Like what
she writes?
... Add *methyst to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *methyst a private message | | | *methyst's profile:I am merely seventeen years of age, but since I was five years old I've been giving people even twice my age advice. I've went through a lot in my life, and have helped a lot of people, so I can relate to a lot of the questions I've seen so far. But don't judge me by my age, I'm more mature than my mother! And, please don't stereotype me with the rest of the "teenage" lovers, I actually am in a serious relationship and I know it's not all sunshine and butterflies. My guess is that I want to help give out advice to help others not make the mistakes I've made, and somewhat... make up for them in the process by doing so. I'm also not afraid to be brutally honest.
As for my avatar... I drew it. :) I'm also an artist, a microsoft paint artist to be exact.
L'amour peut être le plus grand cadeau, ou la plus mauvaise malédiction!
(Love can be the greatest gift, or the worst curse!)
~ Amethyst |
|
We are planning to get married but my mother and sister recent me!
Q. Please help, My Mum is very ill, has been for a long time. The longer she's been ill the more difficult she gets. I was engaged to a chap when I was 19 and I'm now 32. She constantly refers to this guy who I dumped when I was in uni (we were eng...
A. 8 November 2006: I hope it does too, just remember, she's not the one marrying him, you are!!!!!!!
Good luck!!!... (read in full...)
We are planning to get married but my mother and sister recent me!
Q. Please help, My Mum is very ill, has been for a long time. The longer she's been ill the more difficult she gets. I was engaged to a chap when I was 19 and I'm now 32. She constantly refers to this guy who I dumped when I was in uni (we were eng...
A. 4 October 2006: Glad it worked out for you! :)
Hope it stays that way!... (read in full...)
Is it too soon after being raped to date?
Q. Hello i wrote in before about my friend not helping me in my time or need (i was raped n needed her to go to court but she wont) anyways like i met this guy i fancy and he gave me his number today and said can he take me out for dinner soon he i...
A. 17 September 2006: Ok, good, he didn't freak out like some guys would. Some guys are like, "Ugh, she's second hand meat!" .;
Well then, I hope everything else is smooth sailing for you guys! Good luck with everything, and if you're ever in a slump, feel free to ... (read in full...)
We are planning to get married but my mother and sister recent me!
Q. Please help, My Mum is very ill, has been for a long time. The longer she's been ill the more difficult she gets. I was engaged to a chap when I was 19 and I'm now 32. She constantly refers to this guy who I dumped when I was in uni (we were eng...
A. 16 September 2006: Uhhh... umm....
Well, you just asked for ideas, so...
~Try and change the subject unnoticably if they're starting to get to you.
~Tell yourself it doesn't matter what they think, YOU are the one in love and you'd be better off following what y... (read in full...)
Is it too soon after being raped to date?
Q. Hello i wrote in before about my friend not helping me in my time or need (i was raped n needed her to go to court but she wont) anyways like i met this guy i fancy and he gave me his number today and said can he take me out for dinner soon he i...
A. 16 September 2006: I've never liked councellors, they're in it for the money is my opinon... and they don't keep stuff confidential like they should. (They always hint to children's parents, if not tell them directly.)
I'm glad to see you two are working out then... (read in full...)
Are people in long distance relationships more likely to cheat?
Q. Are people in long distance relationships more likely to cheat?...
A. 16 September 2006: While those in an online relationship have more grounds to cheat, most of the time they seek an online relationship because the people around them aren't their preference, or something of that nature.
It really does depend on the person, though, ... (read in full...)
It seemed like fate brought us together, but now though was I only a summer affair ? Confused dont know what to do ?
Q. ok this is going to be long but ill try to make it short. I know this guy lil over two years and i think I’m in love with him. when I first met him it was when I was junior in high school and he was senior. Soon after I met him strange things ...
A. 11 September 2006: Wow... that's my only reaction. I'm a bit confused, so bare with me if this is a bit off base.
If you were paranoid that he was cheating on you, and he had never shown any sort of action leaning even remotely towards cheating on you... you were... (read in full...)
Feel like im being held down because of my ex boyfriend!
Q. Me and my bf have just split cause of an ex bf who i still kinda like. I would like to get bk with my bf cause i do really like him. But my ex still never seems to be out the background he is vile to me at any opportunity given usually calling ...
A. 11 September 2006: You know what you need to do? Tell him to back off, and move on. He's obviously jealous that you were able to find someone you liked, who returned it, and is trying to make himself feel better by tearing you down. Nine times out of ten this is the ... (read in full...)
We had a great time but I want to find out how he really feels. How do I do this?
Q. Hi there, I am looking for some relationship or possible relationship advice. Here is the situation. About 4 years ago I took a vacation with my brother and his friends. We decided to take a freestyle cruise leaving from New York, to Florid...
A. 4 September 2006: I think this is a very sweet story that I pray has a happy ending.
All I can really tell you is, to sit down and think (not like you haven't done this already, lol) and decide what you want to do. If you're sure that you're willing to commit y... (read in full...)
Is he a rebound relationship ?
Q. 3 months ago my girlfriend split with me the next day she went of with another man however she kept coming back to me for sex and telling me she misses me, in the 3 months they see each other everyday and have been away 3 times together, is he the ...
A. 4 September 2006: Like I said in your private message, she's probably just using you... (as reconfirmed by everyone else replying here).
I believe that if she's making it obvious she only comes around you for sex, she just likes what you've got and is using yo... (read in full...)
How to find mr/mrs right?
Q. hi im only 17 but i no im gay but i just feel ive come to the point where i cant be alone anymore and realy feel like i need to start a relationship i just dont no where to start i look on the internet but every think seems to be for over 18s i feel ...
A. 24 August 2006: There are plenty of places on the internet now-a-days. I know of a lot of forums that are known as "hook-ups" because everyone seems to find someone there (whether their looking or not!). But see, that's not the safest method, because people can ... (read in full...)
We are planning to get married but my mother and sister recent me!
Q. Please help, My Mum is very ill, has been for a long time. The longer she's been ill the more difficult she gets. I was engaged to a chap when I was 19 and I'm now 32. She constantly refers to this guy who I dumped when I was in uni (we were eng...
A. 15 August 2006: Personally, I see it as no one's good enough for any mom's child. My mom sometimes seems happy with me and my fiance, then acts polar opposite the next minute.
Thing is, so long as you're happy, don't worry about what they think. You're 32, and ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 yrs old and smoke , how much harm is this doing to me?
Q. i have smoked 6 or 7 cigerettes 3 in 1 go kinda 1 after another n then the n 3 or 4 after it seperate ..im only 13 and i wanna know how much harm i have caused to myself please be persific ...
A. 14 August 2006: Stop while you still can! Smoking is a terrible habit, that will do nothing but harm you physically and financially. Smoking can eventually lead up to numerous things, such as:
~ Lung Cancer
~ Chronic Cough
~ Terrible teeth/breath... (read in full...)
Agrophobic and worried
Q. Dear Readers Just lately i have spent alot of time inside the house. i havent been out with friends much and dread going out into the public.Every time friends ask me out i say im busy because i just cant face going out. I feel scared and i get...
A. 14 August 2006: You've got to push past the fear. People are going to judge you no matter how "primped and perfect" you may be. It's the way the world works sadly. But if you continue to do this, eventually your friends are going to stop asking you to go with them, ... (read in full...)
How effective is the pill?
Q. Hi guys Just wondering does anyone know how effective the pill is. I've just gone on it and me and my b/f are consdiering having sex without a condom, just wondering if this is safe? I know neither of us has an STD so thats not an issue but pregnanc...
A. 14 August 2006: The contraceptive pill is only 98% effective, or so I was preached for many recent years by a few sexual education teachers. It is the highest protection out there, next to abstenance(Sp?). Also, unless it's a brand such as the newer "Estrostep" ... (read in full...)
Sex and smoking!
Q. I have a question which may sound very weird to some people. It concerns smoking cigarettes and the fact that when I get horny I tend to have the urge to smoke and when I smoke I tend to get horny. I have no idea why this is and I was wondering if ...
A. 13 August 2006: I also heard that smoking makes "something" taste bad too, but that coooould just be a rumor, I dunno. I mean, it makes kissing taste bad (to a non smoker) and stains your teeth, not to mention makes you smell like an astray all the time... erm.... ... (read in full...)
Because I'm working overseas, I thought we should take a break. Good idea, or bad?
Q. Hi there My boyfriend and I are 'on a break' 'broken up' whatever the logistical difference is. We still care for each other a lot. We are very close and have spent more time together than anyone I've dated in the past even though these pas...
A. 13 August 2006: Oh wow... ok. I misread some of your question (about getting back together)... sorry!! Get together is a broadly used term 'round here.
Hmm.... so he's going through the stage in life where he's unsure of what to do with the rest of his life, an... (read in full...)
Could I have gotten pregnant?
Q. This will sound silly but its worrying me.While i was with my ex we were once sat on my bed,and i noticed a 'wet patch'around his penis,i was sat virtually on top of him,and now im 20 days late,i was due on the 23rd of july and its now the 12th aug ...
A. 13 August 2006: Try not to worry too much hun.
I just recently completely skipped a month! I was 30 days late. I knew I couldn't be pregnant, so that was out of the question. Come to find out it was due to the severe amount of stress I've been under... it keep... (read in full...)
I hate just being their friend!
Q. I am a 28 year old male virgin. I have never had a girlfriend. Most women find me unattractive, and those that say I am "not ugly" are those who I am very good friends with or are the wives and girlfriends of my best friends...so they are obliged to ...
A. 13 August 2006: (;.; Are you angry toward my advice, or am I reading too much into an imaginary tone that you've typed in?)
Well, maybe... maybe sooner, or maybe you'll find someone else, who knows?! Point is, you don't want a girl unless she can look past you... (read in full...)
I am in love with my female friend! Could it be because of a lack of meaningful relationships with men?
Q. I'm a 21 year old female and consider myself to be straight. However,I am in love with my female friend and have felt this way for a long time. We've recently finished university so I haven't seen her for a while but I'm pining for her badly, I ...
A. 13 August 2006: It could possibly be that you love your friend dearly, like a sister, but you're not IN love with her. But since you've had bad relationships with guys, you have the feelings confused. Think it through.
If you haven't ever really had any sort of ... (read in full...)
My BF didn't want me to date other guys at camp, but I only went out with one! Now I'm afraid he'll find out...
Q. Before going away to camp I asked my bf if I could go out with guys at camp, then just go back to my bf after camp. I told him that I would still write him and miss him like crazy,but he said no!! So while I was at camp I didn't go out with any ...
A. 13 August 2006: Not to be harsh or anything... but why would you even consider it? That's cheating... regardless of whether he knew or not. In my opinion, he wouldn't really be too much of a boyfriend if he had said yes to that... that'd basically be him saying, ... (read in full...)
Should I meet the MSN guy I've been chatting to?
Q. Hi, I have been talking to this guy for a few months now on msn and now he wants to meet. I have seen a picture of him and him of me on msn but I'm not sure. My friend says if I want to meet him she would go with me. What should I do??...
A. 13 August 2006: Sadly, the world is full of rapists and killers, so it is an INCREDIBLY dangerous thing. I suggest though, if you really want to meet him, talking to him on the phone first. Doesn't even have to be your house phone, you could go out a ways to a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend asked me to marry him, but I'm only fourteen!
Q. I am only 14 and my boyfriend has asked me to marry him! I realy love him but how many people stay with someone that they started dating when they were 10? What should I say?...
A. 13 August 2006: Test his love. If he really wants to be with you, he'll wait until you're more mature and can fully comprehend what life will be throwing at you (not saying you don't have a grasp, but even I don't know it and I'm 16 1/2...) but life gets harder in ... (read in full...)
Help wanted. I need your ideas to spice things up!
Q. dear cupid How can I make mine and my bf's sex life more exciting? I've been with him for 2 months now and I don't really know how to do things to make him really excited. Please help!!!...
A. 13 August 2006: Hmm... I'll reach for ideas here.... (I'm inexperienced, but knowlegable) do you have any outfits that seem to catch his eye more than others? Like for instance, a skirt. :D That's a good one. Wear them more frequently. Then, tease a little, but not ... (read in full...)
Will my jealousy and overprotective behaviour ruin my relationship? Any tips on what to do?
Q. Me and my girlfriend recently got engaged and i have started gettin paranoid that she wants more than just me. I get very jealous and overprotective and i think im pushing her away. I have tried talkin to her but she finds it hard to show her ...
A. 12 August 2006: Right-o!
This is a common mistake that MANY men make actually. Some women, but more commonly men.
Women like that you show you care by being protective, but don't go so overboard that you basically keep her in a bubble. You can't prevent ever... (read in full...)
Did she really use me or did she really want to be with me, before she went back to her ex bf?
Q. i posted on here earlier and got a response that kind of shook me. my question is how do i know if she used me? i slept with my friend who claimed to have feelings for me and wanted to be with me, but then later told me that she realized she ...
A. 12 August 2006: No one can say exactly what she meant, but from what you said it seems like maybe she thought she had more feelings for you than him, and then after leaving him and going with you found out she was wrong. People get confused, especially women, about ... (read in full...)
I hate just being their friend!
Q. I am a 28 year old male virgin. I have never had a girlfriend. Most women find me unattractive, and those that say I am "not ugly" are those who I am very good friends with or are the wives and girlfriends of my best friends...so they are obliged to ...
A. 12 August 2006: There are girls out there who don't even CARE about looks, they are attracted to personality above all. I'm living proof, I'm considered weird for never looking at guys and saying, "Hey. He's hot!" I'm the girl that everyone gives strange looks to, ... (read in full...)
He said he won't give me oral sex because I smell different to his ex-girlfriend!
Q. Dear cupid. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 months now and everything was going alright until i asked him why he had never attempted to give me oral sex when i have given it him. Basically he said it was because i smelt different from ...
A. 11 August 2006: Heyheyhey! Don't be disgusted, or feel ashamed. You're guy is just being an A$$HOLE!!! He has NO RIGHT to say something like that. What does it matter that you SMELL differently down there?! If my guy said something if we ever try that... I'd smack ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my crush without sounding like an idiot?!
Q. There is this guy i have a MAJOR crush on.. and i am going to be seeing him today at a rodeo event thing.. How do i get a conversation going without sounding like a total idiot? How will i know if he likes me?... and any other advice you could...
A. 11 August 2006: I hope I've gotten to you before the rodeo!! :O Just try your best to talk to him like a normal human being. Crushes aren't aliens, so don't blow it by speaking nervous jibberish. XD Tell him thanks for taking you (if he did that is) or that ... (read in full...)
A long ago kiss between friends that she brought back up! What are her reasons for doing so?
Q. I was talking to to a girl a couple of days ago and she brought up the subject of a kiss that happened ages ago between us, and we just pretended it didnt happen and carried on with our friendship. I asked her why she brought it up and she gave me a ...
A. 11 August 2006: Maybe she was about to confess that she liked it more than she may have thought at first, and that she (obviously) still thinks about it. That'd be my guess... that she likes you, but is afraid to confess this in fear of being rejected. Sounds like ... (read in full...)
I'm 14. Should I have sex with my boyfriend?
Q. I'm 14 and I have been going out with my boyfriend for months and he wants to have sex. I would but I don't know if I will ruin my 1st time. Like I think I want to have sex now....
A. 11 August 2006: Your virginity is the greatest gift that you could possibly give your husband, whether or not he saved his for you. Sex isn't something that you should take so lightly. Sex should only be done to express your love, and commitment to your partner, ... (read in full...)
Can I change into a style that people will like?
Q. I want to change. I want to look european, but I have hard times looking european. I'm from Ukraine and it's just really hard to change my style so everybody will like me....
A. 11 August 2006: Whoa! Stop it right now. I know this may not seem to be the easiest option, but further down the road TRUST ME, it'll help. Now if yoouu wanted to change your appearance, that'd be one thing, but don't do it in hopes people would like you. T... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with my roommate and a best friend
Q. i think i'm falling in love with one of my best friends (who is also my roommate), and i don't know what to do about it because she's taken. but i'm getting extremely mixed signals from her. we've got the strangest relationship, seeing as how ...
A. 11 August 2006: This sounds like something I've heard before.
It's never good to push feelings like that aside. It'll end up torturing you in the end, just like you've been realizing. You should tell her one day that you regret not taking your chance while yo... (read in full...)
Guys I date turn me on for awhile..then I get 'turned off' quickly! Is this normal?
Q. is there something wrong with me? whenever i get involved with a guy he can turn me on like hell for a while but after a while what he does loses its affect and does little to nothing for me when it used to do loads. Is there something wrong with me ...
A. 10 August 2006: Also, try a variety! Tell him to try to be unpredictable with turn ons. Like, if you're turned on by someone blowing in your ear, eventually, if done enough, it'll fade. But, if he does other things, so as to not always do the same things over and ... (read in full...)
Because I'm working overseas, I thought we should take a break. Good idea, or bad?
Q. Hi there My boyfriend and I are 'on a break' 'broken up' whatever the logistical difference is. We still care for each other a lot. We are very close and have spent more time together than anyone I've dated in the past even though these pas...
A. 10 August 2006: Cara, (Hope you don't mind if I add that personal touch...)
Long distance relationships are always hard. Being seperated from someone you love is a terrible feeling, but how does breaking up help? You're both still going to be miserable because you'... (read in full...)
What age do you know?
Q. When is a person/what age is a person ready for a true, intimate, maybe life-long relationship?...
A. 10 August 2006: When you can honestly say that you are mature enough to make the right decisions, and to take responsibility for any mistakes that could be made. When you know the difference between lust and love, crush and love, and you understand love doesn't ... (read in full...)
Why are my parents treating me like this???
Q. What to do about parents. They refuse to see who I am and constantly tell what I can and can't do. They won't listen to what I have to say, they think that they know everything and that they are always right. They treat me like an idiot especially ...
A. 10 August 2006: You seem like a mature, level-headed, great guy. Your parent's aren't giving you the independance and respect you deserve. By what you've said, you've never given them reason NOT to trust you, and you've done everything in life to please them. Now ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon after being raped to date?
Q. Hello i wrote in before about my friend not helping me in my time or need (i was raped n needed her to go to court but she wont) anyways like i met this guy i fancy and he gave me his number today and said can he take me out for dinner soon he i...
A. 10 August 2006: There isn't a set amount of time that you should be skeptical of trusting guys. It depends on the person, so in other words, if you feel like you're ready to move on from your traumatic experience, then don't worry about what other people think. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is very controlling and its getting worse!!!
Q. This is kinda long; but i really need advice and help. i have a boyfriend and i've been with him for about a year and two months. He's always been so controlling and jealous since day one. But now i've noticed it has gotten worse. I am madly in lo...
A. 10 August 2006: I can see how he may be concerned, but you've told him over and over again you're never going to cheat on him and leave him, and he's STILL being like this? The phone thing is more than freaky. I wonder if he knows about this post? You know, if he ... (read in full...)
I love him loads but he lives so far away!.....
Q. i am in love with a guy but he lives so far away and we r going out but i find it hard cuz i love him loads plz can u tell me what i could do...
A. 10 August 2006: If at all possible, and if commited enough, move closer. Or hey, maybe move in together, but only if you're ready for such a commitment. But wait, are you stuck in the teenage age? So it's not up to you whether or not you move, is it? Well then, w... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be turned on by girls?
Q. Isn't it normal to get turned on by girls even if you're straight? I hear so many people say it's normal. Thanks! =)...
A. 10 August 2006: I'm straight too, but I seem to judge girls more than guys. Now, I'm not attracted to either sexually, I'm one of those with the mindset strong enough to hold up. I'm only attracted to my lover. ^_^ But everyone has some form of attraction towar... (read in full...)
I'm jealous and afraid she'll drift away from me
Q. My friend lied to me last night. She is supposed to be living here and she had a job so she was like ok i will get done at 5:30 or 6 every day so we can hang out i mean since she is living here and all and she always told me she would never pick...
A. 10 August 2006: I hate to be the one to say this, but it's something that should be said. To promise your friend that no man will come between you two is a horrible promise. It can never be kept. UNLESS, it's one of those, "I hate you. I like him too but he l... (read in full...)
I want to propose, but in a really nice and special way!
Q. I am considering proposing to my girlfriend and want some advice on how to do it and also the ring. We have been together three years, lived together for over two, and have a 8 month old baby. Any ideas on a good way to propose, something romant...
A. 10 August 2006: I've got one that has always touched me, it's how my french teacher got married after accidentally breaking her boyfriend's heart. It's an idea, but I figured it's worth a shot. I don't know any girl that wouldn't melt. Anyway, I'm basing it off ... (read in full...)
I know he's gun shy about relationships right now...should I worry that he hasn't contacted me in 2 weeks?
Q. I am a shy 1 and find romance and dating really scary. I like this guy but i think he doesn't like me that way. A few weeks ago it was my birthday he rang up and wished me a happy birthday, we were talking mentioned i was going into London with my ...
A. 10 August 2006: Maybe he does, maybe he doesn't. I can't tell you that. But what I can tell you is that you gave him his space, so just give him a ring. Doesn't mean you have to call, and call, and call until he answers. Or even a text again. Just say something ... (read in full...)
Can long-distance work? Even long-distance like another country?
Q. My Sister who introduced me to her friends by giving me thier phone numbers. Her friend live abroad and I contacted them and arranged to go and see them. It went really well. I did a bit of sightseeing while getting to know them. I really like on...
A. 10 August 2006: That's right! Long distance can work!
Don't let distance sway your affections! Sure, it'll be hard if you really wish to see them, but you can visit. If you two get serious, who knows, maybe you two won't be so far apart for long. ^.~
There... (read in full...)
There's so much stress in my relationship. How do I vent?
Q. Now it's my turn to ask for advice. I'm in love with a man, he's only 2 years and 11 months older than me, but at this age that can make a difference in experience. He's been in serious relationships before, I haven't. Actually, I avoided them due ...
A. 10 August 2006: Thank you for the advice. I had a nice long talk with him today and thought about all of my options. I told him I was sorry that I wasn't as ready as I thought but he said that's why we're working on it. He didn't expect me to be ready, it IS my ... (read in full...)
There's so much stress in my relationship. How do I vent?
Q. Now it's my turn to ask for advice. I'm in love with a man, he's only 2 years and 11 months older than me, but at this age that can make a difference in experience. He's been in serious relationships before, I haven't. Actually, I avoided them due ...
A. 9 August 2006: **I forgot a main question... sorry... Is it possibly that I'm not ready for a serious relationship? I try to make it work but my childish side can sometimes rise and I'll have to fight down the desire to do something unnecessary that may cause a ... (read in full...)
| *methyst's friends
These are mutual friends, so *methyst has
added them and they have added *methyst!
|
