He is pushing me away and here I am, crying my eyes out!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He's 35 and I'm 31. My boyfriend has basically been neglecting me. He's always been the initiator in the relationship when it comes to texting/contact and anymore he doesn't even try. We don't live together ...
A. 24 August 2013: There comes a point where loving someone just isn't enough. In your case you're miserable, so what is the point? There are millions of guys that will love you AND treat you the way you want to be treated.
At this point you need to tell him that... (read in full...)
We discussed a FWB relationship but now he's running hot and cold!
Q. I have a coworker who's been hot and cold with me for about a year now. The past month, he's come on strong, being very physical and sexual. I would like to have a friends with benefits situation with him. I'm single, and not interested in a ...
A. 23 August 2013: Maybe he's in a relationship and he's nervous to cross that line. ... (read in full...)
A guy I was messaging online wanted me to do things I wasn't prepared to do and in the end he stopped contacting me. Now I see he's viewed my profile again. What does this mean?
Q. I have been on and off a dating site for about 5 months and have made a few pen pals. In the first few months there was a guy, he is 29 years old and he wanted a friends with benefits situation. In the beginning he was sort of nice complimenting ...
A. 23 August 2013: Do you think that he's a changed man and suddenly wants a relationship with you? Sorry, but he still wants easy sex. Contact him if and only if you want the same. ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when your husband doesn't get hard anymore?
Q. Hi I'm a married woman, mother of 2 and 1 on the way. My husband and I just recently relocated for a better life for the family. We don't know anyone here so we just rely on each other to get to know the area more. So as most parents know, its ...
A. 22 August 2013: I can't answer your question with any certainty, by I can confidently say you handled it EXTREMELY wrong! ... (read in full...)
I once let a guy film us having sex, which he then showed to his friends. I'm dating someone new and I'm not sure whether I should tell him about this incident.
Q. Once in my past, I let a guy that I trusted briefly film us having sex. He then showed it to a few of his friends, and for some reason I didn't stop him. I told him no, that I didn't want him to, but he did anyways and I just didn't know what to do ...
A. 22 August 2013: Heck no, unless you feel like you have to tell him for your own reasons, don't do it. There's no reason he needs to know, it's not like it'll help him get to know the "real" you or something. You weren't a porn star.... These days almost everybody ... (read in full...)
I'm very concerned that my boyfriend is getting a female roommate
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and I've always trusted him. I've known him for years and he was never a cheater with girls and was always well behaved. We've done long distance for the last few months and it's still ...
A. 22 August 2013: Well, I totally understand where you're coming from and completely agree with everything you said. However, the bottom line is that he's not doing anything wrong and there's not much you can do (or should do) to change it.
Consider this a small ... (read in full...)
I think she's losing interest! What do I say to her?
Q. It's been a while since i had a new girl friend and we have recently gone out like last month but things are giving me bad feelings about this. I have a feeling that she doesnt like like as she used to, well before going out we would be friends but ...
A. 22 August 2013: Your story isn't very clear about what exactly is going on, so I don't know how useful my advice will be.
It doesn't sound like you have a relationship so you probably can't dump her. But you can ask her to do something and if she fails to respo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend forgot my birthday and I'm furious
Q. My boyfriend of eight months forgot my birthday. First of all he knew my birthday was coming up and I had to ask him if we would have plans. He needed time to think about it and suggested that I might have plans with my friends. So I followed up ...
A. 22 August 2013: Well, you're at the point where you have to decide whether or not you want to be in a long term relationship with a guy who would forget your birthday despite several reminders.
Because the reality is, he is that type of person. Can you accept t... (read in full...)
I want to know how I can ask him out without making a fool of myself!
Q. I have a crush on one of the chefs at my job. Ive known him for about six months and in that time the only time he notices me in when the chefs need dishes. Im 17 and he is 23. I want to know how can i ask him out without making a fool of myself or ...
A. 21 August 2013: While I agree that the age gap is bigger than it seems on paper, it's not a deal breaker because everybody is different. I have a friend who married an 18 year old when he was 32. We made a ton of jokes at his expense, but the truth is, he and his ... (read in full...)
If a girl at work or serving at a shop that I frequent tells me "I am so bored", would you think that is a signal of interest?
Q. If a girl at work or serving at a shop that I frequent tells me "I am so bored", would you think that is a signal of interest? I have had one or two telling me they are bored, and we should get together, to take away the boredom. I realise the la...
A. 21 August 2013: I would say that this is most likely a girl who isn't relationship material, so if that's what you want go for it. ... (read in full...)
He's acting like I cheated on him! I did not!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now. Recently I turned 21, my boyfriend however will not be 21 until June. On my birthday we spent the whole day together and later that night I was going to go out with friends. Since the ...
A. 21 August 2013: It sounds to me like this should be a wake up call to you that you and your boyfriend aren't meant to be together forever. Let him find his "White girl not-wasted" (whatever that is) and you go find someone who'll treat you the way you want to be ... (read in full...)
How do I make my best friend see things my way?
Q. I'm really concerned about my Best Friend We've know eachother since elementary school and we've always been neighbors. Back then it was kind of weird if i didnt see her every week. She's super nice and funny, but she's also a bit impulsive and ha...
A. 21 August 2013: How about you give her advice and then let her use her best judgment. There's no "making her see it your way". People see things the way they see them, and if talking to them doesn't change that then there's nothing else you can do.
Also,... (read in full...)
I'm married, he's married. Do I tell him that I have a crush?
Q. I am married and I have a crush on a married teacher I met only briefly. Should I tell him? ...
A. 20 August 2013: Yet another..... WHY? ... (read in full...)
How often do guys un-friend zone girls?
Q. How often does this happen? My situation is this: my guy friend and I have known each other for 3 years but have never been super close because of his Avoidant Personality Disorder. Yet this summer things changed, we had a bit of a fight and made...
A. 20 August 2013: You may have fallen for him in a superficial way, but, from what you say about him it doesn't sound like he's relationship material at this point, which he seems to understand. For you it's easy to not agree because he hadn't fully exposed himself ... (read in full...)
Is being tan really considered to be more beautiful?
Q. So lately, everyone has been commenting on how pale I am. I mean its the summer time and I work as a lifeguard so you'd think I'd be super tan but nope, I have to wear a lot of sunscreen and when I don't, I get badly burned very easily and the burn ...
A. 20 August 2013: The best way to go about this is to divide your body right down the middle and have each half be complete opposites from each other. One side would be spray tanned, have long blonde hair, wear a lot of makeup, and have one big fake boob. The other ... (read in full...)
Has porn ruined the rest of my life?
Q. Hi there, I started watching porn from a young age (11 years old) and stopped when I was thirteen and was wondering now, has porn ruined my life? I feel like it's disturbed me from a young age, I only realised when I was about 12 years old; I knew ...
A. 20 August 2013: When I was your age I never watched porn, yet somehow when I walked in a busy area all I would see was bouncing boobs and tight pants.
I used to think I can't wait to get married so I can constantly have sex.
It's called hormones, it's n... (read in full...)
I can rarely make my girfriend orgasm, she can do it by herself but doesn't let me share in the experience and it makes me feel hurt, rejected and excluded
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. I am feeling pretty low in the relationship because of an issue which has been bothering me for nearly a year. I can only make her cum at most about 1x a month and we have an active sex life. She ma...
A. 20 August 2013: The better question is "is she satisfied?" Some women have issues cumming, there's no two ways about it. If she has perfected her techniques to the point that she can only cum that way then it's too bad.
But if she seems satisfied with you, the... (read in full...)
My crush, my soulmate
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend 4 months ago, and I've finally forgotten him, recently, (2 months ago) I started taking yoga classes to help me getting relaxed and to get to know me better, and it's really helping me, but the problem is that I have a ...
A. 18 August 2013: People always fall in love with their teachers; there is some sort of chemical reaction that happens when you learn that triggers those feelings.
So, him being your soul mate when the only thing you know about him is his "manner" is obviousl... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my classmate! Should I ask her out on a date then confess my feelings? Or text her my feelings right after exams?
Q. I need help... I think I've fallen in love with my classmate after a texting her a month ago. At first, everything started fine and normal, I always treated her as a classmate and friend. But my feelings builds up when we texting each other more ...
A. 17 August 2013: "Confessing your feelings" is usually a pretty bad idea this early. It very well could scare her off if she isn't on the same page as you. The best thing to do would be to ask her to do things outside of school.
Build a relationship with her, the... (read in full...)
Ex called 3 months after breakup and says he wants to marry me. I don't want him back. How can I handle this?
Q. My ex broke up with me three months ago. It was a bad breakup. We had no contact since then. Last night he called and said he realized that he still loves me and I'm always the one he wants to marry. He's not going to let go this time. I'm over him ...
A. 15 August 2013: I'm guessing you haven't been blunt enough with him, or you're saying things like "it was good while it lasted".
Just be totally honest and tell him that you have no feelings for him, and you're completely uninterested in being with him again. Y... (read in full...)
I was such a good girlfriend! Why didnt my boyfriend want me?
Q. My boyfriend ended our 3 yr relationship saying we are two different people and it wasn't working. Ouch. I never thought I'd ever find a love like we had. It was like you see in the movies. I never thought I'd be one of those couples who sit on t...
A. 15 August 2013: It probably has more to do with him than you. What is a good girlfriend to one guy is too tame/talkative/needy/etc for another. If you guys were perfect for each other, you'd still be together.
Remember that and you'll be okay. There are billions... (read in full...)
I Think My Girlfriend Walks All Over Me
Q. Hey guys, This is my first post on here so I’ll give it a go. I have been with my girlfriend for about 15 months now and all my friends think she walks all over me and I don’t be the man in the relationship. Whenever I have a problem with anyt...
A. 14 August 2013: Sounds like she's not the girl for you. Some people just aren't compatible and no amount of talking about it will change that.
There are techniques for dealing with a person like her, but why bother? You'll have to act in a way that's not natu... (read in full...)
Back to ack devastation in relationships. I don't know how to deal with it
Q. Hello, I dated a girl for 16 months in what was an extremely rocky relationship. In our best times together (which was about 20% of the time), she was the perfect girl I always dreamed of. Great personality, similar interests, funny, gorgeous, ...
A. 12 August 2013: If it makes you feel any better, you didn't really lose much but a couple of lying, psycho, b-words. Next time, try not to ignore the obvious signs and leave when it's apparent you're not with someone that's relationship material.
Also, those tw... (read in full...)
She's practically perfect, but has two kids to two different dads!
Q. Iam really struggling with this situation. I have been seeing a woman for the past couple of months. She is amazing just what I have been looking for funny, supportive, kind, affectionate. She's an amazing cook. She educated and a working ...
A. 12 August 2013: Practically perfect for the first two months isn't much of a feat. ... (read in full...)
Fight with a drunk boyfriend and he didn't even try to contact me after fight
Q. So yesterday I went with my boyfriend and some friends to a mini concert of a band, the thing is that It was 21 or older (we didn't know) and i was the only one with 21 in the group, so I said: "Stay here, I know people that work here, ok". I got in ...
A. 12 August 2013: You were being passive aggressive and essentially demanding he thanks you for doing him a favor. I don't call that "not doing anything wrong".
What he did wrong is obvious (so I don't need to go there), but you weren't innocent and you started ... (read in full...)
I need some threesome advice!
Q. So my one of my bfs mates seemed to be coming on to me and when I was at the point of telling him to back off we ended up on the discussion of threesomes, my bf told him we had been looking for someone to do it with but had, had no luck. His mate ...
A. 9 August 2013: Well, since you've made up your mind I'm going to try and help. First of all, I'd let your boyfriend dictate things as long as you're comfortable with what he suggests. This way it'll be his idea, so if he gets jealous you can just tell him that you ... (read in full...)
Is she still entitled to her privacy after she has had a clear disrespect for our relationship?
Q. Let me start by saying, I have posted here several times regarding this subject. I asked if it was normal that my girlfriend was occasionally speaking to her exes and kept me a secret to her family. Recently she told her family about me - after...
A. 9 August 2013: Look, I know it's easy to say "break up with her" when you're on the outside, but it's also easy to stick around and ignore reality when you're on the inside.
I think that a betrayal isn't always grounds for leaving someone. But, when it implies ... (read in full...)
Is she still entitled to her privacy after she has had a clear disrespect for our relationship?
Q. Let me start by saying, I have posted here several times regarding this subject. I asked if it was normal that my girlfriend was occasionally speaking to her exes and kept me a secret to her family. Recently she told her family about me - after...
A. 9 August 2013: Look, I know it's easy to say "break up with her" when you're on the outside, but it's also easy to stick around and ignore reality when you're on the inside.
I think that a betrayal isn't always grounds for leaving someone. But, when it implies ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to love someone less?
Q. I love deeply my girlfriend of a year and a half, but I feel she does not love as much as I do. I know she loves me, just not as deeply as I woukd like. has anyone experienced the same thing? is there any way, method so I can love her less and be ...
A. 9 August 2013: You have no way of knowing this. What you're doing is judging her based on how she shows her love which might just be different than you. ... (read in full...)
Has anyone had an ex that has reached out after realizing he made a "mistake" and wanted to work things out?
Q. It has been 2 months since my ex boyfriend and I have had "no contact". He broke things off. I miss him so much I haven't reached out at all, no calls, no texts, or emails, nothing. I keep wishing he'll miss me and realize he wants me back. I am ...
A. 9 August 2013: I'm sure someone has but it's not the norm. It's also not doing you any good.
Rejection is very hard on people, but don't take it personally. It's not that there was something wrong with you, you guys just weren't compatible. If you were he would... (read in full...)
Can you get that wet just from kissing?
Q. Hi! Yesterday we were in bed with my boyfriend and we were kissing (we haven't had sex yet) and I got really wet and I got embarrassed and I didn't want him to notice so we didn't go any further. Is ir normal to get that wet from just kissing?...
A. 8 August 2013: Getting turned on will do that. It's your body preparing itself for sex.
WHY would that be embarrassing??? That's something that is sexy. ... (read in full...)
Should I wear a bra because my boyfriend think it's too sexual otherwise?
Q. Is it normal that my boyfriend constantly goes on about the fact that I should wear a bra? We've been having a very hot summer so far and I started leaving the house wearing tops but without a bra underneath. He says that it's obscene and ...
A. 8 August 2013: I think bras should be outlawed, personally.
Seriously though, he's acting jealous. There's certainly nothing obscene about it, but you should understand that if your nipples are visible, guys are looking. ... (read in full...)
Cheated on my boyfriend last night and feel so guilty! Should I tell him?
Q. I went out last night and got really drunk. A guy grabbed me and started kissing me and feeling me up and without thinking I started kissing him back. Then he said he would help to get me home safely but he got out the taxi too and we ended up ...
A. 7 August 2013: No offense, but he deserves to know who you are. If he accepts your "ways", great, if not then you're both free to find someone who will be more your type.
Cheating happens for a reason, and in this case it sounds like you're likely to do this ... (read in full...)
Why can't I cum when having sex with a girl?
Q. Hello. This is about not being able to cum inside a girl. Well I'm a 26 year old male who has had sex with about 4 different girls. None of then have never got me to cum and its frustrating to both of us usually. One girl cried because I couldn't. I ...
A. 6 August 2013: Stop masturbating. It's difficult, but so is what you're going through. Stop thinking about cumming and just have good sex.
Also, maybe you're not into women? No offense, just a thought. ... (read in full...)
Success stories about people finding love again please!!
Q. Recently I've split up from my boyfriend of 2 years. We loved each other a lot and were inseparable. We spent so much time together and talked a lot about our future (i.e. kids, moving in etc). We were one of those typical love-bubble type of ...
A. 6 August 2013: When I was your age I met the "love of my life". She turned out to be pretending to be who she thought I wanted in a girlfriend. I thought she changed, but she was really showing her true self. When we broke up I was upset because I thought never ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is asking questions about my past that I don't know how to answer without causing upset!
Q. As per the title my gf likes to try and find out about my past. It sometimes catches up with me, one of her friends is going out with someone who i used to know. Small world. Anyway, my gf has asked me "if i have ever had more than one gf at t...
A. 6 August 2013: Jeez, it sounds like you have bigger problems than your original question. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
What are some of the good things that can come from having sex with my boyfriend?
Q. I hear a lot about the negative side of sex and bad things that could happen from having sex. What are some of the benefits of having sex? What are some of the positive outcomes that would/could result in having sex with my boyfriend?...
A. 6 August 2013: Mostly it's immediate pleasure (hopefully), but it really does bring you closer together if you're in love or falling in love.
Plus, babies can be a bonus if that's your thing. ... (read in full...)
How can I come to terms if my boyfriend wants to keep this woman as a friend? I don't trust her
Q. Dear Cupid, I don't know whether I'm stupid and paranoid, a jealous monster or a sucker. I've been with my unusual and special fella for about 4 years now and while we have our ups and downs I reckon he could be the love of my life and he says he l...
A. 5 August 2013: It sounds like you're being insecure to me. Not that I blame you as I wouldn't allow my wife to be in contact with her ex boyfriends. There's no reason to put faithfulness to the test!
That being said if you've made it clear that you don't li... (read in full...)
Why does my ex still call 6 years after our break up?
Q. Hi just wanted to know if it is normal for an ex to still call once a week 6 years after a break up. It was a long distance relationship and I was very much in love with her but the distance was something that was very difficult for her. She is ...
A. 5 August 2013: It sounds like you have it all figured out, but just aren't putting the pieces together. She calls you because she values your friendship. Some people are more outgoing than others, or at least they like talking on the phone more.
... (read in full...)
I stole something from work and I don't know how to cope with the guilt
Q. Why did I steal I feel awful!! I can't stop crying:(? OMG!! I feel awful.. Words can't even describe how I feel:( Yesterday I was tidying up the stock room at work and there were these pair of sunglasses that I liked and I took them. I ...
A. 5 August 2013: Well, hopefully you learned a lesson. Put them back where you got them as sneakily as you took them. If there was supposed to be tags on them and you took them off I'd put them back anyways. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is asking questions about my past that I don't know how to answer without causing upset!
Q. As per the title my gf likes to try and find out about my past. It sometimes catches up with me, one of her friends is going out with someone who i used to know. Small world. Anyway, my gf has asked me "if i have ever had more than one gf at t...
A. 5 August 2013: How about you just tell her in plain terms, that you don't like these kinds of questions. ... (read in full...)
| *MMP's friends
These are mutual friends, so *MMP has
added them and they have added *MMP!
|
