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writes:would u have sex with someone if they promised you a job or if theyd support you but you were a virgin Reply to this Question
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reader, KittieS +, writes (15 September 2011):
 No no no - do not do it, your regret it, your have no sense of pride in your job and your have to see the person during your working life.
Not worth it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2011): As I see it, you're currently considering selling your 'first' because you have something to gain. -Employment.But what would happen when you actually had something to lose?? -As soon as you'd stooped to this level of desperation, you'd then be 'employed' by the very same boss that knows you'll do this. He'd have you career and your employment in his hands. Do you really want someone like this to have long term control over your life and career? Doing this to get the job may be the tip of the ice berg. If he Does carry through and actually give you the job, which there's no guarantee that he would, what's to stop him holding this over you to carry it on or else he'll fire you? By that point he Knows that you've given more- you're actually virginity! -and for less. Right now he has less control over you, as soon as he's your boss you'd be increasingly subject to his threats and control.Even then, as soon as the next vulnerable young lady is looking for a job, what's to stop him letting you go? And even- what if someone that actually Earns the job through qualifications and a strong CV comes along looking for a job? What's to make him keep to his word or to keep you on? And even if this goes as well as it could, he actually keeps to his word and employs you, you overcome the humiliation of the act and facing this guy every day, meet a boyfriend that is comfortable that you gave this intimacy to the guy he drops you at work to share an office with 5 days a week... Wouldn't you have enough scruples to recognise that you'd CHEATED your way into the job? How could you ever feel that you deserved to be there when you'd slept your way into employment? How could you look any struggling unemployed friend in the eye knowing that you were setting the example that bosses can get away with asking candidates to- literally! stoop this low??
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (12 September 2011):
 Trading sex for a job? Well, that sounds like prostitution to me. You are just trading a benefit for sexual favors.
It is considered the oldest profession in history.
I say NO.
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (12 September 2011):
 Never. No way especially as it steals the virginity too. Please don't if you have been offered.
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reader, Louise93  +, writes (12 September 2011):
 No never have sex with someone for a job he would probly ask for more if he gave you the job and say he will fire you if ya don't and it would'nt garentee the job its not a contact and never sell yoursell short i would rather live with my parent than have sex for a job you may as well sell you body on the street cus it would be just the same
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (12 September 2011):
If you are asking this question then you must know the answer.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 September 2011):
 no.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (12 September 2011):
 Not in a million years. I'd find a job elsewhere where sex wasn't a part of the deal.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (12 September 2011):
 Hi,
I am surprise you even ask?
I know times are tuff, but it's your life and do what you want because nobody cares what you do with your life. So have some common sense... I could write a huge speech here, but really I rather not waste my time.
Good luck
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 September 2011):
 No.Never.
If nothing else, for the very factual reason that you can't trust them. People who want sex from you may promise you anything,- as for keeping their promise once they've got what they want,...that's another story.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2011): Don't do it, i know people who have done this they do get the promotion, but always regret it, every single day.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (12 September 2011):
 That amounts to abuse of a position of power (regardless of whether you are a virgin or not). Not only does it reflect badly on the person making the offer, but accepting it could have damaging long-term consequences on your mental well-being. All in all, NOT a good idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2011): You would have to be crazy to do this. Report this person to someone higher up or to sex harassment/law inforcement agencies in the company or outside because this is illegal.
Don't ever get involved sexually or in any other way with people who are so pathetic. You can get a job on your own, and do very well without nutcases like this in your life. What makes you think they would even come through for you with a job or financial support if you did have sex with that person? You do not want to be under the power of anyone except yourself.
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reader, GMan2011 +, writes (12 September 2011):
Definitely do NOT do that. You will definitely regret it and feel used and horrible after.
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (12 September 2011):
 Suggesting this kind of business arrangement to one who is unfamiliar with the currency is highly suspicious. I think the one making the offer is hoping to capitalize on the inexperience of the other. Steer clear of this person.
I wouldn't trust them or their offer.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (12 September 2011):
 I am completely baffled at the concept of staying a virgin until married.I am completely baffled by societal double standards against women doing what they want.I am completely baffled at society banning consensual sex for money. yself. You have your own unique talents and self-worth that is more important than any job or amount of money.That guy that offered that to you is an asshole who will not be helpful toward you at all.Give a crocodile a 3 pound slab of meat on the end of a ten foot pole and it will eat the hand the feeds and the body it is attached to.Don't be fooled or conned into doing something that you will later regret. As cavalier about sex and relationships I am, I say that you should wait. It is what you want to do. Wait for the right moment, not the right job. Report the guy to his boss. -IHateWomanBeaters
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (12 September 2011):
The only thing that will save you and maintain your sanity in the utter insanity of sexual relations is your morality.
And you can have a very happy moral sex life.
This offer won't be it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2011): I would be very careful because it can put you in a situation like sex trafficking.
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (12 September 2011):
That depends on your feelings around prostitution. Sex for reward whether it be a job, financial support, cash in hand, or services, can all be considered forms of prostitution. (As an aside, some people would say that marriages can be like that by the way, and in some cases that is true but it is very very rare for marriages to be reduced to purely transactional sex.)
Having transactional sex is never advisable for someone who is sexually inexperienced. It is probably never a good idea for anyone, but for someone who is sexually and emotionally secure who makes that decision that is fine. However, if you have no sexual experience, you will be unprepared for the emotional repercussions of having sex for these resons, it will most likely have a negative effect on your self esteem.
If you are interested in having sex, you might want to address the barriers in your life that have prevented you from having sex thus far. This can be due to feeling shy, feeling fearful of relationships, suffering from anxiety or depression, poor self image, life circumstances, or many other reasons. Time to look at what you think these reasons are, and finding ways of overcoming these reasons so that you can have sex, and most importantly, the kind of sex you want to have with the kind of person you want to have sex with.
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reader, hopeFUL_romantic_13  +, writes (12 September 2011):
No. That is morally wrong. I advise you not to become a woman who "sleeps her way to the top." Get a job the RIGHT and FAIR way. Personally hand in a well-written application and strive to be your best in an interview. If they do not accept you for you, then that is that. If a man has offered you a job in exchange for a night with him, DENY DENY DENY!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 September 2011):
 Legally, that's rape by coercion. So no, you shouldn't put yourself in that situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2011): No. Never. If you are thinking about it don't.
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