Is there a happy-medium when it comes to porn?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend had a porn addiction in the past after I had fallen in love with him and been with him for over a year. I couldn't stand it and we fought and he did it a lot less. He only got "sucked in" because he got them in his ...
A. 21 February 2008: You are a reasonable ,sane and rational individual. Thanks for your update.... (read in full...)
I need some encouragement to move on from a 6 year relationship...
Q. Need some encouragement to move on from a 6 year relationship with a man I still love. I'm 43 He's 46.. Talked of marriage in the past, lived with him for 3 years out of the 6 years. Living by myself now. My kids are grown, raised them by myself. ...
A. 21 February 2008: Stop thinking of him and talking of him and you will forget him faster.
Refocus your mind on things you would like to do.Go out and mix with your friends and enjoy .
You need to feel what happiness is . Get control over your own life. You do... (read in full...)
Any ideas of where and how we can meet in person?
Q. Hi, my best friend's cousin is my boyfriend. I have never met him though. She introduced us over msn and he said he really likes me. I really want to meet him and he really wants to meet me too. He gave me part of this chain that he wears everyday ...
A. 21 February 2008: Best to meet in a public place or shopping malls.
If he likes you , he will be disappointed about that missing bracelet but he would let it go.
It was an unfortunate incident.... (read in full...)
Why did she log off?
Q. hi, I have a really good friend. We always speak to each other and sit next to each other in classes. Just today she wont speak to me at all. I have no idea why but its worrying me. On instant messaging I asked her if I had upset her in some way and ...
A. 21 February 2008: It could be something you did or did not do which made her give you the silent treatment.
Wait a few more days until the weather changes, then she may want to tell you if you persist in this matter.... (read in full...)
Little Dilemma!
Q. Hey Dearcupid. I really like this girl who I have know for a long time, but since today I have found out my brother has started to take a liking to her as well. I really want to ask her for a date but I don't think she'll take it the right way si...
A. 21 February 2008: May the best man win. You cannot stop your brother ,He has every right as you .
You will have to be better than your brother to win her love.... (read in full...)
Should he be forgiven after cheating again?
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me with his baby's mom who is pregnant and will be having the baby in 3 weeks. This happened two months ago. Then I found out and also she confronted me later about 1 month later. I love him dearly so I had took him back and ...
A. 21 February 2008: How real is your love for him?
If yours is a true and real love, you will forgive him and take him back.
Or
You can forgive him and move on without him.
If you cannot live without him , then pick the first choice.
If you think he... (read in full...)
Trapped in a loveless marruage and I want to end it...but I can't leave my kids.
Q. Dear Readers, I have been in a loveless marriage with my wife for the past 11 years. Please don’t judge me, but there has never been any sort of love between us and therefore I have always cheated on her which she is fully aware of but doesn’t ...
A. 20 February 2008: If you are not happy with the life you are leading and you feel that you are no more compatible with each other , you should divorce and let her find her own happiness.
Discuss it with her for an amicable solution regarding the children... (read in full...)
I feel like I have to compete for my bf with his friend...how should I handle this??
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for a few months now and what bothers me is that he has a long time friend (female) that lives with him because of her family issues. Whenever i go over to his house i feel like i'm the 3rd wheel and me and him can'...
A. 20 February 2008: She is his long time friend and they have developed a certain close rapport .
You need to be good friends with her as she seems like his special adviser on love affairs. LOL!
You are his g/f and you need to watch your steps and be friendly with... (read in full...)
Both of us have trust issues...what can we do??
Q. Ok, i have this boyfriend whom I dated for about 7 months. And we have this big problem with trust. He's always skeptical about everything a but so am i. I always feels like he's cheating evrywhere he goes, even when he goes to work and I'm at s...
A. 20 February 2008: I think the both of you should go to the church or before God and swear your faithfulness to each other. Let God be your witness.... (read in full...)
I haven't been much fun recently and last night my bf said I am not entertaining.
Q. I have been going through a hard time lately, so I know that I have not been the most fun person to be around. But, last night my boyfriend basically told me that I am not entertaining. I cried as it really hurt my feelings. I am not a boring ...
A. 20 February 2008: There is a time for everything and he is being insensitive. Just disregard what he says .
Ask him to be more specific . Ask him to clarify what does he mean by that? What he finds missing in your relationship and what can you do or make it enter... (read in full...)
Torn between my bf and my friend....is he saying it because he still likes me??
Q. Ok in desperate need of help. Ive been going out with A for about 1 month now. I met him through a friend we both share, B. B used to like me when we first met, but i only saw him as a frend, so i told him that and he said he was ok. He tried...
A. 20 February 2008: If you love A, then you should stand on A's side. What is B to you? Do you love him more than A?
You may not know the answer now but in time the truth will surface or may not.
I think you should just keep it to yourself and let the dust set... (read in full...)
Is there a happy-medium when it comes to porn?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend had a porn addiction in the past after I had fallen in love with him and been with him for over a year. I couldn't stand it and we fought and he did it a lot less. He only got "sucked in" because he got them in his ...
A. 20 February 2008: You cannot expect people to turn 180 degrees.
Sorry , sentence was incomplete.
Should be...
You cannot expect people to turn 180 degrees in a jiffy .If he made some 10% or 20% changes, that is good enough. He is changing and the wheel o... (read in full...)
Should I ask my childhood friends to my wedding?
Q. I am due to be married in a few weeks. I have almost everthing prepared but 1 problem still keeps me awake at night, here's the background to my story so I can then ask the question: From age of about 12 I had these 'friends'.. There was about 8 of ...
A. 20 February 2008: You are now somebody and getting married ,it is payback time to those childhood friends who thought you were the black sheep in the group. LOL!... (read in full...)
Should I ask my childhood friends to my wedding?
Q. I am due to be married in a few weeks. I have almost everthing prepared but 1 problem still keeps me awake at night, here's the background to my story so I can then ask the question: From age of about 12 I had these 'friends'.. There was about 8 of ...
A. 20 February 2008: Yes, you should as they are very special friends.A lot of water has passed under the bridge and it is a good time to catch up with each other.... (read in full...)
Is there any other way of stopping your period for a couple of weeks other than taking the contraceptive pill?
Q. Is there any other way of stopping your period for a couple of weeks other than taking the contraceptive pill?...
A. 20 February 2008: You can Google that question or go and see your GP..
There is a new pill that can stop your period . You can read in this link;-
http://www.thenewpink.co.uk/2006/10/24/a-pill-that-can-stop-your-period/... (read in full...)
I feel as if he has a wandering eye...
Q. Hi I'm in a rather serious relationship with a guy, we have been together for 1 year 2 months. We also live together. Yesterday when I returned from work he told me that there were two "hot chicks" that came to our home to renew our contract. He ...
A. 20 February 2008: You need to grow up and accept that it is a man's lingo and it does not mean that he is comparing you to them.
You do have an inferiority complex.Those men are just simple beings and describe them as it is. They do not think deeper and they don... (read in full...)
Three times my age. Taboo or Not?
Q. I currently live with an woman who is three times my age, I am 19, she is 58. I rent a room from her while I go to a university nearby. I have lived there for a year and a half and we have been lovers since the summer of 2007. It's just too amazing. ...
A. 20 February 2008: Love is beautiful.As long as your love never dies,you will see her beauty in every way.
There are no taboos unless you invent one.... (read in full...)
I'm just shy... am I being stupid?
Q. I met up with the guy I'm kinda seeing last nite, his mate was also there. Anyway, I overheard him talking to his mate that I don't listen to him when he's talking to him which I always listen, I just forget what he says sometimes and I don't mean ...
A. 20 February 2008: You are shy and he is obtuse.He does not know how to make you happy.He talks about everything to his friend, shows his inexperienced and immaturity.
He is not the right guy for you.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend can be a real bitch sometimes!
Q. I really love my girlfriend of the past year and a half and we have even talked of marriage. The problem is that whenever she gets a little bit frustrated and stressed about something (her job, waiting in a long line, etc...) she takes it out on me ...
A. 20 February 2008: She needs to de stress. There is too much stress inside of her. Get her to go to the gym or exercise and relax.
Be patient with her. It is only a temporary phase.If you understand her, then it should not be an issue.... (read in full...)
Is there a happy-medium when it comes to porn?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend had a porn addiction in the past after I had fallen in love with him and been with him for over a year. I couldn't stand it and we fought and he did it a lot less. He only got "sucked in" because he got them in his ...
A. 20 February 2008: There will always be conflicts in relationships.
It is a matter of solving them in a rational and matured way. It is unavoidable and it can strengthened the bonds.
You do not judge and act like God and demand everything your way. Only childi... (read in full...)
Does he WANT to see me or not?
Q. Ok so I feel like maybe my boyfriend doesn't want to see me. Please tell me your thoughts about what he said. I usually vist him during his work break a few times a week right and today I saw him and he said 'you can come visit me tomorrow if you w...
A. 20 February 2008: He does not like to see you but he is being polite to you and you cannot get his real meanings.
If you want to go , it is your decision. Whether you go or not , it is not his concern. That is his message to you.
Either you go or don't go , he... (read in full...)
Should he pay for this pregnancy termination?
Q. I had a pregnancy termination last week as my partner and I agreed we are not ready to bring a child into the world. We have been together over a year. The contraceptive failure was my mistake (forgot to take the pill for a couple of days) and he ...
A. 20 February 2008: Maybe, he thinks it is your fault and you are liable for that payment.
He should offer to pay for the job if he is genuinely in love with you .Even if he has no money , he can give you a promise to pay when he has the cash.
He treats you like ... (read in full...)
Should I risk my marriage for the girl at work??
Q. I'm a married man but there I'm tempted to cheat on my wife with a gorgeous brunette in my office. Shes cute, funny and has a gorgeous bum. The only problem she has a serious boyfriend and I'm married. She flirts with me and I flirt back, we h...
A. 20 February 2008: The lips of another woman is sweet
but the fruits is bitter .
Can you eat the bitter fruit when your wife finds out?... (read in full...)
I am inviting even the persons I dislike as I wouldn't like to exclude them, but I fear they will ruin my party!
Q. It's my birthday next week! I'm excited, but i'm worried these girls are gonna ruin my party - I don't want to hurt my mum but the film we're gonno watch at the cinema looks crap (Underdog) has anyone heard of it, is it OK? This is my first party a...
A. 20 February 2008: Don't worry , your party will be fine. It is not the school environment and it will be different.... (read in full...)
How do I show him that he isn't "sick" for dating me, despite of our considerable age difference?
Q. Alright, So I have been in and out of a relationship with this man who is 33 years older than me. I'm 21, 22 next month. I have a great time with him and he is one of my best friends. I'm very attracted to him and we have alot of things in common. ...
A. 20 February 2008: You cannot change a person.He is born that way and his mind thinks that way.It is like the roots of a tree, if he is bent or crooked , you cannot make it straight.
You may try but it would be futile exercise.
Only true love covers a multitu... (read in full...)
I love my sister-in-law, what should I do??
Q. I'm 18 years old and I fatasize over my 24 year old sister-in-law. Shes married to my 28 year old brother. I want her so bad and I don't know what to do about it. I think she likes me, but I don't really know. help! What should I do?...
A. 20 February 2008: You are courting trouble if you do that. Kill that desire in you . If you cannot , I suggest you move out from that place. ... (read in full...)
I'm just curious what you all think would be a nice way to tell him to stop without disgusting him. "Stop, I'm bleeding," doesn't seem to quite cut it.
Q. I'm on my period and the guy I've recently started seeing has tried to make a move. I'm just curious what you all think would be a nice way to tell him to stop without disgusting him. "Stop, I'm bleeding," doesn't seem to quite cut it. Since it's ...
A. 20 February 2008: You can tell him,
the strawberries is in season .
the red tide is coming in.
Cleaning in progress.
out of order.
Gremlins making jams.
I ate too much tomatoes and ketchups.
If he cannot understand then tell him in plain and si... (read in full...)
I really love him and don't want to loose him but don't want to be his lifetime girlfriend.
Q. I'm 21, almost 22. I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. We had been friends for 5 years before we started dating. I'm at the point in my life where I am ready to get married and have a family. I keep seeing my friends get married or engaged ...
A. 20 February 2008: Give him a time frame and then if he does not change, then you have to leave him and look for someone who is in the marriage market.
Your biological clock is ticking but his has not started yet.... (read in full...)
I feel embarassed to go to social occasions with my bf, fearing something bad may happen!
Q. The man i am dating sometimes proposes me to go out to social occasions where we will meet a lot other people, some of them are friends. Although i am happy for that, i often feel very embarrased and think that bad things will happen to those social ...
A. 20 February 2008: It maybe your phobia of meeting people and afraid of them speaking about your relationship with him.
What is there to fear? Do you do anything wrong?
... (read in full...)
How do I explain to people at work that I was the "third wheel" without knowing it? I feel humiliated!
Q. I am in my early 30s. I met this guy at work, everyone was trying to hook us up together because we came from the same country. He asked me out, and I went. we talked; we turned out to have a lot in common.. He then ignored me for a few days, and ...
A. 20 February 2008: You were not privy to those info's but now you know and stopped going out with him. It is not your fault and don't blame yourself for it.
Maybe , he was just trying to be friendly and to know more about you.... (read in full...)
Why does he want to end it....? Is he afraid of being hurt??
Q. I love my boyfriend and he loves me. He cried and told me he is jealous when i go out with my friend(male), now he want to end our relationship. Could you tell me why and is he afraid of being hurt?...
A. 20 February 2008: You are not his type. He does not like girls going out with other males.
He cannot control you and so denies his love for you.... (read in full...)
I feel like he is pulling away and he does little to reassure me...any advice??
Q. Hi, I'm 27 and dating D for 7months now. He's 31. We got together within 2 weeks of knowing each other and so far it's ok, though we have some personality and habit clashes. Recently I feel as if he's pulling away, and I told him I feel that I a...
A. 20 February 2008: Seems like you two are not compatible with each other. Maybe , he is not the one for you.... (read in full...)
She says it wasn't cheating because they weren't formally back together. Is she right??
Q. Is this considered cheating? My friend and his girlfriend were going through a tough time, and decided to take a break...the break literally lasted a day and they were back hugging and kissing and everything...then one late night, she looks at him a...
A. 20 February 2008: She feels technically she is right as she makes her own rules.She is not married to him nor have any contracts.
Morally , she is in the wrong . You can interpret anyway you want but she did slept with another guy. That is a fact you cannot c... (read in full...)
Is there any exercises I can do to make my chest size smaller??
Q. Hello everyone I am 16 years old I weigh 136 pounds and I am 5''2 my chest size is 36C I really feel uncomfortable about my chest size I think its too big for me..I'm always wearing sweaters to hide my chest..I just don't like my chest..I always ...
A. 20 February 2008: Go on a diet and exercise. It will reduce your overall size and they should look smaller.... (read in full...)
His ex tries to sabotage his relationships. Is it worth salvaging?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks. We've been out once and really hit it off. the conversation is wonderful. His personality is great. This past weekend we were not able to go out because he was with his ex-wife who is still madly ...
A. 20 February 2008: He is piqued and a tit for tat.
Just stay calm , be patient and wait till the fish swims back into your pond.... (read in full...)
We used to treat each other with little respect and now I get butterflies whenever he comes near me! Why??
Q. A bit of a shallow question I know and I feel really bad asking about it. Theres this guy I work with. Never been attracted to him. In fact we have a bit of history or "not getting on." As I've said, never found him attractive, but lately we ...
A. 20 February 2008: Your dislikes has turned to admiration and love.You now see him differently. There goes your new feelings ..
You got on a wrong start and now you see him in the proper perspective.... (read in full...)
I dream my girl cheated on me, am I being paranoid?
Q. i recently had a dream of my girlfriend cheating on me. and in the past i have always been very reluctant to trust any girl that i have been with, including my current girlfriend. we have been together for nearly 16 months now, and no strong trust ...
A. 20 February 2008: You think too much and you are insecure. Your subconscious picks up your feelings.
Don't read too much into those dreams. they are just dreams.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my second cousin that I love him?
Q. I have a small problem. I know this great guy, and I see him every summer because we live in different states. I began to have feelings for him 2 years ago but brushed it off as nothing. But then I saw a year later and I fell for him, hard. I can't ...
A. 20 February 2008: It is just a phase in your life. You will grow out of it.Better to keep those thoughts to yourself or write them into your diary or journals.
Keep your mind focus on other things and you will soon forget about him.... (read in full...)
We flirted, we messaged... but it's dull! How can I make this more interesting?
Q. Hello I've met a girl through a "meet me" application on the internet. I've started messaging her, but how can I make it more interesting? I don't want her to find me boring just because of how we're e-mailing. Basically, I "sent her a flirt" and...
A. 20 February 2008: If she is right for you , you will clicked right away.If you only can send boring messages then she may not be the one for you.
You are both the same kind.It takes a different kind to bring out the best from you.... (read in full...)
I opened my heart in a letter, now I feel like a fool!
Q. I wrote a girl a letter this past week telling her how special she meant to me. Considering she hasn't written back, I'm assuming she must be freaking out. I am such an Idiot!!! For once, I've decided to pour out my heart to someone I like and ...
A. 20 February 2008: You just sit tight and do nothing until you get a response from her. Do not write to her until you know where she stands on this issue.
You need to make sure, your letter was received by her and not lost in the mail or got misplaced.... (read in full...)
She went off birth control without telling me, now she's pregnant!
Q. My wife and I had talked about waiting to have kids for at least one more year. Well, on the day of love feb 14th she dropped the bomb on me that she was pregnant and that she went off birth control without telling me. She says she didn't think she ...
A. 20 February 2008: Being pregnant does not mean you will have a kid. It takes nine months and anything can happen from now till then.
If it is her first time , she carries more risk of miscarriage.
Pray for her and the baby .The Lord has brought forward your bab... (read in full...)
I opened my heart in a letter, now I feel like a fool!
Q. I wrote a girl a letter this past week telling her how special she meant to me. Considering she hasn't written back, I'm assuming she must be freaking out. I am such an Idiot!!! For once, I've decided to pour out my heart to someone I like and ...
A. 19 February 2008: It could come as a shock to her and it may take time for it to sink into her mind.
You need to give her more time to reply.
Be patient and have faith. Your reply will be coming soon.... (read in full...)
She went off birth control without telling me, now she's pregnant!
Q. My wife and I had talked about waiting to have kids for at least one more year. Well, on the day of love feb 14th she dropped the bomb on me that she was pregnant and that she went off birth control without telling me. She says she didn't think she ...
A. 19 February 2008: You may have a hard time forgiving her but when the baby comes into this world, you will forget all about it.
Babies are a blessings...
Whatever happens, you cannot change the course of history.If you cannot fight against it , better join her ... (read in full...)
Is there a happy-medium when it comes to porn?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend had a porn addiction in the past after I had fallen in love with him and been with him for over a year. I couldn't stand it and we fought and he did it a lot less. He only got "sucked in" because he got them in his ...
A. 19 February 2008: You need to be reasonable. You cannot just say stop .Period!
You need to understand he has needs too even if you don't agree.
What if you reversed the scenario and he tells you to stop your girlie things you do ,like going to the hair dresser... (read in full...)
I need some encouragement to move on from a 6 year relationship...
Q. Need some encouragement to move on from a 6 year relationship with a man I still love. I'm 43 He's 46.. Talked of marriage in the past, lived with him for 3 years out of the 6 years. Living by myself now. My kids are grown, raised them by myself. ...
A. 8 February 2008: You took the separation very well but he took it very badly. He is hurt and that is why he behaved that way. Just leave that incident behind. There is no need to dwell on it anymore. He is not sporting and a sore loser.He will regret those actions ... (read in full...)
I need some encouragement to move on from a 6 year relationship...
Q. Need some encouragement to move on from a 6 year relationship with a man I still love. I'm 43 He's 46.. Talked of marriage in the past, lived with him for 3 years out of the 6 years. Living by myself now. My kids are grown, raised them by myself. ...
A. 30 January 2008: It is obvious from what you wrote that not only is he not satisfied with what he has or appreciate you but you too have the same malady.
Both of you have very strong drive and it is pulling your relationship in opposite directions. Both of you a... (read in full...)
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