She ended it out of the blue. How do I get her back?
Q. So I dated this girl for about 2 months and we both liked each other a lot. After getting back from a trip she calls me and breaks up with me. She didn't say why. We've been separated for about 3 or 4 months now and I've realized that I really w...
A. 16 November 2009: Ha, I don't see you as a crazy idiot on the internet! You just have a problem that you're trying to fix, and you're going the right way asking for advice instead of jumping right in head first. You're right, we don't know her, we're just going... (read in full...)
She ended it out of the blue. How do I get her back?
Q. So I dated this girl for about 2 months and we both liked each other a lot. After getting back from a trip she calls me and breaks up with me. She didn't say why. We've been separated for about 3 or 4 months now and I've realized that I really w...
A. 15 November 2009: I hear what you're saying. You really want this to work out, and I'm thinking she doesnt. The more you pressure her into coming back, the worse it will be for you! You'll never really know how she feels unless you ask her directly. Becaus... (read in full...)
She ended it out of the blue. How do I get her back?
Q. So I dated this girl for about 2 months and we both liked each other a lot. After getting back from a trip she calls me and breaks up with me. She didn't say why. We've been separated for about 3 or 4 months now and I've realized that I really w...
A. 15 November 2009: From what you said in your answer, I'd say she's trying to let you down easy. She doesn't want to go out again and is trying to give you reasons why. Don't over-analyse the situation, just be her friend for now and if something is supposed to ... (read in full...)
Niece gave me BJ while sleeping
Q. I went to visit my sister while i was driving thru calif. We had a BBQ and lots of drinks. Well around midnight i went to bed and passed out. About 3 am i was woken up to a really good blow job but the lights were off. I was thinking it was one of ...
A. 15 November 2009: I'd be erring on the side of caution, tell your sister (or at the least another family member such as a parent) what happened and go by their advice, it might come across better if someone older tells the girl's parents what they need to know ... (read in full...)
Was his friend trying to get us together or get in the way?
Q. I was sitting in the cafeteria and the guy I like was sitting at another table with his friend..later another one of his friends walked in with a girl that likes him too. So the girl like stops and doesn't walk over to the guy I like but his fri...
A. 15 November 2009: I really would advise that the more you analyse body language and overhearing part conversations, the more unhappy you'll be because you don't know what's going on. I'd be more inclined to speak to the boy you like directly and say something like ... (read in full...)
My jealousy cost me a friendship with the girl I love
Q. hey, i have a girl,whom i use to like her so much. used to talk everyday n hang out weekends together like friends. some how i started feelings for her n felt jealous about her friends. i totally went possessive. i told her that i had feelings...
A. 15 November 2009: I know that rejection is hard to bear, we've all experienced rejection in some form or another, so you aren't alone. I am a little worried though that if you don't sort out your feelings of jealousy, it's going to come back and haunt you in any ... (read in full...)
I keep dreaming of a man 23 years my senior!
Q. how much do dreams mean when it comes to terms of love? I keep dreaming that me and this guy are really close, like, cuddled up, I can feel his skin and his warmth in my dreams and I'm always dissapointed when I wake up. I do have sex dreams and I'm ...
A. 15 November 2009: I'd have to ask, who is this man to you? If he acts as a substitute father figure, then it's usually more about how he makes you feel as a person rather than a potential romantic interest! Have you been attracted to older men before? Or just this ... (read in full...)
How long do I give my ex space?
Q. I know that if you want to get your ex back, you have to give him time and he may see that he misses you. What do you do when you have children? He calls the boys every night, and he comes over to drop them off every other night. What do I do?...
A. 15 November 2009: I have to ask why your Ex is your ex? What made it fail the first time that you think could be rectified by trying again? Children...yes, it's hard to fathom..I'm guessing he'd their father so you'd have to bide your time to see if it would work ... (read in full...)
Help getting over my FWB
Q. how can i get over my friends with benefits who moved away?! i dated this guy for 8 months and we had a very unique relationship. when he left he said i would hold a special place in his heart, and that if he was staying in my town, we would h...
A. 15 November 2009: You have to ask yourself if it's really him that you miss, or the way he made you feel about yourself? Desired, happy, flattered etc? I think you'd be better off just taking care of yourself and preparing yourself for a long term special ... (read in full...)
How do I make a good homemade sex toy?
Q. how do i make a homemade sex toy that is good? ...
A. 15 November 2009: A home made sex toy? You don't mention if you want it for insertion or similar to that fleshlight thing where you insert your penis into a receptacle...
The previous poster has assumed that you want to insert an object rectally, so if it's your firs... (read in full...)
Niece gave me BJ while sleeping
Q. I went to visit my sister while i was driving thru calif. We had a BBQ and lots of drinks. Well around midnight i went to bed and passed out. About 3 am i was woken up to a really good blow job but the lights were off. I was thinking it was one of ...
A. 15 November 2009: You don't mention how old your niece is? If she's young (13-16) I'd say the reason she's so promiscuous is because either someone introduced her to sex way too early!!!! Or she hasn't been set boundries in sexual relations! (no pun intended.) If ... (read in full...)
I fancy two boys. Whom do I choose?
Q. dear cupid, i fancy my best friend but im in love with another boy that ive liked for about a year i dont know what do do cause i get really nervous around them both when i see them i was wondering what i should do should i wait for the guy i love ...
A. 15 November 2009: You say "Should I wait for the guy you love" (If you love him, then you should wait until the time is right for you both) "Or my best friend", now this is a hard situation!! Your best friend knows all your secrets, knows you best above anyone else, ... (read in full...)
How to I overcome panic attacks?
Q. So i've been dealing with anxiety for a while now. It's only a sometimes occurence though but when I have an anxiety attack it just takes over me and I can't do anything about it. IDK what to do it only happens sometimes but now Im always scared t...
A. 15 November 2009: Hi, panic attacks are quite normal for a lot of people, so you aren't alone in this, please don't feel like you're "one of a kind"! I used to have panic attacks (after a car accident) and feared that I would have one again, which made me all the ... (read in full...)
I'm so behind with my sexual knowledge I fear he'll think I'm weird! Help!
Q. Four years ago when I was 16 I decided, together with my bf at the time, that I was ready to lose my virginity with him, basically neither of us knew what we were doing, I felt uncomfortable and immediately told him to stop. However he didn't, he ...
A. 15 November 2009: If it makes you feel any better, I was 24 the first time I had sex! Feel better now? You do?! That's great!
Anyway, as the previous posters have advised, be yourself with this man, if he respects you as he should, he should be glad that you don'... (read in full...)
How to deal with a difficult acquaintance
Q. Being a fairly non-confrontational person, I would normally just be civil when I bump into this person (lets call him Jerkosaurus), but not go out of my way to talk to him when he has made it clear he do not like or respect me. However, he happens ...
A. 15 November 2009: From all that you've said, it sounds to me like he's got a crush on you but is too scared/immature to deal with it! He's acting like a little boy in the playground, drawing attention to himself by talking over you/mocking you etc by metaphorically ... (read in full...)
Should I believe him, knowing he likes to lie a lot?
Q. I just need some advice on this, me and my boyfriend been together for 2 yrs and we always had trust issues, he lives with his mom and sister and his sister has a lot of female friends who go to the house, now she has a friend who she just met and ...
A. 15 November 2009: Basically you know this guy lies a lot, so you can never really know if you're hearing the truth or not! If he really loves you, he should tell you the truth. How does he treat his mother/sister/friends? Does he lie to them too, or just you? If it's ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I want to be single again...
Q. I've recently started University, and have been in (what i consider) a long term relationship (which is around 8 months, but i have known the girl for almost triple that) with the girl i have left back at home - The problem is, that as much as i ...
A. 15 November 2009: If on the one hand, you truly love the girl you're with, you should be able to curb any such desires about making out with other girls! I understand that at your age you are at your sexual peak, perhaps going home to visit the girlfriend at Uni ... (read in full...)
Why did he say I liked him? How did he know?
Q. I'm not to sure if this means anything or what but basically me and some of my mates thought this guy liked me cuz he used to stare at me loads, he seemed really weird aorund me as if he felt something and everyone said it was obvious he did. ...
A. 15 November 2009: I'm afraid I'd have to say that the more you listen to gossip and he said/she said, the more confused you're going to be. No one really knows how this boy feels about you except him, he might deny liking you because he knows his friends will rib him ... (read in full...)
How do guys like a girl to behave???
Q. I dont know What guys like i mean i really dont get it, do boys like it when you're tough? Do they like it when we're girly or wot cos I've tried everything, it would really help if someone wrote back and told me what the best way to get boys to ...
A. 15 November 2009: I agree with some of the previous posters but please don't feel like you have to have sex to get guys to like you! Why should you waste your viginity on a guy who you don't know if you love?! I am going from the age of your posting (13-15) you are ... (read in full...)
My violent boyfriend accuses me of cheating
Q. We've been together two years... Tonight, I did not orgasm like he likes me to – it apparently wasn’t strong enough so he told me that I didn’t orgasm nicely – I told him that he was wrong. He wanted to know why I didn’t come nicely – again, ...
A. 15 November 2009: You poor, poor girl. You deserve much better than this sad excuse for a human being! Please ring one of the numbers that the previous poster recommended, and if possible confide in a close friend, family member or local police station as you will ... (read in full...)
Some help writing a note to a boy I like, please
Q. I am toying with the idea of giving this guy a note the last time I see him. I plan on getting to know him a little before I actually give it to him. Anyhow, here is what Im going to write. Im not very good at gauging how people will respond ...
A. 15 November 2009: I agree with the previous poster, but why don't you personalise it by saying what you liked about what he had to say? "I really enjoyed when you said...." or "I agree with your opinion of..." It says that you really did enjoy listening to him, (a ... (read in full...)
My violent boyfriend accuses me of cheating
Q. We've been together two years... Tonight, I did not orgasm like he likes me to – it apparently wasn’t strong enough so he told me that I didn’t orgasm nicely – I told him that he was wrong. He wanted to know why I didn’t come nicely – again, ...
A. 15 November 2009: When I read the title of this question "My violent boyfriend" I'm thinking, why did you waste two years of your life with someone who obviously views you as a possession and not a lover/friend/soul mate?! If you don't have any friends or family ... (read in full...)
She ended it out of the blue. How do I get her back?
Q. So I dated this girl for about 2 months and we both liked each other a lot. After getting back from a trip she calls me and breaks up with me. She didn't say why. We've been separated for about 3 or 4 months now and I've realized that I really w...
A. 15 November 2009: While I wouldn't usually advise talking behinds anyone's back, I think the thing for you to do would be to talk to any mutual friends you might share and see why this girl broke up with you in the first place. It's scary enough facing someone you ... (read in full...)
He says he wants me, but then acts weird
Q. I am confused. I am getting very mixed signals from someone I have known for a while but only a few weeks ago started sleeping with. It started with flirting, a kiss, a drive and then sex, more texting and ending up spending an amazing night in a ...
A. 15 November 2009: You say he's much younger than you, I'd definately say that this is a factor. If he's younger than 25 I'd say that he wants 'friends with benefits' and you know that you deserve so much more than that! You may like this guy but what you really need ... (read in full...)
He keeps hurting my feelings
Q. Hi. At close to the beginning of this relationship, I set some boundaries with this guy, and one of them was not to call me or even joke about me being a bitch, because I'm not. This guy was my first. We got married and he still keeps joking o...
A. 15 November 2009: I agree with the previous poster Aunty Bimbim. I have to ask though, how did you react when he first started to stretch these boundries you set? The more upset you act, the more he gets a rise out of you, the more he says things (God knows why, some ... (read in full...)
Am I a normal 17 year old?
Q. always, whenever i see a girl or a woman, my eyes first of all go to her breasts. i want to ask is this normal ? do other guys also have this ? i am 17...
A. 15 November 2009: It is perfectly normal as a male (of any age!) to look at a womans' breasts (or legs, bum etc), you are in the same boat as any other man on the planet. Just remember when talking to any girl/woman to address questions to her face and not her boobs ... (read in full...)
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