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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2011): My married girlfriend has me listed as the name of the company she works for, so it's safe to assume that your boyfriend having you listed under a name other than your own doesn't really pass the smell test. He's hiding something from you.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2011): Atleast your aware of whats going on,my ex boyfriend never let me near his phone always on silent locked,hidden or switched off now thats red flags
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 September 2011):
 yep, he's hiding something....
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reader, eek  +, writes (6 September 2011):
 i noticed my ex had done this a while before i found out she was cheating. Dont trust anyone who does this.
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reader, auntyR +, writes (6 September 2011):
he clearly is hiding you from another person. He may have another girlfriend or even a wife for all you know. Becareful and just ask him to be honest.Ask him why you are down as Christopher and if he tries to change the subject ask him again.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 September 2011):
 He's hiding you from someone that's for sure. Whether there is another woman or not, this is surely deceitful behaviour.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2011): He is probably married, maybe even has a family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your wonderful responses. I am not even going to bother asking him again, just as several of you stated he is just buying time to think of an answer. He can't use the excuse "oh I didn't hear you" because I looked him dead in his face when as asked him. Just so you know I've been his girl for last 4 years!!! So now I know that I'm not the only one!! Thanks again :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your wonderful responses. I am not even going to bother asking him again, just as several of you stated he is just buying time to think of an answer. He can't use the excuse "oh I didn't hear you" because I looked him dead in his face when as asked him. Just so you know I've been his girl for last 4 years!!! So now I know that I'm not the only one!! Thanks again :)
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (6 September 2011):
 Ask him.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 September 2011):
 Yes he is cheating. At least, I can't think of any other reason for having to list you under a male alias.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2011): Hi, its as the others say. You are the other woman. Hes hiding you from his long term gf. This a big deal, hes playing you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2011): Hi. It sounds very much as if he is using the tried and tested method of keeping your identity private and 'non threatening' to a third party by pretending you are male. I have had this name thing done to me once in the past. My ex partner was still having contact with his ex and using a male name for her in his phone book so i would not suspect anything when the name came up on his phone. If your partner is using this ploy to hide you. It begs the question, how many other 'men' in his phone book are really women?What he is doing is a big red flag. It IS a big deal for all manner of reasons, especially if you are in an intimate relationship with him! So don't be bamboozled by him into thinking you are being a fusspot and it all means nothing. Because something is going on!By ignoring you when you asked him about it, he has gained time to think and come up with a plausible explanation. So asking him again now, might not shed much light on his real agenda. If his choice to give you a mans name in his phone book had some strange but innocent explanation, he would have told you straightaway when you asked. The fact that he chose to ignore you is very telling. He was definitely buying time! When you ask him again, i would take his explanation with a big pinch of salt and rely more on your instincts than on anything this person tells you.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (6 September 2011):
 and i agree with the previous anon poster. you are the other woman, she is the primary one
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2011): I just asked my 37 year old fiancé and his brother. My brother in law says, " No he isn't cheating on you, you are the OTHER woman". My fiancé agrees.
Hun, leave this guy immediately. Find a way to tell his gf/wife about his cheating.
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reader, CASA DE FIGUEROA +, writes (6 September 2011):
He is cheating on you. He has another girl who is problaby jealous and dosent want her to know. Simple as that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2011): Yes he's obviously doing this because he wants to hide you from someone. That can only mean one thing, that he's seeing another woman. the fact that he didn't give you an answer when you asked, proves that he's got something to hide.
I don't think you need any further evidence. You know what's going on.
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