How do you KNOW whether to stick with a relationship or simply admit defeat?
Q. How do you KNOW when the time is right to end a relationship? I've asked friends and the most common response I have received is that "you just know". I don't see how this is the case. I have been in a relationship for little over a year, but I fe...
A. 9 May 2013: It sounds to me like you DO know. At a year you shouldn't be feeling this way if it was meant to be. ... (read in full...)
My friends were pushing me so they could upset me and it worked.....was it really a joke?
Q. I had two friends. Il call them friend A and B. We have been friends for 5years since grade 7 (now in grade11). Well, we had conflicts here and there but they never lasted this long. Unfortunately, something unexpected happened the day before ...
A. 9 May 2013: With friends like that you don't need enemies.
Don't worry and wonder about what people like that do. Just be a good person and have enough strength to leave people when you realize they aren't right for you. ... (read in full...)
In love with male ex-teacher. What should I do?
Q. I graduated from high school 2 years ago. When I was still studying in my high school, I developed a crush on my English teacher. He's 20 years older than me but single. It all started on my final year when I got into his English class, Band 1 cl...
A. 9 May 2013: Everyone gets a crush on a teacher. A crush, not love. Maybe you should start dating other people, I'm sure the feelings will fade if you do, considering that the crush was based on a stare. ... (read in full...)
For the girls: Would you be interested in a one night stand or short term fling with a guy who couldnt have penetrative sex?
Q. Question mainly for girls. I am an older guy, who is quite lucky as I still get plenty of attention from girls, smiles and signals on the street, at bus stops, shops etc. Also plenty of offers at work. Although, I have issues getting an erect...
A. 9 May 2013: To each his own, but I would say most people would want to have a penis go into a vagina.
Maybe there are alternatives to your medication? Some natural options?... (read in full...)
I feel ridiculously rejected by her remarks. Will this affect our relationship?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together a year. I have been wanting to say I love you for around 6 months. I always assumed she loved me, but both of us were too nervous to say it first. So last night I said it to her, the reply I got was not what...
A. 9 May 2013: I don't understand why you feel rejected from that statement; it didn't seem to be negative, although obviously it wasn't what you wanted to hear.
Just remember that some people are weird about love and saying it.
One of the best relationshi... (read in full...)
Is it really just that I have terrible luck and that every time we make major plans she has some other important thing come up in her life?
Q. am I overreacting and being unnecessarily suspicious or do I have actual reason to worry here? my gf and I have gone out for 3 years. we're in college together. over the time we've been together, things have been great. we have minor arguments ...
A. 8 May 2013: I'd be suspicious as well, so I don't blame you. I'm not saying she's cheating, but she may be weaning herself off you.
Tell her you understand things come up but there's no way she hasn't had any time for you and it's got to the point where yo... (read in full...)
My American wife finds my comments on her body cheap!
Q. Actually, I'm from Pakistan who came to US 2 months ago after my wife Spouse Visa petition for me was approved. two and half years ago, we met through internet dating and got married in third country " Dubai". I'm 32 whereas she is 40. She is ...
A. 8 May 2013: I think she wants to be more than a sex object. So an occasional comment may be fine, but too much of a good thing is too much.
Find other things to compliment (not just sexual or physical things). ... (read in full...)
How do guys feel about direct approaches like the one I'm thinking about trying?
Q. Hi. I currently go to college. In one of my classes, there's this really attractive guy who I keep checking out [I can't help myself] and he usually catches me looking, but I quickly look away and mentally nag myself that I should've kept ey...
A. 8 May 2013: I would find it a little too forward, personally.... (read in full...)
My confidence has dropped sharply after constantly being rejected. What's wrong with me? What should I do?
Q. I feel like girls don't like me, because I'm a nice guy. Lately I've thought about it, and some people have told me that I'm way too nice. I'm the romantic type that thinks out dates, and plans cute stuff for anniversaries, and basically does sup...
A. 8 May 2013: Just relax, Jesus, at your age you shouldn't be worrying about this.
Most women will only date nice guys, so get that out of your head right now. The thing is, they don't like guys that are too nice. Be firm, make your own decisions (don't a... (read in full...)
How can I stop obsessing about the fact that my Bf used to sleep with his baby momma after they separated?
Q. My bf used to sleep with his baby momma after they separated, on and off from what i can gather. I know its not while he has been with me, but it makes me feel insecure or that he still has feelings for her. How do I stop obsessing about this?...
A. 8 May 2013: So do you still want to sleep with every guy you ever slept with? Because that seems to be the logic you're applying here.
In their situation they obviously weren't fully separated or they wouldn't have been still sleeping together. ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend ejaculate all over my stomach?
Q. I wonder if any of you could help me. My boyfriend who is one year older than me always withdraws from me during sex and ejaculates and squirts it out all over my stomach. I am just wondering if anybody has experienced this before? Is this an ...
A. 8 May 2013: I know it's been awhile but some of these answers are just ridiculous! Guys do it because when you pull out, guess where your penis is pointing? ... (read in full...)
How do I react around her? I really like her!
Q. one of my best friends has a twin sister and I really like her. I have told my friend and he said I should tell her how I feel so I did, she was so nice about it and it really showed why i like her so much. since then we've spoke on facebook/twitter ...
A. 8 May 2013: It sounds like she's not interested in dating you at this time. I wouldn't press the issue with her, but, there's no reason you can continue to be friends with her and at some point you may find she's open to dating you.
If I were you I'd try and ... (read in full...)
Why can't I find a boyfriend? I'm scared I'll be alone forever.
Q. I'm 19 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. There weren't many guys I was interested in in my high school, and the ones I did like didn't seem to like me back. And outside of school I guess I just never really did anything that involved people ...
A. 7 May 2013: You pretty much outlined all of your issues, so why don't you go about fixing them?
Meet more people, ask guys out, work on your self esteem, don't sleep with guys too soon, etc. ... (read in full...)
I think I love her. So how can I help her get over the guy she is seeing? He makes her unhappy. I think she's confused.
Q. I seriously love a girl whom i've been knowing for a long time too.....problem is that she is too much confused...she is in a relation with another guy...and certainly she is not happy in that relation...so she want's to get along with me...but ...
A. 7 May 2013: There's no easy answer for that. Some women prefer men who don't treat them well; if she wanted to leave him she already would have.
You can attempt to treat her as if she doesn't have a boyfriend and ask her out. Maybe she'll decide to leave hi... (read in full...)
He is drunk every day and flirts with others. Does this mean he'll cheat while I am in hospital giving birth? Or am I having pregnancy paranoia?
Q. if a man is drunk every day and will flirt in front of you. Does this mean he is likely to cheat when you're not there? I am weeks away from giving birth so i am not very attractive at the moment. not sure if it's pregnancy paranoia or not......
A. 7 May 2013: I think him cheating is unrelated to his flirting and that's not your real problem anyways.
Having a kid with a drunk is what you need to be worried about now. Alcoholism kills a lot of people, and it can run in the family. ... (read in full...)
He's the Uncle of the little girl I tutor. Does he like me? He has a Gf but his mother says he changes girlfriends frequently.
Q. so the story goes this way: there is this guy who happens to be the uncle of a little girl i'm tutoring. the first time we met in their house I have liked him and i also noticed that he keeps looking at me. we rarely talk to each other and if we ...
A. 7 May 2013: There's nothing here that indicates he likes you, but if he does try and ask you out you should be prepared for the fact that in a couple of months he will leave you for someone else. If you don't want to deal with that then tell him that you're not ... (read in full...)
How do you KNOW whether to stick with a relationship or simply admit defeat?
Q. How do you KNOW when the time is right to end a relationship? I've asked friends and the most common response I have received is that "you just know". I don't see how this is the case. I have been in a relationship for little over a year, but I fe...
A. 7 May 2013: That's a hard one... I'd say there are certain differences and things that can make it easy to know, but in your situation it can be difficult.
I'd say it depends on what your issue is with her. Some things can change, so to throw away a great pe... (read in full...)
Do women really get 'used for sex'?
Q. This is not a personal question but a general question about the concept of 'using' someone for sex which is usually used about women. Why do people assume that a woman is 'being used for sex' when she's in a friends with benefits situation or at ...
A. 7 May 2013: I agree 100%. ... (read in full...)
HE wouldn't tell me if I'm his girlfriend, what should I do?
Q. I've met a guy 7months ago. We've been sleeping together we text each other everyday he calls sometimes. 5months ago i told him that i want a serious relationship. So i asked him where do i stand with you? Am i your girlfriend? And he could'nt give ...
A. 6 May 2013: Well he's obviously not giving you what you want, so what do you think makes sense? Stay with him and possibly miss an opportunity with someone you're better suited to, or leave him and find someone who shares your relationship goals?
Chang... (read in full...)
I am extremely unhappy with me weight...can you help?
Q. I am very overweight and i am extremely unhappy with my weight. I am 5'5 and currently weight 122.5kg, i have lost 2 kg but even with exercise and lowered calorie intake it wont shift anymore. When i started loosing weight i lost 3 kg, put on 4, ...
A. 6 May 2013: If you haven't been losing weight then you probably haven't been too diligent about doing what you said you were doing.
Instead of reducing calorie intake, which can be difficult to maintain, just change your eating habits. No more fast food or ... (read in full...)
Co-worker will not stop asking me out even after saying no several times... what should I do?
Q. There is this guy I work with who has been showing interest in me for over a year. He is older than me by 10 or so years, but he is in a position below me. Several times he has told me that he is attracted to me, that he cares for me, and that he ...
A. 3 May 2013: Well bearing around the bush works with most people, but I guess this guy isn't most people. (BTW, whoever told you to give him a shot is crazy!)
As far as I can tell you haven't been direct enough with him.
Text him "Look, I've maybe not b... (read in full...)
I need to leave my sociopath girlfriend
Q. Hi, I am in a relationship with a woman whom I believe is a sociopath; I have been with her for over 7 years now. Here is the background of the situation, I met her when I returned from another state where another relationship had failed and began...
A. 3 May 2013: First of all, I'm not sure there's a good answer here.
Regarding your boy, I think you may want to talk with his doctor or whomever to find out the best way for him to deal with the breakup and loss of a semi step mother.
When it comes... (read in full...)
My girlfriend stayed the night with her ex. I don't know what to do!
Q. My Gf and I have been dating for 7months. Im 19 and she's 20. 2 days ago her ex and some of his friends were in her city and asked her out. The very last minute she left, she told me she'd stay the night with them. (at the time i didn't know her...
A. 2 May 2013: How do you know she won't cheat on you? Many good people cheat when they put themselves in a position to, and spending the night with her ex is cheating just waiting to happen. ... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm making a mistake? Is it stupid to marry a twice divorced man?
Q. I am nearly 30 and I want to marry a man who is 46. My parents are opposed to the match because he is much older than I am, belongs to a different country and race and primarily because he is twice divorced and is a train driver in the UK. On the...
A. 2 May 2013: One thing to remember is that he's been supportive, kind, etc, because he has, for the most part, only had to deal with it remotely. ... (read in full...)
How do I ask him in a nonchalant way what he expects from our next date?
Q. I have been on 3 dates with this guy and things are going smooth,he suggested our next date should be at his 'apartment'..we haven't had sex or made out yet we r just in 'getting to know each other' phase..he sent me a text earlier today saying 'so ...
A. 1 May 2013: I don't think it has to mean that his intentions are sexual... Maybe he had in mind cooking you dinner, watching a movie, etc. Sometimes it's fun to have a house date.
HOWEVER, it's just soooooo close to the bedroom that he may not be able to ... (read in full...)
Sister in law friendship dilemma
Q. I have a dilemma regarding my sister in law. We used to be best friends and when her abusive boyfriend dumped her, I let her move in with me and my husband. I looked after her, helped her get back on her feet etc....like you would for a friend. ...
A. 1 May 2013: Yeah first things first, talk to your husband. If he says he wants her to come over, have her come over. You don't need to go out of your way to be her friend.
If he says he doesn't care then I'd probably not bother replying. Any rational... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm making a mistake? Is it stupid to marry a twice divorced man?
Q. I am nearly 30 and I want to marry a man who is 46. My parents are opposed to the match because he is much older than I am, belongs to a different country and race and primarily because he is twice divorced and is a train driver in the UK. On the...
A. 1 May 2013: I would certainly question his judgment if he'd been divorced twice. He could be an excellent husband, but you need to date IN PERSON for awhile.
How much time have you guys lived near each other? Like face to face time?
I'd recommend living... (read in full...)
I still haven't talked to him about us being in a relationship, it's just like we chill and have sex. So my question for you guys, should I talk to him about how I feel?
Q. I have been talking to this guy for a few months now. And the first time we officially chilled was on Christmas day. When we chilled, we did have sex. But before we chilled, it wasn't established what either of us were looking foe (like a ...
A. 1 May 2013: The age difference is nothing. Your problem is that you are a friend with benefit. Talking to him probably won't amount to much. Maybe you need to start over and stop giving it up without him having to work for it?
II used to hate the saying "... (read in full...)
A girl told me that my hair was man pretty. What does that mean?
Q. A few days ago, a girl who I've never met before told me that she liked my hair (I have long hair and it was tied in a ponytail on this day). I thanked her for the kind words, and then she followed up by saying something I've never heard before: ...
A. 1 May 2013: It's pretty and you're a man. ... (read in full...)
My crush says he's not the relationship type. How do I make him like me?
Q. so ive done it again... ive fallin in love and once again the guy dosnt want to love me... i just told him that i was crushing on him... and he knew for a while. he said hes not the relationship type of guy... and he dosnt know why.. and i can ...
A. 1 May 2013: Yeah, it's okay because you're young, but pretty soon you'll learn what love really is, and this definitely isn't it. So, keeping that in mind, realize that you can like a guy relatively easily, so it's not like he's the only one that can make you ... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend out of my house? I'm sick of her lies and her cheating...
Q. I have been dating a girl for almost two years. She has constantly lied and told me she was not talking to guys. She talks to guys that don't help her I help her financially and emotionally, and I have taken care of her when she is sick or car ...
A. 30 April 2013: First of all, you need to change your locks. Then talk to her and tell her it's time for the two of you to part ways. I wouldn't give her time to find a place if you're sure she could go somewhere else.
I'd recommend offering to pay for a room i... (read in full...)
I'm married with 3 children, one of my children may belong to my lover. How can I make everyone happy? I don't want to lose my husband.
Q. I got married eight years ago to a man i seriously thought was my soulmate. Shortly after our wedding he started shutting down sexually and left me wanting for more. Since that time i have had a few affairs, nothing that would threaten my emot...
A. 30 April 2013: I think it'd be a horrible idea to get a DNA test done. If your child or husband found out they were not related it would be devastating to both of them. Your husband may not be perfect, but he doesn't deserve that.
Your lover knew what he was g... (read in full...)
Who can I talk to about the visions that I have? Some of them scare me!
Q. Sometimes I have visions but the hook me up because some of them come true most of them have him come to pass yet but I get the feeling up to going to come true. Who should I tell about my visions?And why? Sometimes these visions scare me I don't ...
A. 30 April 2013: Your parents, a school counselor or the school nurse are a good place to start.
I'm not sure exactly what you mean, but you need to remember that these visions aren't real. Don't act on them.
It's good that you're looking for help. I wish you... (read in full...)
Confused as to why he keeps threatening to go to prostitutes if I do something he doesn't like!
Q. im in relationship with w for more then five years. the only thing i promised him was that i will never leave him or for sure i will never betray him. but i will leave him if i get to know that he is with other girls. if any girls cross into our ...
A. 30 April 2013: He's a jerk. Feel free to break your promises to him, since you can never really promise something like that.
If you keep that promise no matter how he treats you, you'll be in for a lot of pain. ... (read in full...)
How do I find out what she feels for this other guy before I tell her how I feel about her?
Q. over the last few months this girl has been acting in a way that makes me think that she likes me. always talking to me and looking at me as well as ruffling my hair when i'm around my friends only mine and at a party on saturday I kept looking over ...
A. 30 April 2013: If you had been a little less passive before you wouldn't be on this situation. So, maybe you need to stop being passive and ask her out? She might like this guy but that shouldn't matter to you (unless he's your friend) as people can like more than ... (read in full...)
Will he notice that I gained weight? Does it matter to men?
Q. I am probably going to sound completely insecure, but hey, I need some reassurance. I have liked this guy for a long time now, we used to see each other once a week over a 6 month period last year, but for various reasons we kept it purely platon...
A. 29 April 2013: He probably won't notice that you gained weight, but he may not find you as attractive as he once did. I doubt that though, as 14 lbs isn't a ridiculous amount of weight.
My wife is 110 lbs, 5' 1", so it'd be pretty noticeable. I had a girlfrie... (read in full...)
My wife stresses about EVERYTHING which in turn causes much stress for me!
Q. Hi everyone - I've been married now for around 9 months. When my wife and I were first dating everything seemed like we were on cloud nine, we got along really well and did not have a single drama. The few weeks before our wedding however things got ...
A. 29 April 2013: I've been married to someone like that for nearly six years. I don't know how to help you; maybe therapy?
The reason I'm commenting is to implore you to not have kids until her problem is better (if that happens). If my wife didn't get pregnant... (read in full...)
Need advice! Is he genuinely interested or just wants sex or some action?
Q. This a guy I met at a party who's going to the same school as me next year, and we started talking on facebook. We would talk for 3~7 hours a night and we have really entertaining conversations. I can't tell what his intentions are, and I'd really ...
A. 29 April 2013: How about you stop wondering what he wants and carry yourself in a manner that reflects what YOU want?
Don't "hang out", go on dates. Don't let him come to your house before his actions have made his intentions clear. Proceed as if you're a... (read in full...)
I feel ignored by my boyfriend.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for several months. We live about 30 miles from each other and used to see each other 2-3 times a week and we would communicate daily through text. Right now I have not seen him in two weeks and only hear from ...
A. 29 April 2013: Communicate, that should always be your first option. ... (read in full...)
33 year old guy. Looking for relationship advice as I've only been out with one girl before.
Q. I'm really sorry, but this is going to take some reading. Hope that's alright :) First of all a bit of background: I have very little experience with women, and am a fairly shy person. I'm a 33 year old guy, and have been told that...
A. 29 April 2013: Everything you're saying implies she likes you... It sounds like she's interested. I have to admit, I'm totally confused about the pretend that never happened statement.
What I'd do if I was you is ask her. The next time things are going well jus... (read in full...)
Does every man in a relationship still look at other women? Would every man cheat with a gorgeous girl if they definately knew they would get away with it?
Q. Hi, sorry this is long. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years, he treats me perfect and has never cheated on me or given me any reason not to trust him. But out of nowhere I've started to drive myself (and him) insane by questioning him ...
A. 29 April 2013: I think 99% look. I know I do if my wife isn't around. And at this point I'd never cheat on her because I'd never put myself in the position to where I had to resist an unusual amount of temptation. ... (read in full...)
My husband never wants to have sex with me
Q. i just wish he would come on to me or somebody! I'm 43 and lonely. whenever I try to have some time alone with him he always make sure that he bring someone home with him I've got a friend or something or just blows me off I almost thought about ...
A. 29 April 2013: Why don't you forget about the money part and cheat on him? I'm a firm believer that if the person you're married to won't sleep with you, you should either leave them or just cheat if you're otherwise happy.... (read in full...)
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