Pushing me away, pushing me back..what is up with her?
Q. This is my story, im a 36M with no kids and she is a 37F with 2 kids. We've meet 1 and half year ago and immediately *clicked*. We've spent hours daily at the phone speaking of everything and nothing. Lack of sleep or 3 to 4 hours sleep tops becam...
A. 4 September 2013: It's time to move on. You don't need her friendship, you don't need her kids. What you want is something she's not willing to give you. I'd say one last goodbye to her and the kids then go no contact. That's the only good way to do it...
I was... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is asking questions about my past that I don't know how to answer without causing upset!
Q. As per the title my gf likes to try and find out about my past. It sometimes catches up with me, one of her friends is going out with someone who i used to know. Small world. Anyway, my gf has asked me "if i have ever had more than one gf at t...
A. 6 August 2013: Jeez, it sounds like you have bigger problems than your original question. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is asking questions about my past that I don't know how to answer without causing upset!
Q. As per the title my gf likes to try and find out about my past. It sometimes catches up with me, one of her friends is going out with someone who i used to know. Small world. Anyway, my gf has asked me "if i have ever had more than one gf at t...
A. 5 August 2013: How about you just tell her in plain terms, that you don't like these kinds of questions. ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of me finding a man who has never had a one night stand or casual sex?
Q. What are the chances of me finding a man who has never had a one night stand or casual sex? No offence to anyone here but I find that kind of behaviour revolting and it makes me see them as a lesser. I'm 26 now and this worries me. I was appalled ...
A. 5 August 2013: Even if a guy considers himself a gentleman and doesn't try and sleep with you right away, that doesn't mean it's never happened.
If you ask him he'll tell you what he thinks you want to hear.
Just treat everyone as if you're their first and ... (read in full...)
Do guys come back after they've realized that life isn't that great?
Q. advice from any guys on here would be great.. my ex boyfriend has been partying non stop since our breakup a little over a month ago.. i've heard through mutual friends and through social media that he has been going away every weekend, going o...
A. 5 August 2013: It sounds like he's realizing that life IS great, so I'm not sure your question applies. But, if that's not the case than yes, people will often go back into the arms of their ex if they realize that they were better than what's out there. ... (read in full...)
Do women really enjoy anal sex?
Q. I had a fairly normal but boing sex life with my now divorced wife. I met a nice woman and have been dating her for 6 months. We had our first sex about 2 months into the relationship. She is quite adventurous sexually, way more than my x wife who ...
A. 4 August 2013: As a guy my experience is that most women have a love hate relationship with it. I had a girlfriend who insisted she'd never do it so don't ask. One day while she was menstruating she asked for it because she was horny. She loved it but didn't want ... (read in full...)
Why am I wanting to have sex so much?
Q. For ages now I've been getting really horny, really easily! I mean, i went to see "The World's End" (the ending movie to the Simon Pegg and Nick Frost trilogy thingy) and I got really turned on in the meant to be funny fight scene in the pub ...
A. 4 August 2013: Uhhhh, because you're 13-15? Throughout human history, people have began to have sex at your age. Your body is ready but now we live in a society that says that sex at your age isn't a good idea (and I agree!).
Masturbate. In a few years you'll h... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to move in with him but he can't see a marriage or family for another 10 years!
Q. Hi everyone, ok so my problem is probably quite common but I still have no idea what to do so I would really appreciate your advice. Basically, I'm 28 and have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. He recently asked me to move in with him...
A. 4 August 2013: He has the right to want that and you have the right to want what you want. This is a decision that can't be forced on someone. What does that mean?
Communicate that you're not willing to wait. After 32 pregnancy becomes riskier, not to mention ... (read in full...)
My ex and father of my children seems happier away from me. Will he come back when our 2nd child is born?
Q. So me and my ex broke up 5 months ago at first we were seeing each other and we were thinking about getting back together we have a son (1) yr n one on the way. We used to live together but everytime we argue he would leave the house take his ...
A. 4 August 2013: I'd assume that he wants nothing to do with the soon to be three of you and proceed accordingly. That means getting a lawyer. ... (read in full...)
Any ideas about cooking a romantic meal for my boyfriend, including cooking in the nude?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over two years . I need some help. I’m planning on cooking a romantic meal for my boyfriend Any ideas on what to cook for my boyfriend? Have any of you cooked in the nude? Any ideas about that? I want to...
A. 3 August 2013: There's only one lesson my dad taught me: never cook naked. Some sauce he was boiling splattered on his penis and he hasn't done it again since.
I don't think cooking in the nude is romantic, btw, it's more sexy than anything. ... (read in full...)
My friend wasn't there for me. We've since made up but now I find out he is planning to spend my birthday on the other side of the country. Do I bother with him?
Q. Hey there Cupids So basically an old friend and I have just started talking again after 2 months. To cut a long story short, I was going through some hard stuff and he was not there as a friend. He got in contact with me and wanted us to start ag...
A. 3 August 2013: What should you do? Stop acting like the world revolves around you would be a good place to start.
If this kind of drama is normal it's no wonder you guys stopped talking in the first place. I'm speechless.
If he was your husband you MIGH... (read in full...)
Serious HELP! How do I keep a player interested in me?!!!!
Q. Met this guy who is very very wealthy, handsome and well connected yesterday. We swapped numbers and he has texted me asking me out. But he is saying stuff about how he wants me and wants me to go to his house etc. Obv he is a player and takes diff ...
A. 3 August 2013: I've seen this exact same thing many times: a woman meets a wealthy, good looking guy and wants desperately to be more than a fling because, let's be honest, they want to use him.
Knowing that this is what's happening, the wealthy player is easil... (read in full...)
Am I a bad person for breaking up with my boyfriend because of his out-of-control ADHD?
Q. I recently broke up with the guy I was dating with because of his ADHD. We were together for 2yrs but over the time it got progressively worst. For instance, he constantly breaks things at my place because he is not paying attention to wha...
A. 2 August 2013: Well, life isn't always fair, but you're not his babysitter, and your relationship wasn't a charity case.
The goal for most people should be to find someone who you're compatible with, happy with, and who'll make a good parent if you want kid... (read in full...)
I found out my LDR b/f is in jail. Should I ask about or continue like I don't know?
Q. Hello everyone, I hope yall can help me im really feeling confused right now, I've been dating this man for 8 yrs long distant... I love this man, he was my first he is 45 yrs old, im 33 yrs old...we drifted away for a year, now he started writing ...
A. 2 August 2013: An 8 year LDR??? He didn't tell you because it really doesn't matter. He is only a virtual boyfriend and being in prison doesn't alter your relationship at all.
I have to ask, what are you getting out of this? If you have a social disorder... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't get hard..is it because he is ill?
Q. Alright, so. My boyfriend and I are extremely close and open with each other. And recently we engaged-- or tried to -- in sex. He couldn't get hard enough. Now. I wasn't mad or anything, frustrated, or annoyed. He tried to play with himself,...
A. 2 August 2013: Just because he says he's not watching porn doesn't make it true. ... (read in full...)
Pushing me away, pushing me back..what is up with her?
Q. This is my story, im a 36M with no kids and she is a 37F with 2 kids. We've meet 1 and half year ago and immediately *clicked*. We've spent hours daily at the phone speaking of everything and nothing. Lack of sleep or 3 to 4 hours sleep tops becam...
A. 1 August 2013: Some people are very complicated... we think we understand them (or should be able to), but they have experiences that we just can't relate to.
For whatever reason, your girl is one of those people. She wants you when you walk away. She pushes y... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't get hard..is it because he is ill?
Q. Alright, so. My boyfriend and I are extremely close and open with each other. And recently we engaged-- or tried to -- in sex. He couldn't get hard enough. Now. I wasn't mad or anything, frustrated, or annoyed. He tried to play with himself,...
A. 1 August 2013: Too much porn and masturbation. He should stop and see if it helps. Also, he needs to try not to make a big deal out if it or it'll get worse. ... (read in full...)
My ex was rotten to me so why do I only remember the good times?
Q. So it's been three months since my ex dumped me. He's quick-tempered and abusive and never respected me while we're with his friends. We had no contact after we broke up. But every month he would call or write me messages and asked me to call him ...
A. 1 August 2013: Because people have a need to be accepted, so when we're mistreated by our loved ones, instead of leaving them to find happiness somewhere else, we stay with them and crave every bit of positive attention they give us.
It's natural and not an e... (read in full...)
Do I believe my current guy, who used to be a player, or my ex, who is a compulsve liar?
Q. Me and this guy have been friends for some time but we recently decided to take things a little further. We aren't officially dating or anything but we "talk". Anyway, He has a past of a cheater, but he has been 100% faithful to me. He gives me...
A. 1 August 2013: I'd let actions speak louder than words. If you have no reason to suspect your boyfriend, then don't.
But the truth seems to be that you don't trust him at all; you've given what you consider to be indisputable evidence that he's faithful... (read in full...)
How can I believe that he isn't cheating when he's using porn and having phone sex?
Q. Me and my fiance are together now for almost 8 years we have 2 boys together as far as I know him he is watching porn and keep on denying it, I cought him 4 times already having phonesex with other woman, he keeps on saying he will never cheat on me ...
A. 1 August 2013: Well, if you define cheating as him having sex with another woman, then he very well may be having phone sex and watching porn as a way to satisfy his cravings in a non-cheating way.
I can tell you one thing: there's no way in he'll I'd marry a ... (read in full...)
How much does fat matter during sex?
Q. So! I'm going to fool around with a really good guy friend this Friday, problem is he is super skinny and I've got about 30lbs on this guy. We are of the same height. I always wear baggy clothes (I have an eating disorder and I've always been ...
A. 1 August 2013: All guys are different, so the only way to answer this question is to point out that he probably knows and he's still with you.
Women seem to think that loose clothes hide their fat, but they usually don't. Sometimes it makes it worse.
I pe... (read in full...)
I've known so many men who don't look at other women, so why have I been unable to find one for myself?
Q. I have a curiousity that's been on my mind for awhile now. I've heard it said many times and read on here and other websites all men look at other women even if they are happy with their partners, it's in their genes, they are visual. You name it. ...
A. 1 August 2013: While some men are obvious when they are checking women out, there are guys like me who find it to be a little inappropriate to make it obvious. So I'll only do it when there's no way someone, especially my wife, would see me. I'm reasonably sure ... (read in full...)
I've known so many men who don't look at other women, so why have I been unable to find one for myself?
Q. I have a curiousity that's been on my mind for awhile now. I've heard it said many times and read on here and other websites all men look at other women even if they are happy with their partners, it's in their genes, they are visual. You name it. ...
A. 1 August 2013: While some men are obvious when they are checking women out, there are guys like me who find it to be a little inappropriate to make it obvious. So I'll only do it when there's no way someone, especially my wife, would see me. I'm reasonably sure ... (read in full...)
My bf of 3 years wants us to take a break as he thinks I'm too clingy.
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years wants us to take a break as he thinks im too clingy. This all happened during our recent vacation. I wanted to spend time with him but he wants to hang around the bar which made us to fight. We made up during the trip ...
A. 30 July 2013: It sounds like he broke up with you... Good riddance. If he abuses you, you need to forget about him. Is that the type of guy you deserve? Your future kids deserve?
If he didn't and no amount of logic will keep you away from him than learn a ... (read in full...)
I feel jealous because this guy gets a girl who is a virgin even though he probably is not one.
Q. This question might sound childish but it has been on my mind for quite sometime. I was dating this girl for awhile and found out she is a virgin. Now that is not the problem because I am one too but about a month ago I found out she was actually ...
A. 30 July 2013: Everybody is different. I didn't care that the girl I lost my virginity to had men with other guys before. Some guys (like you) find that unappealing. ... (read in full...)
My husband's semen changed consistency. Does this mean he's cheated?
Q. My husband has always had very thick, gloopy semen. He lost interest in sex a year ago. A full physical and blood workup proved him to be healthy. He started taking Cialis. We had sex 1 time since he began the Cialis , 1 month ago. His semen was ...
A. 30 July 2013: What possible reason would his semen have for changing consistency because he slept with someone else? ... (read in full...)
Dirty talk and sexy photos with another man - should I tell my boyfriend?
Q. I have a bf for past 4 yrs. its a long distance relationship. I also had a good friend with whom I could share all my probs and all my opinions..but never loved him any near to my bf. Recently he broke up with his gf. Just to comfort him I said.i....
A. 29 July 2013: You had problems with cheating because you aren't in a real relationship so you don't feel fulfilled. Why don't you and your bf work out a plan to be together permanently in the near future. 4 years is waaaay to long for an LDR.
If you can't fi... (read in full...)
I'd like to get married one day but since my stepsister died from HIV I have been terrified of men and dating
Q. I would like to get married again but I am afraid of all the diseases out there. My stepsister was a nice person with two kids and when she came up to visit she seemed really happy and was going back to school. She stayed not to far from my dad's ...
A. 29 July 2013: Unfortunately, there's a horror story for every single aspect of life.
Ride a bus and it could drive off a cliff. A car could get hit by a drunk driver. An airplane crash into the runway. You could be hit by a car while walking. You could ch... (read in full...)
After two dates, he says he has no credit on his phone, do you think this is an excuse?
Q. Hi ive been on 2 dates with a man we got on really well i was starting to like him i haven't spoken to him for over a week a pointless conversation we had last time we spoke we were supposed to have a 3rd date which hasn't happened he says he has no ...
A. 29 July 2013: Well, look at it this way. If it's true, do you really want a boyfriend who can't afford to buy a few bucks worth of pre paid time for his phone?
Unless he's a student of course. ... (read in full...)
My husband and I are trying to rebuild the trust in our relationship but we have totally conflicting work schedules
Q. My husband and I are working through some trust issues. With that said, we basically are trying to rebuild the foundation that our relationship is made on, because we both love each other very much and are not willing to walk away from something ...
A. 29 July 2013: I don't see how you can! A relationship requires the two people to be together. You guys might as well have a LDR. Except at least in an LDR you can communicate.
I think he needs to look for a job with more regular hours. If that's not possible... (read in full...)
My girlfriend got angry with me and wants to break up because I didn't accompany her in to Starbucks, I'm considering giving her what she wants
Q. Story: We have being dating for just 3 years. We are both each other's first gf and bf. I am 28. She's 27. We are both Asians. I went to my gf's place to pick her and her sister up to attend their parents' event about 1.5 hrs away. They wante...
A. 29 July 2013: If it's bad now, it'll only get worse with time. Do yourself a favor and break your chains and make an escape. Find someone without all the control issues.
Trust me on this one! ... (read in full...)
Dildo insertion is uncomfortable - I am a virgin. Any advice?
Q. Question: I have a vibrator/dildo (and I'm a virgin), and when I insert it, it doesn't feel good. It doesn't feel (really) bad, just kinda uncomfortable. Am I do something wrong? Any advice? [i use some lube]...
A. 29 July 2013: If you're too tight get a smaller one. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a squirting fixation and makes me feel inadequate because I can't do it.
Q. Sorry to be vulgar, but I am experiencing a bit of tension in my relationship because I am not meeting my partner's expectations. I am his first, and he has a "squirting" fixation... before we got together, he actually did not know it was poss...
A. 29 July 2013: This sounds like the type of guy who would drive into a lake if his GPS told him to. I can't believe this.
First of all, squirting is not a real orgasm. You can squirt without having an orgasm, my wife does it all the time. Porn has convince... (read in full...)
I suck at riding my man. Can someone explain the motion to me?
Q. Every time I try to have sex in the woman on top position it feels awkward. I feel like I'm not moving properly and it doesn't feel good for my boyfriend. I tried to watch porn videos and read about it to learn how to move but it's not helpful. ...
A. 29 July 2013: Back and forth is better for sure. Just rock your hips. Up and down requires practice, but rocking your hips should be easy. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has pictures of her ex in the apartment even though I have asked her more than once to take them down
Q. Ok so my girlfriend of 3 months got an apartment about just over a month ago and she put up pictures of her and her 2 year old daughter around her apartment and asked what I thought about them. I noticed a couple pics up in her room of her daughter ...
A. 29 July 2013: Easy.... Do it for her. Tell her that since she's not going to do it, you'll save her the trouble. Then go and take the pictures out of the frame. If she raises a stink tell her you'll put one of you two in there. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell the guy I'm seeing that I slept with my ex?
Q. Hi, Dated a guy a few months back who left me for someone that he met on a business trip. However, he didnt just tell me straight out he made up some excuse that he didnt love me abd wanted to make sure he had found the right person before se...
A. 29 July 2013: I don't think it'll help, and it's not very relevant as you two don't have an exclusive relationship. I think you've handled the whole thing pretty maturely, except for jumping into bed w/your ex. But that kind of thing happens when someone who ... (read in full...)
What is nervous porn?
Q. Hi I'm in a six month relationship with a great guywho I recently saw has masses of nervous porn deleted from his pc in his recycle bin. He's 45 and I'm just wondering what this is? I haven't restored these files. Im worried because I have a teen ...
A. 29 July 2013: A quick Google search indicates it's women that are nervous about being in porn (surprise!). Usually young but legal girls. Sooooo.... I guess he does like young girls; I would be a little creeped out if I were you.
I don't understand what the... (read in full...)
Should I let my sister and her family stay at my family home? I don't trust her.
Q. My sister wants to stay with my husband and I starting next week. Her, her boyfriend and their three children all under the age of 12 want to crash at our place, she says for 4 nights. I said, we could discuss staying if she had secured arrangements ...
A. 29 July 2013: I'm wondering why you are so controlling? She can stay for 3 nights but has to have a hotel for the 4th... she can stay but has to have proof that she has plane tickets.... I can't believe the other "aunts" haven't seen right through you like I ... (read in full...)
What do I say or do to make my ex realize he has to chose between his ex girlfriend and me? I need to move on!
Q. Hi I broke up with my ex bf about 3 years ago I still have strong feeling for him but I no nothing with happen again. He now has a new gf and I have started slowly but finally moving on but lately I have been getting messages from him ...
A. 29 July 2013: You've already asked him and he's already made his choice (he wants you both). You'll have to either see him while he's seeing someone else or leave him.... you can't always expect other people to make the choice for you. ... (read in full...)
She won't cooperate in getting the divorce finalized in my country too
Q. I think I have posted many times about my American wife who came to Pakistan and after six months wanted a divorce. Few days back, US state superior court gave her divorce as she hired a very skilled attorney . Despite marriage happened in Pakistan, ...
A. 29 July 2013: I think you had bigger problems than her reading her ex boyfriend's Facebook posts. ... (read in full...)
Do I ask her for a kiss or just lean in and go for it?
Q. So me and my girlfriend have been a couple for 1 week, and she is my first girlfriend. I've never kissed a girl, had sex, anything. I think I've gotten passed the fear/nervousness of having my first kiss, but my question is: do I ask her or do I ...
A. 26 July 2013: You have to use your best judgment regarding her readiness and the timing. If you ask and she says no it'd probably kill your confidence. So I'd just make my move when the time is right. There's nothing wrong with a kiss on the cheek for the first ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up with me for not having sex with him
Q. I am 21 years old and in college studying to be a registered nurse,recently I met a guy, he's very attractive and he asked me for my number, he texted me the same day asking me to come to his house.i told him no because it seems like he wanted sex ...
A. 24 July 2013: You should be relieved, he didn't want you, he wanted you to have sex with him. You did the right thing. ... (read in full...)
I've already pitched in money for a holiday and now my girlfriend is treating me like crap. I don't think I want to be with her.
Q. About two months ago my girlfriend and her friends (her friends,not mine)decided to go on a vacation and they invited me. We calculated that it would be 500 dollars a person. Everyone pitched in money 2 months ago in order to ensure commitment and ...
A. 24 July 2013: Go and do your own thing. You're not a prime target for mugging, that's the older people. Young people don't have any money and the thugs know that. Besides, if you're careful everything will be fine. I've been in some pretty dangerous places and ... (read in full...)
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