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writes: Hi, I have been talking to this guy for a few months now on msn and now he wants to meet. I have seen a picture of him and him of me on msn but I'm not sure. My friend says if I want to meet him she would go with me. What should I do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2006): hun i been trough what your going trough i meet a guy from a chat room last year i wasnt sure but i did i meet up with him were there was loadz off people i was scared and wasnt going to but did because he had came all the way to see me.i am now clad i did because we are still together and happy.good lick hun hope goes well xx
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (14 August 2006):
 It is interesting that you say that you are not sure.
Your own instincts and gut feelings are scarilly acurate so it is worth listening to what your intuition is saying here.
If you are not comfortable in meeting him in person, why not try talking on the phone first? This way you can get a bit more of an indication of him and his personality - a phone call can tell you a lot about a person.
Then if you feel comfortable, suggest a meeting in a very crowded place (busy shopping centre food court, busy restuarant or coffee house) and take some people with you. Even if two or three of your friends etc sit on the next table so you can chat with him but know that you are not alone there and he knows that you are not alone there either.
Meeting up with people that you don't know can be a dangerous thing and caution is warranted. The main thing is that you don't do anything or go anywhere you don't feel comfortable and remember that there is safety in numbers so make sure that anyplace you do meet is busy and you have a safe and reliable method to get there and home. Avoid night time meetings, go with during the day and it is always preferable to take someone with you, ideally even a couple of friends and make sure that you tell him that you have told people that you are meeting him. If he does plan on doing anything, if he knows that a dozen people know where you are and what time you will be home etc, he will be less likely to do something.
As well as that, avoid telling him too much personal info like your home address etc.
But in saying that, listen to your intuition. It seems to be holding you back slightly and that is not such a bad thing.
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reader, SXYBB91 +, writes (13 August 2006):
i wouldnt meet up with him if i were u yeah alright u have seen a picture but theres nothing saying that it is def him i mean he could of got that picture from sumwhere else u never no and he could be like 30 odd or summat u cant be sure of his age unless u have seen him on webcam. but if ur gonna meet up with him make sure ur with sumone and make sure there is a lot of ppl around u .
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reader, dan the man +, writes (13 August 2006):
 im in a similar situation aswell with this girl i like we have planned to meet and i think i will meet her in future, i have met a girl from msn before and believe it or not i wasnt too nervous i met in a public venue with lots of people had my phone and was confident enough to go on my own but t his time i may consider taking a friend. I would recommend you too meet him if you really want just be very careful and make sure you have a plan on how your getting back etc. Good Luck
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (13 August 2006):
 You think you have seen a picture of him...it may not be a picture of him at all or it could be a very good photo! Meet him with caution in a public place as the others say here. But just because he appears to be mr nice guy on your first date be very careful afterwards until you are sure about him - dont tell him your home address, don't go to his place etc. Take Care
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reader, *MiniBear* +, writes (13 August 2006):
OK.. Now you should meet him but make sure you have a couple of people with you. Not just you and your friend because if he is not who he says he is then you could have a serious problem. Make sure you meet in a public place like the mall so that nothing dangerous can happen to you. Remember safety comes first.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 August 2006):
 Bring more than one friend and (make one of them a guy) to that very public place.
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reader, carlyuk +, writes (13 August 2006):
 i am in the kinda same situation wiv my online lad if u wanna chat sometime give me a shout!!! good luck hun xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2006): Like Cowgirl and Uncle has mentioned, go to a very public place like Starbucks or Tim's to meet, and bring your friend too. If your guy friend from MSN is geniune, then he wouldn't mind the bit of mistrust and caution.
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reader, Amethyst +, writes (13 August 2006):
 Sadly, the world is full of rapists and killers, so it is an INCREDIBLY dangerous thing. I suggest though, if you really want to meet him, talking to him on the phone first. Doesn't even have to be your house phone, you could go out a ways to a payphone just to be safe.
People can EASILY lie about their identities online. It's sad that that is a common worry, but it is. There aren't many honest people left, if you think about worldly population.
If you talk to him, and he still seems to be the same person, and he hasn't pressured you into meeting him, I'd say I agree with the other two: Meet in a public place with a trusted friend... or two.... or three. The more the better because you never know what someone might try and do. Your friend could be strong and able to defend well, but she probably can't stand up to unfair fighting.
It's your decision, no one can force you to stay or go... just think about all the possibilities and be CAREFUL. Good luck with it though..
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reader, tyler's_cowgirl +, writes (13 August 2006):
 meeting someone you only know from the internet can be VERY dangerous... for all you know they could be lying about their age, getting pictures off a search engine, etc... you just never know and you can never be too careful. That's just my opinion though.. if you still feel the need to meet this guy i'd suggest meeting him in a very public place and bringing a trusted friend along. A coffee shop or something like that would probably be best, that way if he was thinking of doing anything the number of people around should deture him...
Best of Luck Hun, Tyler's_Cowgirl xox
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reader, unclerich +, writes (13 August 2006):
it isn't safe u dont really no this guy. but if you must meet him.meet him where there is plenty of people around!!! but strongly think about it!!!it's dangerous
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