My husband never wants to have sex with me
Q. i just wish he would come on to me or somebody! I'm 43 and lonely. whenever I try to have some time alone with him he always make sure that he bring someone home with him I've got a friend or something or just blows me off I almost thought about ...
A. 29 April 2013: Why don't you forget about the money part and cheat on him? I'm a firm believer that if the person you're married to won't sleep with you, you should either leave them or just cheat if you're otherwise happy.... (read in full...)
It seems like my husband is attracted to everyone but me!
Q. I asked my husband why me never says anything nice to me I asked him is there anything you find attractive about me. He said I can't think of anything but he said to me in front if exwife that I'm jealous of her cause she's pretty an your big fat ...
A. 29 April 2013: You could spend the rest of your life with a guy who makes you unhappy and leaves you feeling ugly or you could find someone who appreciates you and makes you happy.
Yes, being alone is scary, but so is being with him. ... (read in full...)
I'm ruining my girlfriend's life with my drinking but she won't leave me. Should I break things off?
Q. Hey, I met a girl 3 years ago at a bar in which she happened to be a singer,her voice spoke to me,it was beautiful I used my contacts and got her work at a higher end place..we eventually started talking and then dating..her career graph is reaching...
A. 29 April 2013: Yes, break up with this amazing woman and drink yourself to death. Great idea. How about you stop fu¢king around and do the right thing? Why would you lose this girl instead of working on the real problem? Is it easy? Of course not. But many people ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to hope there might be more between us or should I just move on?
Q. I have had a FWB for three years (we've known each other fir 16 years) when we are together we act just like any other couple but if we're at work or out with friends we act as if nothing is going oneven though mist of them know we're sleeping ...
A. 29 April 2013: Have you talked with him about it? If you haven't, you should start there. If he says he's not interested and you can't continue with FWB then leave.
If you like being his FWB but want more, I don't see any reason to leave unless you find som... (read in full...)
Desperate for sexual contact after long time single - what to do?
Q. Keeping it brief. Was in a 10-yr LTR that was sexless for last 5 years. My girlfriend always had a low sex drive, I loved her, decided I could cope but it eventually totalled petered out. After 5 years I couldn't cope without intimacy any more, ...
A. 28 April 2013: I'll give you an alternative: save up a couple thousand pounds and fly to Thailand for a month. It'll give you the boost you need. ... (read in full...)
I haven't told my parents about him. If I break up with him he'll tell them and I'll be homeless.
Q. So I have been with my boyfriend for 2years and want to break up. If he breaks up with me that's all fine and dandy his family knows everything about us. But if I break up with him... I dont know what he would do my parents don't like him and they ...
A. 28 April 2013: Are your parents really going to throw you out on the streets of this guy who they don't like says you were dating? That doesn't make any sense to me.
Why don't you just stop talking to him? Or tell your parents that he likes you and you don't li... (read in full...)
Why the comments on my shorts this year?
Q. I live in Michigan and it is starting to warm up out here. On Saturday I wore my shorts (they are a short athletic style) and a t-shirt. I had some errands to run and some of the looks and comments I got were very strong like Hey Baby nice ass! and ...
A. 28 April 2013: Well, did your butt grow? If not you just ran into some guys who aren't afraid of giving out sexual compliments to strangers. ... (read in full...)
'that was nice, good to see you looking good' How do I interpret these remarks by my ex?
Q. I will bullet point this to get the main information you need across; We dated for a year Split up last nov 12 - agreed to remain friends. Stayed in contact but only saw each other for the first time since the split last weekend. It was really...
A. 28 April 2013: I guess you've never heard of small talk. There is no hidden meaning in this phrase, it's like trying to find hidden meaning in "how are you?" "fine". Does he mean fine like he misses me and he's trying to hide it? Or like he has a new girlfriend ... (read in full...)
My friend hurt me. Should I give her the chance to do it again? Or should I send her packing?
Q. My best friend hurt me really badly about a year ago it started suddenly for no obvious reason. She seemed to be constantly going out of her way to hurt me and said some terrible things behind my back. Including playing mind games and making nast...
A. 28 April 2013: Tell her what she did so she can see that her actions have consequences, then tell her you don't think a real friend would have treated you that way, so you don't consider her your friend anymore.
Don't be surprised if she tries to hurt you agai... (read in full...)
Not attracted to my own race... am I shallow for this?
Q. So... I'm not interested physically or romantically to guys of my own race (black). I've never dated a black guy, and just don't find them appealing for a relationship. I have many black guy friends but that is all they are. And I feel horrible fo...
A. 28 April 2013: I think there's a fine line between preference and prejudice. I'm white and my preference is for non whites, but, I don't have avoid white girls or make sweeping generalizations about them in order to justify not dating them.
If you find yourself... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to be angry that he is going out to dinner alone with another woman?
Q. Is it acceptable for a man to go to dinner with a female acquaintance when he is either in a relationship or trying to "work things out" with his ex? And if you're "working things out" then does that mean you would describe yourself to othe...
A. 28 April 2013: He wants to see where things will go with her without ruining his chances with you. But because the two of you are unsure he doesn't want to ruin his potential chances with her either. ... (read in full...)
I want him to end the friendship yet he won't. What can I do about this situation?
Q. I have a male friend who is currently going through a divorce. We were friends for several years, however, he tends to be a bit self absorbed and while I have listened to his problems for the past several years, he has not been exactly atte...
A. 28 April 2013: The only reason people have friends in the first place is because they are getting something from the relationship, or may in the future.
He obviously feels like the relationship has value, so why would he break it off? Since you don't, it's you... (read in full...)
My ex guy friends are not responding on phone. Do they feel threatened that they don't have control over my life now?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a question I like to keep in contact with male friends of mine from time to time. We laugh and talk on the phone sometimes but when I started talking from my heart and saying things that I have been saying for years finally ...
A. 28 April 2013: You're going to have to explain things a little more or the only answers you'll get will be to stop worrying about it.
I get the sense that you're to blame for something that you're unaware of, which has caused them to not want to have anything... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my insecurity is going to drive him away
Q. I feel like I am very needy and insecure when I meet a guy. I recently met a guy about a month or 2 ago. He's awesome, we started of great he told me I was always putting a smile on his face. We went on our first date and we had a lot of fun. But ...
A. 28 April 2013: If he went on dates with you and then said he's not ready for a relationship you might have already lost him, because either he realized he wasn't into you or he realized you weren't going to be used for sex.
For future reference don't ask a gu... (read in full...)
I am in love with my x boyfriend, but married to another, what should I do?
Q. To make a long story shorter.. I met Brac about twelve years ago in a chat room. He was my friend that listened to all my guy issues. Was there for me all the time.. He is getting his masters degree soon, but when I met him he didn't have that in ...
A. 28 April 2013: Well, I agree with your last statement. But I think your love for your ex has more to do with your dissatisfaction with your husband than anything.
Maybe you were put on the spot, but that's a horrible excuse. Honestly, I don't have any sympathy... (read in full...)
Creepy leery guys ask for my number. Yet NEVER do any of the 'normal' guys, who I see looking, actually approach me. What am I doing wrong?
Q. I'm a 19 year old female, single and have never had a boyfriend before. This alone worries me a little since literally everyone I know has had/ is in a relationship. Without sounding conceited, etc. I would consider myself attractive. I not...
A. 27 April 2013: There are a lot of women in your position and it usually has nothing to do with what you're doing. You'll just have to put yourself in more social situations that help you actually get to talk with men as opposed to being "approached" by them. ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about her being a threat to our relationship?
Q. Im a 20 year old female and i am in a relationship with a great guy. BUt I'm concerned you see a few months back the girl showed up out of the blue to see him before he got home from work i was at the house making dinner and she introduced herself ...
A. 27 April 2013: If she misses him that means they haven't seen each other, so it sounds like he's been true to his word. She does sound kind of weird though. ... (read in full...)
Why would he call me a Princess and then tell me that I like to get my own way and I sulk? Is that a compliment or is he flirting with me?
Q. Why would he say that to me? Is it a compliment? I was talking to this cute guy I like. I'm very quiet and shy around him and he's quiet Around me too. He said I'm very mysterious and a princess I said why does he calls me a princess he said I...
A. 27 April 2013: OP, you're trying to prove he likes you, and he probably does. But his comment wasn't a compliment, and that seemed to be the point of your original question. I don't think it was an insult, but I'm from the US, it may be different in the UK. ... (read in full...)
Why would he call me a Princess and then tell me that I like to get my own way and I sulk? Is that a compliment or is he flirting with me?
Q. Why would he say that to me? Is it a compliment? I was talking to this cute guy I like. I'm very quiet and shy around him and he's quiet Around me too. He said I'm very mysterious and a princess I said why does he calls me a princess he said I...
A. 27 April 2013: It's not really a compliment. It means you're spoiled, but not really in a mean way. It's not an insult, just an observation. ... (read in full...)
Why is he ignoring me? Did he get mad at me for not sleeping with him?
Q. There is this guy in my class who I had never spoken to until last Friday (I am very quiet in class). Last Friday, I somehow ended up talking to him and we went to eat after school. At night, I ended up at a small party with my friends and he w...
A. 26 April 2013: I think his pride was hurt and he'd rather forget anything ever happened. Maybe he thought you were uninterested in him, as opposed to just playing hard to get. ... (read in full...)
Why do woman treat me this way?
Q. i need help. im insecure and need advice on geting over it. i grew up being singled out by woman. i was called ugly laughed at and picked on by woman it diddnt matter who. its caused me to have low self esteem. ive tried asking woman out but ive ...
A. 26 April 2013: Sometimes people indirectly ask to be treated a certain way. For example, a young boy whose dad is mean to him, which causes him to act out and "be a brat", so people aren't very nice to him because he's a brat.
You are insecure and have low self... (read in full...)
I started feeling insecure after I heard my boyfriend telling his friend that another girl is stunning.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly a year now. He and I have long distance relationship 'cuz he is studying abroad but we have been pretty good friends since young. About three months after we became couples, he let me check into his ...
A. 25 April 2013: You're not crazy but you may benefit from therapy.
Let me ask you a question: is it reasonable that there are women in this world (out of 3.5 billion women) that your boyfriend would find stunning?
Does that mean that because he finds someone... (read in full...)
How can I break up this relationship?
Q. I love a girl truely and so much... but she loves another guy who is not her religion. How can i break up this relationship? Please help me......
A. 25 April 2013: There's no one here that's going to give you the advice you're looking for. If you consider yourself a good person then don't try and hurt someone who's not doing anything wrong.
There isn't any way that you can break them up that's morally ... (read in full...)
Could my boyfriend have lied to me? He said he was a virgin when we met, but seemed to know so much.
Q. My boyfriend and I were to together for five years. When we first met we were both virgins but throughout are relationship it was always in the back of my head thinking about. What if he hadn't been a virgin? He said he was but he knew so much abou...
A. 25 April 2013: I don't mean to sound rude here, but the fact that you base part of your opinion on him not hurting when you first had sex shows your lack of knowledge on the subject. So for you, I'm sure he does seem experienced, but the majority of his experience ... (read in full...)
Is it time to leave? She issued me with an ultimatum: The bachelor party or her
Q. My girlfriend(who I live with) and I have been at odds everyday for the last week. My friend has a wedding coming this weekend, and their bachelor party on Friday night. So she has made an effort to fight with me everyday. But to cut to the chase...
A. 25 April 2013: Ultimatums aside, if you want to leave her then do it.
If you want to stay with her but don't want her insecurities controlling the relationship then simply tell her that you've never once done anything to deserve this lack of trust, but if she w... (read in full...)
Involved with a married woman. So why is she acting this way? Why is she treating me like this?
Q. hey guys i need advice. ive been involved with a married woman for about 7 months. i know its wrong but hear what i have to say please. we started off as friends good friends. talking everyday spending a few hours together. and i started falling ...
A. 25 April 2013: I swear you just posted this.
Anyways, you should never believe everything a cheater tells you, which you clearly did. If she's lying to her husband and the father of her children what makes you think she won't do the same to you?
If her ... (read in full...)
I'm distraught about his actions. He's been lying to me and talking to another woman on line. Do I stay quiet or confront him?
Q. Not long before my fiancee and I got engaged, we had a fidelity issue- on his part. It took me a long time (and I am just summing this up to keep it short) but eventually I forgave him. Its been YEARS since then but sometimes I get bitten by the b...
A. 25 April 2013: I don't think you're overreacting and I don't think it'd be smart to marry this guy. He doesn't seem to be a one woman man, and if you marry him it'll only hurt more when you catch him cheating or worse- leaving you for another woman.
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He's separted from his wife but still legally married . We've been dating but now he wants a break. What should I do?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, this may be long so I apologize in advance. I have found myself in a situation I can't really talk to anyone about, except all of you. For seven months now I have been in a relationship with a gentleman who is separat...
A. 25 April 2013: You, unfortunately, are an emotional crutch for him. He loves his wife and wants to be with her. You are there to comfort him when that's not possible. You aren't there to build a future with him in any way.
If you are happy with that then con... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend? Just thinking about sex disgusts me. No desire for sex. Could I be asexual?
Q. I am struggling with my sexuality. I have been in a relationship with a male for two years but I think I may be asexual. I have no desire for sex, I feel disgusted when thinking about it and it causes conflicting feelings towards my boyfrien...
A. 25 April 2013: I don't think you're being dramatic. Tell your boyfriend that you're done having sex with him. He won't stick around for long, but that's probably best for both of you.
I'm guessing there are asexual dating websites out there. Find someone ... (read in full...)
Why would my partner keep explicit pictures of their ex? Tried to shrug it off, yet still feel hurt
Q. I looked in my partner's inbox the other day and found explicit pictures that his ex had sent him. I know for a fact that his ex has been to visit him many times. The first I knew of was back in 2009. I have also seen pictures on his ex's Fac...
A. 25 April 2013: I have no clue... But if you're not the paranoid type your intuition is probably correct.
The question then becomes "why are you still with him?" ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has told me he has lost interest in me. So should I care about his wish for me to be more "rough?"
Q. So recently my boyfriend has told me he has lost interest in me. He also commented to me saying he wants me to be rough. Since I am soft I don't know how to become rough. He doesn't mean to be rough while having sex but he means for me to have a r...
A. 25 April 2013: You should never pretend to be something you're not. If your boyfriend expects you to do this and you do, he's going to be making you jump through hoops for the rest of your relationship, until he dumps you for someone who's more compatible with ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin. I do find women attractive especially their breasts. But I look at men too. Am I gay or not?
Q. Hi, I am guy in my early 30’s and I am unsure if I am gay or not. I am a virgin and I have kissed a girl but nothing more. I do find other guys attractive. I find their muscles and athletic appearance attractive. When I am jerking off I think ...
A. 25 April 2013: You're not gay, but you aren't straight either. Like most people you don't have a label that is 100% accurate. If the idea of being in love with man and making love to him is a turn off, then you're obviously not gay.
You need to get off your but... (read in full...)
How can I be more approachable to guys?
Q. I'm curious on what sort of personality, traits, appearance, etc makes a girl seem approachable to a guy... Perhaps if I was more approachable I would have an easier time finding guys to date! So, in your opinion and experience... what m...
A. 25 April 2013: I think people that write this type of question tend to think they're doing something wrong, but you probably just aren't in the right places. I went through a period where I worked with a bunch of guys and didn't really have a lot of contact with ... (read in full...)
Interracial dating question: is he the one with issues or is it me?
Q. I was on an interacial dating site as a black female born and bred in england and was approached by a white man stating he was interested, i asked the question, why interacial dating?, he replied "during the last 50 years english girls have lost ...
A. 24 April 2013: I want to clarify that while I think you overreacted, I agree that his statement wasn't exactly great.
It says a lot about someone who thinks people are or aren't something because of the color of their skin, and so I don't blame you for being ir... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, but the way he treats me, it doesn't feel like it!
Q. My boyfriend tells me he loves me but his behavior suggests otherwise to me. About 2 weeks ago we got into an argument and he told me he had been wanting to break up with me since I miscarried 4 years ago. We have been together for 6 years, living ...
A. 24 April 2013: This is an easy solution: break up with him. Why do you need advice on this? You don't seem to be getting anything out of it but grief. Never mind your age, there are still single guys. ... (read in full...)
How do you stop becoming obsessive?
Q. Hi. I was hoping to find some tips here since I'm really, for the first time in need of help from others. I've had a really awful relationship of 3 years to early 2011 and I felt I was recovered from it. However, I've kinda developed an obses...
A. 24 April 2013: Well I could give you a bunch of tips but you probably need counseling.
The tips I'd give you:
Treating someone like they're guilty of what your ex did is a great way to push them away and ruin an otherwise promising relationship.
... (read in full...)
My fiance's sister makes my life a living hell! I don't know why or how I can get her to stop!
Q. My boyfriend and I are very much in love and have just got in engaged over a year ago and are getting married soon ish, and his sister has made my life a living hell since day one. She talks badly about me behind my back, I've been told she ca...
A. 24 April 2013: Maybe you need to distance yourself from his family. There's no reason that you need to have anything to do with her. Tell him that you really wish you could go, but as long as she's acting that way you don't want to be around her.
That will pro... (read in full...)
Should I stay in my marriage with 3 children? Or step out with someone who makes me happy?
Q. I have got myself in a real dilemma and could really use some advice. I have been married for fourteen years and have three of the most beautiful children a woman could ask for but I never really loved my husband and got married for all the wrong ...
A. 24 April 2013: For one, you should stop cheating.
You also need to recognize that your feelings for this guy are likely a fantasy based on years of fantasizing and wondering, followed by (what appears to be) a short time getting to know each other again. ... (read in full...)
My husband said he'd pack up and move to be with his first love! What am I supposed to do?
Q. I just recently found out that my husband's first-love contacted him. I also now know that he was the one making the attempts to find her He says he is still in love with her and never got over her. He also wants to continue contact with her to ...
A. 24 April 2013: HELL NO YOU DIDN'T OVERREACT! What a jerk! I'm sorry, but no matter what your husband chooses, this relationship has to end. The mere fact that he would put you in this position tells you so much about who he is that, if I was you, would be enough ... (read in full...)
Interracial dating question: is he the one with issues or is it me?
Q. I was on an interacial dating site as a black female born and bred in england and was approached by a white man stating he was interested, i asked the question, why interacial dating?, he replied "during the last 50 years english girls have lost ...
A. 24 April 2013: I think you definitely over reacted. He didn't insult anyone, rather, he was pointing out an observation to you. ... (read in full...)
I don't like being around the cheating g/f of my boyfriend's best friend!
Q. I'm in a really difficult situation here and need help. My boyfriend and his best friend have been friends forever and they are really close and are always together. My boyfriends best friend has been with his girlfriend for about 6 months n...
A. 24 April 2013: So, tell your boyfriend that you don't want to have any contact with her anymore. When she's around you won't be. ... (read in full...)
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