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30-35,
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writes:hey, so my boyfriend is sooo sweet and perfect. at first he didnt want to show any affection in public, i think he was scared. i am his first long relationship but now he shows all affection in public and we are very very close and he is awesome! but, lately he has been rude to me and i dont know why. i need some help. He has in the past talked to girls on the internet but nothing that bad. I have talked to him about it before and he says sorry but thats about all he says all the time. People think he is cheating on me but I think I would know. I honestly dont think he is but what do you think?
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reader, a_very_hurt_girl  +, writes (15 November 2009):
Speak to him and tell him how you feel and what's going on your mind. Forget what his/your friends think.
Maybe he's having doubts or other things are going on but you won't know until you ask him.
If you think he's not cheating on you, then he probably isn't. You'd need solid proof to know that and past behaviours shouldn't really be used. Your instincts and what you think deep down will tell you were your relationship is going.
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reader, Another_Kapiti  +, writes (15 November 2009):
 Do not go by other peoples' opinions that he is cheating on you. How has he been rude to you? Talking on the internet is fine as long as it is just that; talking. If YOU feel that he is being less than truthful with you, you need to do the mature thing and ask him directly. If this is hard for you, you could write him a letter, be honest and direct and give it to him at a time when he is calm and relaxed and has time to give it the attention it deserves.
You know, it could be that he's just feeling pressure from work/home/school and is trying to sort out his feelings. Also, from the age group you put 18-21, guys of this age are at their sexual peak and find committment hard (some of them, not all by any means!) and this could be a contributing factor in how he treats you. Don't beat yourself up, just sort out how YOU feel first and foremost, it's easier to make a structured point when you aren't being assailed by hormones and insecurity! Good luck.
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