Young and in love with 2 boys..HELP!
Q. I am young, and not naive, so please don't baby me. But I am in a dilemma. School started just 2 months ago and I have been with my boyfriend about that long. However, my entire summer was spent single, and I really enjoyed the freedom of being able ...
A. 16 November 2009: I agree with CaringGuy.
You sound like you are definately not ready to 'settle' with one boy. You say you're in 'love' with two guys, and one is a boy you just met a little while ago and the other is someone who you've been dating 2 months? What... (read in full...)
Peter Pan has left the building
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for the past 10 years. I recently told him that he might want to consider moving out and becoming more of a responsible grown up- that his fear to act like an adult and his fear of committing to a ...
A. 16 November 2009: That's a hard one. I can understand his point about gaining independence by living by himself (as he never has before) but going by your age - and guessing he's of similar age - you want something permanent and are desparing of him for not wanting ... (read in full...)
It's impossible falling out of love
Q. Okay i Fell in love with this guy summer of 09 when i was visiting my couzin in L.a...! he always flirted with me and told me he loved me..long story short he really liked this Girl named Miranda But he Used me and this girl named Bethany but he ...
A. 16 November 2009: Okay, firstly, I'm sorry he treated you badly. I've been in a similar situation (who hasn't really?!) and it does hurt a lot. The only way you're going to get out of feeling like this is by doing things that distract you.
Meditation worked f... (read in full...)
I've been in love with my sister for 3 years!
Q. i need help i'm in love with my sister shes 17 and really beautiful and i'm 15 and i cant stop thinking about her every time i see her i want to grab her and kiss her and never stop this has bin going on for about 3 years now and i dont know if i ...
A. 16 November 2009: Is she your real sister? Not half or step? If she's a real sister you realise nothing can happen (at least not legally! Incest = bad) in that arena?
At 15 it's easy to confuse feelings of LOVE with feelings of 'lust', your hormones are on red a... (read in full...)
Should I hide my emotions from my boyfriend?
Q. Hi im 18 and sometimes i get emotional and i just want to cry my eyes out cuz either im happy or mad and have no other way to let it out. But i dont like to do it around my boyfriend because i think he might think that i am a cry baby or somethin...
A. 16 November 2009: Of course you shouldn't hide your emotions from your boyfriend, he loves you! When you hide your true self you partner is only seeing half of you, the always happy half. That's not reality! I can see your point, and I used to hate crying in f... (read in full...)
My girlfriend can't seem to make up her mind- me or this other guy. Did I screw up? How do I win her back?
Q. Alright, my girlfriend of 2 years recently started hanging out with her one friend, who i had a feeling liked her, however i didn't want to be one of those controlling boyfriends so i said that i wasn't going to stop her from seeing him (although i ...
A. 16 November 2009: I applaud you! You have gone to a lot of effort for this girl, and admire you for how you've tried not to be controlling. I don't think you've screwed up as it were, but I think that you do need to give her the time to sort her head out. The m... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a no-strings attached thing with him again?
Q. Over the summer, I had a fling that was purely lustful. I went in not wanting anything. I told him I would be starting school in Sept and moving. I could tell he didn't want me to move. The relationship was great for what it was. It seemed like h...
A. 16 November 2009: Only he would be able to give you the answer you seek in regards to whether a no-strings relationship would be okay with him! He sounds like he wants more though, which is admirable (usually it's guys who are more okay with 'friends with be... (read in full...)
She ended it out of the blue. How do I get her back?
Q. So I dated this girl for about 2 months and we both liked each other a lot. After getting back from a trip she calls me and breaks up with me. She didn't say why. We've been separated for about 3 or 4 months now and I've realized that I really w...
A. 16 November 2009: Ha, I don't see you as a crazy idiot on the internet! You just have a problem that you're trying to fix, and you're going the right way asking for advice instead of jumping right in head first. You're right, we don't know her, we're just going... (read in full...)
Best friend angry with me now her brother/my bf won't speak to me. What can I do?
Q. ** none of the names are real** All are edited** This is going to seem rather long but i dont know how to make it any shorter. Please bare with me. About 10 months ago, i met Ashley. We didnt get along well and first but eventualy we got to be...
A. 16 November 2009: Hi, okay then. It all comes down to what you want to happen between you and Ashley and you and Jared. Who is more important to you? All you can really do is try to talk to either of them, ignore them, wait for them to come to you or wait until you ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to give him space in case too much time passes and he moves on.
Q. I pretty much fell for him and more than anything I at least want out friendship back. We were talking for 3 months. "summer romance" haha. Well over a month ago he started needing space. His best friend told me that he's afraid to get close to...
A. 15 November 2009: Yes, I'd have to agree with the previous poster. You say you're afraid to give him space because he might move on? He's not going to be more inclined to spend time with you if you keep the pressure on, I'm not trying to be harsh but he needs to sort ... (read in full...)
He told me he might be moving soon but I like him sooooo much! What can I do?
Q. I need help, ive been going out with this guy for almost a month, and i really like him, but not just like, i love him but im not IN love with him. He told me he was moving next summer and im cool with that, but he recently told me he might be ...
A. 15 November 2009: I have to agree with Aunty Bimbim. He doesn't control the circumstances of his move, his parents do. I'm more concerned with you saying 'you love him but aren't in love with him'...what do you mean exactly? You'd be cool with him moving next year ... (read in full...)
Why has she changed her mind so suddenly???
Q. I have asked this question before but I need more input from you guys. I'm 15 and my girlfriend is 14. We have been dating for 2 months yesterday. Weve done blowjobs, handjobs, fingering, and eating out. Anyway we almost had sex on our anniversary ...
A. 15 November 2009: Passions run very high in the heat of the moment, and it sounds to me that she's been thinking she's not ready to go the whole hog. Please respect her wishes, she may think she's ready but I'd say she isn't. Besides, you are both under the age of ... (read in full...)
She ended it out of the blue. How do I get her back?
Q. So I dated this girl for about 2 months and we both liked each other a lot. After getting back from a trip she calls me and breaks up with me. She didn't say why. We've been separated for about 3 or 4 months now and I've realized that I really w...
A. 15 November 2009: I hear what you're saying. You really want this to work out, and I'm thinking she doesnt. The more you pressure her into coming back, the worse it will be for you! You'll never really know how she feels unless you ask her directly. Becaus... (read in full...)
Why won't admit he hasn't time for me?
Q. I need help! I met a guy online about 4 months ago. We met up and he seemed really keen. We met up a couple more times usually on a Friday night or a Saturday night. We have never been out on a date and apart from texting each other everyday...
A. 15 November 2009: Why are you waiting for this guy to end it? Why don't you end it?! You deserve much more than being kept in limbo for a man who'll see you when he 'has time' and on his terms! It sounds like you aren't keen to keep this up, so be direct and hones... (read in full...)
My teacher wants me to spend time alone with him?
Q. my teacher whom i had a great respect on is now trying to get close to me he made me sit after classes alone with him and told me that he enjoyed a girl and he told me to stay after classes and talk freely. he doesn't do this to other girls and he i...
A. 15 November 2009: Do not spend time alone with this man! I realise I'm stating the obvious but for a 55 year old man to request spending time with a young girl is morally wrong and out of bounds! I think the best thing to do would be to speak to your parents, then a ... (read in full...)
Why would he bring his gay friend along on dates, is he gay himself, or is there something else? help!
Q. Hi I started seeing this guy from the Middle East and really enjoyed him . The thing was he was always with his friend. His friend is married and 'bi' and would show up on our dates and call if he wasn't there! I mean it felt like his friend was his ...
A. 15 November 2009: Well, that's a bit of a curly one! I'd personally advise to let this one go, better a little hurt now than a big hurt down the track...
There is obviously something amiss here that your boyfriend is either oblivious to or there are other underlyi... (read in full...)
If we both somewhat cheated on each other could we ever have a relationship again?
Q. Alright so Ive been dating this guy for a year and nine months, today we broke up. We have been having problems the last couple of months arguing over pointless things such as him not wanting to cuddle at night and why he was on his phone with his ...
A. 15 November 2009: Relationships are all about trust. Emailing other people whilst in a relationship, isn't cheating unless you or he ended up meeting these people whilst you were dating!
I'd say for now, just bide your time, be friends and maybe something will eve... (read in full...)
I was told to be more dominant
Q. I was told that I should try and be more dominant. She said it was something about how we cuddled that gave it away. How do I change? I sorta get the way to act but its the stuff like cuddling and kissing dominantly that confuses me. How does ...
A. 15 November 2009: Firstly, don't feel that you should have to change the way you are to suit someone else! If you do want to accomodate her wishes, I don't think she means 'dominantly' as such, probably more like authoratively, she wants you to 'take charge' as such, ... (read in full...)
I don't think I love him, but I miss his kisses like crazy!
Q. well basicly i didnt think i missed my ex up until the past few weeks. i went out with him for 7 months, so not the longest relationship ever but i fell for him baaad. he was the most amazing kisser in this world, i can remember our first kiss like ...
A. 15 November 2009: Basically, you don't miss him, you miss the way his kisses made you feel!
Trying to recreate the feelings that come from a 7 month relationship is not going to work. Passions that run that high in a long relationship aren't going to be as great... (read in full...)
What is happiness?
Q. When I was in a serious relationship with my ex-girlfriend few months back, I was not happy being around her....constantly thinking about our relationship 's future since she was from rich family and I was from middle class having no secured job ...
A. 15 November 2009: Happiness is different for everyone! It's more about how feel inside yourself that matters. You say you weren't happy when you were with your ex, so what were the underlying factors of why you weren't happy? Money (everyone says money doesn't ... (read in full...)
She is confusing and I don't know what to do
Q. i was dating this girl for a year and a half. everything was good. i made the decision to enlist in the military. during the couple months beforei left. we grew really really close. i ended up getting discharged cause of a health condition and came ...
A. 15 November 2009: I'd have to say, bide your time. Let her process how she feels about you, and let her come to you. You've obviously been through something quite awful in the Military and need to concentrate on yourself for awhile without having this girl's issues ... (read in full...)
Have I made the right choice by giving up on my friend and starting a relationship with his ex?
Q. [Moderator's Note: 2 Questions from the same poster have been merged into one post] Question 1: Hi, I have been in a relationship for over 6 months now with the girl of my dreams.We are very happy and wish to spend the rest of our lifes toge...
A. 15 November 2009: Yes...I see you're in a bit of a quandary! Your best friend sounds like his is very hurt (meaning he feels like you've broken the trust of a friend over a woman) and now wants you to hurt like he does. Either you can sit down and talk to your friend ... (read in full...)
I'm confused! Do I love my ex-boyfriend?
Q. Ok well me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 5 months now. I live in Illinois and he lives in Pennsylvania. I know many of you will say it's a long distance relationship and it doesn't mean anything, so just quit it, but it's not that ...
A. 15 November 2009: OOh..thats a toughie...I've been in that situation before, broken up with someone and then had them come and stay, and let me say, AWKWARD at best! The thing to do is while he's there just talk to him, be direct and honest about how you feel, ... (read in full...)
Best friend angry with me now her brother/my bf won't speak to me. What can I do?
Q. ** none of the names are real** All are edited** This is going to seem rather long but i dont know how to make it any shorter. Please bare with me. About 10 months ago, i met Ashley. We didnt get along well and first but eventualy we got to be...
A. 15 November 2009: I'm sorry things have been rough for you. Being a teenager is hard enough without having the additional set backs you've had! It sounds to me (have been in a very similar situation, dating a friends' brother) that there are underlying issues that ... (read in full...)
Cheating... or all innocent?
Q. hey, so my boyfriend is sooo sweet and perfect. at first he didnt want to show any affection in public, i think he was scared. i am his first long relationship but now he shows all affection in public and we are very very close and he is awesome! ...
A. 15 November 2009: Do not go by other peoples' opinions that he is cheating on you. How has he been rude to you? Talking on the internet is fine as long as it is just that; talking. If YOU feel that he is being less than truthful with you, you need to do the mature ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't have time for me
Q. Hi guys :) Feeling pretty low right now and would appreciate any advice :) I've been with my boyfriend a few months now and I met him last night so that I could meet some of his friends and people he works with. I had a bit of an argument with ...
A. 15 November 2009: You said his work is very demanding, and I'd say that is a lot of the problem. He's probably trying to build a career at work (networking, working extra hours to gain credibility in his company etc) and feels pressure from you when you say to him ... (read in full...)
How can I save my LDR?
Q. Ok i love my boyfriend more then any thing. We have been dateing for seven months. He broke up with me once in the beginning of our relationship. He asked me back out and said he made the biggest mistake of his life so i forgave him. Now he to...
A. 15 November 2009: I'd have to agree with the previous poster. He does sound like he wants more freedom but doesn't want to hurt your feelings by doing that. I'm not sure how far away you are from him but perhaps you could visit him (taking the pressure of remaining ... (read in full...)
My ex's friend has been making overtures. Should I accept?
Q. i broke up with my ex boyfriend about 4 years ago and recently one of his close friends has been trying to come onto me every time i see him. Although its making me wonder whether or not he's doing it just to make my ex jealous. When i was wit...
A. 15 November 2009: It sounds to me like he wants 'friends with benefits'! No mention of a proper date but he wants you 'to come back to his'?! I'd steer clear until you know the real reason he wants to be with you. You deserve much more than casual sex! Also, you ... (read in full...)
He's 17. I'm 15 and his parents don't want us together!
Q. [Moderator Note: Personal information removed] my Boyfriend is 17 and he is going 2 be 18 june 1st and i really love him and want 2 be with him but i am 15 and his parents don't want us together bc of age.. i don't know what 2 do bc we are going ou...
A. 15 November 2009: I'd say his parents are concerned because of your age, not because the difference is too great, but because (legally) you are under the age of consent. They are looking out for his welfare, they know that passions run high in the young (thank you ... (read in full...)
She ended it out of the blue. How do I get her back?
Q. So I dated this girl for about 2 months and we both liked each other a lot. After getting back from a trip she calls me and breaks up with me. She didn't say why. We've been separated for about 3 or 4 months now and I've realized that I really w...
A. 15 November 2009: From what you said in your answer, I'd say she's trying to let you down easy. She doesn't want to go out again and is trying to give you reasons why. Don't over-analyse the situation, just be her friend for now and if something is supposed to ... (read in full...)
I want my wife to use a strap on!
Q. I am a married man who loves to bend over. I am not attracted to men at all. Should I ask the wife to use a strap-on?...
A. 15 November 2009: If this is something you've desired for awhile, and your wife has no inkling, it's something to be discussed in a neutral setting (ie; not in the bedroom) and guage her reaction from that...just bear in mind she may not go for the idea, so you might ... (read in full...)
Niece gave me BJ while sleeping
Q. I went to visit my sister while i was driving thru calif. We had a BBQ and lots of drinks. Well around midnight i went to bed and passed out. About 3 am i was woken up to a really good blow job but the lights were off. I was thinking it was one of ...
A. 15 November 2009: I'd be erring on the side of caution, tell your sister (or at the least another family member such as a parent) what happened and go by their advice, it might come across better if someone older tells the girl's parents what they need to know ... (read in full...)
Are we ready for sex?
Q. i'm 16 and my girlfriend is 15 we have bin going out for 2 years and she asked me to have sex about 2 weeks ago and shes grabbing my croch and whispering in my ear shes wet and ready for me what sould i do...
A. 15 November 2009: The very fact that you're asking if you think you're ready, screams that you're not! Just because you're the guy doesn't mean you should give in to your girlfriends wishes. Besides which (16 is the legal age of consent in America isn't it?) you ... (read in full...)
I'm happy that he's interested to get back together with me but why now? And why's he acting like nothings changed?
Q. So I was seeing this guy for about a year then we both decided to take a break up for a while. We didn't talk for a month and a half. In the beggining I called him a few times to tell him I was sorry but he completely ignored my calls so I decided ...
A. 15 November 2009: Yes, I'd be wanting an answer to why he treated you so abysmally for 7 weeks then suddenly has an attitude overhaul! Unfortunately, you could guess your life away but are only going to get a factual answer if you ask him straight out. Who wants to... (read in full...)
What should I get my boyfriend for Hannukah?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been "going out" for almost 10 months. I know that he's getting me something for Christmas and that I'll really like it. We're both 13. What should I get him for Hannukah? He's Jewish and I'm Christian. I want to get ...
A. 15 November 2009: If you are unsure of Hanukkah traditions, you could google it and see what gifts are given (if you don't know what to get) you could make kosher food, or games etc. I just had a look on wikipedia.com and there is quite a bit of information there ... (read in full...)
Help me to manage this situation...
Q. dear cupid,i met a guy in 1997 named vladi when i was working in a factory,that time we both married,our relationship was on and off because we are trying to correct our faults of being married already until i am totally seperated with my husband. ...
A. 15 November 2009: OK, firstly you aren't a 'sinner'...technically you did cheat on your husband (obviously you don't love your husband) for a man whom you do love, and who says he loves you...I'd be careful here, as you say you are willing to leave your husband, but ... (read in full...)
I will have my car fixed soon so I can see him, what do I say to make things better in the meantime?
Q. so i have currently been talking to this guy ive known him for a year and he is 2 years older than me in college i am still a senior in highschool, i litterally never get to see him. we text costantly and recently it is just about how he doesnt get ...
A. 15 November 2009: You mention that you've having your car fixed so you can see him soon, but why are you the only one doing the running around? It's a two way street, if he misses you, let him come to you! Don't take the whole burden on yourself, if you really mean a ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my loss of confidence?
Q. I havent been in a relationship for 6months. the time when the previous relationship ended. i was recently at the bus stop waitin for a bus and there was also an attractive lady. i didnt ask her out cuz i didnt hav the guts at the time. however is ...
A. 15 November 2009: It's not necessarily a bad thing to be introverted with women! Some ladies see it as an endearing quality, and besides men with too much confidence come across as arrogant and overbearing. Just be yourself and before you know it glib conversation ... (read in full...)
Help!!! I think I am in love with my teacher.. What do I do?
Q. I have a big problem. There is this teacher at my school. He is single, and he is 24 years old and I am 13 and I think that Ii love him. He is an awesome person and I dont know wat to do about it. I need advice. Am I wrong? Should I give up? ...
A. 15 November 2009: First and foremost, you know this relationship could never work out don't you? He's an adult, and as much as you feel mature, you are still technically a child (in the eyes of the law at any rate). All of us at some point or another have had a cr... (read in full...)
She needs her time alone right now. What should I do?
Q. My girlfriend needs to be alone right now, I have no doubt's that she's the love of my life so I'm going to do everything I can to keep her. We've been together for 2 years. We met on the west coast and fell madly in love and dated for a mont...
A. 15 November 2009: Well, I must say you've gone to an awful lot of effort to show her you care, and you're willing to give her the time she needs to get sorted...but danger signals are going off in my head right now for you.. Going from emailing... (read in full...)
Was his friend trying to get us together or get in the way?
Q. I was sitting in the cafeteria and the guy I like was sitting at another table with his friend..later another one of his friends walked in with a girl that likes him too. So the girl like stops and doesn't walk over to the guy I like but his fri...
A. 15 November 2009: I really would advise that the more you analyse body language and overhearing part conversations, the more unhappy you'll be because you don't know what's going on. I'd be more inclined to speak to the boy you like directly and say something like ... (read in full...)
Niece gave me BJ while sleeping
Q. I went to visit my sister while i was driving thru calif. We had a BBQ and lots of drinks. Well around midnight i went to bed and passed out. About 3 am i was woken up to a really good blow job but the lights were off. I was thinking it was one of ...
A. 15 November 2009: You don't mention how old your niece is? If she's young (13-16) I'd say the reason she's so promiscuous is because either someone introduced her to sex way too early!!!! Or she hasn't been set boundries in sexual relations! (no pun intended.) If ... (read in full...)
She ended it out of the blue. How do I get her back?
Q. So I dated this girl for about 2 months and we both liked each other a lot. After getting back from a trip she calls me and breaks up with me. She didn't say why. We've been separated for about 3 or 4 months now and I've realized that I really w...
A. 15 November 2009: While I wouldn't usually advise talking behinds anyone's back, I think the thing for you to do would be to talk to any mutual friends you might share and see why this girl broke up with you in the first place. It's scary enough facing someone you ... (read in full...)
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