Why did the gym instructor give me such a reduced rate? Was he just trying to get into my pants?
Q. So the other day I went to the gym and asked one of the trainers there how much he charges for personal training. We've talked a couple times, and he did an assessment on me back when I first got my membership. I think he's so cute, except I'm 16 ...
A. 12 March 2013: Nobody said he wasn't checking you out, but giving you a "discount" was just business. Either way if he's in his 30's he's most likely not interested in anything more than looking at your butt in yoga pants. ... (read in full...)
I thought I was gay but I'm attracted to this girl..is it just a one time thing?
Q. I'm a 19 year old guy. I've assumed I was gay since I was about 13. I tried to fight it at first because there was a stigma to being gay, but eventually I grew to accept it and had gay relationships and it really wasn't an issue anymore. But ...
A. 11 March 2013: Go with it. There is too many variations in sexuality to have labels that apply to everyone. Just see where it takes you. I'm what I would consider 100% straight and would never consider sexual contact with a man (but I'm not afraid to give a... (read in full...)
My husband's friendship with a co-worker has escalated. Now that I know he wants to still stay friends with her. I said no. Am I wrong?
Q. My husband's friendship with a co-worker has escalated to kissing and pet names and intimate vocabulary via emails. We recently became friends as couples and have enjoy their company on a few occasions. Upon noticing unusual private conversa...
A. 11 March 2013: Hell no you're not wrong! He should be offering to switch jobs to get away from her!
By the way, you need to confront the likelihood that they had sex; it's very possible that he was trying to salvage things by minimizing what he'd done. When lia... (read in full...)
She masturbated... without me!
Q. Should I be upset about this? Basically, my girlfriend and I had not had sex for almost 5 days. While we had never really agreed to not masturbate before our next time in bed, we had talked about doing something like that before. (We have sex a ...
A. 11 March 2013: Yes, you were being selfish. ... (read in full...)
broke up with my boyfriend but he is still acting like one.
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years about a month ago. He was jealous, controlling, he was lazy and lives with his mother. I was young at the start of the relationship so I was spoon fed everything he told me. I was young and silly so I flashed ...
A. 11 March 2013: The other advice was good, so I'd just like to add that the solution is as easy as sending him a message on Facebook that thanks him for the memories but tells him that it's become obvious that friendship between the two of you is out of the ... (read in full...)
I just want to find a girl for myself. Is this not possible?
Q. I have been trying to find someone to be with for the last six years and sadly it has never worked out. I have tried dating several females during this time but it never seems to go right,I caught the first girl cheating on me with four other ...
A. 11 March 2013: Are you a pushover? It sounds like you may be too much of a "nice guy" and people may be taking advantage of that fact.
I don't mean start being a jerk, but don't be so nice that women think they can get away with anything.
Also, why wou... (read in full...)
After being together for years I find out something about my wife that has shaken my trust in her to the core! I don't know how to deal with this
Q. 13 years ago, I met a wonderful woman in University who has now been my wife for 8 years. We have kids (with another on the way) and are happy however recently, during a discussion she elaborated on a story of how she hooked with one of her past ...
A. 11 March 2013: I don't see a problem here. Expecting her to tell you something like that is like expecting her to announce to you that her anus itches.
It's personal information and has no bearing on your relationship, not to mention it would make you think of... (read in full...)
I want to break up with him. How can I manage this situation when he's threatened to harm himself if I break up with him?
Q. so there is this guy that i dated for a few months and i honestly cant seem to get over my ex (before him) , the new guy doesnt realize i no longer wanna be with him i told him over and over again but he thinks im just messing around he doesnt ...
A. 11 March 2013: While 99% of people are simply being manipulative when they make threats like this, it is important to take his threats a little bit more seriously than you would if you knew for a fact he was bluffing. If for no other reason than his possible death ... (read in full...)
Would you continue with a guy after he told you he has genital herpes?
Q. So if you meet a guy that your falling in love someone you can see yourself with for a long time...would you still be with him after he told you he has gental herpes? Just need your thoughts and honest answer I don't want to be shallow because he is ...
A. 11 March 2013: What someone else would do shouldn't matter, you need to make the decision for yourself.
First of all, even if you use protection you can still transfer the virus. Although I believe that if he's taking medication to prevent outbreaks that it'... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for a man who is sexually "broken"?
Q. Ok. Here it goes. I'm 30 and have never been in any sort of relationship with a woman. I keep to myself mostly and don't really enjoy going out and doing much of anything. I've been feeling very lonely lately and it's been getting worse. It's ...
A. 11 March 2013: You come fast because you've never needed to slow down and enjoy it before. You've been training yourself to come fast.
And you're right, you don't have anything to offer a woman. Do you know why? Because you believe you don't. Your lack of confi... (read in full...)
Do guys even like small boobs?
Q. Hi. I'm 15 and my boobs are really small. Like 34A. I get teased about it a lot and I feel really bad about how I look. ?? Do guys even like small boobs? Why do they like big ones so much anyways? ...
A. 11 March 2013: The whole big boobs things is actually more instinct than preference. Larger boobs indicate that a woman will be more able to feed children even if times are rough.
I admit that big boobs do something for me. However its not that there is anyth... (read in full...)
Do you have to look like a porn star to get your boyfriend to masturbate over you?
Q. I've heard some men masturbate over their own girlfriends. Some don't. Do you have to look like a pornstar and be really hot before your boyfriend will masturbate to thoughts of you instead of porn?...
A. 11 March 2013: This question is kind of crazy. Of course you don't have to look like a porn star. In fact most men prefer a normal woman, not the fake porn star look.
I also think masturbating to your girlfriend is fine, but you shouldn't be on a mission ... (read in full...)
Why did the gym instructor give me such a reduced rate? Was he just trying to get into my pants?
Q. So the other day I went to the gym and asked one of the trainers there how much he charges for personal training. We've talked a couple times, and he did an assessment on me back when I first got my membership. I think he's so cute, except I'm 16 ...
A. 11 March 2013: It's a sales technique that appears to have worked. ... (read in full...)
My crush is not fading, time is not helping! What can I do?
Q. i had a huge crush on a girl. she is very beautiful. maybe thats the reason. also i dont have many female friends and she was the only one i could talk to so...i guess it was certain. anyway i tried t do something. i flirted with her many times. i...
A. 10 March 2013: A lot of guys think that if they are nice to a girl that she's going to fall for them. That's not even remotely how it works and if you don't get that soon, you're going to be a lonely guy.
You not only have to show your interest but you need to ... (read in full...)
I feel like one of my best pals no longer needs me. What is the best way to deal with this?
Q. Hi. I feel like one of my best pals doesn't need me anymore and couldn't care less about me. Since he's had his new gf neither me nor any of our mates have really seen him. At first I understood this as at the start of a relationship you...
A. 10 March 2013: He's whooped; give it time. When they break up hopefully you guys can pick up where you left off. ... (read in full...)
My wife makes me feel inadequate and I'm not sure its worth it to continue going on
Q. After everything I've been through, I decided to keep going with my wife. After Christmas, we kept fighting and she thought it was ok to take her anger out on me by smashing things in the home and destroying my property. It all came to a halt when ...
A. 10 March 2013: BTW don't let her mess with your head, this person seems capable of anything. Run and don't look back, even if she starts being nice. She's only doing it to con you. ... (read in full...)
My wife makes me feel inadequate and I'm not sure its worth it to continue going on
Q. After everything I've been through, I decided to keep going with my wife. After Christmas, we kept fighting and she thought it was ok to take her anger out on me by smashing things in the home and destroying my property. It all came to a halt when ...
A. 10 March 2013: Jesus, this is a complete and utter disaster! Divorce this nutcase as soon as humanly possible. Cancel her immigration application if you want to; but not only is she using you for immigration (because she obviously doesn't love you) but she's being ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dropped me for her brother and now they're going to get married!
Q. Hey everyone, I have been a pretty shy guy,not because of any insecurities but that's me! I met this bold outspoken girl who brought me out my shell and I summed up courage and asked her out and she said 'ok' but we weren't exclusive and later on...
A. 10 March 2013: It's easy to get over rejection once you learn to look at it for what it is. Right now you're thinking "how could she do this to me, she didn't want to date me but she wants to marry my brother, who could ever love me? What's wrong with me?"
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a baby and I already have 2. If he spends time with my kids will he get over this?
Q. We have been together for 9 months and now my boyfriend has confessed that he wants a baby. Problem is, I already have 2, and have no inclination to have any more. My kids love him to bits. We don't live together, but do u think if he spent more ...
A. 10 March 2013: No, because they'll never be HIS kids no matter how much he cares for them. Part of wanting to have kids is selfishness, you want to have a "mini-me".
If he spends more time with your kids and they start to annoy him, THEN he may change his mind... (read in full...)
Is 2 years a long time to go without sex?
Q. I'm 25 years old and have been single for 2 years after the end of a 6 year relationship. Being single is fine, infact it's great but I haven't had sex in the last 2 years either and Im worried that my anxiety over this may prevent me from seeing ...
A. 9 March 2013: I was in a similar situation. I wanted to be single for awhile but I had lost my drive a little bit so pursuing meaningless sex wasn't my thing. I realized that when I was wanting to start dating again I felt so out of practice that it was ... (read in full...)
I don't want to have sex anymore or be touched by my boyfriend! How do I tell him?
Q. I'm stuck on how to tell my boyfriend I want to stop having sex for good. The thing is.. he grosses me out so much. And, I've also recently finally realized (through therapy) I have never enjoyed sex. I am very uncomfortable, I think about other th...
A. 8 March 2013: I know people can share love with zero intimacy, but it probably needs to be between two people who are sexual phobic. He's not, and I can't imagine him being even remotely happy with zero affection or intimacy.
Break up with him now or later, b... (read in full...)
Do men get anxious about heterosexual anal sex?
Q. I am wondering if it is common for men to get anxiety about heterosexual anal sex. I recently had it with my girlfriend for the third time and she was the one who became quite forceful about it. It freaked me out a little at the time. I thought ...
A. 8 March 2013: Don't know if it's common, but my guess is you might subconsciously feel like (I don't know how to say this nicely) she made you her b!tch.
Maybe that makes you uncomfortable and even a little scared. I've never done that before but aside fr... (read in full...)
Was it just a surprise one night stand? Or could it lead to more?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm having a bit of a dilemma. I have been single for about 9 months after a bad break up of a long term rship. I had been hung up on meeting someone but then decided not to let this be my focus and and then suddenly i started meetin...
A. 8 March 2013: If he's not local than you should be Facebook buddies that can occasionally meet up for a no strings date.
I wouldn't bother pursuing it as anything more unless he's close enough to visit frequently. ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my friend that I seen her boyfriend's profile on an online dating website?
Q. I need to know whether I should say something or just stay out of this. I was on a dating site and I saw my friend's bf on there. I made a fake profile and messaged him and he tried to pretend he didn't have a gf and asked me to hook up with him. ...
A. 7 March 2013: Of course you should tell her! ... (read in full...)
I'm married, got drunk flirted with a girl at a bar and now can't stop the feelings! Help!
Q. I'm a happily married man who loves his wife very much. Last weekend I was in a bar and flirted quite a lot with a girl. Nothing happened which given my now sober state I'm very happy about. The problem, I can't stop thinking about it or the girl. ...
A. 7 March 2013: I'm not sure that anything other than a little more time will work.
You and your wife should start learning new things together. Apparently there is a sort of chemical reaction that occurs when you learn with someone that can strengthen your bon... (read in full...)
Forced into a marriage and a year later I still don't love the man! What can I do to save the marriage?
Q. I'm 24 and I come from a very conservative christian family,and my parents forced me into marriage with this guy from the same community! I told my parents not to,they dint listen and I eventually gave up and thought may be I could love this person ...
A. 7 March 2013: Well, what I would do is to tell him the truth and get a divorce, then move away!
If you are determined to stay with him then you need to do things that will help you get over your resentment of him and help you develop feelings for him. Go on da... (read in full...)
I don't think we're suited for each other so do I just break it off now?
Q. I've just started going out with this guy, but I'm already questioning it. Something doesn't feel quite right, like we're not suited for each other. We'd met up a couple of times before and got along well, so when he asked me on a date I thought...
A. 7 March 2013: I would say that if something doesn't feel right, why make an effort. But first I have to ask, how many relationships have you had? Has this feeling happened before?
If you are pretty experienced I'd say break it off. If not you may want to give ... (read in full...)
Why does she see me as a gay friend?
Q. I have a confusing situation: I've been talking to some girl for quite some time now and I've developed a huge crush on her. We've been hanging out a little as of late, and we flirt, I tease her, I make her laugh, we connect on different levels, ...
A. 7 March 2013: That's what you get for having someone ask how she feels about you. Be more confident and women will start looking at you differently. If you're always trying to be "friends" and non-threatening you'll be stuck in the friend zone many more times.
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My husband's female friend is a bad influence on him and my family.
Q. So this is my story. I hate my husbands best female friend. I dont know what to do i need advise since he refuses to get rid of either one. How do i accept this or do i just let go of him? she use to be my friend when we were kids. But when i was ...
A. 7 March 2013: Normally I'm against ultimatums because he could easily say "you're the one that is walking away over a girl," but in this case it's about something that's not at all unreasonable. Maybe he'll see the light once you tell him you're leaving. ... (read in full...)
How do I end the relationship with a woman who has nothing?
Q. I have been with this girl for 14 years I use to love her but now it's gone. When I met her she was basically homeless living in a shelter. She has always been mentally unstable at times and I have found someone i think i love. How do i put her out ...
A. 6 March 2013: I agree with what was previously suggested. The bottom line is that she is probably going to end up homeless again, and if that happened it wouldn't be your fault. There isn't much you can do except give her a chance to get a job and find a place. ... (read in full...)
He won't tell his fan base about me or us! I'm tired of the drama.
Q. Hey everyone, Its been about 3 months now and I'm dating this guy who is a public figure and has recently shot to fame and since he's young has this huge female fan following!he hasn't been public about me,cause his PR and his entrouge think it...
A. 6 March 2013: Who cares if the public know about you? Nobody except you. So some sort of "announcement" is meaningless to the people who would be receiving it. It's not like girls would stay away from him. Let me clarify: the good ones would, the bad ones ... (read in full...)
He prefers the internet and porn over sex with me!
Q. I really need help. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend almost 4 years. When we met i thought i found my dream guy. He spends a lot of time on internet. We had sex but very seldom. But he stoped having sex with the exuses not to make me ...
A. 6 March 2013: What should you do? If you get an answer other than "leave him" I'll be surprised.
Look, you need to understand what the purpose of dating is, maybe that will help you come to the decision on your own.
Our lives only last for so long. Waiting... (read in full...)
Was it just a surprise one night stand? Or could it lead to more?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm having a bit of a dilemma. I have been single for about 9 months after a bad break up of a long term rship. I had been hung up on meeting someone but then decided not to let this be my focus and and then suddenly i started meetin...
A. 6 March 2013: It's hard to say until you meet each other sober. I've had many a drunken romance (not necessarily with sex) and in the morning I just feel like the connection was lost with the alcohol. I usually don't bother contacting them after that, or if I do ... (read in full...)
Is it a red flag that my 33 year old boyfriend likes to hang out with a 21 year old girl?
Q. My boyfriend is 33 and I am 27. We have been together for 3+ years and our relationship is pretty strong. But, he befriends people much younger and hangs out with one 21 year girl old in particular. Is this a red flag? He wouldn't cheat, but I ...
A. 6 March 2013: It's unusual, but I don't think it's a red flag. I recently started going back to school in my mid thirties and have made friends with some women in their lower 20's. We get along on some level that's fun, nothing more than that. ... (read in full...)
It took him 14 months to tell me he loves me! Should I be concerned?
Q. Hi All, Its taken by boyfriend 14 months to fall in love and tell me. Is this normal and should I be concerned that its taken him so long? Thank you x...
A. 6 March 2013: Would you prefer it if he said I love you within a week or two? ... (read in full...)
My husband's female friend is a bad influence on him and my family.
Q. So this is my story. I hate my husbands best female friend. I dont know what to do i need advise since he refuses to get rid of either one. How do i accept this or do i just let go of him? she use to be my friend when we were kids. But when i was ...
A. 6 March 2013: Yeah, I agree with the first comment. This chick is none of your business whatsoever. She has no obligation to behave a certain way. Either does your husband for that matter. He's a free man, and if he wants to be hanging out at their house that's ... (read in full...)
My parents do not want me to see my little sister and she forgot who I was.
Q. I've been around my sister everyday since she was born in 2008, when I was 9. But when my dad came back into my life when I was 13 and got custody of me after 4 months I moved in with him. I visited my sister a couple of times a week and some ...
A. 6 March 2013: That sucks.
Why would your dad not let you visit? Is your mom dangerous or something? I'm surprised your mom wouldn't want to see you. This is so complicated that it's hard to answer.
Maybe you remind your mother of your dad and she can't st... (read in full...)
She says she's not interested in him, but I don't trust the guy.
Q. I have been dating my current girlfriend for 4 months! Mostly terrific except one thing. She has a male personal trainer/ friend she has known for 15 years. They seem to communicate frequently but never in front of me. She has other male friends ...
A. 6 March 2013: Do you trust your girlfriend? You're not in a relationship with him so you don't need to trust him.
I also second what llifton said. ... (read in full...)
Is he no longer interested after the last awkward phone call?
Q. What has happened? I'm in medical school and it's really difficult to find guys that i'm interested in and that are also interested in me, not just for sex. I met this guy online and we were talking for a while and then I met him in person. ...
A. 6 March 2013: My wife is a native Spanish speaker, and to me it seems like she speaks great English, she sometimes is waaaay to self conscious about it. I can't tell you how many arguments its started because of her sensitivity.
Unfortunately I don't have a s... (read in full...)
My friend is not talking after he got fired. Is he embarrassed?
Q. My friend from work got fired an I miss him. We would talk everyday at lunch and got on really well, then he got sacked I didn't hear about it straight away as I was on holiday but a week later a friend said he sent him a message asking him to pass ...
A. 6 March 2013: He's most likely embarrassed, possibly both. You should think of something nice to say in an email that indicates that you would still like to be friends.
He could be a little depressed or stressed, so maybe you should ask if he'd like to go fo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me a hypocrite for watching porn
Q. So I'm a horn dog. I like sex and enjoy masturbation. My boyfriend is the opposite from me. He enjoys pleasure however does not want to do it often. I tell him I don't want him watching porn, However I watched it yesterday night and he caught me. He ...
A. 6 March 2013: Since someone else got the scolding out of the way, I'd like to partially address your question.... In a second.
First of all, you should use this as an opportunity to think about how you treat your boyfriend. You do realize what you did was wron... (read in full...)
I moved in with him after one month, realized it's a mistake then moved out. . .
Q. I've been going out with my bf for 5 months. He is 31 and I'm 30. I am his first gf. We have lived together for the last 4 months. I know we rushed and moved in too soon. During this time he lost his job and i only work part time... So we ended up ...
A. 6 March 2013: "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" is a true a statement as any. Give him the space he wants but be sure to make the moments you have count.
The reason moving in so quickly is a bad idea is for one reason only: living with someone can be diffi... (read in full...)
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