Ex partner apologises after 2 years apart!!!
Q. I split with my partner 2 years ago. I had 1 young child with her and she had a child from a previous relationship. We had been together for about 12 years! We have stayed in touch due to me seeing my son weekly, of course, and she has often ha...
A. 20 June 2013: I'd guess she is coming to realize she may have made the wrong decision. ... (read in full...)
I don't think I can handle seeing her with her boyfriend!
Q. Hi, bit of a long question here. So about 2 years ago I told this girl whom I had been friends with for about 2 years (at that time) that I had feelings for her but she told me that she didnt like me in that way and just saw us as friends which took ...
A. 20 June 2013: Two years ago? This was just a friend you had a crush on, not your ex wife we're talking about. Stop dwelling on it, face your fears and move on. ... (read in full...)
How can I trust my husband when he texts a girl from an escort service all night?
Q. Dear readers, I find myself here again and I have only been married a month. I wass here to weeks ago. Because my husband joined a sex site and still denies it. But know I am here because my husband has been out of town for the week and I looked a...
A. 20 June 2013: Of course you can't trust him and he gave you plenty of reason not to. While it may seem easier to stay with him right now, it certainly won't be when you consider that you'll suffer for the rest of your life.
Do the responsible thing and brea... (read in full...)
How do I get over that he is expecting a baby with my ex friend and they will be getting married!
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend about 14 months ago. We had been in an open relationship for just over 2 years. He had been seeing another woman(who was actually a close friend of mine)for the last few months of our relationship until he decided he ...
A. 19 June 2013: You need to come to the realization that this has nothing to do with you. He didn't love her more, he was more compatible with her. It happens, and there's no reason to take it personally (easier said than done).
He didn't want kids/mar... (read in full...)
Do you believe a person can do/achieve whatever they want if they want it enough and work hard enough for it?
Q. Do you believe a person can do/achieve whatever they want if they want it enough and work hard enough for it? I'm asking this question in reference to my dream career but I'm interested in all general opinions on this too. Thanks!...
A. 19 June 2013: With the right attitude, persistence and hard work you can achieve a lot. Certainly not everything. It depends on how ambitious, intelligent, and charismatic you are, among other factors that you can't really control. ... (read in full...)
My ex-girlfriend is trying to get back to me, am confused!!!
Q. My ex girlfriend that we dated for four years left me for another guy, four months later she started sending sms to me just for us to get talking.I ignored all, recently she sent this one which got me very confused . She sent this " hello, how ...
A. 19 June 2013: Sounds like bs to me... She left you for another guy now she's trying to smooth it over by making it sound like she just needed "clarity of vision". Maybe that "clarity" is that the other guy isn't as good as she thought he was. Maybe things are bad ... (read in full...)
In love with my b/f but don't know how to tell him
Q. think I'm in love with my best guy friend We've been best friends since the end of our first semester in college . I've never mentioned the way I feel about him because I'm afraid of he won't feel the same way, and i don't want to ruin our ...
A. 18 June 2013: I have some advice: don't tell him!
You may be quick to develop feelings, even without a romantic connection, but he may not be. If you tell him it certainly could change things for the worse.
What you should do is start developing a rel... (read in full...)
Curious about my wife's sexual past
Q. My wife and I have been together 9 years, and had the whole "how many people have you ******" conversation many years ago. Ever since then, I, like many husbands, still wonder "is that her real number, or is she holding some back?" The history she ...
A. 16 June 2013: I think almost everyone lies when asked that question. I learned not to ask it after I asked a 21 yr old I was dating and she told me 15. I was surprised but figured she had to be telling the truth until it came up in front of her sister and a ... (read in full...)
I promised my sister I would take care of her family, but this isn't what I bargained for
Q. Few years ago my sick sister made me promise that i would take care of her family if anything happened to her,at the time i didnt really think she would die so young,so the family arranged for me to marry her widower and raise her 4 kids,it was ...
A. 15 June 2013: Try marriage counseling. ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't put in any effort in our marriage and it's taking it's toll on me
Q. I don't know what to do. The situation with me and my husband that I am taking care of absolutely everything regarding our lives. We have business, that I run. All the paperwork, all customer relations, accounting, everything's my responsibility. ...
A. 15 June 2013: You haven't even mentioned having a conversation with him about this... Tell him you are at your breaking point and you're done taking care of him. Tell him that you're so tired of it that if it continues you'll be leaving him.
Then stop enabling... (read in full...)
What could I do about losing my virginity this way? any way of making it easier?
Q. hello, im very conflicted about something that most people dont really pay mind, but to me is a big deal. you see i am still a virgin at 23, and a big part of that was because when i was younger and way more innocent i made the choice of not be...
A. 15 June 2013: Just because a woman has had sex doesn't mean she's a slut. You've manufactured quite the dilemma here. Think about it... Let's say that you find this virgin who waited all this time for someone like you, but after having sex the relationship ... (read in full...)
I feel like my ex is my soul mate -- but I've since gotten married
Q. When I was seventeen, I met a guy and fell very deeply in love with him. Everything about him was ideal and we were together for three years. We broke up because he got a job in another continent and I was going to university and it didn't make ...
A. 15 June 2013: That grass is GREEN! It's easy for you to have found your soul mate when your love has never been put to any kind of test (other than moving which didn't turn out well).
If you go see your ex you'll be putting your good marriage to the test, an... (read in full...)
My LDR of over two years just stopped talking to me
Q. My long distance boyfriend for 2 1/2 years stopped talking to me just like that. We had such a good relationship and love each other so much. He live in different state which is about 3000 miles from me but we see each other every other month. We ...
A. 14 June 2013: Don't feel too bad... LDR's are very difficult, even if you see each other occasionally.
Stop concerning yourself with what happened (it wasn't your fault) and try and move on, this time with someone closer to home. ... (read in full...)
I counted his viagra pills and of course I thought the inevitable
Q. I had to attend a conference that was out of state that lasted over a week. I got a nagging feeling and before I left I counted my husband's Viagra pills. When I got back I counted them again and 1/4 of a tablet was gone. He halves them and ...
A. 14 June 2013: You call it a sixth sense, I call it paranoia.
You have zero evidence of infidelity, and you've just experienced the phenomenon of "if you want to find a reason to suspect your spouse you will."
I have a friend who nearly ruined his marri... (read in full...)
How do I move on from being stuck and hurt at the same time? So I lost my virginity and was cheated on in the same 72 hours.
Q. I am on summer from my first year at university. Last November i started talking to a girl i met several years before when we were both underage. We met at summer camp and kept in touch online. After a few months i saw her changer her pict...
A. 14 June 2013: You didn't get cheated on, you slept with a permiscuous girl. There's not really a lesson to learn here, except maybe don't expect much from someone just because they have sex with you. ... (read in full...)
Do I keep fighting for love or pull back?
Q. My 9 year relationship with my boyfriend just ended 6 weeks ago. The first 5 years were great. The last 4, not so great. I gained a lot of weight and pushed him away. Wouldn't have sex with him. Wouldn't even let him touch me. I was mean to him. I ...
A. 14 June 2013: I would say that he won't fall back in love with you because you've broke too many promises and it hardened him.
It's hard to say what will work. If you pull back it may make him miss you but it will only prove his point. I'd just stick it out a... (read in full...)
How can I convince my ex that it was he who drove me away?
Q. My ex boyfriend split up with me six weeks ago he said he wanted a break. My and my ex used to argue a lot over him going out really. He has also cheated on me a few months ago so I feel like I can't really trust him. After my ex split with me ...
A. 13 June 2013: If he did drive you away, that is a good reason to stay away. Don't worry about what he thinks. The only reason you want to get back with him is because he dumped you... Before he did that it didn't sound like you wanted him anymore. ... (read in full...)
My g/f broke up with me over a kiss and yet she cheated on me and I forgave her!
Q. Thanks for reading, I just don't know where to turn to, so I am asking you lovely people :) I have been with my girlfriend for just over 1 year. Things were really good between us. Very early on into the relationship, we did have a bump in the ro...
A. 13 June 2013: Just move on. Don't make a fool out of yourself and ask for anything from her. Consider yourself lucky that you aren't with a woman that will cheat just because she's drunk. ... (read in full...)
Do you think men really want to get married??
Q. Hello. Just wanting some opinions from you uncles. How do you feel about marriage? I want to hear from the men that are married and the ones in relationships. It seems to me that it's usually (almost always)the women pressuring for an engage...
A. 13 June 2013: Many men don't care one way or another, but do it to make their women happy. Some men feel like the women they're with is the best they'll ever find and they want to "lock it down". Some guys want to marry any girl that makes them feel special... ... (read in full...)
Planned a vacation with a friend but her negativity is giving me second thoughts
Q. Here is the upsetting situation for me with my friend. More than a year ago we went to a bar with her and I met one of the most gorgeous guys ever. He was younger and really good looking. He took my phone number in bar, and kept texting me after we...
A. 12 June 2013: The wrong travel partner can ruin a vacation... I'd think twice about going with her unless it's too late. You can always do your own things while there, so you don't need to feel tied to her.
I'm not getting something though; have you actually... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says if I ever snoop on him again its over!
Q. I think I've ruined my relationship. I'll try keep it short... My boyfriend was in a relationship with a girl about three years ago. She had a young son from a previous relationship and he said that the kid started to see him like a father. When t...
A. 5 June 2013: Well, I see where he's coming from 100%, the only exception being that you'll never change. You're obviously taking the steps to do so and that's great, but in the end the power to change all comes from you.
He may break up with you, and if he do... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is using me.
Q. Hey, my boyfriend is 15years older than me. I am 21 and he is 36, I I think I might be falling for him, im not exactly in love as yet I dont want to get to that point yet and then I get heartbroken again. Here is the problem, he has 4 kids the ...
A. 5 June 2013: You don't have to let him go, just stop letting him use you (or do things that make you feel used). If he leaves then you know he really was using you. If he stays then he may not be intentionally using you.
Keep in mind that the purpose of a rel... (read in full...)
She hurt me incredibly bad, I don't know why or what she wants from me, or even how to proceed from here. Help?
Q. help me, please. i have no idea what to do. i love my ex so much. we just broke up about a week ago and she hurt me incredibly bad. we had a stupid, small misunderstanding the other day and all of a sudden that night, she told me she needed space ...
A. 5 June 2013: She could never properly explain to you why she did/said what she did. She already did her best and there's nothing more to say. She feels guilty, so she agreed to meet, but she's obviously done.
And take what she said with a grain of salt. So... (read in full...)
How do I ask this girl out at work?
Q. How do I ask this girl out at work? I'm a male nurse who works in a hospital, and there's this really cute medical resident who floats around the other units that I've been crushing hard on for like 4 months. She's rarely on my unit however,...
A. 5 June 2013: Well, according to you, it's literally impossible to ask her out....
But, since I don't buy it (stop making excuses), I'll give you some advice: gather your balls, and ask her any way you can. Whisper to her if you have to. Confidence is a huge t... (read in full...)
How to help my boyfriend to grow up?
Q. My boyfriend is 29, I’m 26 and we’re been together for 2 years now and living together for 6 months. We have our disagreements and concerns or mostly I do, so recently I’ve talked with him about our life together and how he sees everything. He said ...
A. 5 June 2013: It doesn't sound like growing up has anything to do with it... It sounds like he's just not satisfied with his life, you are probably included.
That doesn't mean that you are not a great girlfriend, just not for him. Even if you do manage t... (read in full...)
I am at the verge of begging him to take me back. Please help me!
Q. Dear Cupid My ex-bf broke up with me a month ago. I havent contacted him from the day he broke up with me as he said he's gonna block me in facebook, his phone, messagenger... Long story short, even after a month i miss him terribly, i kne...
A. 5 June 2013: Get a new job... Being reminded of him is obviously not healthy. Also, begging him to take you back will not work, it will just embarrass you. Resist the urge. ... (read in full...)
Part of me still wants to be with this woman even though I don't think she can be what I want
Q. I was in a long distance relationship that has since faded out after 9 months. My problem is there is a piece of me that still wants to spend my life with her although I know she is probably not capable of being the warm, caring compassionate woman ...
A. 5 June 2013: Try to use this as a boost of confidence to start another relationship... Don't stay with someone who you know is wrong when the ideal woman could be right around the corner. ... (read in full...)
Cybercheating, is it okay? Should I only wait to dump him til he actually does it in person?
Q. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about a year. And I oddly have a strange attachment towards him. We mostly are always together unless we know it’s a type of situation that we shouldn’t go together. We have a lot of similar friends and live ...
A. 4 June 2013: You seem to have some serious trust issues so it's hard to know what's really happening here and what's your version of what's happening. Either way it doesn't matter because the bottom line is that if you're okay with his behavior than his behavior ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's ignoring me because I refused his marriage proposal?
Q. Hello, I am going to try to keep this short. So there's this guy. November last he asked for my hand in marriage with my bro in law. i did not know the boy then. I had never seen him. However, since my parents want me to pursue my further edu...
A. 4 June 2013: I have no idea as I can't relate to this at all... In theory when a guy's proposal is turned down it would hurt, but since he didn't know you at all and had only seen you twice, I don't see how he could be so bothered by it, especially well after ... (read in full...)
Why on earth did I feel the need for an affair? And will the stupidity fade over time?
Q. Hi. Feeling pretty stupid really. I'm married and have been for 21 years. We've had our ups and downs but seem relatively happy. Earlier this year we had some work down at our house. The guy doing the work seemed nice and was very professiona...
A. 4 June 2013: You craved some excitement... That's perfectly normal, but you obviously took things too far. For most people, the affair is exciting, but the guilt and the fact that they could lose everything over it make it more suitable as a fantasy than a ... (read in full...)
I'm ready to have sex. How do I tell my parents?
Q. I am 17 and I am a virgin. Well my parents have always been very conservative on matters of sex. I used to wear a purity ring (my parents kind of pressured me into vowing abstinence). I was on vacation and lost my ring while swimming in the ocean. I ...
A. 3 June 2013: I would only tell them if it's necessary to get birth control.
Otherwise I really don't think it's their business. However you need to respect their home and whatever wishes they might have while in it. ... (read in full...)
When is it time to tell him I don't want sex before marriage?
Q. Hey everyone, I have been dating this guy for a month and a half now..we really like each other but may be things with us just happened too soon cuz there was soo much chemistry and sparks! There is one thing about me that I need him to know 'I ...
A. 3 June 2013: I'd tell him asap. For me it'd be a deal breaker. It's better that he find out sooner than later, that way if it's a deal breaker for him too you can both move on. ... (read in full...)
Do some guys not like well-educated girls?
Q. I'm currently at quite a good university studying a rigorous subject, and as I don't know any guys from my uni I'd really like to go out with I've started dating those from outside uni. I don't make a big deal out of my education, or like to argue...
A. 3 June 2013: Some guys like 400 lb women, does that mean you're going to gain a bunch of weight? I hope not... find a guy who likes you, not the version of you that you think he'll like.
I've had girls do that and eventually the pretending stops and the rela... (read in full...)
My irrational fear of getting pregnant is stopping me from meeting guys.
Q. Hi there, i'm sure this seems like a really stupid question but i just need some calming advice. I'm 22, still a virgin and only kissed a couple of guys. I dont have a problem with any of this however my problem is i have an irrational fear of ...
A. 3 June 2013: Do some form of hormone birth control, have him wear a condom and pull out. 0% chance of pregnancy. Problem solved, now go get some. ... (read in full...)
We don't have enough time for me to reach orgasm. What can I do?
Q. dear cupids, my boy friend of one year doesn't have the enough time to give me orgasm, we have sex at his parents house, and they rarely leave now, so when they are out we have a quick one where he reaches orgasm and i am stocked wanting more but...
A. 3 June 2013: Have sex somewhere else. The car for instance... ... (read in full...)
I'm hurting, in our 3 years he's cheated on me more than 5 times! How to prevent him from cheating again?
Q. im currently in a relationship of 3 years and since we have been together my boy friend has cheated on me more than 5 time, and he just repeated now so I just don't know what to do! and he keeps on saying he loves me when I dump him... so how do I ...
A. 3 June 2013: He'll never quit because you'll never leave him for it. He just has to apologize and tell you he's sorry and it'll never happen again and you'll take him back.
Prevent him from cheating by having an open relationship. You can have sex with who... (read in full...)
Friends say he just wants sex but he told me he won't mistreat me.
Q. There is a guy I have been talking to who I met through my friend for about 5 months, he's really nice and a gent at times, however yesterday me and my friend were talking and he came up in conversation and she said not to go for him (as in date) as ...
A. 3 June 2013: Live and learn...
Take what both of them say with a grain of salt. Use your best judgment and don't LET him use you for sex. Unless you only want sex it's a good idea to make a guy prove that he wants more than sex with you using his actions,... (read in full...)
Our moral values don't match because my girlfriend has no compassion towards suffering.
Q. I had a conversation with my girlfriend today about how I was upset about other people getting unfairly hurt due to no fault of their own, people being homeless and such and she told me that people who care about others are stupid and that people ...
A. 3 June 2013: The first post must be your girlfriend's...
Just because something happened in the past doesn't mean that it's not relevant. The op isn't sitting around moping about it, but he empathizes with those who suffer. And lack of empathy also causes h... (read in full...)
Why the different reactions from guys on different nights?
Q. Question for men. Do you guys feel a certain vibe coming from women when they are welcoming and ready for some action? The reason why I am asking this because recently I became single again, and I go out a lot. Some nites guys one after another ...
A. 2 June 2013: Men prefer good looking women with moderate to low self esteem over great looking, sexy women with high self esteem. This is because most guys have moderate to low self esteem.
It also could be a vibe or lack of. ... (read in full...)
How do you know whether to keep trying in a relationship, or to just move on?
Q. I'm 20, have been with my boyfriend (25) for 2 years. He is very loyal, affectionate, loving and absolutely adores me. For the past 6 months he just irrates me constantly. He's not very intelligent, lives with his parents, works in a fact...
A. 2 June 2013: He doesn't sound like a catch to me. "Absolutely adoring" you doesn't mean he's a good boyfriend since that comes from being codependent.
You also shouldn't not break up with someone because you're worried about finding someone new. Unless y... (read in full...)
The first guy knew the other guy. Did I do the right thing by telling the truth?
Q. So I went out with this guy on a date, and go figure one of co-workers and I slept together, before even started talking with the guy I went on the date on. He asked me if I knew him since he had seen we were friends on facebook and I told him the ...
A. 2 June 2013: It probably would have been a better idea to say it without giving so much info. You don't know guys as well as you think you do: we don't always have to announce that we slept with someone. You also made the mistake of letting him know that you're ... (read in full...)
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