I've already pitched in money for a holiday and now my girlfriend is treating me like crap. I don't think I want to be with her.
Q. About two months ago my girlfriend and her friends (her friends,not mine)decided to go on a vacation and they invited me. We calculated that it would be 500 dollars a person. Everyone pitched in money 2 months ago in order to ensure commitment and ...
A. 24 July 2013: Go and do your own thing. You're not a prime target for mugging, that's the older people. Young people don't have any money and the thugs know that. Besides, if you're careful everything will be fine. I've been in some pretty dangerous places and ... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate or inappropriate for your sister to live with your soon-to-be ex husband?
Q. Appropriate or inappropriate? My husband and I were having problems. My sister broke up with her boyfriend and requested to live in the house, I said no and gave her other options. My husband and I were on the verge of separation, I didn't think it ...
A. 24 July 2013: Insensitive is a better word.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend in my LDR is barely speaking to me anymore. Should I break up with her?
Q. I've been in a relationship for 3 years with this girl now. Last year, she moved to another city with her family. She used to call and message me all the time. After 3months,she joined a college for her further studies. She became friends with a guy ...
A. 24 July 2013: Sorry dude, but she's obviously not mature enough to let you move on even though she clearly has.
When another guy is more important to her than you are, it's a good sign that all is not well.
Send her a message simply stating that it'... (read in full...)
Is a threesome a good idea? Should I delay decision making, until I return in a month?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles :) I'll start with a bit of back story first. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 5 years now and we believe we are in a strong relationship. We've been through a lot what with family death and serious fall outs be...
A. 22 July 2013: While it makes sense to read some of the "threesomes gone wrong" stories to get an idea of the problems you may face, you have to remember that dear cupid is for people to ask for advice, not brag about their threesomes. If things go well then they ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't like me confiding in friends about our problem but he confides in a female friend when we fight
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a serious relationship for almost 2 years. We had a spat, and he went to his friend who is a girl and told her all about it, and confided in her!!I don't like it It upsets me because he does not like me getting advice f...
A. 21 July 2013: If he hasn't already cheated, it's probably just cheating waiting to happen. The "confidant" is the classic weakness for people.
... (read in full...)
I don't care that she's hanging out with her ex(s) during college vacation -- red flag that I should break up with her?
Q. I started dating a girl, pretty seriously (commitment to each other) shortly before college vacation. We have now been apart about 2 months, with approx 1 more month to go. We are thousands of miles apart. I rarely use Facebook, but when I ...
A. 19 July 2013: Unless you really have something to hold on to, I don't see the point in staying with her. It seems like it's only a matter of time until you break up; might as well be sooner than later so you can possibly find someone who really works for you. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend no longer wants to date or hang out, just wants sex
Q. I have a problem that really shouldn't be a problem for a guy of my age. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 6 months we had intercourse about 1 month ago. Up until that point our relationship had been great we were very affectionate and ...
A. 19 July 2013: Question 2 is hilarious...
Not all women are only interested in sex. Being good in bed (as SVC implied being good for one doesn't mean good for all) will usually mean you just have better sex, not that it'll dominate your relationship. ... (read in full...)
We broke up because of distance not because we weren't in love. Its so hard!
Q. Hello. I would like to ask for some advice if possible. Myself and my girlfriend have just split up due to her moving back to Italy and me being forced to stay here in Ireland. We discussed this at length and decided that things would be better ...
A. 19 July 2013: @wiseowl,i think you misunderstood; they lived near each other and she moved back to Italy so they broke up specifically because they didn't want to do the long distance thing.
@OP: Why don't you find a way to follow her? Work online from Ita... (read in full...)
My husband just doesn't want to do 'normal' things.
Q. My husband just doesn't want to do 'normal' things. He is very fond of drinking whilst I'm not bothered. All his plans involve drink and drinking buddies as I call them. He won't make plans with me to go out or walk with the dog, take me out a ...
A. 18 July 2013: Your man needs a complete overhaul. You listed so many big issues that I can't see the point in staying with him.
If you have kids your feelings will only get worse. He seems to be checked out of the marriage already, but at least he's not chec... (read in full...)
Did I ruin things by telling my boyfriend that he has a "grower"?
Q. me and my boyfriend were getting intimate for the first time. He has quite a small penis but it grew really large when turned on, and much larger than I saw a penis grow to compared to its size when soft. so when I saw what size it was beco...
A. 18 July 2013: For future reference, unless your boyfriend has an 8 inch penis, it's probably best to think very carefully about mentioning it.
He's probably fine, so I wouldn't worry about it. ... (read in full...)
Would writing to him help me get over the breakup?
Q. My ex of 4 years dumped me out of nowhere. It's just too harsh for me then. I keep myself busy and move on and I think I'm doing better though I still cried to bed some nights. I think I forgive him in my heart and wish him the best. Does anyone ...
A. 17 July 2013: I agree with writing him a letter and not sending it. It can be very therapeutic. ... (read in full...)
Is love really racist or Is it just my mind?
Q. Hi Friends, I am really trying to understand something here. I am working in a private sector firm and I like someone at work. I am an South East Asian and she probably is White/Mix. She started working at my company couple of weeks ago. When ...
A. 17 July 2013: I just want to make it clear that the only thing you have at this point is attraction. Nothing more. So if things don't work out there's no reason to be dismayed.
Now to your question. I bet what happened is that she kind of got the idea that you... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never has time for me, should I dump him?
Q. My boyfriend never has time for me should I break up with him ?? We were dating about 3 weeks before and things were great he was seeing me a lot then I got upset with him over him not adding me as a friend on facebook so I dumped him. I got really ...
A. 17 July 2013: I don't mean to sound insensitive, but I get the feeling that you are as much to blame as he is. But, either way, if you don't like the way he's treating you when you've only dated him for a few weeks then dump him. There's absolutely no reason that ... (read in full...)
Facing a separation and divorce, after just one year of marriage! Help, please!
Q. This is probably the most I have needed advice of any question I've asked on here. I am facing a separation and ultimately divorce. I'm having a lot of mixed emotions and its been a roller coaster but I'll give the background in as short a story as ...
A. 17 July 2013: The divorce rate is so high because people don't take compatibility into consideration nearly as much as they do love. Love is important, but you can see how far it's taken you without compatibility.
In my opinion you should get out of this rel... (read in full...)
By leaving him completely, will that make a guy come back?
Q. ok, I have been cutting a client/guys hair for a many yrs, and his kids too. after he got separated from his wife, not divorced yet,about 5mo, he asked me out.btw he has full custody of his kids. it was a whirlwind relationship, for 3mo we were all ...
A. 17 July 2013: It'll work better than any other option, but there's no guarantee. The worst case scenario is that you leave him, he doesn't come back, but you are able to get over him once and for all. ... (read in full...)
Is he interested in me, and if so what can I do to stop it?
Q. I have a real dilemma and I am in need of advice. I am a single 30-something year old mum and have been single for 9 years. My daughter rides at a local riding school and isn't of the age I can leave her on her own. She has become friends with ...
A. 17 July 2013: He definitely likes you... At the very least he would like to have a fling.
For future reference, in a situation like this if you're not sure that you're reading the signs correctly you can say it in a way that gives you both an "out". Tell him... (read in full...)
Was this online guy playing me?
Q. Ok so here goes, i had met this gent of a guy on a dating site. And we exchanged a few emails and numbers. So for the first couple of days things were going really well, and we talked a lot about the future, what we were looking for in partners. And ...
A. 16 July 2013: I don't understand why you'd start freaking out (no offense) because he didn't text you back the same day you texted him. ... (read in full...)
Is he interested in me, and if so what can I do to stop it?
Q. I have a real dilemma and I am in need of advice. I am a single 30-something year old mum and have been single for 9 years. My daughter rides at a local riding school and isn't of the age I can leave her on her own. She has become friends with ...
A. 16 July 2013: How hard could it be to tell him you're not interested in dating a married man? ... (read in full...)
Do you believe there's someone for everyone?
Q. I think the media hypes love by saying there's someone for everyone, don't give up on love. etc. NOT everyone finds love. I think society just says this to make people who've been hurt feel better, as well as to encourage procreation and sell ...
A. 16 July 2013: Even convicted serial killers find love.
With some people it just takes more patience as well as a willingness to hear the word "no" enough times to get to a yes.
If you are having bad luck with women (or no luck) and you're not making moves... (read in full...)
I've lost the attraction but I don't understand why.
Q. Hi, I really need help, I'm so stressed and I have no idea what I'm going to do! I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years we have no children and we both still live with our parents (we are 27, sad I know!) At the first 2 maybe 3 years o...
A. 16 July 2013: I don't agree that things are just over. Maybe, but it's also likely that the two of you have taken your relationship for granted and not nourished your love and/or passion.
Go on more dates, do special things for each other and try to rekindle... (read in full...)
Three months and he didn't mention he has kids?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. He is 28 and I am 25. The relationship moved really quickly and I absolutely fell in love with him and him with me. This past weekend, I found out that he has two children he neve...
A. 16 July 2013: I'd say that you should stay with him as long as you understand that you will probably never be able to expect anything from him.
Don't expect a family, responsibility, stability, honesty, etc.
So, basically treat him as you would a booty ca... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable to ask him to come to see me every time?
Q. I am starting to date this guy who lives in the city about 45 minutes (without traffic) from my house (I live in the suburbs). The first two times he came up to see me, once for coffee and the next time for dinner (it was his own suggestion for him ...
A. 16 July 2013: Uhhhh, the truth? ... (read in full...)
Do you think he feels guilty?
Q. Hi i was just wondering do men feel guilty about a relationship after it ends me and my ex split up 4 months ago after money problems and a miscarriage to which he left me 3days later lately though he has been trying to talk to me i don't want to ...
A. 16 July 2013: He could just be horny for all we know. ... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend masturbate to his ex girlfriends facebook pictures?
Q. Is it possible that my boyfriend masturbates to his ex girlfriends facebook page? He used to watch a bit of porn everyday. I didn't mind this but he said that he did it out of boredom (he works mornings and evenings and has a lot of hours off during ...
A. 16 July 2013: Facebook pictures aren't enough to warrant masturbating. ... (read in full...)
How is this for a profile on an online dating website?
Q. I am a member of a dating site, however I never know what different things to say in a reply that is mentioned in my profile. Here is my profile (is this too bland?): I am a happy-go-lucky guy with one life motto: Live life to the max! My f...
A. 16 July 2013: I think that you should just embrace the bad profile descriptions, it seems to be your destiny, and more honest than a flawless one. Think of it as part of your charm. ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend insists we get married so we can be together
Q. Thank you in advance for any advice regarding my problem. I am pretty torn up inside and I'm not sure of what I should do. I'm 25 years old and so is my boyfriend. My boyfriend and I have been in a transatlantic, long distance relationship for about ...
A. 15 July 2013: There are two possible outcomes. You could marry him and be great for each other, or (more likely) find out you're not right for each other. Why do I say "more likely"? Because it takes a lot of dating/intimacy/etc to find out if someone is right ... (read in full...)
Since I no longer pay for everything, he doesn't hardly see me at all!
Q. Ok I'm back with more questions. I am still in the LDR. But have made some much needed changes. I no longer pay for everything but with that change it means he doesn't see me hardly at all. So this is probably the last straw. This weekend I drive 3 ...
A. 14 July 2013: Another vote for dump him; stop being his payday and find a guy that cares about you. ... (read in full...)
He has nothing about us on any of his social media sites, he hinted today on a post then took it down. I quietly took down anything associated with him and now he's upset. Am I wrong? What would you do?
Q. Long story short I have talked to my boyfriend about how uncomfortable it makes me feel that he does not have anything on any social media websites that say he has a girlfriend. No pictures, no statuses, his relationship status on FB is blank. He ...
A. 14 July 2013: He's not doing anything wrong and either are you. But, it's not fair to assume he's trying to hide anything. Some people just like to keep certain things close. If you don't agree with him, you're free to leave. If you don't want to leave then just ... (read in full...)
I'm not her type, but she went on a date with me?
Q. Hey everyone! I recently went on a date with this girl, who I've been pursuing for like 6 weeks. She and I have an extraordinary amount in common, from musical taste, sense of humor, race and even religion - the main reason behind me being so a...
A. 13 July 2013: Congratulations on dating your sister!
You're over thinking it, just ask her out again. ... (read in full...)
Put a dent in my boyfriend's car, how do I handle this?
Q. I backed into something last night in boyfriends new car and now he is not speaking to me after though he was rude and acts like i did it on purpose. How long will he be mad? It isnt even a big dent (2in) also how should i handle it we live together...
A. 13 July 2013: Handle it by:
a) fixing it
b) paying more attention next time ... (read in full...)
Do you guys still hate or forgive your exes after being dumped?
Q. So my ex and I were in LDR and he dumped me out of no where a couple of months ago. I've been through every phase,grief,hating him, missing him and now trying to forgive him. I don't know what to do is better for me. I mean we've been through a ...
A. 13 July 2013: Don't think that you lost him because you weren't "sweet" enough. You lost him because it was an LDR and because you weren't compatible.
And to your question: I never hated anyone, it's a waste of time. Fortunately there are nearly 7 billion ... (read in full...)
Does this mean he no longer sees a future for us?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend just under a year now. In a little confused. We used to talk about our wedding day and kids and stuff. A couple of months ago, we had a couple of big fights but are working through them and he is still affectionate and ...
A. 13 July 2013: I think that a lot of time when people haven't been dating for very long they think that their partner is just about perfect. That makes it easy to imagine being married to them.
Then something happens that shatters the illusion that the other pe... (read in full...)
He still looks at naked pics of his ex
Q. Can I still date the guy or pursue a marriage while he is still curious about his ex girlfriend and look for her online and look at her naked photos? Is this normal for a guy? ...
A. 13 July 2013: How soon after they broke up did the two of you get together? If it wasn't very long and his relationship was pretty long, this wouldn't surprise me. Whether you put up with it is up to you though. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is completely broken up by the loss of his brother
Q. My boyfriend had a 7 year old brother whom he was extremely close to (the child's father wasn't in his life) about a week ago the boy died from heart problems. Since then, my boyfriend has hardly said a word and hasn't eaten anything and sits...
A. 13 July 2013: Until that's happened to you you can't imagine what he's going through, so just be there for him and try to not judge him or think that this will quickly pass. If you really care about him this will probably put your feelings to the test. Be ... (read in full...)
I really want to make plans to see him again, but I feel like he should get in touch with me.
Q. Hello, I'm 31 years old and recently met a guy who is 37 through an organization for which we both volunteer. We made plans to meet outside of the organization last weekend. I went into it thinking that it was just two people hanging out, but...
A. 13 July 2013: Why should he get in touch with you and not the other way around? I thought men and women were supposed to be equal... if you want something, and that something will make you happy, you gotta go out and get it! Don't let anyone else be in charge of ... (read in full...)
For the men who use porn, why don't you think of your girlfriend when masturbating?
Q. I'm not sure if this has been asked before but here goes those men who use porn when they have a girlfriend, why don't you think of your girlfriend when masturbating? Surely you find them the most attractive so what's it all about, we need this ...
A. 12 July 2013: Porn is the easiest way to get off. People like to make things as easy as possible.
If I don't have porn available I am capable of thinking of my wife.
"surely you find them the most attractive" Uhhhh, surely. My wife is beautiful but I ... (read in full...)
Why is my fiancé suddenly looking at porn?
Q. I have just found out that my fiance has been on a porn site. I am worried he is getting fed up of me. He has always said that he hasn't looked at porn since he has been with me (3 years now) so why now all of a sudden? Any advice please?...
A. 11 July 2013: It's fine, he's been watching it all along. Guys don't feel like they're doing anything wrong so they don't feel bad about lying, because they're thinking their woman will get mad about nothing. ... (read in full...)
I'm married and friend now wants to have sex. What do I do?
Q. Hi I am actually from Pakistan but now living in Australia with my husband and 4 years old son.My husband works and I am a housewife.We r really a happy small family.Here I met with a guy when I first came.I lost my way and my husband was not with ...
A. 9 July 2013: Why in the world would you consider this when you love your husband and you're sexually satisfied? Would you really risk everything you have just to have sex with someone new? ... (read in full...)
Deep Throat a Very Thick Dick..can it be done?
Q. I have a boyfriend with a very thick dick. I want to be able to deep throat him but I haven't been able to. I know the secret to it is relaxing my throat but he's so thick its almost impossible for me. Are there any tips where it'll be possible for ...
A. 9 July 2013: I disagree with anonymous, deep throating is no more degrading than any other non standard sexual act.
I also disagree about men not liking it. I doubt she's taken a survey. It's kind of hot, but it's not a big deal.
It doesn't feel bet... (read in full...)
I was with him for 13 years, once a week, how do I accept it's over now?
Q. I am in a relationship with a man for 13 years. He is 50 and I am 42. He has never invited me out and neither have I met his family or friends. We use to talk on the phone regularly at nights and on weekends. We are intimate once every week from we ...
A. 9 July 2013: To get over him try and look at the bright side: you've been in what sounds like little more than a friends with benefits relationship for thirteen years, now you are free to find someone who is willing to offer you what you really want. ... (read in full...)
In love with two different guys
Q. First of all, this is going to be pretty long, so I just want to thank anyone who actually takes the time to read this and give advice. Let's do each other a favor and try to keep negative comments to a minimum. Basically, I'm in love with two di...
A. 9 July 2013: If you frequently argue with someone who's also carrying on another relationship behind your back, you should definitely question whether or not you should be with them. Cheating on someone and not even bothering to use protection should be a deal ... (read in full...)
How is this for a profile on an online dating website?
Q. I am a member of a dating site, however I never know what different things to say in a reply that is mentioned in my profile. Here is my profile (is this too bland?): I am a happy-go-lucky guy with one life motto: Live life to the max! My f...
A. 5 March 2013: I don't think the picture being a year old matters as long as it's accurate. I look the same as I did 5 years ago, so if I had a nice head shot from then I wouldn't feel bad using it. Come to think of it I think I've been using the same Facebook ... (read in full...)
How is this for a profile on an online dating website?
Q. I am a member of a dating site, however I never know what different things to say in a reply that is mentioned in my profile. Here is my profile (is this too bland?): I am a happy-go-lucky guy with one life motto: Live life to the max! My f...
A. 5 March 2013: Exclamation marks are the crutch of weak writing; I'd recommend losing some of them as well as some of the clichés like "happy go lucky"! Also, you mentioned crying two times! ... (read in full...)
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