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writes:If you were in love and in a happy relationship and you been togather for along time, If you could chose to find out for certin if you were being cheated on would you? Or would you just continue the happy relationship with out knowing for certin? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (25 July 2012):
 I would want to know. Then I would end it.
I have been cheated on and it sucked. I watched my Dad emotionally cheat on my Mom and I know what it did to her, even though she chose to stay.
I've been married for 14 years, that is a LOT of history and of course 3 kids together as well, I would STILL want to know and I would STILL LEAVE, if I found out. No if, ends or buts about it. People don't cheat if they truly love their partner and if they are considering cheating obviously something is lacking in the relationship, but THAT might be fixable. It might not, however cheating will 100% ruin a relationship. It might for some make it stronger, for a while but there will always be a lack of trust and a lack of guilt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2012): Yes, I would want to know so I could dump them.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 July 2012):
 I'd want to know. I'd want to know that my happy relationship was TRUE, and not just a LIE. I wouldn't want to be in a fake happy relationship.
Betraying someone is the worst thing you can do to another. Yes, I'd want to know if I was throwing my love and heart and soul away on a betrayer. I'd want to know so I could leave an either be by myself, or be with someone with integrity who has enough respect for me to be honest with me.
Cheating is what people do when they're too cowardly to break up. Obviously, if I was cheated on, I wasn't good enough for them to be with. And if I'm not good enough for them then they aren't good enough for me, that's for sure. Why would I want to be a blind fool who stays in a fake and deceitful relationship? Who'd want that other than insecure people who don't think they deserve true happiness?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2012): I would want to know, but only if it wasn't the 'other woman' providing this information.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 July 2012):
 You are 18-21 and say you have been together for a long time... are you talking about you or say your mom and your dad is cheating...
because a long time is a bit different... and reasons could be different.
IF it was ME.... I would want to know... but I would want to know from my partner... I do not think I would want a 3rd party involved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2012): I don't think one has to worry about who cheats on whom.. if you truely like each other.. and wanna be togeather.. But if either person tells open.. we have try and accept.. and talk like adults.. instead..But One does not have research..if your really happy.. just live ya life.. life is short and be happy!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2012): You have raised a good question. I would not want to investigate what my girlfriend or wife is doing if my relationship is going fine and I am happy in it. I mean, if there is no sign of trouble, why bother creating one? If you are having a happy relationship with your mom and dad, would you suddenly want to investigate if they are doing something bad in secret? That is unnecessary. Most of the people in the world won't be happy if not for blissful ignorance. Also, if you investigated and found out nothing, won't you feel like an idiot? Won't you feel bad for suspecting someone needlessly?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2012): They do say ignorance is bliss, but if they cheat clearly something is wrong I agree you can live someone and cheat but you are clearly not in love with them. It would drive me mad. I thought my partner cheated on me I ignored it for a year then after we had our son I chose to find out. And he had it hurt me more knowing he had lied to me and he hadn't come to me with his problems I know he loves me now a lot has changed we were both unhappy and hurt each other we have chose to move on and things are better but it still hurts knowing he's lied to me being that I cannot hold it over him forever. I don't believe in once a cheat always a cheat I've cheated and I've never done it since soooo I'm not sure. Do you want to know? It will drive you mad if you suspect xxx
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (25 July 2012):
 Yes I would want to know, and if there was any doubt as to my partner cheating I wouldn't cllassify it as a happy relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2012): It really depends.
If a guy loves me and does a mistake once and feels bad about it and will never do it again, I'd rather not know it. However, if he doesn't regret and would like to do it again, then I'd like to know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2012): I would want to know for sure. If he is cheating on you, and although you may think that your happy and in love, it is all based on a lie. I have been cheated on and I am happy that I found out, because I realised that my relationship was a lie, he didn't truly love me and truly did not really want to be with me. Not knowing he was cheating I could have caught a deadly disease from him, I was lucky enough not to. One of my closest friends was not so lucky when her first and only boyfriend cheated on her, she found out he cheated after she contracted a diseaase from him. If you have reason to suspect, then it will never go away, so I believe that although it hurts to find out, it's far better than the possible outcome of not knowing.
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reader, Catharsis +, writes (25 July 2012):
 It is my firm belief that when cheating happens in a relationship, it is wrong and a complete disregard for the status of dating.A loving, happy relationship should consist of trust. Trust can easily broken by lies. So think of it this way, if your partner is cheating on you, lying to you, why would you want to continue a relationship like that?If it is possible to know for certain whether or not your partner is cheating, by all means, take that chance! But be careful not to accuse your partner of something they haven't committed. Be one hundred percent sure before confronting your partner.So to answer your question, I myself would find out for certain. And if they happened to be cheating on me, we would discuss it before deciding to do anything.Hope this helps, and I hope that the person you're referring to isn't cheating!-Catharsis
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2012): I would want to know. If a partner is to cheat than obviously they arent happy. For me the love would be there but change if they cheated it would not be a happy relationship. Someone that is in love doesnt cheat. People can love each other and cheat, but there is a difference between loving someone and being in love.
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