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... Send *methyst a private message | | | *methyst's profile:I am merely seventeen years of age, but since I was five years old I've been giving people even twice my age advice. I've went through a lot in my life, and have helped a lot of people, so I can relate to a lot of the questions I've seen so far. But don't judge me by my age, I'm more mature than my mother! And, please don't stereotype me with the rest of the "teenage" lovers, I actually am in a serious relationship and I know it's not all sunshine and butterflies. My guess is that I want to help give out advice to help others not make the mistakes I've made, and somewhat... make up for them in the process by doing so. I'm also not afraid to be brutally honest.
As for my avatar... I drew it. :) I'm also an artist, a microsoft paint artist to be exact.
L'amour peut être le plus grand cadeau, ou la plus mauvaise malédiction!
(Love can be the greatest gift, or the worst curse!)
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He 's balck..I'm white and my family are against interracial relationships! What should I do?
Q. I would like some feedback on what to do about this situation. I have met a great guy recently who I really like and who likes me. He is black and I am white. He has only dateed white women and his family has no problem with it. I've never dated a ...
A. 31 December 2006: You go girl!
That's the spirit! I hope you two are very happy together. ^_^... (read in full...)
My friend is 13 and she's dating a 19 year old....is this okay?
Q. is it ok for my 13 year old friend to date a 19 year old?...
A. 30 December 2006: Well then obviously he really has emotions for her, therefore the age gap shouldn't be a problem as long as he's a nice guy. There's nothing wrong with him, he's just attracted to a girl and is managing to not care about the strange looks he'll be ... (read in full...)
Is it still wrong to feel used?
Q. is it wrong 2 feel used if you give a blow job and then they leave..?..i duno if it that they got what they want now they can leave.or that they really do need to leave..but is it still wrong 2 feel used?!...
A. 30 December 2006: If he's only free when he wants a blowjob, I suggest you reconsider having anything to do with him, because it's pretty obvious he's using you.... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to my girlfriend's lesbian bombshell?
Q. I have been involved with a girl I really like for the past few months..She seems like a great person and we seem like a great fit..I am 30 and she is 25..We have the same morals, beliefs, sense of humor, ect..Last week we were talking and she told ...
A. 30 December 2006: Personally, I think you're overracting a tad bit.
Let's face it, whether we're open about it or not, we've all at least wondered what it's all about, why so many people seem to find comfort with someone of the same sex, etc, etc, and girls ar... (read in full...)
Is our age gap inappropriate? Advice please?
Q. I've recently started a relationship with a girl who's 15 - and I'm 19. We're pretty well exactly four years apart, and she is definitely that best thing that has happened to me as far as relationships go. I met her through where we work. ...
A. 30 December 2006: Well, if she's a mature girl I say you shouldn't feel wrong for dating her. I fell in love at 14 with my *now* fiance who was 17 (we're 2 years, 11 1/2 months apart) and my mother is fine with it, because she knows I'm mature enough to make such ... (read in full...)
He 's balck..I'm white and my family are against interracial relationships! What should I do?
Q. I would like some feedback on what to do about this situation. I have met a great guy recently who I really like and who likes me. He is black and I am white. He has only dateed white women and his family has no problem with it. I've never dated a ...
A. 30 December 2006: I live in Southern US as well but let me tell you, it's not as uncommon as you may think. It's just kept on the DL (down low) most of the time. But there are some, like me, who are completely fine with it and really don't care what others think. If ... (read in full...)
I'm basically his first really serious relationship
Q. I've been dating this guy for quite a while and he's started saying that he loves me and he truly acts like it. The only prob is that I'm basically his first really serious relationship so I'm scared that he only feels that way because he likes that ...
A. 28 December 2006: It's true there really isn't a definate answer for your question. But personally, if he hasn't given you a real reason to doubt yourself in placing trust in him, I think you should at least give him a shot. I'm moving in with my first relationship, ... (read in full...)
Is it still wrong to feel used?
Q. is it wrong 2 feel used if you give a blow job and then they leave..?..i duno if it that they got what they want now they can leave.or that they really do need to leave..but is it still wrong 2 feel used?!...
A. 28 December 2006: It's natural to question sometimes, and to feel used, yes. If this is a repeated occurance, chances are he's using you. If it's only happened once, decide whether to give him the benefit of a doubt or not. No one can tell you the truth other than ... (read in full...)
My ex bf broke it off but is mad/jealous when I am hanging around other guys! What's up with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I recently broke up. He broke up with me and last night my friends and I went up to a popular bar. I went w/my best friend and her boyfriend(which is the ex's best friend) and my older sister and her friends, and we played pool for ...
A. 3 December 2006: I know the idea he has all too well, and it's fair from the best one... even though he thinks he knows best, he's making a mistake... that is, if he was sincere with what he said about still wanting to be with you. Taking a break from you is like ... (read in full...)
His time is near, he needs my comfort and love but he's gone distant. How do I deal with this?
Q. My b/f and I have been together about 20 months and we have been living together for the past year. When we first started dating he informed me about his medical condition and he has about 2 yrs left. I told him I would not walk away I rather love ...
A. 26 November 2006: He's going through a tough time, and I think he's trying to become distant because he probably thinks it'll hurt less in the end... no one really knows how the mind works of one who can only look back, and knows it's pointless to look forward, ... (read in full...)
My friend is 13 and she's dating a 19 year old....is this okay?
Q. is it ok for my 13 year old friend to date a 19 year old?...
A. 26 November 2006: While I'd like to say your friend is mature enough and responsible enough to handle herself, I don't know her so I can't make that judgement. Mostly though, in today's society, this is a big "no-no." The age difference isn't a problem of numbers, ... (read in full...)
My ex bf broke it off but is mad/jealous when I am hanging around other guys! What's up with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I recently broke up. He broke up with me and last night my friends and I went up to a popular bar. I went w/my best friend and her boyfriend(which is the ex's best friend) and my older sister and her friends, and we played pool for ...
A. 26 November 2006: Your ex seems to have some jealousy issues, that's OBVIOUS. Why'd he break up with you in the first place, did he tell you?
He may have realized he made a mistake, and came in to get you back, then overreacted because he saw you with another ... (read in full...)
I'm dating someone else-but I cuddled up to him on the bus!
Q. It all started on the school trip. Me and this lad spent the whole day together. And on the way back on the bus coach, I cuddled up to him, we talked and he played with my hair and did all these things that made me smile! And i lay there realising i ...
A. 26 November 2006: Wow... you're stuck between a rock and a hard place aren't you? Well, ok, let's see. There are plenty of ways this can go, first off, does he even like your friend at all? I know that if he doesn't your friend shouldn't get mad at you, but that's ... (read in full...)
My bf didn't want to get tested for herpes and I feel he was being selfish! Am I right?
Q. Hi, I'd like some advice on my current situation. It took my boyfriend six months to get tested for herpes 2, and I'm really confused on what is going to happen after we hear the results. This is what happened: basically a few months ago he found a ...
A. 16 November 2006: Hold on a second, she did not accuse him of having a C-Section, she said I-F they ever were to conceive a child, she'd have to have one, which is TRUE! And for your information, I told her she overreacted a bit, but she had to have a trigger to get ... (read in full...)
My bf didn't want to get tested for herpes and I feel he was being selfish! Am I right?
Q. Hi, I'd like some advice on my current situation. It took my boyfriend six months to get tested for herpes 2, and I'm really confused on what is going to happen after we hear the results. This is what happened: basically a few months ago he found a ...
A. 13 November 2006: Alright Mr. Anonymous, you're even beginning to annoy me. Would you simply READ a response before you go on jabbering about it, SHE DID GET TESTED. Besides, if you're a complete virgin, there's no NEED for testing because there's no way you could ... (read in full...)
I'm torn between my current bf and someone else! Help!
Q. Dear Cupid, ok i love my boyfriend to death! yes we fight sometimes but we always make up.. now i have this other guy who's really into me and im a little bit interested in him but i just don't know what to do! i couldn't live it down if i cheated!...
A. 13 November 2006: I think what you're feeling is flattery that the other guy likes you, and the natural female's reaction of, "oh... I should like him in return, since he's not just a perverted creep!" or possibly lust. If you love your boyfriend, and truly feel ... (read in full...)
We are planning to get married but my mother and sister recent me!
Q. Please help, My Mum is very ill, has been for a long time. The longer she's been ill the more difficult she gets. I was engaged to a chap when I was 19 and I'm now 32. She constantly refers to this guy who I dumped when I was in uni (we were eng...
A. 8 November 2006: I hope it does too, just remember, she's not the one marrying him, you are!!!!!!!
Good luck!!!... (read in full...)
My bf didn't want to get tested for herpes and I feel he was being selfish! Am I right?
Q. Hi, I'd like some advice on my current situation. It took my boyfriend six months to get tested for herpes 2, and I'm really confused on what is going to happen after we hear the results. This is what happened: basically a few months ago he found a ...
A. 8 November 2006: Well, I can see where you would get angry, and I could also see where he got upset about you making the comment about breaking up. Let me go with that first. Obviously, it was a mistake, and you didn't really mean it. You love him enough to work ... (read in full...)
We want to lose our virginity together, I need some advice please!!
Q. I have resently started going out with this lad i have known for years. I liked him for ages and finally got the courage to tell him however we have been going out for 3 weeks and were both virgins, we came to the desion to lose our virginity ...
A. 8 November 2006: Who says being a virgin is a bad thing? At least you know neither of you have STDs or anything, right?
But if you've thought about it, and you really are sure, then here are some tips. First off, do everything possible to prevent pregnanc... (read in full...)
Should I trust my boyfriend?? He said it's not lying if he doesn't tell me what he's up to!
Q. Should I trust my boyfriend or is he taking the mickey? He recently said that if I dont ask him a specfic question ie are you going out with X then its not lying if he doesnt tell me what he is up to? ...
A. 31 October 2006: 'Twas no trouble. I hope you make the right choice, and be sure and keep us posted!... (read in full...)
I asked her to lose her male friend and she won't. I feel doublecrossed here...what should I do?
Q. I started going out with my gf 9 months ago.My gf is a chatterbox and i am the quiete kinds,but i talk,not as my gf expects but i say what i have to say,sometimes on time and late as well.Trouble started when my gf in 5th month asked me to cut off ...
A. 30 October 2006: honestly, it sounds to me like she's expecting way too much out of you. She wants you to be someone you're not, and quite frankly, that's not really love...
I think you deserve someone who's not going to force you to change who you are, and at l... (read in full...)
She loves another and not me! She regrets having 2 kids with me...any thoughts?
Q. I have 2 kids with my girlfriend of 7 years we lived together for the last 6 years we broke up 5 months ago i lived in a differnt room in the house 3 mths ago she told me she was dating someone from church and she thinks she is going to marry him. I ...
A. 30 October 2006: I think she's trying to put the blame on God for her mistake... not to sound too harsh. She never really loved you, then why did she make the most selfless commitment of having kids with you? Once you have kids, you're supposed to put them above ... (read in full...)
Thought he was taking me for granted so turned him down for a date...now I haven't from him! What should I do?
Q. thers this blokes whos 25 and im 18. he says that he likes me and wants to get to know me. hes always takes me out and this has been going on for just over 6 weeks now. but hes still not mentioned a relationship! also friday just gone he let me down ...
A. 29 October 2006: Ok, I'm not him of course, so I can't speak for him. But my observation (based on what you typed) was that he MIGHT have been trying to move more slowly than most other guys, so you wouldn't think he was just trying to "hit and run." He might not be ... (read in full...)
Should I trust my boyfriend?? He said it's not lying if he doesn't tell me what he's up to!
Q. Should I trust my boyfriend or is he taking the mickey? He recently said that if I dont ask him a specfic question ie are you going out with X then its not lying if he doesnt tell me what he is up to? ...
A. 29 October 2006: Umm... whoever told your boyfriend that, lied. It's not necessarily lieing, but it's hiding a NEED TO KNOW TRUTH!
An example of where his interpretation could work:
Say you had a dress he thought was hideous, but he didn't want to tell you tha... (read in full...)
Do I have the dreaded "pencil dick"? What do you all think?
Q. Is my penis too thin? My penis measures 4.5 inches around when I'm erect and I've heard 5 inches the average. I'm worried because I've read women care more about girth than they do length. Am I OK here or do I have the dreaded "pencil dick?"...
A. 29 October 2006: I know I'm just tagging along, but hey, the more assurance the better right?
If you find a girl who thinks size is everything in life, then she's more than likely going to hop into bed with any guy bigger than the next, so needless to say, she... (read in full...)
Any advice on how I can get my confidence and social life back and make new friends? Help!
Q. This is probably a stupid question and I feel a little embarrased asking for advice. Basically I feel that I have no social life and find it quite difficult to be sociable and make friends. I find it very hard to join in and hold a conversation. I ...
A. 29 October 2006: First off, there's no need to be embarrassed. Just about every shy person (or person who's went through a shy stage) feels your pain. And you're right, you shouldn't have to get intoxicated just to make conversation.
No amount of advice that I c... (read in full...)
We are planning to get married but my mother and sister recent me!
Q. Please help, My Mum is very ill, has been for a long time. The longer she's been ill the more difficult she gets. I was engaged to a chap when I was 19 and I'm now 32. She constantly refers to this guy who I dumped when I was in uni (we were eng...
A. 4 October 2006: Glad it worked out for you! :)
Hope it stays that way!... (read in full...)
I dont love my husband, but have a lover, he wants me to move near him, but wont leave his wife!!
Q. Im married with 3 children but im not very happy as i dont love my husband anymore.I have a lover who i have been with for a number of years,the thing is he has a partner who is 25 years older then him but its not a sexual relationship just ...
A. 4 October 2006: Um, no. You're not being selfish.
I'm sorry to voice this so bluntly, but it's beginning to look to me as if he just wants you for sex or showcase. Because I have a question to counter his.
"What man in LOVE wouldn't take on any hardships to... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and am attracted to a 16 year old! Would it be wrong to pursue her?
Q. I am a 21 year old guy in college with a job, live a real stable life, have no problems getting dates etc. with girls around my age(19-23, whatever). Recently, however, i've been experiencing a mutual attraction to a 16 year old and we've hung out a ...
A. 23 September 2006: lol, good to know.
I for one, am not one that views age as a factor for liking someone. If she likes you, and you like her, then I don't see why there'd be a problem. A few strange looks may come your way when you take her out on a date (if she look... (read in full...)
Are there any questions, I could ask her to find out if she's falling for me?
Q. There is this woman at work that is married, however I believe she is very much into me. I am female as well. She sometimes flirts very heavy with me and then the next day or so she tones it down and acts like were just good friends. She and her ...
A. 23 September 2006: Wow, she's very much into you.... and she's basically being very bold about letting you know.
If you're really into her, and you're willing to go through the problems that may soon arise, I'd say you should flirt back. Next time she mentions... (read in full...)
I caught my 12 year old son masturbating. How should I handle this?
Q. i am a father of a twelve year old boy, and i saw him masturbating,and i blew up, what should i do?...
A. 23 September 2006: Blowing up on your son wasn't the best react, I agree. I know it was a shock, and you probably didn't know how to react, but think of it this way... what would you have done, if your father walked in one YOU masturbating, and blew up on you? On top ... (read in full...)
I found sexy text messages on my husbands phone....from another man!!! What do I do?
Q. I have been married for 10 years now. We have been together for 14 total. Just last week I found text messages on his phone, being the nosey person that I am I read them. Now I wish that I had not, the messages were sex related. I do not know ...
A. 23 September 2006: I've had this happen, 'cept I was the one with the text messeges. A lot of people like to send messeges to random phone numbers to see what sort of responses they get. I had a girl that sent me something, and when I sent her a response back saying ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 21 September 2006: 1. Hmm... new feature.... maybe have some features that are more commonly used on forums, if that's even possible. Like, for instance, an online now icon? o.O; Uhhh.... maybe something that states what country we're from at least.... you know, how ... (read in full...)
Phone sex virgin here...how are you supposed to do it?
Q. Hi There THis might seem like a silly question. I have just started a long distance relationship and am a phone sex virgin. I have no idea how you are suppose to do it. Any ideas?...
A. 17 September 2006: From what I've heard, because strangers and friends feel obligated to tell me such things, that all you do is rile each other up by talking about what you imagine happening one day when you come home from school or work, say... you crawl on the bed ... (read in full...)
I centre my life around my relationship, but would like to get other things back!!
Q. I have a fantastic relationship with my bf and we love eachother very much. However, the things that used to be important to me (nothing to do with relationships) no longer are. I used to be very ambitious and had very definite plans on what i ...
A. 17 September 2006: Well, what it's coming off like is you've gotten a bite from the love bug. Nothing else seems to matter anymore, other than him being happy, and you being around him so you can be happy. It happens to the best of us.
Give it a little more time, th... (read in full...)
I told him I like him and he said "I don't know what to say"...
Q. ok, about juneish, I sent a mate of mine a text. I basically told him I liked him.. alot. He texted back and said *I don't know what to say* This quite upset me. We are always hugging when we see each other in the corridors in school, and we t...
A. 17 September 2006: Just give him some time, he's probably afraid that if something goes wrong with the relationship that you two will lose the great relationship (friend wise) that you seem to have.
He probably does share your feelings, and is just trying to decid... (read in full...)
I dont love my husband, but have a lover, he wants me to move near him, but wont leave his wife!!
Q. Im married with 3 children but im not very happy as i dont love my husband anymore.I have a lover who i have been with for a number of years,the thing is he has a partner who is 25 years older then him but its not a sexual relationship just ...
A. 17 September 2006: Oooh, man. You're in a sticky situation aren't you?
Umm... let's see...
Well, no one can truly tell you what's best for you, other than yourself, but I'll take a crack at some sort of advice, ok?
If you don't love your husband, then that's... (read in full...)
Is it too soon after being raped to date?
Q. Hello i wrote in before about my friend not helping me in my time or need (i was raped n needed her to go to court but she wont) anyways like i met this guy i fancy and he gave me his number today and said can he take me out for dinner soon he i...
A. 17 September 2006: Ok, good, he didn't freak out like some guys would. Some guys are like, "Ugh, she's second hand meat!" .;
Well then, I hope everything else is smooth sailing for you guys! Good luck with everything, and if you're ever in a slump, feel free to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me it was him or the smoking, Im finding it hard what can I do ?
Q. my boyfriend told me to pick him or smoking i picked him but finiding it hard what can i do....
A. 17 September 2006: You just have to have the will power to fight against your withdrawel symptoms, after a while, it won't be hard at all! Smoking is a terrible habit, so just think next time you crave one, "Well, at least my breath isn't going to smell so repulsing ... (read in full...)
We are planning to get married but my mother and sister recent me!
Q. Please help, My Mum is very ill, has been for a long time. The longer she's been ill the more difficult she gets. I was engaged to a chap when I was 19 and I'm now 32. She constantly refers to this guy who I dumped when I was in uni (we were eng...
A. 16 September 2006: Uhhh... umm....
Well, you just asked for ideas, so...
~Try and change the subject unnoticably if they're starting to get to you.
~Tell yourself it doesn't matter what they think, YOU are the one in love and you'd be better off following what y... (read in full...)
Is it too soon after being raped to date?
Q. Hello i wrote in before about my friend not helping me in my time or need (i was raped n needed her to go to court but she wont) anyways like i met this guy i fancy and he gave me his number today and said can he take me out for dinner soon he i...
A. 16 September 2006: I've never liked councellors, they're in it for the money is my opinon... and they don't keep stuff confidential like they should. (They always hint to children's parents, if not tell them directly.)
I'm glad to see you two are working out then... (read in full...)
what do guys like in girls..tall, slim, blonde or short, petite, curvy, brunette??
Q. hi... im a teenager and wanna know, y would teenage guys want a tall, thin blonde girl to go out with? Wouldnt they prefer someone who is shorter than them? Cos my boy mates all always say "oh theres this really fit girl, she's tall and ...
A. 16 September 2006: Your friends are shallow, to be quite honest. But don't let that get you down, not all guys are! And even still, some have different preferences!
Take me for example, I have a guy who thinks I'm perfect for him, and I'm the polar opposite of those... (read in full...)
Are people in long distance relationships more likely to cheat?
Q. Are people in long distance relationships more likely to cheat?...
A. 16 September 2006: While those in an online relationship have more grounds to cheat, most of the time they seek an online relationship because the people around them aren't their preference, or something of that nature.
It really does depend on the person, though, ... (read in full...)
We are planning to get married but my mother and sister recent me!
Q. Please help, My Mum is very ill, has been for a long time. The longer she's been ill the more difficult she gets. I was engaged to a chap when I was 19 and I'm now 32. She constantly refers to this guy who I dumped when I was in uni (we were eng...
A. 15 August 2006: Personally, I see it as no one's good enough for any mom's child. My mom sometimes seems happy with me and my fiance, then acts polar opposite the next minute.
Thing is, so long as you're happy, don't worry about what they think. You're 32, and ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon after being raped to date?
Q. Hello i wrote in before about my friend not helping me in my time or need (i was raped n needed her to go to court but she wont) anyways like i met this guy i fancy and he gave me his number today and said can he take me out for dinner soon he i...
A. 10 August 2006: There isn't a set amount of time that you should be skeptical of trusting guys. It depends on the person, so in other words, if you feel like you're ready to move on from your traumatic experience, then don't worry about what other people think. ... (read in full...)
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