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*iryuu
writes:Hello there!Here is my crisis. Men who are way older than me are looking at my legs and smiling at me. Not the friendly polite smile but a sinister pervert smile. Please forgive the language. This started happening when my mom said that I should be more girly. Should I tell those guys to stop looking at my legs and tell my parents or keep quiet about this because i haven't told my parents yet. Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 Then don't worry. Men are going to look. Consider it flattery and then ignore them.
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reader, Kiryuu +, writes (16 May 2011):
Kiryuu is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank all for your helps! I do not wear short skirts, tight jeans, short shorts, etc. But i wear shorts that show a little of my tighs just a little NOT much and besides i am not allow to wear those short skirts, tight jeans, short shorts, etc. Thank goodness.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (16 May 2011):
 Dont wear anything that would give them a reason to look.
Dont wear short shirts, short shorts, tight jeans etc..
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (15 May 2011):
Cover them up! Harder to look at girls legs if they're in a pair of long pants.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (15 May 2011):
 If you are 15, are you trying to dress too provocatively for your age? More like an 18-21 year old would be dressing? Short skirts? No tights? Short shorts? That kind of thing?
Sadly, if you do wear short skirts or anything that leaves little to the imaginatioon, men are going to look. That is the fact of life. And if they think you are older than you look (i.e over 16) then you are fair game to them.
You can still look girly and femanine without resorting to showing everything off. Longer lines and maxi dresses are in at the moment. Cover up a bit!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (15 May 2011):
 Ignore it or wear long pants. You can't control what other people do, where they look and what they think.
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reader, Kiryuu +, writes (15 May 2011):
Kiryuu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for all the help. I am fifteen if you guys don't know it. Not between 13-15.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 May 2011):
 Do what you feel is best. But in your shoes I'd probably wear something that covers my legs a bit more the days where I don't want the attention.
Men look. It's what they do. Women look as well, perhaps women are just more subtle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2011): Well my dear I remember being your age and I remember going through the exact same thing, my mother yearned to get me out of my school sporty clothes as she saw I was becoming a little lady, she convinced me to dress more feminine, nothing unusually flowery dresses sandals, jeans tshirts etc, but even the simplicity of my dressing sense attracted older men which in my opinion should have known better than to stare at a girl who was clearly under 16.I found that the best way to deal with it was to tell my mum, who older and wiser really knew how to put them In their place, it will happen even when you are not showing your legs, it will happen even when you are not showing anything at all, just the fact that you are coming in to a more girlish time of your life gets them dripping over you. And that's just a preview of what's whats coming.
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reader, auntyR +, writes (15 May 2011):
well ask yourself one question....how do you dress? If you are only between 13-15 you may be dressing too old for your age and giving the older men the wrong impression. Swop mini skirts for longer ones or just wear trousers. Don't dress older then what you are. We can't stop men from staring and i remember when i was younger i used to freak out about it, but now i just tell them where to go. lol.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (15 May 2011):
 Hi
Unfortunately you cant stop men from looking at you, as horrible as this may make you feel. If it is older men you know , then tell your parents. But if this is really upsetting you, then I would suggest you wear longer skirts, or flowing trousers to cover your legs, you can still look femenine and girly without having to wear a skirt.
I hope this has helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2011): Yes! Tell them to stop looking! In fact, be very blunt with them and tell them to screw off. Im sorry you feel disrespected and demeaned in a way. If anything, they should look at your face and smile cause thats where the real person is, not anywhere below that ;)
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