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writes: Me and my bf have just split cause of an ex bf who i still kinda like. I would like to get bk with my bf cause i do really like him.But my ex still never seems to be out the background he is vile to me at any opportunity given usually calling me fat it has really began to got to me now so much so i have stopped eating properly.My bf tells me to ignore but i cant espec after last nite when he came out with the i love you crap and then calls me a liar and totally denys it.I'm trying not to let it bother me but its really starting to get me down i feel im being held down and i cant move on and im getting pretty sick of it.
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reader, Amethyst  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 You know what you need to do? Tell him to back off, and move on. He's obviously jealous that you were able to find someone you liked, who returned it, and is trying to make himself feel better by tearing you down. Nine times out of ten this is the case, and all of the things the guy says are lies. Like you being fat, I'm sure you aren't! And if you have a few excess pounds, who cares! Obviously not your new boyfriend!
You need to be with him and try your best to push past your ex's vile comments. And I know it's hard not to react when someone "admits love for you" but you need to tell yourself, "He's just trying to make me feel guilty, I need to ignore it. He'll just make up something tomorrow, like, say that I'm lieing!"
So it's all in what you make yourself do. You CAN move on, even with him being a b@stard. If he were worth anything, he would NOT be pulling this card. It's all about control, trust me, I know from many past experiences, and I've been told by a lot of girls sharing your problem. So cheer up, and give the one that IS worth something a call. Tell him you need his help getting past your ex's comments... which, he already told you are lies.
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reader, sugapuff  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 im really sorry to hear ur being treated like this but the new guy is right you should ignore him!
i know thats alot easyer said than done!
if you guys went out him insulting you and calling you names is complete BS because he must have found u attractive to go out with you.
i think this guy is just trying to hurt for his own petty jealous little reasons!
it sounds like hes really eating away at your self esteem but i dont think you had alot to begin with or dis A Hole wouldnt get to you so much!
write a list of all the things you like about yourself!
stay as much away from this nasty ex as possible block his number dont take his calls dont listen to his poison!
you deserve far better than this!
if you dont start feeling better about yourself is there a counciler at college or school you can talk to?
theres alot of free services available 2 help build up your self
esteem!
please dont stop eating properly stick to a health balanced diet!
this horrible guy is not worth ur health and well being!
hes putting you down because he knows your far to gud for him!
remember that!
be gud to yourself u deserve it!!!
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