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writes:I am a married man who loves to bend over. I am not attracted to men at all. Should I ask the wife to use a strap-on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2009): This has nothing to do with having a secret desire to be with a man. For those who don't know, the prostate is considered the male G-spot. Some men find it as stimulating as women do the clitoris and some don't. The only way to reach it is through the rectum.
To the OP, have you ever tried a butt plug or anal dildo? If not, then you might not like it. If I had this desire, I would try a dildo on myself first to make sure that I actually like it.
If you have tried it and like it then I would explain to your wife about the prostate being sort of the male equivalent to the clitoris. Once she understands that it might make it easier to understand your desire and not be upset or shocked. If she doesn't like the strap-on idea, she could just use a dildo on you, or try finger stimulation as someone already suggested.
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reader, tishadavis00 +, writes (15 November 2009):
You say you've never been with a man nor have ever asked your wife to indulge in any activities that involved you bending over. Then why would you have the urge? I think you have always wanted to be sexually involved with a man but never knew how to come out with it. You could be lying to yourself saying that you don't want to be with a man cause you've been holding it in for so long and it have got to the point where you just have to have it any way possible. I think you owe it to yourself and your wife to just be honest about the situation. Tell her how you feel and she may understand, then again she may not. But it wouldn't be fair to her to go through another year of marriage with everything based on a lie.
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reader, Another_Kapiti  +, writes (15 November 2009):
 If this is something you've desired for awhile, and your wife has no inkling, it's something to be discussed in a neutral setting (ie; not in the bedroom) and guage her reaction from that...just bear in mind she may not go for the idea, so you might have to invest in alternative method of satisfaction...perhaps a male sex toy, vibrator for example?
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (15 November 2009):
if you have sprung something like this on her b4 then she may be completley appalled. I mean she probably thinks she knows what turns her husband on. so if she learns of this she might not think she knows you very much anymore
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (15 November 2009):
 Well if thats what you are into then I guess as strontiumdog says, only you can answer that.
I suggest experimenting also before you lay this on her...or vice versa
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