In love with two different guys
Q. First of all, this is going to be pretty long, so I just want to thank anyone who actually takes the time to read this and give advice. Let's do each other a favor and try to keep negative comments to a minimum. Basically, I'm in love with two di...
A. 9 July 2013: If you frequently argue with someone who's also carrying on another relationship behind your back, you should definitely question whether or not you should be with them. Cheating on someone and not even bothering to use protection should be a deal ... (read in full...)
Please help me - did I lose my virginity?
Q. Over the summer I had a boyfriend we will always be together well anyways , one day we were at his bedroom and we got sexual he sticked his penus in me and I had pain but my question is if he sticked it in once did he pop my cherry ? when we got up ...
A. 7 July 2013: Wetness could have been his cum. You aren't a virgin by any definition. ... (read in full...)
After first time sex that I thought we both enjoyed, the next morning he tells me my behind smells!
Q. Ok so I started seeing this guy and we dig each other. The other night we had sex for the first time and everything was going well.... we had amazing sexual chemistry and couldn't keep out hands off each other. Throughout the night he kept telling ...
A. 7 July 2013: That's something that happens once in awhile no matter how clean you normally are. For him to KNOWINGLY embarrass you like that is unforgivable in my opinion.
He also could just be an asshole who likes to make people feel bad.
Either way yo... (read in full...)
Every single man that I meet that I may have a thing with leaves me before anything can happen!
Q. Hi everyone, I'll try and keep it to the point! I'm 25 and my problem is this - every single man that I meet that I may have a thing with leaves me before anything can happen! It's so frustrating! I'm not needy, everyone says I'm attractive, funny ...
A. 7 July 2013: This is a question that nobody here can possibly answer in a way that will be satisfactory to you.
Have you really thought about how you act before this happens? Is there a pattern? I would have guessed you were needy or something similar ... (read in full...)
Do dumpers always remember the bad memories after they break up with someone?
Q. Sorry, my story is a bit long. My ex of three years dumped me for no reason five months ago. He then had no contact after we split up. I'm still suffering from the pain and always wonder where went wrong. We were so in love and talked about ...
A. 7 July 2013: "he dumped me for no reason" - sounds like you're in denial. You listed a ton of reasons why the relationship wasn't as good as you think it was. It sounds to me like you should have dumped him awhile ago.
The dumpers usually remember the good... (read in full...)
Would you change your religion for love?
Q. Ok,this is probably not the smartest question, having been spurred by the vision of a Sex and the City rerun, but I'd be curious to know the opinion of my esteemed DC colleagues and readers : would you change religion for love ? why, or why not ...
A. 6 July 2013: My wife is Mormon, and promised her I'd investigate the church when we got married. She of course heard "I'll become Mormon for you."
Well I went to church for awhile, prayed, met with missionaries and guess what? I'm not a Mormon. I'm not even... (read in full...)
She loves me more than I love her.
Q. I have been dating this girl for 1 year and 6months. She always says things like "I love you more than anything in the world" or "I will love you for ever" or "I want to be with you forever" etc. etc. Which there is nothing wrong with that but I ...
A. 6 July 2013: Sounds to me like she is a needy/codependent person. Her feelings for you may not be as strong as they appear; she could be one of those people that just thinks she's madly in love when she's really just very in need of someone.
Either way, don... (read in full...)
My ex dumped me and hasn't been in touch since, but I miss him and want to contact him
Q. I was with my ex for four years. He dumped me two months ago. I was mad and hated him the first month, but I started missing him like crazy recently. He never contacted me after the break up, never asked what I'm up to or how I am. I don't have the ...
A. 6 July 2013: There's no point in telling him you missed him.
You're probably having issues with the rejection aspect of the breakup, so you need to understand that, unless you clearly did something wrong, he didn't reject you, he just realized the two of y... (read in full...)
LDR ex dumped me without an explanation and it really bothers me
Q. My ex of 5 years dumped me without any explanation. We were in a long distance relationship. He still said he loved me and missed me a month before he broke up with me. I have no idea why he would change so st. He never contacted me after the ...
A. 6 July 2013: The problem wasn't with you, it was with your "relationship". LDR's should be considered a temporary necessity, not a permanent thing.
He probably just got sick of it before you did. ... (read in full...)
Should I pay towards my girlfriend's second holiday this year despite other important financial commitments
Q. become less dramatic after some close calls in terms of our relationship that neither of us want to repeat. In short, we’re able to deal with and adapt to each other’s dominant personalities and the problems they produce between us much better. ...
A. 5 July 2013: This is definitely a time when you need to stand your ground. Tell her if she thinks it's your "duty" as a man to do anything like pay for her vacation, then it's her "duty" as a woman to listen to you when you say no. End of story.
In her defe... (read in full...)
Is it possible that I'm turning gay?
Q. I've been straight but started getting nasty thoughts progressively. Thinking about getting a prostate massage from my wife and even doggy with a strap on. Today I just thought of kissing this guy that followed me in the mall. I have been married ...
A. 3 July 2013: You're probably awakening long dormant feelings... If it was you I'd be honest with my wife and maybe she'd be open to bringing another man into the bedroom. Who knows, it may be the best thing to ever happen to your sex life. ... (read in full...)
Advice for women with high libido?
Q. Hi Everyone, I am looking for advice for women with high sex drive. I have had a high libido since I was about 18 (although I didn't have sex until I was 21, and I have only had sex with one person, my ex-boyfriend). One of the reasons I left h...
A. 3 July 2013: I think there are two solutions to your problem. Find someone who is as horny as you are (once a day is totally normal), or learn to satisfy yourself in between sex.
Note that being rejected sucks for everyone. It has nothing to do with your des... (read in full...)
I wanna know why he's being a creeper and what do I do when he brings over girls to our house.
Q. Ive spent the last year sleeping with this guy. We spent almost everyday together and I knew we weren't together and he told me he didnt want a relationship with me I understand that he's a user so I don't want you guys to reiterate that fact to ...
A. 3 July 2013: Your only options are to "suck it up or leave" as you put it. While the decision is really only yours to make, I can't imagine why you'd stay in a FWB relationship that makes you hurt.... (read in full...)
I say he is the most disloyal man ever and he says he is just being honest about his emotions. What do I do?
Q. I am so sad and tired. My boyfriend of 6 years has become completely disloyal to me. One example, We auditioned for a play together recently and I was disappointed that I did not make callbacks and therefore would not be getting a speaking part in ...
A. 3 July 2013: Pick the luggage up and walk out the door. Block his number/Facebook/etc.
Find a better guy after a being single for awhile. ... (read in full...)
I'm back with my ex but I'm worried he's still lying to me.
Q. My ex asked me back after he came back from holiday with a woman who he says he dated only once and ended the relationship on their second meeting. He also had her picture as his screen saver which was taken at her house in her kitchen and was still ...
A. 3 July 2013: I doubt he's lying about being with her, it sounds like she dumped him and you were his second choice. Don't take that personal, it just means he saw the grass as being greener. ... (read in full...)
My virgin boyfriend can't stay hard to have sex and makes me feel totally unattractive
Q. I'm 17, nearly 18 and I've been dating my boyfriend for about 3 and a half months. I was not a virgin when I first started dating him - I lost my virginity to my ex boyfriend - but my current boyfriend is still a virgin. At the beginning of our ...
A. 3 July 2013: You way over did it for the first time. The second time as well, but not too bad. He may be feeling a lot of pressure to perform... I'd make his first time as spontaneous as possible... do things that get him in the mood and work up to it. But ... (read in full...)
I can't say no to sex and being labelled by my friends. Please help me, I keep getting hurt over and over!
Q. I have a lot of guy problems, so ill explain where it all came from. Im 17 years old. I lost my virginity at 14. To a 19 year old, it was forced and I was Hammered. I had never even made out with a guy before him. Then i waited nearly a year be...
A. 1 July 2013: Well, the bottom line is that guys want sex. They can either get it with no effort (one night stand, friends with benefits, using a girl) or they have to date and have a relationship to get it.
If you sleep with them in order to make them fal... (read in full...)
I need fun things that we could do that doesn't involve sex but that would turn my B/f on when we are getting intimate
Q. Hi, I have been dating my boyfriend for over 2 months now..we have decided there won't be any sex(I believe in sex after marriage and he's ok with that) So I need fun things that we could do that doesn't involve sex but that would turn him on when...
A. 1 July 2013: There are a million things you can do that don't involve vaginal penetration, but the more you push the boundaries, the more frustrated he'll get. ... (read in full...)
My ex is stalking my Facebook, does he miss me?
Q. My husband and I have been married for six months. we bicker a lot and this is the 4th time we have split up. I am 4 months pregnant. when we broke up three weeks ago we were still talking, but when he told me he doesn't want to reconcile I changed ...
A. 1 July 2013: I can't imagine why he would tell you he doesn't want to reconcile and then file for divorce if he didn't mean it. I'm sure it was hard for him and it doesn't mean he doesn't wish things could be different, but it sounds like you may be in denial if ... (read in full...)
My ex is stalking my Facebook, does he miss me?
Q. My husband and I have been married for six months. we bicker a lot and this is the 4th time we have split up. I am 4 months pregnant. when we broke up three weeks ago we were still talking, but when he told me he doesn't want to reconcile I changed ...
A. 30 June 2013: While it may be him, actions speak louder than words. ... (read in full...)
I am frustrated with waiting for the woman I gave a promise ring too!
Q. I gave a promise ring to a woman that I haven't heard from her for 2 months before that we were seeing each other at least twice a week for three months. And but now i have been dating other women during that time cause we didn't talk for two months ...
A. 30 June 2013: Congratulations, you just discovered why promise rings are stupid.
Don't bother with "why" she's doing this, just recognize that the two of you are on a completely different page. Find someone who is more in tune with you and your needs. ... (read in full...)
I know I've done wrong, but will he give me another chance?
Q. Hoping someone can help me.. Year and a half live in boyfriend broke up with me because he said he was scarred from how mean I had been in the relationship We had so many good times but when we argued I was just very cruel and he was very se...
A. 29 June 2013: I don't agree in any way that he's playing mind games; I'm pretty sure the Op asked him if he thought they'd ever get back together, as the broken hearted usually do.
I don't think he'll want you back. When someone is mistreated for long enough t... (read in full...)
I know I've done wrong, but will he give me another chance?
Q. Hoping someone can help me.. Year and a half live in boyfriend broke up with me because he said he was scarred from how mean I had been in the relationship We had so many good times but when we argued I was just very cruel and he was very se...
A. 29 June 2013: I don't agree in any way that he's playing mind games; I'm pretty sure the Op asked him if he thought they'd ever get back together, as the broken hearted usually do.
I don't think he'll want you back. When someone is mistreated for long enough t... (read in full...)
How can I be the love of her life one day, then absolutely nothing the next day?
Q. I've posted on here a couple of times recently. I had some great feedback. Basically, it was about my ex. She's been so on again-off again with me. One minute I'm the love of her life and she wants to live with me, marry me and have a family with ...
A. 29 June 2013: Not everybody thinks the way you do, so not everything people does will make sense...
She may have some sort of manic depression that causes her to be high on life one day and think she has nothing good in her life the next.
It most likel... (read in full...)
My B/f keeps interrogating me about my past and if he were to ever find out I have lied, he will end things. What should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and he is te type of person that just about interrogates me about guys in my past. I have nothing to be ashamed about and have only been with one person before him. He always asks about stupid things ...
A. 28 June 2013: Stop answering him. Tell him it's an immature question and you're tired of talking about those kinds of things.
Then stop answering him! There's no reason to lie, just tell him it's none of his business.
You're enabling this behavior, try to... (read in full...)
Is this normal? Or am I just having a really good orgasm?
Q. Hello! I have a question. I'm a 23 year old male and when I orgasm, my body seizes up and causes me to not be able to move much afterwards. It is not painful, but my penis becomes EXTREMELY sensitive (enough to cause me to post about it! Lol) a...
A. 28 June 2013: I don't know, if I was you I'd never have another orgasm again, just to be on the safe side. You may end up paralyzed. ... (read in full...)
My cheating ex is making me feel bad because I had a one night stand after we broke up. Am I in the wrong?
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up around about 3 weeks ago due to him cheating on me. He's cheated on me multiple times, and now I've had enough, we broke up and ended and the break up has been challenging to say the least. ...
A. 26 June 2013: I think what you did would have been inconsiderate to someone who had treated you well... But in his case Karma's a bitch.
I wouldn't bother talking to him in person, he's just going to try and talk you out of leaving and possibly make a fool of ... (read in full...)
Think the best thing I can do at this point is to just stay silent for "a couple weeks" like she originally said, and then maybe try to call her and see what's up... what do you guys think?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for two years recently she's been being a bit distant, she tells me she's spending time with family/working on career/etc. which is all totally fine, because everyone needs time for themselves, but she's been seein...
A. 26 June 2013: No contact till she contacts you! If that's never, so be it, move on. It sounds like you guys are having compatibility problems, so that may not be such a bad thing.
You're at risk of pushing her away so I'd seriously go with no contact. ... (read in full...)
She tells me that her relationship with this guy friend is normal for her culture but I'm not so sure
Q. I got in a relation with one of my employees. Now as if that's not enough risk already. She also moved in with me 2 days after we got into the relationship. She told me, I am in this for the long run and I don't want to get into the relati...
A. 26 June 2013: No, it's not any more normal there than anywhere else. In fact it may be less so. The challenge with dating someone from there is that they will take advantage of you if you let them. I have a friend from there and she was saying that the women will ... (read in full...)
We have been dating 8 years and never had sex because of pregnancy fears
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years and we have never had intercourse. We are ready to, but we are freaked about getting pregnant because we have both always been so serious about attaining our high degrees in school. In high school i...
A. 25 June 2013: This is definitely not normal (although it's not wrong).
No birth control method is 100% effective, but if you double up on birth control (such as the pill/condom) you're more likely to get struck by lightning than get pregnant.
Even the pill... (read in full...)
Its false projecting when she's making her lips look larger than they are!
Q. I met this girl, who is incredibly beautiful, funny, smart and so easy to get along with! One the thing that I found alluring about her was the fullness of her lips. And we've been on a few dates and yesterday we went out in the day and I noticed ...
A. 25 June 2013: She right. Make up enhances women's natural beauty. Duh. You should watch the way you talk to her ("that's weird") or you may find this relationship to be short lived. ... (read in full...)
How to ask her out without seeming clingy or random?
Q. I met this girl a few weeks ago at uni through a friend and she stayed back a couple of hours to study with me alone. I really liked her and we had some good conversation so I got her number, however it was right before exams and she was busy so we ...
A. 25 June 2013: What's with guys who think it makes them sound desperate or clingy because they want to be with a woman? You want to be with a woman because you're a heterosexual man, now act like one and ask her out! ... (read in full...)
I cant read if hes being flirty or friendly?
Q. Hey, Ok so basically I have NO IDEA how to read this guy, we are really close friends and I dont know if what he says and how he acts is just flirting or if its just the fact that we are so close friends that we can say and do things like that and ...
A. 25 June 2013: Yeah this is the dumbest question. Of course he likes you. ... (read in full...)
How do I put it and keep it in my head and have it locked up in there, that its really over
Q. I get that he doesn't want me back now. I know it. I keep telling myself that. I know for a fact that its over. I don't understand why I still keeep coming back to him. Its annoying cause I send him this text brigade, text after text after text ...
A. 25 June 2013: Well for starters, you need to try to not take the break up personally. So many people are devastated by break ups not because they really miss the person, but because rejection hurts and you crave that acceptance.
So, remind yourself that the... (read in full...)
How can I avoid my cursed relationship status of FWBs?
Q. Hello Aunts, I'm in a little bit of a dilemma. I have not been in a serious relationship since my last one about 2/3 years ago. It was a breakup that set me over the edge and made me swear off relationships for awhile. So I decided to have ...
A. 25 June 2013: If you let a guy have a FWB relationship with you instead of an emotional one, he will, almost always. These guys aren't using you, because they aren't lying to get you in the sack. You're just sleeping with them too soon and expecting nothing from ... (read in full...)
We've only met once, in a LDR..do all men lose interest?
Q. We've been dating for over a year now and met only once (different countries). I love the everyday talking (chatting on facebook) which usually lasts 30 mins-an hour but sometimes when we aren't busy I want to talk more but he says it's too much. ...
A. 25 June 2013: Well, you're not actually spending time TOGETHER, and that's the problem. ... (read in full...)
My bf is still communicating with an ex even though we agree that he would not! HELP!
Q. So the man I have a relationship with for he last two years had an affair in January. Technically we were on a break. He was out of town for a month and there were no promises made. However he kept the affair secret and when he came back took up ...
A. 24 June 2013: This is the point where you have to see reality (as suggested by so very confused). Make your own choice, but don't lie to yourself about these facts. Is this the type of relationship/guy you want?
He lied to you about something very big.
... (read in full...)
How much, if any, of the insurance money I got after my father passed away should I be expected to give to my guardian?
Q. Hey everybody I'm getting $37,000 from insurance because my dad passed away, and I live with a guardian. I've been living with her for a year. How much should I give her because I know she wants some of it, she asked me if I was gonna give her...
A. 22 June 2013: Is the Guardian a family member? Are they being paid by the state?
If they are a family member and taking care of you has cost them money when they don't have it then some amount may be appropriate, but 10k is too much.
If they are being p... (read in full...)
Is she just waiting for me to make a move?
Q. So this is probably going to make me sound pretty pathetic but it's been on my mind all day. I guess I've got a crush on a girl I work with and would be open to the idea of dating her, I just haven't figured out how exactly to bring it up yet ...
A. 22 June 2013: If you live your life afraid of rejection you're never going to get anywhere with women. Not to mention, the longer you wait to ask her the greater your odds of getting rejected.
Just do it. If she says no don't feel bad, it just means you're n... (read in full...)
Do you need to be attractive in order for people to talk to you. Please help me I feel invisible!
Q. hi this is not a relationship advice question however i need some help. Im currently studying in uni, iwould consider myself a less attractive plus size gal. I have always had issues with weight and have very bad hyperpigmentation on my face. Im not ...
A. 20 June 2013: If your theory was true then the world would be filled only with beautiful people since they would be the only ones having babies. As it is, beautiful people are the exception, not the rule.
Your problem (as noted by Mariah), is your self est... (read in full...)
Ex partner apologises after 2 years apart!!!
Q. I split with my partner 2 years ago. I had 1 young child with her and she had a child from a previous relationship. We had been together for about 12 years! We have stayed in touch due to me seeing my son weekly, of course, and she has often ha...
A. 20 June 2013: I'd guess she is coming to realize she may have made the wrong decision. ... (read in full...)
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