He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?
Q. I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after ...
A. 25 March 2013: I think you're over thinking things, too. Maybe you have a fast metabolism or something, but I'd suggest just taking it slow and going with the flow for the time being.
Not everything has a meaning. Sometimes people don't feel good, sometime... (read in full...)
Should I talk to him about our cuddling while we slept in the same bed?
Q. I have a friend that I have known for 3 years we almost dated once, but chose to be friends and its made our friendship pretty strong. The other night I was visiting him at his house and he told me I could sleep over if I want. I made the choice to ...
A. 18 March 2013: Whomever came up with that title really dropped the ball!
Anyways my guess is that he likes you enough to be receptive to talking about it. The worst that would happen is he'll tell you he's not ready for a relationship with anyone.
The bes... (read in full...)
Is my friend Gay
Q. I have a friend and we went for classes together and became great friends. She told me she was dating a guy named D and loves him but turns out that she was never dating him. Once I asked her if she found me more attractive than him, she said sh...
A. 18 March 2013: It sounds like you're asking if she's gay because you're interested in her. It can be awkward to talk about such things, especially in high school. I think it's safe to say she's "confused" at the least. Talk with her about it and remind her that ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to him about our cuddling while we slept in the same bed?
Q. I have a friend that I have known for 3 years we almost dated once, but chose to be friends and its made our friendship pretty strong. The other night I was visiting him at his house and he told me I could sleep over if I want. I made the choice to ...
A. 18 March 2013: Whether or not to talk with him about it is totally dependant on what you're trying to accomplish. Do you want a FWB arrangement? Do you want a relationship? Do you want him to not have feelings for you?
I had a friend who I really liked more tha... (read in full...)
Spends his money on gifts for himself before my Birthday and then he is broke
Q. I know it is wrong to have expectations of one's spouse. I am a big believer in the philosophy that our expectations determine our own happiness. I am trying to work on myself when it comes to this concept and even my therapist agrees with me that ...
A. 18 March 2013: I think you are misunderstanding the whole "expectations" thing. I believe that what you're saying is correct to some extent, but expectations are a critical part of all relationships.
For example if my wife didn't expect anything from me I'd m... (read in full...)
I know I have to move on, alone with my child. Because I stayed with him before and my child was taken away. How Do I find the strength to move on?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years and I have had more hurtful situation occur than any one couple ever should. At 2 months our daughter was removed from our custody. It was caused from him drinking and my choosing to stay with him. We together tried to get...
A. 18 March 2013: Planned parenthood has free birth control, fyi. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want to go down on me
Q. My boyfriend doesn't want to go down on me. We have been physical for about 3 months. He loves having sex and always wants me to go down on him. I do because I enjoy it and want to make him happy. But he won't return the favor. I only got him to do ...
A. 18 March 2013: Start by telling him that it's important that he returns the favor and that without oral you feel like something is missing. That'll start the conversation.
If, after that, he still refuses, you can do the same. ... (read in full...)
Will I ever meet the right man?
Q. I have been single for a year now. My ex boyfriend of five years left me for someone else. Since the break up I have not dated anyone. I'm starting to feel their is no one out there for me. I've waited patiently for the right man to appear seems he ...
A. 18 March 2013: A year is not a very long time. If you start convincing yourself that there must be something wrong with you, there will be something wrong with you.
Be patient, and make sure you're out doing things where you can meet people.
I had a long ... (read in full...)
I broke up with him in the hopes that he would realize he still loved me if he felt he was losing me, should I have been more patient?
Q. I'm unsure if I made a huge mistake or if it is just my mind playing games with me. I had been with my boyfriend for two and a half years. I moved to Florida a year ago so one out of those two years and a half were long distance. At first it wa...
A. 18 March 2013: Wow, you have taken game playing to a whole new level. But apparently you're not ready for this level of game playing, hence the misery you feel.
This may sound too simple but I'd recommend communication. I know, he should be able to read your min... (read in full...)
How do we motivate the crowd when we rap?
Q. How do I go with this?? Well am a rapper and me and my friend rap a lot, single I rap in my school with my school friends and peeps scream he also does that in his school too. Well lately we have both been rapping together and we got crowd in a ...
A. 18 March 2013: Don't you think that there are better places to ask this question? Why don't you watch live performances on YouTube and see what you like and what people seem to respond to? ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to for me to kiss her goodbye? Is that going too far?
Q. So I am in love with my best friend. She knows this, but she can't let herself like me because she has a BF that goes to a different college. I've told her that before we get out for summer break (Which is a full 4 months) I will kiss her goodbye. ...
A. 18 March 2013: Don't be a loser. Being in love with a girl under the guise of friendship is lame enough, but ignoring her simple statement that she's not interested in you to go for a kiss which she doesn't want is even worse.
How about you go find a girl you... (read in full...)
Guys, would it be selfish to get in touch with him to apologize for the things I'm sorry I did?
Q. I would really be interested if any guys could answer this one, I was seeing a man on and off for a few months, and he made it clear he was unable to commit any further than a casual relationship. I have children, he does not, and he continua...
A. 18 March 2013: I think that there's no way to know how he'd react. To be honest with you, if a girl from my past did this I wouldn't really care. However, if he still thinks about how you treated him than it might be good for him to hear you apologize.
... (read in full...)
Should I just let her go? I feel like everything is one sided and I can't sleep or work right
Q. so here is the story reader digest version. 3.5 years together First year of the relationship apart (no problems) Moved into together in year 2 lived with each no problems. The place we were living, girlfriend said she didn't see us raising a...
A. 17 March 2013: You're hanging on to your relationship for what it was, not what it is. If you feel like you've done everything you can and you just don't feel like going through this anymore, then your relationship has run its course. Time to move on to better ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my friend mapping her life out with the first boy she's ever dated
Q. I'm really worried about my best-friend, because for about six months now she has been dating this guy. I do have to say that it is the most stupid relationship that I have seen, they never go out on dates, have never kissed, and spend most of the t...
A. 17 March 2013: Don't worry, they'll break up soon.... (read in full...)
My b/f doesn't want to go on facebook and say we are back together or give me his password to it. This troubles me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. A couple of months ago we broke up for about one month, then decided that wasn't the right decision and have gotten back together. Well, there is a problem that has been bothering me a ...
A. 16 March 2013: I think you are over reacting to your boyfriend's desire for privacy.
I'm married and wouldn't give my wife my password and I've never cheated. Just like if a cop wanted to search my car I'd tell him to go to hell. ... (read in full...)
He deleted my mom from his Facebook friends and she wants us to break up because of that and some other stuff!
Q. I started dating this guy a month ago everything was going great, we had a few problems but we got through them. My mom added him on Facebook and things was good until she started commenting on almost all his status's asking what they meant, who ...
A. 15 March 2013: Sounds like your mom is a real piece of work. Do what YOU want and don't let your manipulative mom have any say. Her opinions are obviously based in a different world than yours.
He deleted her because she was annoying, plain and simple. ... (read in full...)
Is my husband bisexual?
Q. I recently found out my husband cheated on me through the casual encounters section of craigslist. He met with three people. The first was a transsexual prostitute, he paid for this person to give him oral sex. The second person he met with was a ...
A. 15 March 2013: He sounds 100% straight to me!
Look, whatever his sexual orientation is, it probably can't be neatly labeled. "Tranny liking strap-on loving want to be dominated don't care who does it" doesn't have the ring that 'bisexual' does.
He's ob... (read in full...)
Negative responses about breast implants have me questioning what I should do about my body!
Q. I've asked this question before and had some good responses, but I just read another reply to another post and this involved the respondent saying that "as long as she doesn't have breast implants"...in relation to her partner finding another women ...
A. 15 March 2013: I'm balding but I don't let women who don't like a full head of hair bother me. It's called PERSONAL PREFERENCE. I've never had a hard time attracting women, they're just the type that don't care about that type of thing. ... (read in full...)
Should I leave him or stay because I have had enough of him!
Q. I have been in a LDR with my bf n have been together for about 4years now.im from another province from his.So i started stayin with him this year. Things have been very hard for me coz he would choose to go watch soccer at night and leave me alone...
A. 14 March 2013: There's never any reason to stay with someone who makes you unhappy, especially if you feel like you've done your best to make it work (if it's even worth doing your best). ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not open up to me!
Q. My boyfriend of 14 months won't open up to me and it's getting me very upset. Last night I knew something was troubling him and he told me to leave it. I proceeded to question him and he says it's personal and he doesn't want me to know. This ...
A. 14 March 2013: He has every right to keep certain things to himself; stop bugging him about it. You can either learn to accept the way he is or break up with him and find someone who you're more compatible with. BUT, trying to nag him into changing will not work ... (read in full...)
Did he decide to just cut me out of his life and not tell me?
Q. hey everyone... well i know you probably heard this a lot but I want your honest opinion.. well i am 18 and have been talkin to this for about 7 months now.. we go to the same school but he acutally left the school since he had to finish his cre...
A. 14 March 2013: I'm sure you'll here from him and he'll have a good reason for not calling you. But there's no way for anyone to answer your questions but him. ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of getting back with an ex but he will not tell his FWB that its over
Q. I had been dating a guy from work for about 5 months when I broke up with him. I broke up with him because he wasn't treating me the way I deserved to be treated - lying to me, not making me a priority, not being there for me when I needed him, etc. ...
A. 14 March 2013: I think you were over reacting. He said it was over between them. Having to call and make it official would be embarrassing to say the least because she would know exactly where the call was really coming from (you).
The real issue is that whe... (read in full...)
I ended our relationship because I feel g/f was a little too close to her trainer friend. Was I right?
Q. My girlfriend has a friend that is a personal trainer that she has known for 15 years. She states that she has no romantic interest or physical attraction for him. Yet she fields numerous texts, emails and phone calls per week. He is a confident ...
A. 14 March 2013: As Cerubus said, you are correct simply because it bothered you. If you broke up with her because her poop stunk, you'd still be correct and have the right to find a woman with poop that smells like roses.
That's the great thing about dating; ... (read in full...)
6 years and he has never seen me naked
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years and I have never let him see me naked. As you can guess, it is starting to take its toll and it is seriously affecting our relationship. The reason for myself feeling this way is that I am completely ...
A. 14 March 2013: It's not like he doesn't know. All you're doing is making yourself feel comfortable at the expense of his sexual satisfaction, because after 6 years HE KNOWS.
You have two options here: learn to live with your body or get implants. Avoiding... (read in full...)
How do I get my manager away from the competition?
Q. I work in the restaurant business. My district manager comes to our store a lot He's been flirty with me until this new girl Got there she's not any hotter than I am. A co worker said we look like sisters. She's my competition.. he still flirts...
A. 14 March 2013: Wear something that shows more boobs. ... (read in full...)
My Gf has a friend. I'd like to spend cozy moments with her friend. Can I do this successfully and not hurt my Gf?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for two years. But I'm attracted to her friend and I feel like going out with her friend to share cozy moments. I don't want to hurt my gf but at the same time I want to spend time with her friend. Help!! What ...
A. 14 March 2013: You have two choices here:
Stop being selfish because you'll probably lose your girlfriend.
Or, be honest with yourself, that you don't want to be monogamous, and tell your girlfriend that you'd like to have an open relationship.
... (read in full...)
Are there guys that wait till marriage?
Q. Are there virgin guys out there that want to wait till marriage with someone they really love? I feel very disappointed and alone when all I see is jerky guys and pregnant teens. People are so slutty and cold hearted these days. ...
A. 14 March 2013: It's like when people say "hair plugs look totally fake, I can see them from a mile away." But, the truth is that you only THINK you can see them all because you don't see the ones that look real.
My point is that you have it in your head tha... (read in full...)
Is it selfish to remain single for life and not believe in love?
Q. I'm a 20 year old female who has resorted to wanting to remain a virgin and stay single for life. Although I've never been in a relationship, they just do not appeal to me. Because of my slight insecurities with myself (naturally lanky, no curves ...
A. 14 March 2013: It sounds like you're asexual. It's not common, but it's not unheard of. As long as you're happy then why would there be a problem?
As to whether or not it's selfish; I'd say it is but only technically, as are most decisions related to love/rel... (read in full...)
Should I sue my US wife for defamation from Pakistan?
Q. 8 Months ago, I got married to a US citizen in Pakistan. While Spouse visa petition was in final stage. We picked up a fight and now she wants divorce. If she doesn't come to Pakistan and I don't go to US, me and my family will face embarrassing ...
A. 14 March 2013: A court in Pakistan has no authority in the US, and you'd have no case is the US if you were somehow able to sue her here.
Sooooo, you'll just have to get over it. Find a local woman for better luck. LDR's are difficult. ... (read in full...)
Need self-confidence to lose weight
Q. Hello friends my question isn't really a relationship question but how can I lose weight? I feel very depressed about my weight but I can't seem to lose any weight I have tried many methods but nothing seems to work. I feel like in stuck in a rut. ...
A. 14 March 2013: Nobody is going to laugh at you, let's just get that fear out of the way right now.
Losing weight is EXTREMELY easy.
Eat whole foods and be active.
That's it.
Don't worry about dieting, just eat real food and you'll be okay. That me... (read in full...)
I cheated, got back together with boyfriend. Does he need to know if I had used condoms?
Q. I recently got back together with my ex-boyfriend. We both realized that we loved each other and after trying to date other people we decided to give it another shot. The first time we broke up was because I had cheated on him, so he has been trying ...
A. 14 March 2013: He has the right to know and you have the right not to tell him.
I'm sure he's asking because he wants to know if you are a sexually responsible person. ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him? He tried to force himself on me, but I refused. Does he love me or is he just interested in sex?
Q. I'm 22 plus my boyfriend is 27plus we had been dating getting to 4 years now we both love each other but now I can't tell if he still loves me. Any time I pay him visit now he does things that I felt are not right for us. Now like touching my...
A. 13 March 2013: You should have provided more details if you wanted better answers. Have you guys ever had sex? Is he allowed to touch your breasts under any circumstances? Either way, whether he's doing anything wrong or not just break up with him. You two ... (read in full...)
I've decided I don't want to meet him. Not after his nasty remarks. How do I tell him this? And confirm that I only want to be friends?
Q. Ok, so, please don't judge. I've seemed to have gotten myself into a really bad situation. I want to give a brief story on how I met this guy, and what my problem is now. I met this guy online years ago. I was then 12, he was 13, and we became re...
A. 13 March 2013: You really have no choice but to end things, including any friendship, permanently. Meeting him would be a horrible idea! And being friends is simply stringing him along.
I'd recommend moving the conversation to text only. Tell him that you have... (read in full...)
Sleep deprived boyfriend has money for everything except an engagement ring. Should I cut my losses?
Q. My boyfriend is sleep deprived. He gets about 4 hours of sleep per night. It's almost like a badge of honor for him that he works nights. He often talks about "day" people who get up in the morning, go to work and come home and eat dinner like ...
A. 13 March 2013: He obviously is perfectly able to afford a ring. When he says he can't afford one, what he's really saying is the ring is less important to him than the money in the bank.
Your situation appears to be fine with him because it doesn't cost him... (read in full...)
He unfriended me for no good reason
Q. Good day to all my lovely agony aunts and uncles. Hope you all have been well. :) Tbh, this is more of a friendship-love problem instead of a relationship one, but it would be nice if I could still get help. Recently, one of my closest friends ...
A. 13 March 2013: He obviously had a reason or he wouldn't have done it. Only he knows why, but I wouldn't worry about something you can't change if I were you. ... (read in full...)
How can I marry a man who will lie to his wife?
Q. My fianace and I have been dating 3 years and we have a 1/2 year old son. When I was about 4 months pregnant he cheated on me and slept with his X girlfriend. I found this out only because she send me a facebook message informing me of what happened ...
A. 12 March 2013: It wasn't in the beginning... It was over a year after you started going out.
In my opinion cheating can be forgiven but only if it was a one time thing. I've cheated and regretted it and never did it again. But in your fiancé 's case it was prem... (read in full...)
Why did the gym instructor give me such a reduced rate? Was he just trying to get into my pants?
Q. So the other day I went to the gym and asked one of the trainers there how much he charges for personal training. We've talked a couple times, and he did an assessment on me back when I first got my membership. I think he's so cute, except I'm 16 ...
A. 12 March 2013: Nobody said he wasn't checking you out, but giving you a "discount" was just business. Either way if he's in his 30's he's most likely not interested in anything more than looking at your butt in yoga pants. ... (read in full...)
I love a married woman who wont leave her life to be with me
Q. I am in love with a married woman. I love her so much and she also. She is married about 9 year and have daughter of 8 year. But now i want to quit from this situation because i have got so much pain in this relation. She love me but not want to be w...
A. 12 March 2013: Uhhhh, leave her and learn your lesson?
You made the choice to get involved with a married woman, and what happened is exactly what you should have expected.
Treat it as a break up due to incompatibility and move on. ... (read in full...)
He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?
Q. I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after ...
A. 12 March 2013: Some people are just out of touch socially. So maybe he just had an "intense" personality. I don't think it has to mean anything bad. On the other end of the spectrum he could be someone who doesn't get excited about anything and looks like he's ... (read in full...)
I gave my ex another chance and he cheated on me again! I don't know how to get through this
Q. I know what everyone will say while reading this, but please, please, pleasssse keep an open mind... Basically last year me and (my now ex-boyfriend) broke up as he cheated on me with a girl that we both knew, apparently it was only a kiss. Any...
A. 12 March 2013: Go no contact with him. It'll take time but you'll soon be over him.
You need to realize that his behavior is not a reflection on you. He didn't cheat because you're not good enough or the other girl was better, he cheated because he is a selfis... (read in full...)
Am I Bi? Is it possible to become straight?
Q. So I'm a 15 year old male. I've always considered myself straight and have been oddly sexually-obsessed before I even knew what sex was. I've always been very into girls. (That still weirds me out.) But recently I realized that I used to enjoy ...
A. 12 March 2013: Go with the flow. Do what feels natural and don't worry about being normal, because for many people normal is just who they present to the world. It's not like guys go around and say to each other, "hey did you see John's dick? It's very nice." So ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his friends are all I have. I fear so much of losing this relationship.
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man for a couple of years now. Like any other relationship, we've had some problems and stuff, nothing too major. I have some serious problems. I hate the feeling of being left and lonely. My boyfriend and his ...
A. 12 March 2013: You need to go to college. There are so many people there and it's incredibly easy to make friends. Not to mention it's better than sitting around watching tv.
Get financial aid, they'll pay for it. ... (read in full...)
I thought I was gay but I'm attracted to this girl..is it just a one time thing?
Q. I'm a 19 year old guy. I've assumed I was gay since I was about 13. I tried to fight it at first because there was a stigma to being gay, but eventually I grew to accept it and had gay relationships and it really wasn't an issue anymore. But ...
A. 11 March 2013: Go with it. There is too many variations in sexuality to have labels that apply to everyone. Just see where it takes you. I'm what I would consider 100% straight and would never consider sexual contact with a man (but I'm not afraid to give a... (read in full...)
Why did the gym instructor give me such a reduced rate? Was he just trying to get into my pants?
Q. So the other day I went to the gym and asked one of the trainers there how much he charges for personal training. We've talked a couple times, and he did an assessment on me back when I first got my membership. I think he's so cute, except I'm 16 ...
A. 11 March 2013: It's a sales technique that appears to have worked. ... (read in full...)
He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?
Q. I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after ...
A. 18 February 2013: In my opinion you can do whatever you want as long as it's not hurting anyone.
I don't see why coffee the next day was too soon since coffee is just a way for two people to talk, it's not a date.
But the guy is out of line by being so persist... (read in full...)
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