Male, 20 and still a virgin
Q. Just as the title says. I absolutely hate myself for it too. What a loser i must be. Worse, everyone's always telling me how good looking i am and what a good sense of humour i have. So why the HELL cant i make it work for me?? Im a useless failure. ...
A. 23 August 2011: my friend is a virgin and she is 25 years old, but do you see her going around crying about it....No. When the time is right it will happen for you. Don't think you are the only 20 year old virgin. Come back and complain when you are 40 and a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is annoyed that I won't wear what he is telling me to
Q. I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 26. For the past week or so he's been asking me to wear a bikini and halfshirt 24-7 and is getting angry that I won't do it. I told him no, it's inappropriate, but he thinks it'll be good for our relationship and it'...
A. 23 August 2011: Never let a man tell you what to wear! it's one rule every woman should obey. How would he like it if u told him to prance about in speedos all day! I'm sure he would complain. To have a happy compromise, maybe suggest that you dress up sexy fo... (read in full...)
FB bane of my life. Do I trust him? Or just break up over his lies?
Q. ive been with this guy for 7 months and all we really seem to do is argue :/ .. he always adding girls on Facebook and i get really paranoid as to whether he talks to them. So one day me and my friend made a female on Facebook( i know that's w...
A. 20 August 2011: your only young, so why waste your time with someone you can't trust. Get rid of him and find someone who wants to be with you and not be bothered by other girls. ... (read in full...)
He gets horny over my baby bump. Is this normal?
Q. hey. i am 4 months pregnant. i have been with my boyfriend for 12 months, however it is not his baby. he knows, he's accepted it (i think) and he forgave me for cheating on him. anyway, now i am starting to get a bump. this seems to send my boyfr...
A. 16 June 2011: some men do actually find pregnant women as a turn on. There is actual pregnant women porn! :s odd i know, but i wouldn't be too alarmed by the way he is acting. If it does get too much then just tell him what you do and don't like. No harm in being ... (read in full...)
How can I sweep this guy off his feet and away from his girlfriend?
Q. I have this cute neighbor who lives beside me. He is so cute and handsome. I like hardly ever see him. The other night I was going out with some girlfriends of mine and he was waiting at the elevator with a female who I thought was his friend. I was ...
A. 4 June 2011: leave him alone and find your own single man! There is nothing worse then interferring annoying immature girls who want to steal other girl's boyfriends. He is with her because he obviously loves her and is not interested in you. Stop putting ... (read in full...)
In a long distance relationship, and we won't be able to meet again until 2012!
Q. i am in a ldr committed relationship since 2 years. last time i met my bf was december 2010. now my bf said that he will meet me on may 2012!!! this is because he has to study hard this year to go to a good college next year.he's taking one yea...
A. 4 June 2011: I wouldn't waste your life waiting for him if he can't see you before 2012. I'm in a LDR myself, but we see eachother as often as we can. If he turned round to me and said he couldn't see me untill 2012 i would just admitt to myself that it wasn't a ... (read in full...)
Found a lump in my right breast, but I'm too scared to go to the doctor!
Q. i know this might seem a bit weird, but iv noticed a lumb in my right breast, at first i just ignored it as i thought it may just be beacuse i lost weight and they are changing, but know i am a bit worried. i am to scared and ashamed to tell ...
A. 4 June 2011: Don't be scared of ashamed. I know it must be scary as you always think the worse, but it may be something like a fatty cyst that is harmless. Reasure yourself by going to see your doctor. Remember doctors and nurses are used to seeing boobs and ... (read in full...)
For the guys: Why do you put kisses at the end of texts? Does it mean anything to you?
Q. What is it with men and putting kisses on the end of texts? I'd like for the majority of answers to men just so i know, but women feel free to answer too with your opinions:) Okay so, i don't wanna be judged on the age different or whatever, thi...
A. 3 June 2011: my bf always puts an X or two at the end of his texts to me. It's endearing and sweet. ... (read in full...)
Wife in Girl's weekend . Do they have to call their husbands?
Q. My wife spent the weekend with her friends, she just called me on Saturday night for one minute saying that your cellphone was working in the area and she was using her regular cell phone.Sunday she didn't call me at all( she could find a to place ...
A. 3 June 2011: i know in some cultures women are not allowed to do much, but whatever your culture or belief you need to trust your wife and allow her to have some sort of independance! She is not a child and does not need someone to hold her hand for everything. ... (read in full...)
Am I just an arrogant american?
Q. Is it wrong for thinking my home country (U.S.A.) is the greatest country in the world? I come from a military family, and have such a deep respect for our armed forces. I am not the most patriotic person in the world, of course I do not trust the ...
A. 30 May 2011: you are just being very patriotic. Nothing wrong with that! people these days are far too PC and worried about upsetting others with their opinions. If you think your country is the best then good on you. I love that you support your armed forces, ... (read in full...)
Wife in Girl's weekend . Do they have to call their husbands?
Q. My wife spent the weekend with her friends, she just called me on Saturday night for one minute saying that your cellphone was working in the area and she was using her regular cell phone.Sunday she didn't call me at all( she could find a to place ...
A. 30 May 2011: hell no! I just had a Hen weekend with my friends and we never rang our bf's and finances. You should trust her and not expect her to call you when she is with her friends having a good time. If you were with your guy mates, i'm sure you would ... (read in full...)
Friend planning on having unprotected sex!
Q. My friend is planning on having unprotected sex with her boyfriend and I'm seriously worried she'll end up preagant at 17 but she won't listen to me when I tell her to get on the pill of use a condom and I don't know what do to get her to listen? ...
A. 22 May 2011: as lovely as it is that you are caring for her and looking out for her, at the end of the day she is responsible for herself. If she goes ahead and has unprotected sex then she really is a fool. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to masturbate and think of sex all the time?
Q. Can anybody tell me if it's really normal for a woman to masturbate and think of sex a lot? I am still single and i think, my sexual drive is high , eventhough i never had any sexual relationship to any man. Do i really need to talk to a ...
A. 19 May 2011: sounds like you are just very hormonal and horny. It's natural, so don't worry about it. ... (read in full...)
Playing peek a boo for a year. will he ever ask me out?
Q. A co-worker and I have been playing peek-a boo for over a year. We do not speak to one another. This week we locked eyes and he had a genuine smile and his eyes sparkled and I smiled back. Has he finally let me know he is intereted and likes me? ...
A. 19 May 2011: a whole year and you have never spoken to each other! wow! i would of got bored and found someone else a long time ago if it was me. However if you really like him just get yourself off your desk chair and go and talk to him and ask him out for a ... (read in full...)
How do I approach my med teacher?
Q. hi am 21 and a medical student and i think am really falling for my surgery teacher Who was teaching me for about 1 and half years. He always tries to encourage me coz am the best in his class, and tries 2 show me that he's concerned. WHAT SHOULD ...
A. 19 May 2011: DON'T DO IT! for heavens sake do not ruin your medical degree for a crush. Even though it's not illegal most universities and colleges will see this as a very bad thing and you could lose your place on the course and he could lose his career. J... (read in full...)
Question for the men on penis sensitivity....
Q. confused. question for the men. do you like the girl to exploit this sensitvity on the head of the penis or not? ...
A. 17 May 2011: i know i'm not a guy,lol. But i have found that some guys love you to really concentrate on the head of the penis, while others want the shaft and balls to be touched just as much. So i think it depends on the individual really. Talk to ur bf and ... (read in full...)
Not looking for sex or anything serious, how to tell him without being harsh?
Q. i met a nice guy on a night out, we didnt have sex, just cuddled and talked all night. he told me that he had been in a relationship for 4years and now he is just looking for something causal. i dont know what he means by that, is it causal sex or ...
A. 17 May 2011: casual usually means going on a few dates, having sex with no strings attatched and dating other people at the same time. If it's not what you want then u need to be honest with him and tell him where he stands. Don't string him along. ... (read in full...)
Why is he taking so long to make a move on me? Is it something to do with his ex?
Q. I have known this guy for 4 years. His crush on me was obvious but he wouldn't make a move. I went out with someone else for the past 2 years and we broke up 3 months ago. The guy just broke up with his girl one month ago. I think they broke up ...
A. 17 May 2011: not being too forward or anything, but why don't you make the move? We are past the days of waiting for the man to make the romantic gesture, put yourself out there and just ask him for a date.He seems the shy type, so if you don't make a move you... (read in full...)
Do I let my ex know that I have moved on?
Q. I was in a relationship for 5 years right out of high school. During the realtionship he lied and cheated multiple times and I stayed because I was young and stupid. I mean I took him back after everytime he cheated.... so dumb I even had 2 ...
A. 16 May 2011: you don't need to tell him anything. You are finished with him, so therefore your private life has nothing to do with him. Enjoy your new relationship and forget about him.... (read in full...)
Has anyone been through this with choosing a life path or partner?
Q. My BF who I love and care for a lot is studying to become a Geologist and work in the mines. This will require him to be away for long periods of time. But then have quite a bit of time of as well. He has a couple of times tried to convince me to ...
A. 15 May 2011: My boyfriend is in the army and there fore is away a lot. But i would never want to join up just so i could be with him more. You have to follow your life and your career plans but make space and time for each other when you can. We make our ... (read in full...)
When we have sex, it's agony!
Q. Heyy.. Okay; Well; ive been with my boyrfirend for 7months. I love him with all of my heart. Butt; when we have sex; its agony!! I have been in tears over this before during sex. I feel really bad; because he then feels bad for putting me thru the ...
A. 15 May 2011: yeah lube will help. Also think about using this position, it really helped me. I find if he is on top i can get a bit sore after a while, so get him to lay on his side so your back is against his stomach, then you put your leg over his legs so he ... (read in full...)
How long should I leave him to have his space?
Q. Well it seems every relationship i have ends up a distaster! Been with my bf for 4 months so not that long really but we get along great and we also work together in the same company so share mutual friends. Recently hes been distant with me ...
A. 15 May 2011: I had a similar situation with my boyfriend when we first started dating. He had not long been out of a relationship where a girl cheated on him. Everything was fine, but then he started to become distant with me and said he just wanted some space ... (read in full...)
Why is my friend always embarassing me?
Q. Your Open Question: Why does my friend do this? am really upset:(? ? ? Am really upset, last week I went to a prayer meeting with the youth at my church and after the service my cousin's boyfriend gave me a lift home and in the car there were 3gu...
A. 15 May 2011: she sounds like she may of been worried about you getting more attention then her. Jealousy can make people do crazy things. Maybe you should have a chat with her and just explain you don't need her to tell you how to dress appropriately. I would of ... (read in full...)
I'm terrified of relationships and dating!
Q. I avoid relationships and I'm always worried about them. I'm extremely paranoid, though I've never been cheated on or actually never been hurt. But I see my friends and the relationships they've been in. The online dating or physical dating. People ...
A. 15 May 2011: don't be scared to date or have a relationship. It's all part of life and you need to experience good and bad things. Yeah you will find a few frogs before your prince, but i've never regretted dating the frogs as you learn alot from them. Like ... (read in full...)
Do you have to be a "bad boy" for girls to like you?
Q. This question is for women ,I never had a girlfriend and I'm still looking. But I heard girls like the "bad boys". I'm a sweet heart guy and I do have confidence, faith, and not a pushover. I am responsible and I would protect my girlfriend from ...
A. 15 May 2011: don't be daft! I've never dated or been in relationships with "bad boys". Usually those type of guys are a waste of space. Why would a woman want to be with a guy who treats her like rubbish just so he can have a bad boy image. That phase usually ... (read in full...)
Is it a big turn off for guys when they see girls bleeding while having sex?
Q. The other day my boyfriend and I had sexual intercourse for the first time and i guess he sort of didn't know how to react when he saw me bleed. He didn't stop right away because he didn't want me to get anything wrong, but I could sense that he ...
A. 15 May 2011: you should of told him from the start that you were a virgin. That way he would of been less surprised. Don't worry about it too much as it won't happen again.... (read in full...)
Can you use lotion as a lubricant?
Q. I'm really nervous about giving my boyfriend a hand job. Can you use lotion as a lubricant? If so, which kinds of lotion are best? Thank you!...
A. 15 May 2011: just make sure you don't use a lotion or cream before having sex as some can damage condoms. Best thing to do is to go and buy a lubricant. You can usually find them next to the condoms in general stores. Oral sex can also help with lubrication, but ... (read in full...)
Men are leering at my legs and I want it to stop!
Q. Hello there! Here is my crisis. Men who are way older than me are looking at my legs and smiling at me. Not the friendly polite smile but a sinister pervert smile. Please forgive the language. This started happening when my mom said that I shou...
A. 15 May 2011: well ask yourself one question....how do you dress? If you are only between 13-15 you may be dressing too old for your age and giving the older men the wrong impression. Swop mini skirts for longer ones or just wear trousers. Don't dress older then ... (read in full...)
I give him oral 24/7, but NEVER has gotten it in return, am I being selfish?
Q. Hello, I am a 18 year old female and i am mixed. I am native american and black. I been with my boyfriend for a year in a half and i have done everything to please him. I even pay for every single damn thing. I wait for him all the damn time ...
A. 14 May 2011: simple honey...stop giving him pleasure if your not getting anything back... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing going on a date with a guy I'm not all that crazy about?
Q. I have a problem. I am in grade 12 and I graduate in 35 days. I started seeing this guy after finally giving him a chance, I can't say I'm that crazy about him but he is a nice guy and he has formally asked me to be his date to graduation. I ...
A. 4 May 2011: give him a chance. I was the same when i met my boyfriend, i was alittle unsure if he liked him as anything but a friend but the more i dated him the more i fell in love with him. You may surprise yourself like i did.... (read in full...)
Do you lose your virginity if you get fingered?
Q. Do you lose your virginity if you get fingered?...
A. 4 May 2011: no.... (read in full...)
Can he go to prison for being with me?
Q. Im 15 years old and my boyfriends 20, we are in love no doubt about it, but can he go too prison for being with me?...
A. 2 May 2011: it is illeagal if any form of sex takes place, even something simple like you sending him a naughty pic of yourself is illeagal as you are a minor and he is an adult. Ask yourself one question...what on earth is a 20 year old man wanting with a 15 ... (read in full...)
Am I still a considered a virgin if I got fingered...?
Q. Okay. Im 15 and I was just fingered for the first time. My question is, am I still considered a virgin even though he did finger me?...
A. 2 May 2011: yes you are. To actually loose your virginity would mean to actually have sexual intercourse, by a man penetrating you with his penis. As you are so young, i'd wait a good few years untill you even think about having sex! When you do use ... (read in full...)
How do we make LDR work for 6 years?
Q. Hey, I would really appreciate some advice on this one (hopefully some positive, cause I only seem to be able to find negative stuff). In September I start a six year university course, doing Veterinary medicine (so it's going to be quite allot o...
A. 2 May 2011: congrats on your course by the way! I actually am in a similar situation with my boyfriend. He is in the army so we have to try and make a long distance relationship work. It's very hard and i'm not going to lie to you about that. People who say ... (read in full...)
No boys have any interest in me!
Q. I'm 13 and never had a boyfriend. All my friends have had atleast one and everyone says I'm not ugly and I'm interesting to talk to but no boy has seem to have any interest in me!! Is there something wrong with me??!!?? Help!!...
A. 1 May 2011: you are far too young to be worrying about boyfriends! Your friends idea of a boyfriend has probably been a school lad who they meet down the shops and therefore call them their boyfriends. Trust me at that age you have no idea about relationships. ... (read in full...)
It's our first meeting, should we have sex?
Q. i met this guy online about two weeks ago. we are planing to meet in june. we have had phonesex twice. he is 30 and im 20. i know if we do meet we will have sex. and i want to. i just dont want him to think that i am a slut. what would you think if ...
A. 1 May 2011: don't even meet him! go out with your friends and enjoy yourself. You can't and shouldn't go and meet some random stranger from the internet and then have sex with them. You don't even no him. Plus him being 10 years older then you can cause a few ... (read in full...)
Our first time wasn't great! What happened?
Q. My boyfriend sex me and it was my first time,but why is it I dont feel so much delight? yes i admit it hurts cause im still a virgin,he has a tiny penis,lol,and it doesnt feel so much good,I think im not satified,why is it? Do i need a guy who has a ...
A. 1 May 2011: It has nothing to do with his penis. It's because it was your first time! The first time is never pleasureable and amazing. It just hurts, and then you tense up and as you are not relaxed you can't enjoy it like you will later on. Try different ... (read in full...)
I don't know how far my BF has gone with this other girl, but its killing me. HELP!!!
Q. I'm devastated. I have an LDR of 3.5 years and we were going to meet for the very first time in July. He went out two nights ago with his cousin and his cousin's girlfriend. His cousin's girlfriend's feelings fluctuates from hating to lovin...
A. 1 May 2011: come into the real world and meet real people. For all you know this guy could be someone different to what he has said to you. He may of told you he is a doctor or something, when really he is unemployed. Get my drift! Take up some interests and ... (read in full...)
I haven't had sex in 20 years and really don't know what to do or expect!
Q. I am a 55 year old women that hasn't had sex in 20 years. I have recently started dating again an I am sure he will want to have sex soon and I am horrified I have no idea what to expect. Can anyone give advice of help please...
A. 30 April 2011: before you even have sex with him, go and buy yourself a sex toy. It will prepare you for the feeliing of having a man's penis inside of you again. Make sure you use condoms when it comes to being with him and just be honest with him. You don't have ... (read in full...)
I don't know how far my BF has gone with this other girl, but its killing me. HELP!!!
Q. I'm devastated. I have an LDR of 3.5 years and we were going to meet for the very first time in July. He went out two nights ago with his cousin and his cousin's girlfriend. His cousin's girlfriend's feelings fluctuates from hating to lovin...
A. 30 April 2011: hang on i'm confused...you are in a relationship with someone you have never met? How does that even work, no offence, but him being a man will want to have had sex in the last 3 years. I think you should forget about him and find yourself a nice ... (read in full...)
Never even a first kiss at 21 -- how lame is that?
Q. Dear Anybody who can help me: I am a female. I am 21. And I have never gone on a date... Or had my first kiss. How lame am I? I must seriously suck at life. And it sucks more when youre family is constantly asking.. "Why dont you have a boyfriend...
A. 22 April 2011: I have a friend who is 24 and she has never had a date or a first kiss. I sometimes wonder how she has never managed to have a date or find someone. But i think it is all down to confidence. When she meets new people she becomes very defensive and ... (read in full...)
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