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writes: Most men like some anal activity; yes or no?? Is it wrong to insert a finger in your bf anus if you blow him? My bf almost went beserk and told me to NOT do that!!Is he scared that i might find out he had sex with another man....or is he just scared and it really hurts?? I dont like anal sex....so does it work both ways?? I do think he was involved with another man in the past...he told me so when he was drunk one night....he NOW says its all a lie....so I think hes scared that I might be able to proof him wrong.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (4 March 2012):
 Most heterosexual men are frightened of anal play. They are frightened it's something that only homosexual men do, and they can react very violently if you touch without permission. Like with women, the anus is a sensitive place and it bloody hurts when people stick things in there without warning. If you want to try this sexual practise you must go slowly and go round the edge, stop if he shows any signs of discomfort or unwillingness. Just shoving your finger up a guy's ass is very invasive, the same as you would feel if somebody did it to you? Does you having a problem with anal sex mean that you might be gay too?
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reader, xgod  +, writes (3 March 2012):
 Speaking for myself, the anus is an EXIT ONLY situation. There is never any reason for anything to touch or enter that vicinity, outside of showering it clean or my doctor examining my prostate.
While some men are more open and adventurous, most men consider anything dealing with the anus sexually inappropriate and GAY. I am in no way inferring that any man-on-man action for other couples is a bad thing, just not my preference in my life.
Besides the discomfort thing, there is the fecal odor, the taboo of it being unclean, and the fact that most straight men do not want to even acknowledge that such an activity could in any way be considered pleasurable.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 March 2012):
 NOT MOST... SOME. and if you don't ASK before you do it then YES it's wrong.
I have had a few men that would not let me near their anus and a few that LOVED it... so it depends.
whether they like it or not does not mean they have done it before or that they have had sex with men...
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reader, Rylie-Ann +, writes (3 March 2012):
 Cerberus, nowadays anal sex is not abnormal, but I do agree that many men (and women) don't like it done to them.
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No, most men don't like it.
No, you can't prove it by shoving your finger up his backside.
No, you aren't right to go ahead and try it without asking him first.
No, none of your 'factual' information is correct.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2012): "Most men like some anal activity; yes or no?"
No, most men hate it OP. First off it's too closely linked to homosexuality and secondly we're the ones who penetrate not the other way around, it can be very emasculating to be penetrated and the anus is a no go area for most men.
"Is it wrong to insert a finger in your bf anus if you blow him?"
It's wrong for you to try it without asking him.
"My bf almost went beserk and told me to NOT do that!!Is he scared that i might find out he had sex with another man....or is he just scared and it really hurts??"
He's neither scared nor does it really hurt, have you considered that maybe he had a nice lump shit there ready to come out?
"I dont like anal sex....so does it work both ways?"
Yes it does work both ways. OP if you were asleep, lying on your front and he tried to put his penis in your ass would you go beserk? Yeah you would. The anus is not for penetrating so if you want to do that you must get express permission from the owner of that anus before you do. Trust me women are far more protective of theirs and trying without asking is a huge no-no.
"so I think hes scared that I might be able to proof him wrong."
Really? You really thing at your age that you can tell if he's been with another man by putting your finger up his ass? That's amazing if you can OP because I thought that was impossible, shit I better put my finger up my girlfriends ass every now and again so to make sure she's not cheating on me. I'm being sarcastic OP, there is no chance in hell you'd be able to tell that way.
It's simply a case of him really not liking things being put his ass and you not asking first. Next time you want to do something abnormal and kinky try asking him first.
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (3 March 2012):
 Brens,
Be careful when using generalizations when dealing with specifics. When you say things like "most men like" you are making an assumption that your guy will behave in a specific way. Your experience is that he didn't react that way.
What is "right" and "works both ways" is that you respect each others preferences during sex.
Whatever his past experience may be he is now uncomfortable with Anal sex, so that is off limits. You like to add prostate stimulation as part of giving oral sex. That can be done by applying external pressure to his perineum (between his anus and scrotum). I'd suggest that with his permission, you try that instead.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (3 March 2012):
 Many men are probably sensitive about their anus. However, applying a rubbing of the prostate gland during a blow job usually causes a greater release of sperm and an intensive orgasm. The prostate gland is located about three or so inches up the rectum toward the front. In my experience with one girlfriend years ago, she inserted her finger just prior to ejaculation to produce the maximum amount of cum during fellatio.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2012): He probably just doesn't like it ... it doesn't mean he's been with men in the past.
Some men may like it, others don't. Just like some women like it but most don't.
What you did wasn't (morally) wrong, but it's wrong to continue doing it if it bothers him.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (3 March 2012):
 Some men like and some dont - your bf obviously doesnt like it.
Just because he doesnt like you touching his anus doesnt mean that he has had sex with another man. You dont know the circumstances if he did have sex with another man, maybe he was raped... yes we live in South Africa and men being raped by men is becoming a common occurrence here.
So give the guy a break and rather ask him what he likes best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2012): I don't know about your bf, but I'd act the same way if anything came near my anus, because I don't like it, and I definitely didn't have anything with another man.
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