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Thanks got reading a bit more info about me!
So I'm currently in a relationship, it's still young and fresh - but if I can be honest it has "legs"
I was in a relationship with a toad for 14 years (everyone thought he was a toad, my head thought he was a toad, my heart thought he was prince charming) anyway after kissing a lot of frogs I may just have found my prince charming - if there is such a thing!
For those who love horoscopes, I'm a Scorpio with a Libra moon a fabous combination in my opinion, but then I would say that!
Everything about people fascinates me, Im always the one people turn to in a crisis (sometimes draining) and for so long I was tight lipped about my thoughts and feelings this place I find great as I can share those inner most thoughts and feelings and I've encourage you to do the same!
Nothing really qualifies me to give advise just that during my 34 years I've been through a fair bit, so it's all based on personal experience and comes straight from the heart.
Thank you for reading, thank you for answering my questions and hopefully something I write might help someone
So good for me to say that was me three months ago thigs change.... Suddenly single again will go into more detail soon xx
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16 September 2011: So, I'm guessing articles should be a bit like a colum in a newspaper so here goes. I'm having a ME day soon, this involves no boyfriends, no girlfriends, no family, no work Just ME now I'm thinking everyone should have one of these once ...
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Does porn viewing encourage men to treat women with disrespect?
Q. Does porn viewing encourage men to treat women with disrespect. At times I notice my partner becomes somewhat disrespectful and dismissive of me. At times it almost seems like a little contemptuous . Without fail , everytime I have noticed this , I...
A. 15 April 2015: Watching porn - ok as long as it doesn't interrupt physical relationships
Being violent/disrespectful NO NO
the majority of porn online videos anyway always show the girls saying it was ok, that's the thing it's up to your relationship... (read in full...)
Do you say goodnight to each other or do you sometimes forget?
Q. My fiancé got upset that I didn't say goodnight to him. He wanted me to work on my project which I did late into the night. He was still up and in another area of the house when I decided I was really tired and I went to bed. He woke me up and s...
A. 15 January 2014: Sounds a bit of an over reaction to me on his part
my OH had some work to do last night and I fell asleep on the sofa, I was so so tired, I at some point got up and went to bed... would I normally say goodnight if I had not been so exhauste... (read in full...)
I need tips to look my best when meeting his work colleagues!
Q. hi, im just looking for some help if any of you can provide please. my new husband works away a lot, he comes home in 2 weeks and the week after that we are going to a fancy charity evening set up by his work. not I know I don't have to dre...
A. 15 January 2014: I agree with the first aunt - self confidence is so so sexy!
before you do anything, tomorrow morning when you wake up look in the mirror, and look at you like your looking at someone else and say something really nice about yourself.
I bet y... (read in full...)
He thinks I have anger issues but no one else I know does!
Q. I just wondered if any women have had a situation where a man has accused them of being 'angry' as in inherently angry, when almost no one else that they know has ever said anything remotely like this? I recently had a situation in which a man w...
A. 15 January 2014: Hello, Yes I have :) and I am not a naturally angry person at all, I'm a someone spills a glass of red wine down my favourite dress I'm going to see at as an accident and more than likely apologise if I see someone upset at the fact they just d... (read in full...)
I don't know how to handle my boyfriend's abusive behavior anymore!
Q. Dear Cupid Im with my current bf for almost 4 years, its the longest relationship for both of us. My bf was previously with lots of girls nothing lasted even for 6 months. Coming to my problem, he often becomes abusive, im not even sure whats ...
A. 11 January 2014: call the police, your family, call your friends get away... (read in full...)
Is it ok for a married man to text or chat with other woman?
Q. Is it ok for a married man to text or chat with other woman? I have been married for 7 years and from the beginning I have expressed to my husband how I feel about this subject after reading a conversation between him and another women about how ...
A. 7 January 2014: One of my best friends is male, we worked together for years used to go for lunch together alone, and go out for drinks with other colleagues sometimes going for one last one before heading home - his wife his lovely, we: his wife and I don't ... (read in full...)
I am getting ready to be a step mummy ...
Q. Hello everyone, This is a statement, a little bit of a story, question, a call for help and advise... The statement: Single ladies stop kissing frogs your better than that, look up you might just find your Prince Charming stuck up a tree ...
A. 7 January 2014: Hello
Yes I do understand completely, me just sharing my thoughts and feelings :) something I need to keep in my mind as important too.
ultimately, I do want what is best for all if us, so it's very much when it's right we will take that step, ... (read in full...)
I am getting ready to be a step mummy ...
Q. Hello everyone, This is a statement, a little bit of a story, question, a call for help and advise... The statement: Single ladies stop kissing frogs your better than that, look up you might just find your Prince Charming stuck up a tree ...
A. 7 January 2014: It is funny :) I think with time we just have to see what happens and trust ourselves to make the right decision, from what I've read there is no set amount of time that could be right for some it could be a year, others two, some five years ... (read in full...)
She gets upset when I point out I provide most of the money.
Q. Ive been with my girlfriend for a year and I really love her. But I think I pushed her away. We've been fighting alot. Mainly because of me throwing everything up in her face. I work and pay for all the bills. She works in a day care but isnt ...
A. 6 January 2014: Sounds to me like OP isn't exactly rolling in money either, is that right OP? I notice you say that you used the last of their money to buy food and feed them both, if all OP's money is being shared then I don't think it is too much to expect a ... (read in full...)
I am getting ready to be a step mummy ...
Q. Hello everyone, This is a statement, a little bit of a story, question, a call for help and advise... The statement: Single ladies stop kissing frogs your better than that, look up you might just find your Prince Charming stuck up a tree ...
A. 6 January 2014: Thank you Taking everything very slowly, they just see me another adult friend at the moment, which is good when I met them they had seen there mum recently and we chatted about her for a bit, that's great in my mind I keep my thoughts to myse... (read in full...)
I am getting ready to be a step mummy ...
Q. Hello everyone, This is a statement, a little bit of a story, question, a call for help and advise... The statement: Single ladies stop kissing frogs your better than that, look up you might just find your Prince Charming stuck up a tree ...
A. 6 January 2014: Thank you for the book recommendation, I' will certainly give this a try!
I am happy to help, thanks for getting in touch. Been together almost six months, both very much in love with each other and have discussed what our future looks like whi... (read in full...)
I have had sex but now find no interest in it
Q. im 17 and lost my virginity about 6months ago and have since at sex a few times with 3 different guys. the first times it really hurt and now although it doesnt hurt, i have no interest in sex. i dont know if this is usual but i dont really feel ...
A. 6 January 2014: Firstly your not abnormal at all!!! I'm so sorry you have not had that special bonding moment, when you do it will be wonderful. I would suggest the next time you feel an attraction to a fella, you wait for a while, once you have done the getting... (read in full...)
He keeps throwing my past relationships in my face!
Q. Hello everyone ! I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I love my boyfriend but lately things have been going downhill. He can't let go of my past. I don't know how he found out I hooked up with a guy before him and he keeps th...
A. 6 January 2014: You do not have to feel guilty about anything! Firstly us ladies have the same needs as men sometimes, we want to feel someone warm next to us, we want to feel adored for a while, we sometimes just want sex and that's all ok - if you protect your... (read in full...)
Is my husband gay? Or is this an outlet for his bisexuality?
Q. My husband and I have been together for 7 years married for 3 and I have always known he is bisexual which has never been an issue for me until recently. I recently discovered that he has another Facebook profile that I am blocked on which...
A. 6 January 2014: Hi Ellie, I would say that if your husband is having loving, amazing sex with you on a regular basis then he is bi-sexual, not gay you know as a woman after the amount of time you have been together if the sex is amazing or mechanical... Yo... (read in full...)
Women, what turns you on? Why wasn't I attracted to a really hot guy?
Q. Girls, what do you think of penis'? Are you turned on by them? Do you enjoy giving blow jobs or do you do it mostly b/c you love your man and want to pleasure him? What do you enjoy most about a guy? What turns you on? Just him doing stuff to you or ...
A. 6 January 2014: Penis's the funny things men are so attached too... There just not pretty. I sent a sexy picture of my boob to my BF this morning, well a nipple peaking out of some sexy lingerie... He sent me a picture back... Well it was impressive, but does it ... (read in full...)
What does sex feel like when you're in love?
Q. What does it feel like to have sex with the opposite sex when you are in love? I don't think I've ever been in love but I've had a lot of hook ups (where I usually go as far as oral sex.) I also had sex with 3 guys, each that i never loved. And...
A. 6 January 2014: I have had very boring sex with a man I did love, he was not really into working with me so to speak, it was nice, I felt a connection he didn't not really - looking back very uninspiring, I didn't really know any better at the time so felt good. ... (read in full...)
I can't have sex with my wife because it feels dirty. I cheat instead
Q. this is more of a question to guys. I believe there 2 types of women, 1 a woman who you love sincerely, and the other ones who you attend to sexually. The problem is I'm unable to have a sexual relationship with my wife who I love with all my hear...
A. 2 November 2012: Firstly, we are not "wired' to be monogamous absolutely right, but our brains allow us to be so, that's why we are not apes in a forest
Two types of women.. No. There is one type of woman who likes it be loved and as you put it "attended" to sexua... (read in full...)
Condoms in his wallet change? Is he cheating?
Q. My boyfriend is 19 and I am 18. We've been together for around 5 months now. Im his first girlfriend. He is so gentle, caring and affectionate, and is generally a very nice guy. We get along exceptionally well, and it has been this way since ...
A. 2 November 2012: Ok so your going into his wallet (whilst normally why is she going through his wallet would come to mind) he is obviously happy with this?
My thoughts are this..
1. Potentially he is using the condoms on himself whilst masturbating to ... (read in full...)
Should I move out or stay in current relationship?
Q. my problem is that i been in and off/on relationship with this guy for 9 years we've been living together now for 2 years things where great at first.we are currently not together, but we live in the same house. i started looking for a place of my ...
A. 10 July 2012: You answer all your own questions... So imagine this post
So I'm going to say to you
hi I'm Ellie
I lived with this guy he treated me so badly, now Ive taken the decision to move - he's not sure he wants to move in with me again. but he li... (read in full...)
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Q. Ok so my bf of nearly 4 years have been on and off for a few months as he keeps messaging other girls and lying to me. He blames this on the fact that I am a 'control freak' by which he means I don't care for him getting drunk and trying to buy ...
A. 10 July 2012: Ok sweetie.. Firstly you say four years with your boyfriend that's a blooming long time, we all have a little of the control freak I'm us - if we're honest... BUT and this is a big but... If he is at networking events and buying girls drinks, ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to stop contacting me?
Q. About two years ago I was in an abusive relationship. It ended badly, he ended up cheating on me and having sex with another woman. Eventually I snapped out of it and understood that there wasn't anything more here for me and got out of it. He n...
A. 26 May 2012: Ok - talk to the police, get his number barred.
Change your phone number (guessing its your mobile) nightmare but you tell all your friends.
Friends who pass messages are Not Friends.
DO NOT REPLY TO HIM EVER... (read in full...)
Is this normal for a 25 year old man?
Q. Hey! Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. Ever since we became active, he can never really bust more than twice in a day. He is 25 years old, very healthy, works out every single day, he has no health problems at all. It ...
A. 26 May 2012: Here is what I find...
New boyfriend, your up all night and orgasams a plenty his side - mostly, alcohol, tiredness, sorry to say it thinking about work it all happens
sometimes they don't ever orgasam - but then neither do we - all very norma... (read in full...)
I want out! I have no car, money or job!
Q. Well I really dont know where to start. My boyfriend of four year's, is not the man I thought he was. we have known each other for 5ys. as friend. and then one day he wanted to be more then friends. deep down i did to. so we crossed that line of ...
A. 26 May 2012: Four years you have out up with this?
Get out, speak to a close friend, family but leave he is a toxic man destroying himself by the sounds of it and you in the process.
You have been brilliant before you will be brilliant again but not wi... (read in full...)
B/f has a small penis. What sexual positions would be good?
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A. 26 May 2012: Tough question to answer. Obviously you don't want to lower your mans self esteem at all, and i completely understand why you don't want to bring this up (no pun intended) when you obviously carefor this man. So, sex should be fun but have... (read in full...)
After being close friends for a while, he's now blanking me. Any idea why?
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A. 17 February 2012: Ok tough love - think I'm getting a reputation for it.
Your a gorgeous 17 year old, and he's possibly a very hot guy at 37, but that's 20 years your senior
I hate to be mean but he's ignoring you because you are way too young and actually as ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling really pressured to lose my virginity!
Q. so here's the deal.. literally everyone my age is having sex but me.. (I'am 16) I haven't done anything with a guy, all I've done is kiss, all the guys I've went out with, all want one thing! and when I don't give it to them they break it off. I ...
A. 17 February 2012: First off 90% of people your age are NOT having sex!
They may say they are but there not, trust me I'm a girl, and also have many a conversation with girls of your age.
There are girls having sex and maybe that's right for them, and we sho... (read in full...)
My husband supports everyone else but me. Why does he do this to me?
Q. My husband of three years will not take my feelings into consideration. Whenever there is a disagreement he will always take the others persons side against me. He will never defend me or stand up for me in any way. His sister and I do not get alon...
A. 3 February 2012: ummm, ive read the other comments
Lets assume the sister isnt 14 and is actually an adult herself shall we!
How dare she be so dis resepectful to her brothers WIFE (only capitalised becaused you are in fact married to this man).
Your i... (read in full...)
2 months have passed and I've heard nothing, its over for good this time but how do I stop wanting to contact him?
Q. Hi, I really need some man advice, yes I know the same age old problems in most peoples like, the opposite sex... So I will try and keep this brief and I am also aware that I will get comments telling me how he told from start and I am deludin...
A. 3 February 2012: Firstly, your right your not the first girl to feel like this, wow how do some men come into our lives, and if your a little romantic you think - he must be the one.
Im going to try and focus on your opening paragraph which is how, i understa... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is so overbearing I cant even pick up a newspaper with an attractive woman in it! Now she has started commenting on my friend's Facebook too, how do I deal with her?
Q. Hi guys and gals, My gf is getting a little overbearing and insecure... She accuses me of constantly hurting her when i pick up a magazine or newspaper and theres an image of a beautiful woman in a suggestive or sexy pose. She snatches the maga...
A. 3 February 2012: Firstly, do you care or even love this girl?
If yes continue reading, if not then you need to say goodbye.
Its not fair that she is saying nasty things about you on FB, not good at all and you have every right to be cross about this and ask her... (read in full...)
He flirts with me but loves another! Help!
Q. there is this boy, he is amazing and i think i'm in love with him but the only trouble is he's in love with his ex yet he still leads me on and flirts with me, i really don't know what to do......
A. 23 January 2012: I'm sorry but guys do this, there still in love with the ex but miss the female companionship - harsh but true save yourself the heartache and move on.... (read in full...)
Should I be upset and jealous over his remarks??
Q. I was watching TV with my boyfriend and Faith Hill came on for a moment. This is what he said.... "Mmmm Faith Hill is a scrumptious treat. I want to eat her up. She is sooooooo fucking hot!!!" I got upset and we had a huge argument about it...
A. 23 January 2012: This is an incredibly hurtful thing to say, and you are very right to be upset. I am guessing this was a comment made whilst he was drunk - I can't think that any man would say this to his lady but maybe a moment of drunken madness? But it ... (read in full...)
I want to watch porn with him, but can't get comfortable enough!
Q. I used to be dead set against porn when me and my partner first got together. That was 7 years ago. Now that I have grown up and gotten older, I realize it is not so bad, and that I actually enjoy it. i dont obsess over the peopl in the movies, ...
A. 23 January 2012: It's a really difficult yet interesting question!
I was also against porn, then I watched a film myself - and found it quite a turn on, changed my whole view of porn.
I've been with my boyfriend about five months, and have often thought I ... (read in full...)
Matters down under!
Q. I was wondering how most women have their pubic hair, i guess? Just because idk if a guy will be freaked out if I have hair down there, or if it's normal too. If you don't have hair down there, how do you remove it? What do guys prefer? Is having ...
A. 23 January 2012: You should do what feels comfortable to you!
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Going to his house to do oral...does he like me?
Q. Hi um recently I've been talking with this guy and he is in my science class. I've known him for two years now and were friends. Not close but were friends. And recently we've gotten much closer than ever. It started over Christmas break. He texted ...
A. 23 January 2012: My dear lady,
You say he tells you he loves you then you say you have yet to tell each other you like each other?
Honestly, you need to think here... You need to be dating first, there is so much more than just sexting then jumping into ora... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever spent New Year's Eve alone?
Q. Hey aunts! So, I'm going through a pretty rocky phase in my life (my mom passed away last spring, I recently broke up with my 5year bf and I'm very heartbroken). Looks like I'm gonna be spending New Years Eve alone. I know it's a super loser thing ...
A. 22 December 2011: Look at this as a time to reflect on the past year and blooming enjoy yourself!
I spent Christmas on my own one year - well cats in tow!
I brought myself presents, I had a turkey dinner, i went to my local fora quick one at lunch, iI watche... (read in full...)
I can't make my b/f cum without his assistance
Q. Ok this is really embarrasing for me but I really need help I'm desperate :(. I can't really make my boyfriend come without his assistance ( him thrusting more etc ). When we're in the middle of doing something if I,m doing it I can't finish ...
A. 22 December 2011: Enjoy your time together! Women don't really get tired because of alcohol but men often find they can't after a few beers - might be him not you!
However, If you feel comfortable and he feels happy with it you could push your finger slightly... (read in full...)
Social outings, my boyfriend, and his ex
Q. Hi Hope u can help as I just need advice as I am in a very new situation! My fella and I have been together nearly 6 months. He loves me as I do him. However, he has 2 wonderful children (who I haven't met yet) and I understand that he has reg...
A. 22 December 2011: It's a really difficult situation when little ones are involved. I would suggest its not ok for her to be. Involved, but different strokes different folks.
I think 6 months is a reasonable amount of time for you to meet his children even in a "fr... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned about her comment about my cum?
Q. hi guys and galls. The other night me and my new partner were having sex and when i came she told me i gush rather than squirt. And its the most cum she had seen in one go. It felt great to me and no other partners have said anything before. Any ...
A. 17 November 2011: Nope nothing to worry about it varies so much, sometimes my OH has load other times very little, it all varies... (read in full...)
Is it weird going off to university as a virgin?
Q. This is going to seem like a bit of an overreaction probably...and it's probably a silly question. I guess I'm feeling a little insecure about being a virgin. I'm only 17 and in my last year of school, but it's starting to look like I'll be hea...
A. 17 November 2011: Very normal, I was and was until my second year, with a person at the time i loved, it was a good experience. Most people who wait say it didnt hurt, it felt right and they dint regret it. Those who "just do it" feel the opposite. most of my fri... (read in full...)
Trust issues with an otherwise perfect boyfriend... help
Q. Ok so i i've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year.. before we started dating i said i didn't want to get into a relationship because i've dated a porn addict in the past and been cheated on several times (not to sound like the victim here! ...
A. 16 November 2011: Ok, This is a hard one to answer. Be ause there are two issues here the porn and the lying. I'd be way more concerned about the lying (the lying about un-porn related things) To deal with the porn, some men fund the idea of madturbating over th... (read in full...)
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