Fear of rejection keeps me from asking him out to lunch
Q. I like a guy who works at the market I only spoke to him once an basically said he was really funny ever since never spoke to him since now everytime I walk by he stares at me an I turn red an look away also he talks to everyone but me I like him ...
A. 31 March 2013: Periods are important; they help your writing be more readable.
By letting your fear take over you are rejecting him. Life is too short to spend it afraid of doing what you want. Would you rather be shopping at the market to see him and comforta... (read in full...)
Does eye contact mean anything?
Q. What does it mean when a guy gives you eye contact when he walks past you? Does it generally mean that he finds you attractive (Do guys normally give girls eye contact when they find a girl attractive)?...
A. 31 March 2013: It means he was looking at you or something directly behind you.
Any more speculation would be pointless. Staring isn't some trick guys in general have to hit on a girl because it'll never accomplish anything by itself.
I'm sure there are s... (read in full...)
How can I make sex easier for my virgin girlfriend?
Q. Hi, me and my new girlfriend (since last night) just had our first sexual encounter last night. We played with each other, no actual sex. I've noticed that she's extremely tight. As in, one finger only, two hurts. I asked her if this is normal f...
A. 31 March 2013: Look, it's very unlikely that she's that tight. Even if it's been her personal experience (alone) she is still probably making herself tight. Although it's possible to loosen a vagina (age, pregnancy or manual stretching) its not something that you ... (read in full...)
I think my husband might be cheating
Q. I just want to hear other thoughts to my husbands actions. Ok in december 2012 my husband was supposed to be at a certain place getting fencing post for a friends farm. ok so when he got home i noticed he didnt look dirty and i just had that fee...
A. 30 March 2013: His behavior isn't ideal, but nothing you've said would make me think he's definitely cheating. I think your paranoia about him lying is causing you to behave a little irrationally and see everything as a sign he's cheating.
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My wife wants to be alone with another man before I join them for a threesome
Q. I have been married for 4 years, we have 2 kids together. A couple of months ago she wanted to try a threesome (mmf) with one of our friends (a 23 year old guy). it was not that bad, but its like it has been going on every month. Today she aske...
A. 30 March 2013: I'll tell you why she wants to be alone with him: she likes him and probably wants to have some time to herself so she doesn't feel like you're watching over her shoulder. She wants to do what she wants and say what she wants without worrying about ... (read in full...)
How do I approach my girlfriend about losing weight?
Q. In the 3 years we have been together my GF has been slowly letting herself go physically to the point where I no longer find her attractive. When we met in college, she was more physically active on a daily basis but now she has an office job wh...
A. 30 March 2013: Unfortunately you'll probably have to be relatively direct with her and you also have to do a lot of the work.
First you need to have a talk with her. Tell her that you're sorry if it hurts her feelings to bring this up and you wish you didn't h... (read in full...)
Should I move forward and contact her?
Q. ok simple questions here for girls or any guys that know from experience. So a couple months ago (sometime in January) I reconnected with a girl I liked in high school. We haven't talked in nearly 12 years and in January we had a nice long chat on ...
A. 30 March 2013: You waited a couple of months... I don't think coming on too strong is a problem. Not coming on strong enough is what you seem to be having trouble with.
The bottom line is that if she likes you then coming on too strong isn't something you shou... (read in full...)
How can I get over my insecurities regarding my body weight?
Q. How can I get over my self-consciousness? I'm 20 years old, have dated a few guys in the past, but things didn't work for various reasons, most being that I just didn't "click" with them. Now, I'm overweight. In person, I have thick thighs and ...
A. 30 March 2013: The bottom line is that you're not perfect. Nobody really is, but you have some more obvious issues than some people.
You've already accepted that, but you need to accept that, for the time being, there is nothing you can do about it. You owe ... (read in full...)
He's so rough that I find myself sore afterward
Q. Whichever way I say it, it will sound awkward so here goes.. I have only had a sexual relationship with one guy, as many I didn't really know what to expect blah blah blah so I pretty much let him do anything. He was quite rough especially when ...
A. 30 March 2013: Guys watch too much porn these days and that's convinced them that the harder and faster they "to to town", the more you're gonna love it. Then they are so out of tune that when you start giving signs that it hurts they think you love it.
What ... (read in full...)
Married Man Keeps Staring. How can I stop this?
Q. This married man I work with is RIDICULOUS! Im young and single. At first it was flattering, but now it just makes me feel dirty. I just started working there a month ago and he stares at me ALL the time. I wont go into too much detail but its ...
A. 29 March 2013: If saying something to him (it doesn't have to be a "confrontation") is absolutely not going to happen than you have two options: accept it or de-beautify yourself.
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Should I move forward and contact her?
Q. ok simple questions here for girls or any guys that know from experience. So a couple months ago (sometime in January) I reconnected with a girl I liked in high school. We haven't talked in nearly 12 years and in January we had a nice long chat on ...
A. 29 March 2013: Jesus, do you need a neon sign? Don't reject women because you're afraid of being rejected! ... (read in full...)
I've been on the couch for a week because wife goes through my account and sees things she doesn't like
Q. Ok, so a few years back, an old girlfriend looked me up on Facebook. At the time I didn't know how to not accept it. I just keep clicking "ignore". After about two weeks of clicking ignore, I got tired of the message always popping up so I accepted ...
A. 29 March 2013: You are going to have to start putting your foot down! If you've never cheated than this is all about her insecurities and not your actions.
My wife tried that crap with me and I had to remind her that I've never done anything to deserve being tr... (read in full...)
How can I make sex easier for my virgin girlfriend?
Q. Hi, me and my new girlfriend (since last night) just had our first sexual encounter last night. We played with each other, no actual sex. I've noticed that she's extremely tight. As in, one finger only, two hurts. I asked her if this is normal f...
A. 29 March 2013: It's not her tightness your feeling, it's her being nervous. She needs to be more relaxed and comfortable. Also you may want to use some lube.
That being said go slow and as she gets turned on it'll be easier. ... (read in full...)
I'm experiencing weird feelings towards a male married coworker! What does this mean and what do I do?
Q. This is going to sound bad probably but I need advice or someone's thoughts. I am married, I've been with my husband for a few years. We have had ups and downs like all marriages, though sometimes I wonder if we are suited to be together forever, we ...
A. 29 March 2013: Considering your husband never misled you going into your marriage, I think you owe him a little more than to break up with him at this point.
Listen. Men aren't mind readers. They aren't even that good at understanding women when they are rela... (read in full...)
I am a virgin, girlfriend is not. I am afraid I can't measure up.
Q. I just met this girl 4 months ago and things couldn't have been better. We hit everything off perfectly. But I'll get directly to the issue. Eventually I brought up topic of previous sexual history and I asked to be honest. I'm 21 years old, only ...
A. 29 March 2013: You're WAY over thinking things.
First of all, you shouldn't have asked her about the details of her past if you couldn't handle the answer. You say that you "refuse to go into the relationship blindly." I don't think that makes any sense at... (read in full...)
Is it normal to keep a chart of your sex life?
Q. I noticed in a drawer that was open, between the porn tapes, a piece of a paper. On the paper was the dates we had sex, where we had sex, the tapes we watched or did not watch and the number orgasim's I had. It appears my significant other has ...
A. 29 March 2013: He's got OCD, obviously. It shows up in weird ways.... (read in full...)
Why do he and his friends watch me all the time?
Q. Why does he and his friends watch me all the time? Is weird? There's this guy that I really like and he's always staring at me when I'm not looking and he'd look away when I catch him. His friends watch me alot too. The other day he was w...
A. 29 March 2013: It's your booty! Are you wearing yoga pants? I may sound like I'm joking but he's definitely looking at you're butt.
BTW, since just about every girl thinks that she's fat, what you think about yourself often doesn't match reality. My wife thi... (read in full...)
Should I back down in the face of my Gf mother refusal to have me in her home?
Q. Hi in light of my previous question I posted over a month ago I would like to ask if I’m right in thinking to stick to my guns . Basically My Gf Mother will not let me in the house because over 2 months ago my gf and I argued over something p...
A. 29 March 2013: If you want in the house then you obviously need to apologize, but if you don't why bother? If you want a permanent relationship with your gf you'll need to stand up to the crazy one at some point or another.
Also, I'm not sure if I understa... (read in full...)
Dilemma--ex girlfriend pregnant wants me back but I'm dating someone else now
Q. Well, in late nov I met this rlly cute gurl n we really hit it off and we had sex for first weekend and we had sex again a week later n she told she took birth control. And she had her period in the same week. And then she blew me off n hurt me n we ...
A. 29 March 2013: First of all, you need a pregnancy test. You barely dated the girl, and while the baby could certainly be yours, it's not guaranteed by any means. Not to mention she treated you as if she didn't care, then all of a sudden she cares. She doesn't ... (read in full...)
Help! My Boyfriend keeps on hanging out with this other girl. Pays no attention to me. Should I break up with him?
Q. Hey so I have a problem as my boyfriend is always hanging out with some other girl. By the way we are all in the same class. I always tell him to hang out with me but he never does. That's why I have kind of moved on from him I don't hang out with...
A. 29 March 2013: The decision on whether or not to break up with someone shouldn't have anything to do with whether or not you have another guy waiting to date you.
It should be based on whether or not you're dating the right guy. You OBVIOUSLY aren't, and if y... (read in full...)
How do I find the strength to move on from my ex who cheated and lied to me and his abusive GF who has also been very nasty?
Q. When I first started dating my boyfriend in college he introduced me to this female classmate of his and the three of us hung out together. Everything was great. Then I started to notice something strange... She and this other girl baked him cook...
A. 29 March 2013: By sticking around you're never giving yourself the chance to move on.
Do what most people do and cut him off, block his number, facebook, etc. Stop visiting him. After a few weeks or months you'll be fine.
Either you love drama and you'll... (read in full...)
How do I tell my wife I want to watch her have sex with other men?
Q. Behind The Green Door I want to watch my wife have sex with other men. And I don't know how to tell her. It's a Turn On I would love to experience. How can I tell her to bring home the boys and men?...
A. 29 March 2013: I think sign language is always a good bet.
Have you tried talking about it while having sex? My wife and I occasionally do as a fantasy (never gonna happen!) and it opens the door to a more serious conversation if she seems to be turned on by th... (read in full...)
Should I back down in the face of my Gf mother refusal to have me in her home?
Q. Hi in light of my previous question I posted over a month ago I would like to ask if I’m right in thinking to stick to my guns . Basically My Gf Mother will not let me in the house because over 2 months ago my gf and I argued over something p...
A. 29 March 2013: Screw her, you don't bend over to people like that. Your girl needs to move out so you don't have to apologize to someone who doesn't deserve an apology. If she's your age she's overdue anyways.
While you're at it tell your girlfriend that if ... (read in full...)
Why don't guys approach me, and how can I become less shy?
Q. Why don't I get approached by guys? I've been single most of my life and haven't really been in a proper relationship yet. I used to be really shy , now I'm still shy but not as shy. I don't know if I come across aloof or quiet. I do remember one ...
A. 28 March 2013: You may need to work on your social skills, I'm sure that's what it is.
I went out with a very pretty and nice girl one time. BUT she was just too much work; she didn't talk very much unless prompted, and then it was short boring answers.... (read in full...)
Help! Unwanted house guest already taking toll on relationship!
Q. Right, well me and my partner have been living together for about 11 months in our own house. His sister has just broke up with her fella on sunday and she has come to stay here.. When i agreed to this i thought it would be for a week or two. Its ...
A. 28 March 2013: Well, considering it's only been a few days you may want to work on your patience. If people can't depend on their family who can they depend on?
However, if you don't want her in your house after that it's absolutely your right to say somethin... (read in full...)
An unexpected gift from my ex: keep it or return it?
Q. I have a bit of a dilemma. I went through a messy break up with my ex. However I received a gift from her in the post. It's something I've wanted for a long time and she knows this. Should I return it or keep it? If I return it I'm kind ...
A. 28 March 2013: Duh, keep it! What would be the point of doing anything else? Her motives are irrelevant as well unless you want to get back with her. ... (read in full...)
Why do women treat nice guys badly?
Q. hi, to all you women who say you want to meet a nice guy, but when you do, you treat him like sh.t, but a bad guy comes around you fall madly in love, you all say thats not true, but think about it,a nice guy you know what hes going to say, what hes ...
A. 28 March 2013: I consider myself a nice guy and it's never hurt me with women, so I think what you're saying isn't always true.
HOWEVER, one thing women don't like is a pushover. Be a man, take control (to some extent), be confident, etc.
I think most women... (read in full...)
Why don't guys approach me, and how can I become less shy?
Q. Why don't I get approached by guys? I've been single most of my life and haven't really been in a proper relationship yet. I used to be really shy , now I'm still shy but not as shy. I don't know if I come across aloof or quiet. I do remember one ...
A. 27 March 2013: Are you socially awkward? ... (read in full...)
She's detached, doesn't like sex, won't work on counseling, doesn't want to split, I'm confused, what do I do?
Q. my wife has been detached for maybe past 3-4 years emotionally. She will not kiss me or when we have sex might as well be using a doctor scrub outfit. just very maybe agonizing for her, i ask her why and she says shes just very angry with me which ...
A. 27 March 2013: She obviously has lost all interest in putting in effort to have a happy marriage. She's only holding on out of habit.
I don't see any other option but to separate; live apart see what happens. Or stay married to a miserable person.
I'd thi... (read in full...)
My husband constantly criticises me. How can I get him to stop and show me more respect?
Q. I have married and moved in with my husband within the past year. I'm finding he constantly criticises me, mimics what i say or actions i do (sneeze, cough). I'm nearly scared to speak. I've told him to cut it out but he just laughs says if I did ...
A. 27 March 2013: Well, the only advice I can give is to run for the hills. If he's being a jerk this soon, I wouldn't be looking forward to growing old with him if I was you.
The only other suggestion is marriage counseling. It's expensive, but better than the... (read in full...)
I'm in a LDR and falling for another man. What should I do?
Q. I've been with my current BF for more than 2 years, but we've spent more than 1.5 years in LDR. Honestly, it's a torture, but we managed to pull it through and in a couple of months we'll be able to see each other again for good (i'm going back ...
A. 27 March 2013: You obviously loved this guy enough to suffer through a long LDR, so why in the world would you give up when you're so close? Especially for a guy who "seems to be attracted to you"? That's weak to say the least, and it's also not very fair to the ... (read in full...)
Is masculine energy in a woman attractive?
Q. I’ve become intrigued by this term masculine energy, the more I read about it the more I feel it describes me to a T. I am having trouble attracting a partner and beginning to think that this could be why. At the same time I need my masculine energy ...
A. 27 March 2013: My reply was written before I read yours.
Your competitive nature could be the problem, not your confidence. I would be turned off if I noticed how competitive you were as it would feel like you're going to always be trying to one up me. Since I'... (read in full...)
Is masculine energy in a woman attractive?
Q. I’ve become intrigued by this term masculine energy, the more I read about it the more I feel it describes me to a T. I am having trouble attracting a partner and beginning to think that this could be why. At the same time I need my masculine energy ...
A. 27 March 2013: I think that confidence is great, but it can be intimidating to many men.
Maybe you're just not putting yourself out there? ... (read in full...)
I am concerned my boyfriend has never been sexually attracted to me
Q. My boyfriend have been together for over a year. He was very shy in the beginning, and I was quite confident, so I was the one who initiated dating, but he was very interested and told me how much he liked me. We lost our virginity togeth...
A. 27 March 2013: You seem to be getting your ideas from the fact that he doesn't come very frequently... Is that right?
That probably has more to do with excessive porn use than not being attracted to you (yes he SAID he quit).
In fact I'm 99.9% sure attra... (read in full...)
Why wont my dreams come true
Q. I pray one of you might answer me. Since I started high school I've always had this feeling of inadequacy. I always felt too ugly, too useless, too unintelligent, to my own mother, I was never good enough. The fleeting moments of joy I had when I...
A. 27 March 2013: Counseling. ... (read in full...)
Is him "opening up" to me a good sign or am I reading too much into it?
Q. This guy I'm talking to, we are semi LDR (100-ish miles). We've met once, in person, when we first swapped numbers, have been talking ever since end of 2012, we are planning to meet in a few weeks, this has been confirmed. We have built quite...
A. 27 March 2013: Opening up is so dependant on the person that I wouldn't put much stock in it as being a sign, and I certainly wouldn't expect anyone here to be able to tell you what it means.
Take things slow with this guy because LDR's aren't exactly what mos... (read in full...)
Is there any way my girlfriend can make herself tighter?
Q. I have a girlfriend who i have been dating for 2 years now. We are sexually active whenever we see eachother. Heres the problem, when my girlfriend gets really wet the friction lessens a lot and the sensation is completely different. She doesnt feel ...
A. 27 March 2013: That's kind of normal as a woman gets lubricated. I'm not sure to what extent you're referring to though.
She can do exercises (kegals) and you should Google 'pegym' because you too can exercise. I've never tried it but I stumbled upon that web... (read in full...)
Should I date a young single mother?
Q. I'm a 24 year old male. I have recently been spending a lot of time getting to know a young mother, she's 19. We have tons in common and we seem to be a great fit for each other. Does anyone have any insight for me as to why or why not to possibly ...
A. 27 March 2013: It's a pain in the butt, because her child will (or at least should) come first. So unless she has a parent who will be willing to regularly babysit you'll be spending a lot of time at home.
That being said it's not a deal breaker for me either, ... (read in full...)
How can I ask my customers politely to leave tip?
Q. I've been waitressing at a restaurant for a few months. I've noticed that certain regulars don't leave tip regardless of service. And of course there are occasional customers that don't tip at all. How can I ask my customers politely to leave tip? ...
A. 27 March 2013: Yes it's rude and cheap, but it's also rude to ask for a tip! It's also a food way to scare people off, so I wouldn't do it. Just accept that as part of the job. Perform adequate service (which is your job) and give the exceptional service to those ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her parents to like me?
Q. so, the story goes like this. I and my girlfriend had a relationship when we together with each other. Then suddenly, she had to leave me cause a bloody transfer of dad. now the thing is that her parents are so damn conservative, that whenever I ask ...
A. 27 March 2013: Don't bother, it's not going to happen. Accept the fact that not everyone is going to like you and just be a good boyfriend under the circumstances. ... (read in full...)
Is it really her reputation that she cares about or there's really something she is hiding from me?
Q. now, we have been in a long distance relationship for over one years. i think she loves me but that too she likes to flirt with other guys who are good looking. Plus, she never discloses in front of any guy that i am her boyfriend and give me the ...
A. 27 March 2013: Man, I know you're young, but it's time to learn that you need to stand up for yourself. If that means leaving someone who you like (but who disrespects you because of peer pressure) than so be it.
Is something going on? Yes! She's being a crappy... (read in full...)
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