I made an online profile hoping the guy would figure out it was me. I texted him and now he hasn't texted me back. Now what?
Q. I met a guy on line. Things were going better then expected. I found out he was still actively on more then one dating website. Even tho I know we owe eacn other nothing yet and he has full right to be dating around. I went on the website and made a ...
A. 5 April 2013: With all due respect you probably need to get your sh!t together before you start dating. You barely know the guy and you're already doing weird things because of your insecurity.
Also what makes you think that him not replying is a response... (read in full...)
What actions should I take to protect myself from this demanding girl who's behaviour concerns me?
Q. I got talking to this girl on a dating website on Wednesday. She asked me firstly would I pay for sex! Obviously, I said no. I gave her my number and I thought all was legitimate, until she asked for £2500 to 'make her flat habitable' because ...
A. 5 April 2013: What can you do? How on the world is the answer (stop talking to her) not totally obvious? ... (read in full...)
HOW do I stop being so foolish with and about this man who treated me so appallingly?
Q. So. This isn't really a big deal, but it is something I find really frustrating. I have a bit of a complicated situation with a guy I was with about a year ago. I met him in my home country, we had a fling for a couple of weeks, and then he went...
A. 5 April 2013: The reason you are addicted is because you crave acceptance and he's never quite willing to give it. What you've described here is nothing worthy of lifelong friendship. You recognize you have a problem now do the smart thing and eliminate the ... (read in full...)
I think I made a terrible mistake and need help making amends
Q. I made a terrible mistake. I am a college student, but I am an older one trying to get a second degree. One of my teachers is the same age as me (and I am also a female). She invited me to couple of her concerts (she plays instruments in a group). ...
A. 5 April 2013: It would only be crossing the line if you're intention was anything other than paying her a compliment. Teachers are human beings just and like compliments as much as anyone. ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of ending my 2 years relationship. I think its just time to let go.
Q. Hi everyone. Lately I have been thinking about ending my two year relationship with a really amazing guy. I just feel like at this point in life he will be better off without me and could be happier. I don't want to break up with him because I love ...
A. 5 April 2013: I think you're being a little dramatic here. If it was too much for him he is free to leave. But breaking up with someone because you think dating you is too much work isn't really fair to the other person, especially if you love each other.
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend claims we got too close too soon
Q. I'm so confused on what my gf is taking about. She said she's to attached to me to soon and feels she needs to take a step back. . We've been dating 3 months. The other day she's talking about me meeting all her family and her son and now this. I ...
A. 5 April 2013: It could mean a few things. Maybe she's not sure you're right for each other. Maybe she just wants time to get to know you better before moving forward. Maybe she's made the mistake of moving too fast in the past as is trying not to make the same ... (read in full...)
I think I made a terrible mistake and need help making amends
Q. I made a terrible mistake. I am a college student, but I am an older one trying to get a second degree. One of my teachers is the same age as me (and I am also a female). She invited me to couple of her concerts (she plays instruments in a group). ...
A. 5 April 2013: You didn't do anything wrong in the first place, which she clearly told you. By insisting on apologizing you're just going to make things awkward.
No offense, but it's time you learned that the world doesn't revolve around you. Just because ... (read in full...)
My fiance seems to have no goals or ambition
Q. I'm 24 and my fiance just turned 30. He lives at home with his parents, going to community college for the last 10 years now trying to get his bachelors, and has no work or real relationship experience. His 'income' comes from his parents by working ...
A. 5 April 2013: Unfortunately this is just the way he is and you will be the breadwinner and he'll be the stay at home dad.
The truth is That laziness and procrastination are curable traits, but for most people its a life long condition. If you really want to ... (read in full...)
I introduced my boyfriend to porn. Boy am I ever sorry!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together over a year we are both very serious about each other. Our Sex is phenomenal and no matter what we are going through Sex is always that one thing that we have that just made everything better. until about three ...
A. 4 April 2013: I think you need to communicate this if you haven't already. Choosing porn over a woman is the epitome of selfishness and should not be tolerated.
Keep in mind, however, that this has nothing to do with you. The thing about porn is that it's an ... (read in full...)
Almost had sex with a co-worker during a rough time with my marriage, should I suffer with the guilt rather than destroy my husband by telling him about it?
Q. Last year before christmas me and my husband went through a really crap time. He was being agressive (not towards me) we were fighting lots and he pushed me away mentally by refusing to hold my hand or anything. I ended up getting close to a guy i ...
A. 4 April 2013: Definitely don't tell him. Most likely he'll not leave you so in effect you'll be punishing him.
You made a mistake and the guilt is your punishment. Hopefully you learned your lesson and won't put yourself in that situation again. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his ex...is he lying?
Q. I need advice people, here's my dilemma: I have a boyfriend of 7 months now, I met him two years ago and he did then have a gf and I had a bf, nothing came of it, just regular chats here and there. I broke up with my BF and he also broke up with his...
A. 4 April 2013: Yes, he's lying, there's little doubt of that. However I believe that he's probably not "sharing" to the extent she is... He probably just enjoys the extra attention.
I'm also confident that he's not interested in returning to her, and I'm sure... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend is asking me to send him pictures of my private bits. Why does he need them?
Q. Hello. I am a female in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend lives in another country. We still haven't med in person..but have communicated by email, telephone, text message and video and video messaging that he's sent me. This has been going ...
A. 4 April 2013: I want to try and talk some sense into you here.
How exactly do you see things playing out here? Are you going to meet him one time and decide to move to his country or vice versa? Do you think anything like that makes any sense? Even if you meet... (read in full...)
This constant love/hate thing we have going on has me so confused. I need some advice!
Q. Ok, this might be long just as a pre-warning. I'm not really sure what I am asking here, just people's opinion of it really. A few years ago I had a really messy break up and honestly thought I would be alone for the rest of my life. It took me ...
A. 4 April 2013: Sorry, I didn't read your life story, but in don't think it matters to feel okay with my advice. You need to learn a lesson here. There is a thin line between love and hate when you don't have compatibility. In your case you obviously aren't ... (read in full...)
Could this be a sign that he's crushing on her again?
Q. My boyfriend just told me that he and some of his guy friends were talking to other girls about sex. In this talk, there was a girl that he used to like, and he told me that she was a virgin. I don't know if I needed to know that, but I'm worried ...
A. 4 April 2013: Nobody here can tell you if you should be worried. It could have been a perfectly innocent conversation, it also could have been a little flirtatious.
Has your boyfriend given you any reason to not trust him? Because you're treating him as if he... (read in full...)
He's taking things slow, tooo slow!
Q. Hi, am 21 years old and I met a 40 year old man 2months ago, he told me that he was interested in me so we exchanged numbers. Since then we met only twice but he communicates with me everyday. We never have serious conversations, he always asks how ...
A. 4 April 2013: Tired of waiting for what? What guarantee did he give you?
First of all, it's likely he's in a relationship. Second if you're not happy with the way things are, you can do something about it instead of relying on him. ... (read in full...)
My dad thinks my boyfriend has stolen from us and is going to report things to the police tomorrow! How will I deal with this if he is guilty?
Q. My parents divorced some months ago. The night my mom left, my father checked the house for things that were missing (she took appliances and some stuff) and through his gold (a couple family rings, etc), and it was there. The next day, my boy...
A. 4 April 2013: Why don't you tell him what happened as clearly as you told it here (leave out the part about the pawn shop in case he hasn't gone yet). Tell him you want to hear his side of the story and use your best judgement to determine if you believe he's ... (read in full...)
I know it's not my business but I am worried for my friend. What should I do? He's back with his cheating ex.
Q. Hey all, I have a really good friend, let's call him “X” (male), who I have known for years. When he recently got a new girlfriend, I was so happy for him, until I found out what this girl was like. She didn't like me from the beginning and to...
A. 3 April 2013: He continues with her because he likes the attention/sex/whatever, and because he's afraid.
Leave him alone because there's nothing you can do; he'll hopefully learn his lesson. ... (read in full...)
I have always been conscious of how my vagina looks, and now my boyfriend has insulted the way it looks! How do I overcome this?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together nearly a year now, we've had sex, taken part in oral sex on both parts. But the other day we had just had penetrative sex, so I was just led on the bed naked my legs slightly apart on my front, dozing slightly. ...
A. 3 April 2013: Everyone has given you great advice hear sobi just want to add my vote for him just happening to offend you because you were just waiting to be offended, not because he intended anything bad.
I can't tell you how many times I've inadvert... (read in full...)
What did he mean by that finger in my mouth?
Q. I have a Best Friend. We are really very good Friends. Before some days,i was a bit upset,and he was trying to console me. We were talking a lil bit flirty. He said like my soft stomach and started playing with it, rubbing with great care..Th...
A. 3 April 2013: He obviously likes you. If you don't like him then don't let him get you in these types of situations. Tell him that you aren't sure what happened the other day, but you just want to keep things friendly. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't like to experiment sexually
Q. hi everyone! I have quite a high sex drive, and i like to experiment. But my partner prefers to stick to missionary and not really change? He doesnt like a bj either or anything like that? This isnt really a problem i know you like what you...
A. 3 April 2013: You don't mention whether or not you've even talked seriously with him about your dissatisfaction. If you haven't, that's the best place to start.
What you should try is to initiate some of the things you want to try as well. ... (read in full...)
Is he obsessed with me?
Q. I dated my ex bf for 4 years I was about to break up with him when I found out I was pregnant so I decided to stay to make it work. Well after our son was a month old he cheated on me with a 16 year old mind you he is almost 22. So i ended it 6 ...
A. 3 April 2013: Block him on Facebook if he's bothering you there.
Regarding him bugging you in person I'm not sure what to suggest. I had a girlfriend who threatened to kill herself but I knew she was full of it, so I didn't pay her much attention since sh... (read in full...)
Any advice on sex surrogate therapy?
Q. Hi all, i'm a 30 year single female virgin. I have reached a point in my life, where i'm ready to move towards changing this. Does anyone have any useful info, where to start? I've heard of sex therapy where a sex surrogate is used, in the st...
A. 3 April 2013: Are you having problems dating?
Sex isn't that big of a deal. Although a 30 year old virgin is unusual its not something that makes you a freak or anything. If you find a guy you like, and things start heading that direction then tell him you'... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he text first, has he gotten too used to me starting conversations each time?
Q. Im 20, he's 21. We have been speaking for just over 3 months now. But only been dating for just over a month. We both have an iPhone and a Blackberry so we find it easier to just speak over Blackberry Messenger. (I don't like texting, and I d...
A. 3 April 2013: Sorry, in all honesty I didn't read your whole question, but the bottom line is that this kind of thing is normal in a relationship and the only thing it signifies is the passing of time.
You're reading way too much into things and are borderli... (read in full...)
Lately arguments seem to be tearing us apart
Q. Me and my partner have been together for 3 years, we both love eachother alot and have had our fair share of problems but we cant seem to be apart. Recently we have been having a lot of arguments and it is begining to tear us apart. No matter how ...
A. 2 April 2013: If he's not making you happy how is he the perfect guy? That doesn't make a lot sense.
You ARE expecting too much- from him. Meaning you have the right to expect whatever you want and he has the right to disappoint you. That means you aren't c... (read in full...)
BF hot and cold in the space of two weeks because of one night- what should I do?
Q. My bf is hot and cold with me and now he wants time "think and get his head straight" I have been in a relationship with my bf for a year now. We are long distance but spent the first 4 months together. At christmas he dumped me saying the dista...
A. 2 April 2013: One of the most frustrating things- so frustrating it can drive you away from someone - is someone putting words in your mouth and assuming the worst:
"i guess its over and were just friends then?"
"i take it were just friends then since ur fe... (read in full...)
Confused by all the mixed messages from this girl
Q. Hello Cupid I am perusing a girl since February. we went out few times and hanged out. Well, when we talk in person she is showing she is interested yet when I text her, she seems otherwise. In person, we have fun and I make her laugh an...
A. 2 April 2013: Why don't you just ask her out? The longer you wait the more confusing it'll get. If she says no you can stop wondering. ... (read in full...)
He says he's had way hotter girlfriends than me???
Q. My boyfriend told me that he's had way hotter girlfriends than me, but he still tells me he thinks I'm beautiful/gorgeous on the inside and also on the outside and he loves me more then anything and that I don't even compare to his previous ex gfs.. ...
A. 2 April 2013: It means your boyfriend is a jerk, first of all. Beyond that he may mean "hot" as in wearing makeup, hair done, high heels, short skirts, etc. Who knows? That's just a mean thing to say to someone you love. ... (read in full...)
I can't talk to men, I like older men and my girl friends hit on me!
Q. I'm getting worried. I'm 23yrs old and I seem to live mostly inside my head. I can't make a move on men (and I just wish there was a nice guy that could read me LOL). At the same time I know I'm bissexual and my closest female friends always fall ...
A. 2 April 2013: I'm not sure what you're hoping to hear, but I don't think you're old enough to have to start worrying about not finding anyone worthy of a serious relationship. I met my wife when I was 29. I had serious relationships before but never met "the ... (read in full...)
I like watching lesbians, does that mean I am one?
Q. I enjoy watching lesbians, but I love boys and think they are so sexy, I only want to be with boys but sometimes when I'm watching the lesbians I want to be in that situation for just a second but when I think about it again when I'm not watching it ...
A. 2 April 2013: You are exactly what you described, which has no label. If you try putting one of three labels to it (straight, bi, gay) it just won't work. Dear cupid is filled with questions like this- you're not alone by any stretch.
As you get older you may ... (read in full...)
Guys: How would you react if a girl told you she was a virgin?
Q. To cut to the chase: I'm a virgin at 25. And I feel ancient being one at this age. I'm not a christian, so I didn't save my self out of religious beliefs. I did hold on to that romantic notion that the first time should be with someone I love, but ...
A. 2 April 2013: White lies won't help, but either will the truth. How is it relevant how I would react? I'm never going to be "the one". If you must know it'd be nice in some ways, but I would probably feel more pressure to make sure we were right for each other ... (read in full...)
Help for my distant girlfriend
Q. Alright well my girlfriend and i have been going out for about a month and a half, any time we want to do somthing, i need to ask her and she never seems interseted to talk to me and never makes the effort to call me or message me on FB. I need help ...
A. 2 April 2013: How about you play a game. See who can go the longest without contact. If she never calls you again you'll win!
Honestly, two days doesn't seem like that long of a time to me. You're probably letting your insecurities get the best of you.
... (read in full...)
Should I be direct and straight to the point in asking her out on a real date, or should I take things as slow as they've been going so far?
Q. I met a girl a few months ago, and instantly felt some chemistry. We've been talking continuously ever since, but nothing happened between us yet. This has a couple of reasons, which I would like to discuss here to see if I should keep pursuing. ...
A. 2 April 2013: Grow a pair or you'll be "inexperienced" the rest of your life.
Let me ask you a question. What's worse, asking a girl out and possibly hearing "no" or being single forever because you're too afraid of hearing "no" to ever ask?
If you don't ... (read in full...)
How could I tell his sister about the problems I've been having with her brother? What options would help me in this situation?
Q. Well, I've caught that my boyfriend of 3 years add some new girls on facebook and liking their disgusting status. When fisrt I ask him why he likes it, he said he's carelessly pressing the like button. Then, when I check his notification, I found ...
A. 2 April 2013: No offense, but you don't sound like an angel here. You are insecure and controlling from the sound of things. There's no reason to get dramatic because of anything you've said he did.
You certainly don't need to be going behind his back to his f... (read in full...)
Time to let go? How do you know when you're not in love anymore?
Q. Dear cupid, I would like some advice and opinions on my situation. This may get a bit confusing so I apologize and will be happy to answer any questions you guys may have. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. He is the only serious...
A. 2 April 2013: There's nothing wrong with anything you've said here, so don't feel bad. Your analysis of the situation is actually pretty thorough.
This is something that I wish I would have really listened to earlier in my life: dating is a way to "try out... (read in full...)
He's one of the most popular boys at school. How can I encourage my crush to like me?
Q. Hi so I want to know how to get my crush to like me Ok so I have had a crush on a guy and he is in a different grade (higher grade). Anyway I wouldn't say I am obsessed but whenever he looks at me whenever he goes or looks away I totally freak ou...
A. 2 April 2013: I know you don't have the courage to since you're so young, but you need to talk to him. Be bold and don't be afraid.
It's not enough to say "I like you" to him; you have to ask him out... If you were gonna go to a party ask him to go with you... (read in full...)
Why do girls stay friends with some of their ex boyfriends but not all of their ex's?
Q. Why do girls stay friends with some of their ex boyfriends but other they just decide they don't want anything to do with anymore for no reason and he never did anything to deserve that?...
A. 1 April 2013: If "he" is you, then you obviously did something, you just don't know about it, otherwise you guys would be friends. Maybe you're incapable of being only friends because you want more? ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants space but I don't get mine.
Q. Please be honest and tell me if I'm being unreasonable. Today my girlfriend told me that she wanted some space to spend with her friends, etc. I completely understood and said that that was absolutely fine. I left her at hers and went about ...
A. 1 April 2013: I think that if someone has to be right, it was probably you. However I understand where she's coming from as well, although she should have told her friend that she didn't want to go over to your house. ... (read in full...)
I told her I needed space and now I find she's been having sex with the husband of one of her friends! I'm shocked!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 7 years and recently I told her I needed some space because I am currently in school trying to finish my degree in Respiratory therapy which has been extremely stressful. We still see each other once a week ...
A. 1 April 2013: Forget the sex part. It could be that the guy initiated the sexy talk and she just played along. When was the last time you initiated a sexual text conversation?
Regarding her excuse for cheating: I completely believe her. Was it wrong? Sure. Sh... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to handle seeing my player hookup on this very small campus?
Q. Hey all, It's almost since a year since my ex-fiance broke up with me. I have only dated one guy since then and decided to stop it before it went too far because I couldn't get over my ex. I am a senior in college and have liked this guy ...
A. 1 April 2013: Well, anytime you give it up on the first night you lose your right to complain about how someone treats you (assuming, of course, it was consensual). That's because you don't know them at all and no expectations should be put on a virtual stranger ... (read in full...)
Is it hopeless or could he ever truly love me?
Q. I am absolutely heartbroken because I've found the person who I know is meant for me, and I know in my heart that I love him more than I'll ever love anyone. He's divorced (I know this for a fact) and has a little boy with his ex wife. I underst...
A. 1 April 2013: By convincing yourself that you'll never love anyone as much as him you're setting yourself up for disaster. That's almost never true, and if it is true it certainly wouldn't be with a guy that makes you feel "heartbroken, afraid, used, wanting to ... (read in full...)
Fear of rejection keeps me from asking him out to lunch
Q. I like a guy who works at the market I only spoke to him once an basically said he was really funny ever since never spoke to him since now everytime I walk by he stares at me an I turn red an look away also he talks to everyone but me I like him ...
A. 31 March 2013: Periods are important; they help your writing be more readable.
By letting your fear take over you are rejecting him. Life is too short to spend it afraid of doing what you want. Would you rather be shopping at the market to see him and comforta... (read in full...)
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