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How can I stop worrying so much?

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Question - (29 January 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 30 January 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I'm 19 years old and have a lot of worries at the moment, to list a few:

*my dad was made redundant just before xmas, he's trying so hard to get a job but can't, our family arent very wealthy anyway and although my parents always try and stay happy I know they are worrying too.

*my dads begun having panic attacks (a few years back when this happened he was diagnosed with depression, and although hes much better now, im worried with everything happening, he'll go back to how he was.

*I've recently dropped out of uni as my course just wanted right for me. I know I made the right decision, but i miss all my friends so much, I also miss the independence of living alone, I feel I'm a burden to my family as they dont have much money, I feel I have let them down.

*Since leaving uni I have been trying to get a job but can't so I'm worrying about that and my own lack of money.

*It will soon be the 5 year anniversary of my grandparents death, they'd dies within a week of each other and both wer unexpected, it was a horrible time for us all (it's what triggered off my dads depression) and im still not over it.

*my boyfriends ex girlfriend is getting to me with small comments and childish petty things she does to try and upset me.

all of this has built up and really got to me, some changes in me recently are:

*I've gained weight (which obviously has upset me even more)

*I have no energy, I seem to be tired all the time and sleep a lot during the day, then at night I find it really difficult to get to sleep

*I've begun getting stomache migrains again (i first had these when i was 11, the doctor said it was down to nerves and stress, they disappeared for years, but are now worse than ever)

*I have thoughts of suicide... although I know I could never go through with this I sometimes wonder what it would be like to die

*I also have really bad mood swings, and this upsets me the most because unfortunately I only ever seem to take things out on my boyfriend. hes so lovely and caring and understanding, but I get mad at him for no reason and I hope its not just because im a horrible person, im hoping its something to do with the stress im going through at the moment. I really dont want to carry on like this because I dont want to lose him!!

sometimes I can be really stressed out, tense with anger, almost crying and then as soon as he talks to me I become really hyper and forget whats worrying me, and laugh and joke with him all day, then the next day il have a bad day and cry a lot - this has made me worry that i might have bipolar because I know thats a symptom, changing moods.

I just want to know what's wrong with me and find a way to stop feeling upset, I don't want to mess up my relationship because of the way im acting...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009):

Full moon temptress... I'm a 19 year old GIRL, hehe

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A female reader, Full moon temptress1 United Kingdom +, writes (30 January 2009):

Hi, you sound like a really lovely sensitive guy,and i'm sure your a credit to you mom and dad that they have brought up a caring and thoughtful young man.If you feel its getting too much go to doctors and ask if you can see a consellor.Talking therapy might be helpful.As for youe exgirlfriend boyfriend, he still may feel threatend by you in some way,don't let him see its bothering you.Take one problem at a time it will be easier to tackle.Good luck.

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A female reader, Jmo United States +, writes (29 January 2009):

Jmo agony auntI can relate to a great deal of what you're going through. I won't bother you with the details but a few years ago it seemed like everything that could have possibly gone wrong, did, and my response to it was to mess everything up even more. I'd like to tell you that this period of time will pass and everything will be peachy-fuckin'-keen soon but it's not that easy. In the meantime, hang out with your dad some, stop letting your boyfriend's ex girlfriend get to you, try to find something to occupy your mind so you won't want to sleep so much (too much sleep actually makes you more lethargic), try and remember during your mood swings that your emotions are dictating your actions and you shouldn't take things out on the people who don't deserve it. Adversity makes us stronger, but it still sucks. Send me a message if you feel like venting.

-Jmo

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