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writes: I am a shy 1 and find romance and dating really scary. I like this guy but i think he doesn't like me that way. A few weeks ago it was my birthday he rang up and wished me a happy birthday, we were talking mentioned i was going into London with my friend he said maybe he could met up with after work. We met up and he bought us wine, pink champange and dinner. Then the next day he picked us up and took us to lunch and a walk on the river. My friend thinks he likes me as he kept looking at me, i am not so sure the follow week i invited him round and he came but he thought i had some kind of problem, he stayed about an hour and half then left to help a friend. I texted him to say thanks for coming round. That was over 2 weeks ago and i have not heard from him since. I dont want to bother him in case he thinks i am some kind of nutcase! I know that he has a very bad relationship in the past and is a bit gun shy as it where. He is all i seen to think about. Am i doing the right thing by leaving him alone and waiting for him to make contact? Do u think he does like me. An added complication is that our parents are friends and i dont want spoil that
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2006): I can understand your concerns. I to am shy and find things like that hard. I know you are both shy but if one of you doesn't do something it will forever drift and drag on and i am sure you don't want that to happen. Ring him, just be casual about it. Good luck.
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reader, unclerich +, writes (10 August 2006):
you cant be shy. this guy could be the one that you been dreaming about all your life.don't let him slip away.if he's had a bad time in the past he might be relucant to get hurt again it might seem that all his relationships is doomed.u need to find out phone him dont withheld your number u need to phone him wen you no he isn't busy if he answers then arrange to go for a drink or a festival.just get to know him you WILL FEEL if your on a winner
k let me no how u get on
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reader, Amethyst  +, writes (10 August 2006):
 Maybe he does, maybe he doesn't. I can't tell you that. But what I can tell you is that you gave him his space, so just give him a ring. Doesn't mean you have to call, and call, and call until he answers. Or even a text again. Just say something like, "Hey. Haven't heard from you in a while, just wanting to check up, see if you were alright. Hope to hear from you soon." There. Something like that. It shows concern, but not obsession. And, you gave him two weeks... so I mean, it's reasonable for a friend to just say hi. Right? Maybe he's confused because he likes you and just doesn't want to get hurt? As a no longer shy person, I can tell you from past experience, shy people create barriers, ESPECIALLY after being hurt. So, don't bang on it with a hammer, but just gently tap to show you're there. You have to move a bit slowly with shy people and relationships, so patience is a key!
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