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writes: My wife spent the weekend with her friends, she just called me on Saturday night for one minute saying that your cellphone was working in the area and she was using her regular cell phone.Sunday she didn't call me at all( she could find a to place to make a he cell works to call me ). ON this weekend she'll be with her best friend in a weekend too( this one already has betrayed her husband on these little vacations ... yeah ). Me and wife are in different countries.LDR. Am I worrying so much because a phone call. On 3 weeks we will be together in my country .I know she loves me but I do not trust on her with her friends . I'm thinking telling to her for don't come here now only the end of Year, but really I'm thinking about get divorce and let her does whatever he does with her ??friends and on this way I get a woman from my own Country . here they don't have this weekend's Girls or girl's night. I know myself .. after we be living together I will not allow this to happen, I'm thinking on tell her this when she call me....if this marriage go away now....it is better than i be here burning my mind about her. what do you think.... Girls weekend. Do they have to call her husbands.
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reader, auntyR  +, writes (3 June 2011):
i know in some cultures women are not allowed to do much, but whatever your culture or belief you need to trust your wife and allow her to have some sort of independance! She is not a child and does not need someone to hold her hand for everything. Just because she is spending the weekend with her friends does not mean they are all going to turn into a bunch of tarts and go off after other men. We are in the 21st century now and there is no need to treat women like we are living in the caveman era. Just have some faith and trust in her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes It is my behavior knows where my wife is ..I am the man and I control my house and everything inside of it.othe thing I don't have guys'weekends..Okay! I am aman and no a boy to be out of my home. She knew that before go after me for years. she could had get a guy from her own country she is smart, make her own money and she is really pretty but I never hide who I am. I was going break with her if she didn't have call me for her wish I told her it so we are good thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay I read your comments and thank you but i told her after that I wouldn't let her go to girl's weekend often anymore...It can be now or in 20 years .I gave her a choice ..Its up to you Dear ..If you want it too much you will be alone because Im going to get a woman from my culture that they don't have this behavior but she explained herself why she didn't call me ! her phone that makes call for my country is not good there yes I had to ask it to my sister to see if it was the true and yep the phone is really bad there. My wife told me that only will have it from now on a once a year and she will call me everyday and get my calls. She know that I likes to control everything around me and she wants be part of my life so she has to accept my way. Other thing I believe in my wife but I don't believe when many women are together and some of them are cheaters. I don't know the husband of my wife's friend but I f I knew him I would tell him how he almost fathered child of another man...okay the point is girls weekend will be on my rules from now on ...and if she changed her idea with times I will leave her and get many women It is so easy find women...bye thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2011): No, women are not obligated to call their husband's on a girls' weekend away. The whole point of being away is NOT being in touch. Furthermore, it isn't your place to allow or not allow anything as far as your wife is concerned. She is a grown woman and does not need a man, any man, to dictate what is and isn't appropriate. You govern your own behaviour and let her govern hers. Being a wife, and then a mother is very, very demanding for women and we need our space every now and then.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (30 May 2011):
 me being me, i would want to call here and there just to say hi and i love you. other than that, i'd probably just leave my phone alone. but since there's a history of cheating during these weekends... honestly i don't blame you for being weary. there's really no rules for a girls weekend about cell phone use. you two should be able to figure out what is and isn't okay as a couple. if you're uncomfortable, then that's okay and she should touch base with you a bit more often.
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reader, auntyR +, writes (30 May 2011):
hell no! I just had a Hen weekend with my friends and we never rang our bf's and finances. You should trust her and not expect her to call you when she is with her friends having a good time. If you were with your guy mates, i'm sure you would become annoyed by her ringing you all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2011): No way! If I was on girls' weekend I would not call me significant other and also if my BF was away on a boys' weekend there is no way he would call me, or I him. It's time away to have a bit of space. Really it's okay!I have to agree with the other poster too; just because her friend has cheated you should not think your wife should too.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (30 May 2011):
 no they are not obliged to call their husbands, it is personal choice and if she does not want to call you then you can't MAKE her want to.
seems there is a cultural difference between you and your wife which you should really have discussed before marriage, maybe you had not got to know each other well enough.
of note, just because she is away for the weekend with a cheater, does not necessarily mean that she will also cheat but you are right to be more worried than if she was away with a friend who is loyal to her man
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