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writes:Hi, please can you give me your opinions on this situation. I met a guy in March this year. We started seeing each other or so I thought. I asked him after 8 weeks how he felt about me. He said it was just sex so I broke contact with him and told him I felt used. We didn't speak for 5 weeks and in that time I met someone else but I don't feel anything for him. Me and my ex are in contact again and the feelings that were developing for him are still there. He lives very close to me. I haven't seen him for 8 days. He says he's interested but he's always too busy to come see me. He texts me everyday. Sometimes he texts with just kisses. Do you think he genuinely likes me or should i give it a go with the other one? Thanks.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (1 July 2011):
 I wouldn't even text him... that gives him attention and feeds a need.
just delete him and ignore him...
best of luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice guy number 1 was supposed to come round tonight he didnt turn up going to text him tell him to delete my number
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 June 2011):
I agree
guy number one just wants sex.. he already told you that
and it would not be fair to guy number 2 if you went out with him pretending to have feelings for him.
it's scary to be alone but I promise it won't be forever.
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (30 June 2011):
 First of all,you shouldnt focus alot of your energy on whether a guy likes you or not,coz the bottom line is...you cant control how someone thinks or feels!!However you CAN control yourself,your thoughts and your feelings.Once you shift your thinking to line up with this fact you should also focus on doing those things that in all likelihood would increase chances of him being attractd towards youHave reasonably high standards regarding the men you date as you need to value yourself first before any one else truly can value youDont just settle(as you are considering for someone you dont realy feel for)8 weeks is what...2 months!! Is that reasonable enough time for someone to really get to know you and develop feelings for you?It feels in my opinion that you began to engage sexually with him in the hope that it would accelerate the process of the development of his emotions towards you,but when you learnt otherwise you got pissed n broke it off. I must say your expectations are quite unrealisticYour asking whether or not he has real feelings for you given your recent re-starting of communications btw the two of you...but how can anyone know?!Maybe he just wants to re-connect with you sexually,and the way he decides to go about achieving that end is by acting all luvy-duvy and telling you what you want to hear...and clearly you are falling for it!!!Like it has been mentioned on this site time n time again...LOOK TO PEOPLES ACTIONS N NOT THEIR WORDS...this applies to both the sexesId suggest you back off and let him do the work a bit,let him chase,and then judge him by his actions.If you dont have standards,if you dont respect yourself...DONT realistically expect him to treat you as you deserve...let alone respect you****
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (30 June 2011):
 I dont think your ex genuinely likes you or wants a relationship - he told you last time it was just sex so it is pretty safe to say this time round wont be any different. Plus he is always too busy to see you - if he really liked you he would make time, he is just making excuses to avoid you.
However with this other guy who likes you - dont date him either. You said yourself, you dont feel anything for him so it would be massively unfair to him to lead him on when you still have feelings for someone else.
Dont date either of them - neither of these guys are right for you so dont waste your time. The guy you like doesnt feel the same, and you feel nothing for the other guy - so neither are a good option. Break it off with both of them, and wait until you find a guy you actually like who likes you too. Dont lead this poor guy on by going out with him when you dont have feelings for him, that is very harsh and you will end up hurting him.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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