said it was over?
Q. Two months ago I met a man and we have spent almost every day together. He swept me off my feet and was so amazing to me. He wanted me to move away with him within four weeks but i told him we were moving too fast. One month after this we went ...
A. 4 May 2009: P{lease please walk away.I was involved with someone like this.They are charming and he will reel you in,when hes got you,they change.It took me ages to get out of the relationship,as i was madly in love and scared.PPlease be carefull.... (read in full...)
Want to get pregnant -- any advice?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and i have recently decided that we want to start trying for a baby. I came off my pill last month and we had lots of great sex, however i got my period the other day although it only lasted three days. This is confusing me as ...
A. 23 April 2009: Can i ask,why do you want to have a baby so young?You have so much of life to live yet before settling down.I had my daughter when i was 32,because i was loving life too muchand maybe a little selfish.My daughter now benefits from a mom who has been ... (read in full...)
I have a very high sex drive, but now she's rejecting me. Should I cheat?
Q. I'm a good man!..with a extremly high sex drive!..lately,..my girl started rejecting me,..making me feel unwanted/rejected!...I don't want 2 step outside the relationship,..but I know another woman would love 2 hav her work load!..its driving our ...
A. 13 April 2009: You don't mention,the other parts of the relationship.Are you friends with each other aswell? Or is it just about the sex?If in other area they are good,take some of the workload off her,tidy up,or wash up after a meal,but don't stop when your ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel like quitting the relationship but I like her as a person
Q. My friend has got a very polite way of humiliating people and I don’t like it, I have spoken to her about this several times but she is a “take it or leave it” kind of a person. She does it to me as well sometimes and it hurts my feelings. But most...
A. 18 March 2009: maybe you should let her know you are planning to quit the friendship,because of her 'polite ways'.Are you her only friend?Bet you are.She may not realise how badly she makes you and others feel.... (read in full...)
I slept with him, and his mate..now what?
Q. basicaly... i met a guy on a train we got talking and he asked for my number... then 2 months later he called mme asking if i wanted to go to a house he was at as he and his mate were housittin and bored... i got very drunk and slept with him... the ...
A. 18 March 2009: You are abit young to be getting into this sort of situation.I would think of it as a lucky escape.You are a young women,not a child, but you really shouldn't be doing this sort of thing.Like the other poster said you should have more respect for ... (read in full...)
I slept with him, and his mate..now what?
Q. basicaly... i met a guy on a train we got talking and he asked for my number... then 2 months later he called mme asking if i wanted to go to a house he was at as he and his mate were housittin and bored... i got very drunk and slept with him... the ...
A. 18 March 2009: You are abit young to be getting into this sort of situation.I would think of it as a lucky escape.You are a young women,not a child, but you really shouldn't be doing this sort of thing.Like the other poster said you should have more respect for ... (read in full...)
Do I really deserve to be treated this way?
Q. Five years ago my boyfriend found out that I was keeping a secret from him. I held the fact that I was doing drugs from him. The hard drugs. It wasn't even 4 months into me using when he found out. He was mad and I don't blame him. It is now 5 years ...
A. 18 March 2009: No you don't deserve to be treated this way.You should be congratulated you stopped using.It sounds to me that he may be using this as an excuse to control youreading emails.If he is in the wrong in an arguement it sounds as if he is throwing it in ... (read in full...)
His friend is such a bad influence on him and I have fears he could wreck our marriage.
Q. Dear Cupid, We have been married for almost 5 years and we have a 20 months darling boy. I love my husband very much and I am sure that he loves me. However, recently I have been facing two major problems: 1. When my husband drinks a little ...
A. 17 March 2009: Have you thought of maybe taping your husband when he is abusive,so when he is sober he can hear how horrible he is.This might be just the thing he needs to realise he has a drink problem.He has to take responsibilty for his actions,and not pass it ... (read in full...)
My best friend's girl is cheating on him. What should I do?
Q. My best friends girl is cheating on him. I heard it around town for a while now but didnt believe it until I seen it myself. He is madly in love with her, should I tell him?...
A. 15 March 2009: This is a difficult one,i was in a simular situation with my best friend,her partner was cheating on her.I decided not to say anything because i felt she wouldn't want to knowi had a feeling she already knew anyway deep downIf it was me i would want ... (read in full...)
He says he can only be with me from 6-10 to celebrate my birthday. Am I being unreasonable in wanting more?
Q. I reminded my boyfriend about my birthday just in case he forgot (it's my second birthday with him) and I know he has his son that day so I suggested we "party it in". This is a German tradition that involves celebrating the night before until at ...
A. 12 March 2009: It seems alittle unfair that he cannot celebrate all your birthday with you.I am a single parent,and i know how hard it is to juggle relationships with children,however if it was my b/f birthday i would try and arrange with my ex a different evening ... (read in full...)
I worry my wife has gone back to her slutty ways, have I married the wrong person?
Q. I think my wife is a s___/w____ or whatever, I'm not trusting her at all. She was 'around' a lot before we dated. We're both only 23, we met when we were 21, but I know she's had sexual contact with at least 20 or more men before me. And that was...
A. 12 March 2009: Tell me did you think she was a s... or h... before she went out.Just because she slept around before she met you.Dosen't mean shes doing it now.If you had an opinion on her berfore.Its almost like a self fullfilling profecy.To be honest,if you ... (read in full...)
He's giving me the guilt trip for running late for our quickie!
Q. Does my boyfriend have a reason to be upset? We had plans last night to go watch a movie preview.. begins at midnight. Well we both got off work and I headed off to class. I get off from class about 10:00p.m. and he had time to be at home and rest ...
A. 6 March 2009: I personally am a stickler for being on time,howenver i feel he is being alittle silly,particulary when the sex comes into it.Did he have a time scale for that.He does sound a little controlling to me,and you have to fit into his plans... (read in full...)
When do you draw a line when it comes to cheating?
Q. What constitues cheating? Some friends of ours got into a heated argument with my wife and I about what is cheating. Besides the obvious physical sexual contact, or emotional attachment to someone other than your spouse, what is cheating? 2 e...
A. 4 March 2009: I think if both partners are open with each other,and feel comfortable enough with that situation why not.I am with someone who takes female friends out,and i don't feel jealous,i too have an exboyfriend whom i talk to on line.Big deal.For me its ... (read in full...)
I don't love or even like b/f of 5 years..but how to break it off?
Q. Hello, I am 25 years old and I have a 2 year old son. I have been with the son's father for 5 years, although I am not in love with him anymore and I really don't like him at all. He has cheated on me multiple times, he used to abuse me while w...
A. 4 March 2009: I was with a moron just like yours,except i stayed longer.I have been free of mine for 8mths now,and i've never been happier.You have already done the hard part and left.You have to be firm and let him know you mean business,although like damluvaam ... (read in full...)
Did I overreact since we aren't in a committed relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been seeing this guy for about 6 months now we are not boyfriend and girlfriend but we a understanding that we arent seeing other people he just isnt ready for a committed relationship and I respect that but the other day he f...
A. 16 February 2009: It seems to me you want more from this relationship that whats being offered.If you like him tell him how you feel,however you could risk losing him.You are alredy getting upset over the texts.If you continue you could end up getting more hurt.
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How can I stop worrying so much?
Q. I'm 19 years old and have a lot of worries at the moment, to list a few: *my dad was made redundant just before xmas, he's trying so hard to get a job but can't, our family arent very wealthy anyway and although my parents always try and stay hap...
A. 30 January 2009: Hi, you sound like a really lovely sensitive guy,and i'm sure your a credit to you mom and dad that they have brought up a caring and thoughtful young man.If you feel its getting too much go to doctors and ask if you can see a consellor.Talking ... (read in full...)
Strange headaches
Q. Since I was young I've been having these terrible headaches which sometimes lead on to migranes, I've tried glassess twice, been to the doctors etc, even been in hospital at one stage they were so bad. They stopped for a while but the headache...
A. 30 January 2009: Hi, i used to suffer migranes once a month.I realised they would come just before my period.They were so bad it took me a week to get over it as it left me completely exhausted.What i did was a few days before my period i avoided the 5 c's ... (read in full...)
Mom shags other men while dad films... now I can't get the images out of my head.
Q. My parents moved home recently and I have been storing some boxes at my house. They were boxes from the loft so hadn't been looked at in a while, one was an old suitcase which contained some video tapes. I brought the case down and played one of the ...
A. 15 January 2009: Hi, I think there comes a time in everyones life when they see their parents as people, not parents. I can imagine how shocked you were at what you saw. It was a little insensitve of your parents to leave the tapes at your house, with the idea ... (read in full...)
Do women find men drinking beer on a date unattractive?
Q. Hi, I'd like some advice from the ladies, please! Very simply - do women generally find it unattractive if a man's drinking beer on a date, or even at a social event? My female friends tell me this is the case, and that I should switch to wine...
A. 5 January 2009: Hi,as long as your not downing pints in record time,then throwing up over her shoes i don't see it as a problem.If you like her you want her to know the real you and if thats drinking beer instead of sipping wine,then so be it.... (read in full...)
What if I lose this chance at a relationship over making dancing something so important?
Q. I am a single, 36 year old female, never married and I love to dance. Every opportunity I get I am out at the club. I'm not out there to pick up anybody, just to dance. I've met a guy who doesn't dance. According to him, the dancing is a small ...
A. 4 January 2009: He is obviously jealous that you love dancing.If he stops you doing this what else is he going to make you give up.I myself love to dance,i know the freedom it brings.As long aas your not out dancing seven nights a week,and have time for him,i can't ... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting to this pic? Or is this really as bad as I think?
Q. I need some advice on online dating. I just started dating again ...so i'm am new to what is acceptable or not. Recently i set up a profile on a decent website. I have gotten a lot of responses However, one person in particular caught my eye...
A. 16 October 2008: I had a simular sort of thing.Got out of a long term relationship, starting chatting on web cam.All of a sudden he got up from his chair and he had no trousers on.I didn't know whether to laugh or cry.Simular things happened other times with ... (read in full...)
Can our marriage be saved???
Q. I have been married for 15 years and have a 12 year old daughter. On October 1, 2008 my husband told me that he was confused about everything, including our relationship. He asked for help to go to counseling. We started immediatly. Since (2 weeks) ...
A. 16 October 2008: It sounds to me you've got a diamond of a fella there.Instead of running into someone elses arms, he talks to you and wants to get the problem sorted out.Continue counselling as this should help,and keep fighting for that realationship.It still ... (read in full...)
For the last two weeks or my brother's behaviour's become a bit weird, he fears ghosts, etc.
Q. I'm 24, and my younger brother's 19. For the last two weeks or so his behaviour's become a bit weird, far more than the usual teenage behaviour. He's began speaking in rhyme, only wanting to eat breakfast cereal for every meal, and claiming tha...
A. 7 September 2008: Hi, i feel it would be best if he saw a doctor,particulary if he is getting worse.How does he feel?Is he aware of the change in himself?Its good he has a fab sister like you to look out for him./good luck xx... (read in full...)
When I came back, I thought things would be different, but they're just as bad now.
Q. How do I know if I made the right desision? I have been in a 7 yr relationship. We both had a child each when we met and have since had 2 together. I recently left him for almost 3 months, taking my belongings and all that I owned, along with the 3 ...
A. 8 July 2008: I,m actually going through the same thing at the moment.I have given my partner numerous chances.He promised to change and he did for about 3 mths and now i'm back to square 1.There is no more second chances,my daughter is 5 and i can't put her ... (read in full...)
Does he fancy my friend, who's just been dumped? He said he meant to comfort her by this allusion at my expense.
Q. I've been seeing my new boyfriend for a month and up until now, things were perfect, until last night. We went out for a few drinks, then bumped into a friend of mine who has just been dumped, and my b/f was like, "Oh, whoever dumped you must be mad ...
A. 2 January 2008: I myself had a simular dilema.My o/h of 10yrs came home and told me he just seen a male friend of ours.The male friend told my o/h that he quite liked a girlwe all know.My o/h said 'Why don't you go for it, if i was single i would'.I wasn't happy ... (read in full...)
Everytime we have a sleep over, we end up kissing! Am I a lesbian?
Q. hi i have a best friend we have been friends for 5 years we are still at school and in year 7. and we often have sleepovers and everytime she comes and sleeps around mine we end up kissing and i dont know what to do i think she really fancies ...
A. 1 January 2008: I remember having the same sorts of thoughts and feelings at your age to.Its perfectly natural to be curious.... (read in full...)
My partners daughter resents me, how do I handle this?
Q. Dear Cupid. This has got to be a recurrent problem. I adore my partner. We met at work, and our feelings grew from there. She has 3 children, the eldest, a boy of 18, and the youngest, who is a girl of 8, have presented, and continue to pres...
A. 1 January 2008: The girl is 11 and going through emotional and physical changes at the moment.She may feel she is betraying her dad by accepting you.Say you can be a family ,and it could be fun for her if she allows it.Tell her you know your not her dad,but you ... (read in full...)
I don't want my ex to be hurt that I've found someone else, and I don't want my church group to think I'm a slut
Q. So I met my ex through my church youth group. We dated for a little over 3 years, but then i broke up with him. Only a few people in the youth group know that I have a new boyfriend. I'm afriad that if someone finds out, they will go and tell my ex. ...
A. 1 January 2008: Its been 4 months since you split up from your ex.To me that's adequate amount of time spent.If he finds out that you're dating again,it may hurt him but it may be the push for him to find someone new himself.As for being a slut, you're not,people ... (read in full...)
I didn't insist to know her past; now I wonder if she's ever been married or has had kids. How to put my mind at rest?
Q. hi am 25 years of age going out with a women of 35, thats not the issue at hand what is that she has told me that there are things in her past that she thinks will hurt me but i told not to tell me coz they would probbably mess things up, its now ...
A. 18 December 2007: You don`t say how long you`ve been seeing her, i imagine its not very long.Don`t take what your mom too seriously, she just wants to protect you, it`s only natual.Enjoy the time you have with your girlfriend.Try and put the thoughts to the back of ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait until I introduce my children to my new boyfriend?
Q. I been dating my Bf 6 months.I went through a bad divorce.I'm know dating and I haven't brought my 3 children into the picture yet.Should I wait a while to introduce my children to him?...
A. 16 December 2007: I think 6mths is sufficent time for you to get to know your boyfriend.So introduce him.Maybe bowling, or over a pizza would be good. Well done you for taking it slowly.... (read in full...)
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