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How come my answers dont get posted?

Q.   hey! I've been on this site for a while and I was wondering why arent most of my answers being posted?!...

A.   6 July 2007: thank you =) =)... (read in full...)

How come my answers dont get posted?

Q.   hey! I've been on this site for a while and I was wondering why arent most of my answers being posted?!...

A.   6 July 2007: how do I get in contact with site owners? ... (read in full...)

How come my answers dont get posted?

Q.   hey! I've been on this site for a while and I was wondering why arent most of my answers being posted?!...

A.   5 July 2007: No I was not disrespectful my answers were not lame! They were not fake, they were not dangerous, they were not any of those things, and to be honest I'm a little pissed off about it.... (read in full...)

How come my answers dont get posted?

Q.   hey! I've been on this site for a while and I was wondering why arent most of my answers being posted?!...

A.   5 July 2007: thanks you =) nope I don't make it one long sentence so I dunno lol thank you again tho =)... (read in full...)

I feel he shouldn't be spending time with her with he should be with me

Q.   my boyfriend of 8 yrs plays darts and his friends wife calls him when her husbands out of town to take her to the bar; she too is his friend they all play darts together when her husbands home i cant stand the idea of him spending time with her when ...

A.   5 July 2007: tell him how you feel, the key to a relationship is comunication how's he suposed to know what's wrong when you wont tell him right? just talk to him nicely about and tell him how you feel.... (read in full...)

My family is moving away and my life is being uprooted

Q.   ok here's the deal. 5 years ago me and my family moved back here from the Isle of Man, just in time for me to go to secondary school. Over the last 5 years ive made some great friends, my best friend in particular. We've stuck together and helped ...

A.   4 July 2007: your nearly 18 so when you do turn 18 you can move back but you have to remember change is laced with happiness and sadness thats what a friend of mind told me before he moved pretty far away ... (read in full...)

How do I ask my girlfriend for sex?

Q.   hi i am a 15 yr old boy and i really want to have sex or at least get a bj from my gf but im to scared to ask her to what do i do...

A.   3 July 2007: first of all 15 is to young to have sex and you have to think of the risks of..getting her pregnant or getting an std and pressuring her in to it will only show how little respect you have for her I say wait until your legally alowed to have sex ... (read in full...)

She always passes my desk with a smug smile on her face, what is with her?

Q.   My boyfriend and I broke up after 9 months because he was fooling around with a married woman he works with. I also work for the same place. It's been a few weeks now and I have made no contact but it's hard seeing both of them at work when there ...

A.   30 June 2007: ignor her! all she wants is a reaction! shes childish doing this rise above her I agree with the other aunts =)... (read in full...)

Why did she shake my hand? Any ideas?

Q.   what does she mean by this? one day before i left, she stated "i want you to shake my hand." i was going to walk out the door and refuse. however, i did not want to be rude so i just did what she told me and i shook her hand. while i shook he...

A.   30 June 2007: your not telling the whole story here so this ones hard did you buy something off of her? because thats a true blue old fashon way to sign a deal. I really can't help you on this one because I don't know the whole story... (read in full...)

I felt it was too early in our relationship for sex, now he's mad at me

Q.   I just started dating a guy 2 weeks ago when he tried to have sex with me. I told him no but he did not stop. I thought it was too early. Now he is mad at me for not having sex with him. Am I at fault or is he. ...

A.   29 June 2007: you are not at fault in any way! he's the horny little brat that needs to grow up in fact I think your desinion was pretty smart ... (read in full...)

I'm so fed up with my guy right now for not taking any interest in my worries or insecurities

Q.   I'm so fed up with my guy right now for not taking any interest in my worries or insecurities, he is entirely blameless for me feeling this way (so he thinks) he won't see anything from my point of view, I was once a cocky confident person, now I'm ...

A.   29 June 2007: you desever better your guy shouldn't be making you feel this way, like yummymummy said talk to him about it! if thing's don't change leave him... (read in full...)

She had another man's baby aborted and didn't tell me; now I don't trust her

Q.   Hello, I am a young undergraduate of physics,I have been dating a girl since the past three years,before i met this girl she was in a relationship with another guy,of which she told me she has broken up with.But later this girl was sick in our y...

A.   28 June 2007: if you love her then you should really put this away this is her past it had nothing to do with you and like the others said you have to look at this from her point of view, and pestering her about it really wouldn't help I think your wrong doing ... (read in full...)

My 12 year old stepdaughter has a myspace account and is talking about having sex! What do I do here?

Q.   My 12 year old stepdaughter has a myspace and she gave me the password so I can put pictures on it for her. I have been reading her mail and for the second time I have found emails between her and a friend (that stays all night at her house ...

A.   28 June 2007: she trusted you enough to give you the password and you went and read her emails and now your afraid to lose her trust? personally I think it's wrong but I think you should just come out and tell her, talk to her about it, talk to her about sex and ... (read in full...)

I don't know if he really likes me or wants me just for sex and I don't want to lose him. What should I do?

Q.   I am a 16 year old virgin and don't know if I'm ready to have sex or not! I love my boyfriend to death, I've been with him for four months already and he's always asking me if I want to do it but I know I'm not ready. I'm scared if i don't do it ...

A.   27 June 2007: never do it just to make some one happy! if your not ready don't do it it's something that you wont get back and you'll regret it. you do what makes you happy, don't do it because your scared you'll lose him and so what if he goes he wouldn't be ... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant and my boyfriend wants me to get rid of the baby

Q.   I'm 20 years old and a couple of days ago I found out I was pregnant. I told my bf of 3 years and he was ok at first and then this morning he said he wants nothing to do with the baby or me and I haven't told my family yet cause I'm scared of what ...

A.   20 June 2007: No one but you abouslutly no one other then you can tell you what to do with your own fertilatie, so if you don't want to give up the baby don't give up the baby hun=) and this guy doesn't sound worth it let him go if he can't be man enough for his ... (read in full...)

My man is jealous of me spending time with my children. He left me a week ago and now he wants me back. What should I do?

Q.   I am in my 40s and have been divorced now for 7 years, I have been seeing a younger man for 6 years now ( he is 10 years younger ). My question is that we get along really good for about 6 months and then everything bothers me about him, he is very ...

A.   18 June 2007: hun! any guy who is jelious of your own child is not worth it! ... (read in full...)

Hooked up sex-wise with a guy on myspace... but it turns out he is married and has kids (his wife called me)!!!

Q.   OKK, please dont label me as a homewrecker or a slut.. I recently got out of the army and i met this guy on myspace, i know pathetic, but he seemed really nice. In fact, he is better than nice, i think hes perfect(besides the whole cheating thing) ...

A.   13 June 2007: leave him!!! if he did this to some one who married and had 3 children with he'll eventually do it to you I hate to break it to you ... (read in full...)

I want to ask her to a movie..but don't know her that well. Any advice?

Q.   hey everyone, i'm 15 year old guy and i have a question. i know that this girl likes me and i like her too, so should i make a move like invite her to a movie or something? i don't want things to be akward though since i haven't really talked to her ...

A.   11 June 2007: yeah, just strike up a convo with her and randomly ask her :) get to know her a bit more you know what i mean?... (read in full...)

He says to me "I wish you were dead"... !

Q.   My boyfriend of 4 yrs calls me names like schizo, stupid, and sometimes when he really tempers up he says " I wish you were dead". He had agression and anger problems, and it flares up on me because I dont stand up for myself and I keep it all ...

A.   11 June 2007: yeah, hun I have to agree with eyeswideopen this guy does not deserve you!! Run! because like she said up there he will do something far worse then just squeezing your hand to hard ... (read in full...)

Ladies..... what do you think of nipple piercings on guys?

Q.   honest opinions ladies - what do you think of nipple pearcings on men because I've just got mines done but I don't know what womens' opinions are on the matter?...

A.   7 June 2007: to be honest I sort of like them :)... (read in full...)

My friend is addicted to glue sniffing, but doesn't want any help.

Q.   Hi my friend has recently told me hes becoming addicted to glue sniffing and doesnt know how to stop or what to do. how can i help him without being pushy and tellin him to go to the doctors or help groups - hes made that clear that he doesnt want ...

A.   5 May 2007: you are not a bad friend trust me you just want to get him help but the thing is you can help some one who doesnt want it he will more then likely in the futer but not now and if you force it it wont get any where and he'll keep using just to be a ... (read in full...)

I've fallen for someone of the same sex, and I'm falling in love with him

Q.   Hi guys, I've fallen for someone of the same sex, and I'm falling in love with him, he knows, but he's straight, and i like him that much... Someone.. please..... help me....

A.   3 May 2007: hun I know what this feels like and it hurts like hell!!! but you gotta move on it only hurts the soul when you love some one you can't have, the only thing you can really do is to move on like anonymous up there said, ... (read in full...)

Any suggestions to get this guy I used to like...out of my head??

Q.   Ok this has been driving me nuts and I need help with this, theres this guy I use to like but I havent seen him in ages and I don't know he left me on bad terms (he turned in to a jerk) and now he has just poped up in my head and I don't know what I ...

A.   2 May 2007: thank you =) ... (read in full...)

Can a girl get pregnant whilst on her period ?

Q.   I know this might sound gross to some, but I still need to ask. Is it possible for a girl to become pregnant while menstruating? Also, is it wrong to have sex during a menstruation period if you wear a condom? My girlfriend is horniest during ...

A.   30 April 2007: yes she can... (read in full...)

Slept with 6 different men unprotected! Im pregnant, Should I keep the baby ?

Q.   Im Pregnant.. For the past 3 months i have been sleeping with several different guys, six.. two of them are teachers in my school.. usually i stay behind to do "coursework" but always turns into something else.. i have recently found out im pre...

A.   27 April 2007: hun really it's up to you listen to your heart ... (read in full...)

I can't stop loving my cousin still!

Q.   Hi I'm 19 years old and I've been in love with my cousin for so long. Ever since i wa 5 and he was 10. We were deeply in love until he was 15 and he started to change his way with me. That now we almost never talk! Every time i meet someone new i ...

A.   26 April 2007: Hun I'm so sorry you have to go through this and I know how it feels I really do but you need to move on I know thats not something you want to hear but its something that you need to do hope all goes well for you =) xxxx... (read in full...)

I don't think women working has a positive effect on society. What's happening?

Q.   I am frustrated about the entering of women at workplace and can't see it to be having much positive effect on the society. I am a kind of guy who wants his girl to need him, to be dependent on him for some reasons, may it be financial or emotional. ...

A.   24 April 2007: you are a shovanistic little boy who needs to grow up you are the self centered one and maybe you should be the one staying home with the kids but if you havent noticed alot of men leave the family and the kids just remember that and really it does ... (read in full...)

I'm a pregnant 17 year old and my BF wants to keep the baby, but I'm just not sure!

Q.   I'm 17 years old and found out i am pregnant 4 days ago, i have been with my partner for 5 months and are very happy, he wants me to keep the baby but i am not to sure, my family is telling me to get rid of it. How will i realise what I actually...

A.   20 April 2007: you do what makes YOU feel right hun don't do what others want just to please them do what you feel is right. there are a lot of teen pregnacys websites out there that you should chceck out good luck =) xxx... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and really want to have sex with my 21 yr old boyfriend!!

Q.   hi, im 14 years old and i have a 21 year old boyfriend, i see him all the time and i love him alot. its not really a problem though cause if i didnt want to see him i would of told him to **** off. anyways, my friend has been to his house with me,...

A.   4 April 2007: Not a good idea hun think about this your virginaty is something that you can't get back so I would wait until your 16 so that you know he truly loves you and so you guys wont get in to trouble ... (read in full...)

I'm bisexual, but should I wait until I've been with another girl before Im really open about it ?

Q.   Hi, I really need help. For the past 3 years or so, I've known I was bisexual. About a month ago I came out to my friends. At first they were a bit suprised but accepted me for it and they sort of joke about it but they mean well. But the problem is ...

A.   3 April 2007: hunny I know how this feels and I also know that loving some one who doesnt love you beack is dameging to the soul. I think that only you know deep down what you want to do and if you want to do it then you should if you want to talk more about this ... (read in full...)

I like this boy who called me 'ugly' which hurt! What can I do to make him like me back?

Q.   Dear Cupid, There's this boy i really like but i think he like my bestfriend (she already has a bf) and i don't think he likes me at all and he even called me ugly that hurt so bad what can i do to make him like me? HELP!!!!...

A.   28 March 2007: you don't need a guy like that who is all wraped up in looks trust me move on and find another guy one who will treat you right you know? if you want to talk more about this message me k ... (read in full...)

Do I just leave him and struggle to do whatever it takes to make a happy life for my children and myself or do I stick it out and keep trying to make it work with my husband?

Q.   I am so stressed out and overwhelmed. To try and make a long story short, I've been with my alcoholic husband for 6 years and we have 2 boys (ages 5 and 3). The past two years my husband has increased his drinking considerably. He used to be ...

A.   15 March 2007: Leave him! Acoholics only get worse believe me I use to live with one. You need to take your kids and yourself out of there, you need to be happy and sticking with an abusive acoholic will make them tuff and hard as its done with my sister and its ... (read in full...)

I'm worried about my friend....

Q.   I'm really worried about my friend. She is 13, almost 14 and has lost 20 pounds. The girls in her grade excluded her and made up rumors. She became depressed, and stopped eating, except at school. Her 2 boyfriends dumped her because they felt ...

A.   15 March 2007: just be there for her let her know that you wont drop her like all those other guys and tell her that they dont deserve her friendship and that shes better off with out them... (read in full...)

Is my fiancee jealous of my 9 year old daughter from a previous relationship?

Q.   is my fiance jeleous of my 9 year old daughter from a previous relationship? my fiance has given me an ultimatum to either stop seeing my 9 year old daughter or its over. I see her just once a week via court order and they do not get on. my daugh...

A.   15 March 2007: I say leave the fiance if you leave your 9 year old it will destroy your life so you need to get joint custody of your kids with her and leave her because people like this wont change believe me ... (read in full...)

How do I make the first move with this woman? I am so scared of rejection here.

Q.   There is a lady I see in line most days at the coffee shop. We smile and wave at each other and last year she introduced herself. I didn't know what to say, so I shook her hand but that is as far as it has gone. I feel like we have some kind of ...

A.   14 March 2007: just go up to her and start up a conversion and keep this running through your head its her loss if she doesnt want to you know? then you can walk out with your head held high knowing that you did it and thats all that matters you know??... (read in full...)

My male friend or my long term bf..which one is best for me?

Q.   In the last 8 months I have spent alot of time socializing with my friends and have started to have feelings for a male friend. He is intelligent, funny and more on my wavelength than my boyfriend of 2 years-who is perfect but we don't have much in ...

A.   14 March 2007: you should do what feels right you know? choose the one that you truly love... (read in full...)

How can you tell if your gf is a real virgin??

Q.   How do i get to know if my girlfriend is a real virgin? She said she is but i dont trust her enough becasue she had been in a relationship before and seems to know a lot about sex. Is it true that all women bleed on their 1st time? She is just 15 ...

A.   13 March 2007: you can't and it shouldnt matter... (read in full...)

I want more than just friendship with her, how can I tell her this?

Q.   I think im in love with my best friend. We've been friends sice probably infants school and are now both in year 11 at school. I'm 16 shes 15. I first startd having feelings for her back in juniors but it was more of justr wanting to be with her all ...

A.   9 March 2007: tell her up front dont just let this pass if you dont tell her you could be making the big mistake you know?... (read in full...)

My boss seems infatuated with me but he's married, should I go for it?

Q.   Hi, I've been working at a restaurant for about six months and my boss has been flirting with me. To begin with i just thought that it was friendly flirting but last month he gave me a huge bouquet of flowers, everyone starting talking and since ...

A.   8 March 2007: I agree with every one else here!! NO NO NO NO!!!! because not only would this lead to distater it would only hurt his kids and his wife!!!!!! dont be stupid!!!! hes your boss you do anything like this and rumors with spread! and also like the othe... (read in full...)

I asked this guy I fancy if he was free and I was shocked at his response.

Q.   I Really fancy this guy but I asked him if he was free and he said he has a girlfriend and that its "just fucken " with me "in a strictly plutonic". I was shocked by his response as I thought he really liked me as he had told me 2 months previous ...

A.   8 March 2007: move on!!!! thats the best thing you can do trust me you dont need to get mixed up with a guy like him by the sounds of it he wouldnt be that faithful... (read in full...)

What is the best advice I can give to my friend?

Q.   hiya my pal has been with her bf for 1 year know and she said she is ready to take the next step but there is only one thing her bf says he is not wearing a condom and she has come to me for help can u help me ...

A.   6 March 2007: yeah tell your friend to tell her boyfriend either he wears a condom or she wont be stupid and she'll just say no you know? by saying that her boyfriend is being selfish ... (read in full...)

I'm confused, I think I might be a lesbian! What's going on with me?

Q.   pls help! 4 some reason i think i could be a lesbian. I dont have feelings for any girls at all and in fact i have a boyfriend who i love a lot. But i keep finding myself looking at other womens body parts.. like their breasts. Maybe i am just loo...

A.   6 March 2007: no no it could just be hormones trust me I got through the same thing, just enjoy it and in time you will know... (read in full...)

Whenever my boyfriend gets drunk or high he holds me down and forces me to have sex with him. Last night he choked me until I was unconscious... but I love him, it's not his fault.

Q.   I have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 years and for the first 2 years things were going great but now he hits me whenever he gets drunk or high. Sometimes he even holds me down and forces me to have sex with him. I don't want to leave him ...

A.   6 March 2007: get rid of him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you dont need shit like that around you things will only get worse hell only get more violent and yeah like the guy at the bottem said bullshit! I know alot of people including some on drugs who have ... (read in full...)

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