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I'm tired from working so much and husband says he'll go elsewhere if I don't want to have sex!

Q.   So here i am back here again... not sure what to do anymore... i been with my husband off and on for 17 yeats but have only been married 6 months .... i work all the time to support our family and hes been getting upset with me cuz im not in the ...

A.   8 June 2013: Being on the cold, frigid end of a wife who is sick of sex or exhausted all the time from work, or stressed about things, my solution has been to visit ADAM & EVE website (adameve.com) and buy a pocket toy. The realistic ones are fine, and - ... (read in full...)

Whats the ideal thing to say when a friend wont text you back?

Q.   Whats the ideal thing to say when a friend wont text you back? It makes me so angry that he can't even answer a simple how are you, but I don't want to say anything to anger him. If I ask him why I dont think i'll get an answer.. Part of me wan...

A.   8 June 2013: From my perspective, texting is a cold way of communicating. I rarely - if ever - text anyone. I call them or email them. You could try one of those. Why are you so upset that someone has not embraced your every living text-speak word? Try aski... (read in full...)

Please help me to get this very important person to be a permanent part of my life!

Q.   Hello, I am looking for some advice. I have liked this guy for the past six years. We kind of grew up together, as a child I idolized him and he was the big brother I never had. But as I got older I started to develop real feelings for him. Fast ...

A.   8 June 2013: First, it's great that you have found someone you wish to become more than friends with. Second, if you are going to college, what is your major? Why are you going to college? What are your plans for a career or life after graduating? O... (read in full...)

We will be breaking up after the summer. Is it a good idea to keep dating now?

Q.   Next year my boyfriend and I are going to uni, different unis but not that far apart. I told him that he meant a lot to me and I'd like to try to stay together at uni because I didn't want to lose him, but after a lot of time of him thinking about ...

A.   24 April 2013: I assume you are intimate with him, so perhaps you could begin reducing the sexual activity (if there is any) and focus on just spending time together as friends with possible benefits. Certainly the connection exists, but by weening yourselves ... (read in full...)

I like this guy, but the thing is, he avoids girls. How do I ask him out?

Q.   I like this guy, but the thing is, he avoids girls. He doesn't talk to them, he doesn't even look at them. I would have thought he was gay, but I have it on good authority that he's not. He has had a girlfriend before. Anyway, I happen to really...

A.   24 April 2013: Possibilities: 1. He could be from an extremely religious family and not be permitted to speak with or respond to females, outside of teachers. 2. He could be so shy that he thinks any woman who approaches him will make fun of him or is not si... (read in full...)

To move or not to move, single mom life

Q.   Hello! I am looking for advice on moving in with my boyfriend. He is 32 and i am 23. We both have elementary school age daughters. His daughter doesnt live with him now, but in two months she will,move in with him full time. When i met her she wasnt ...

A.   24 April 2013: You should discuss the concerns with your boyfriend and ask him to speak calmly with his daughter and explain how you will never replace her mother, but will be there as part of a new family unit, including your daughter. ... (read in full...)

Girlfriend makes me wash my hands after touching my penis because she's afraid of getting pregnant. Could it happen like that?

Q.   hi all. i have a big question to ask. my girlfriend and i fool around, as in oral sex. she is afraid while im giving her pleasure with my finger that sometimes i have to readjust my erection and she makes me go wash my hands because she is afraid ...

A.   24 April 2013: The only way for her to get pregnant is for you to insert your penis inside her and ejaculate. If you have no sperm on your penis, there is no way you touching it and then inserting your fingers into her vagina could ever get her pregnant. If you do ... (read in full...)

Why did it hurt when I had sex for the first time yesterday?

Q.   Hey everyone I lost my virginity yesterday to my boyfriend of six months and he was a virgin too, I'm 17 years old and I don't regret it at all. Ok so when we first started doing it, it was kinda awkward but later we got it right. And we used a c...

A.   20 January 2013: That pain was possibly your vaginal muscles being ripped and stretched apart like never before. Using a condom is a good thing, but without additional LUBRICANT, the friction of the condom against your virgin muscles causes heat, burning,... (read in full...)

How do I deal with people who make fun of my height?

Q.   any ideas about how to deal with people who make fun of my height? usually i would just walk away and ignore such people but then i go home feeling i should replied them in kind. my major problem is i cannot get negative comments abt my height out ...

A.   28 December 2012: Smootnezz, what you should try is to refer to some celebrities people may or may not be attracted to... Being shorter than average is actually a very common thing throughout Hollywood... My ultimate point is that there are many women out there... (read in full...)

Is he playing games or is there hope?

Q.   Ok me and my ex been off and on for about 2yrs. I just want to know is he sincere about us. Like he tells me that he knows that I'm the right one for him and no matter who he is dating or talking to whenever he think or plan out his future I'm t...

A.   28 September 2012: He is playing you for a fool. Leave him.... (read in full...)

Why won't my boyfriend initiate conversation with me anymore?

Q.   My boyfriend of nearly 3 months and I are both 18. We used to talk just about everyday. Then my phone was stolen which pretty much coincided with exam week, during which we barely talked. He said it was because of exam week, which was ...

A.   28 September 2012: Have you tried calling him from a land-line phone?... (read in full...)

Dealing with toxic relatives?

Q.   i'm growing apart from my cousin (about the same age) as she is hanging out with the wrong crowd (parties and drugs are her priorities) and takes no responsibility in life... She always has some kind of problems and is always taking the role of the ...

A.   28 September 2012: I have a baby brother who is nearly as bad as your cousin sounds. Worse when it comes to stealing from and lying to relatives. You can try various solutions, but what I have done is told him to never try contacting me and never bother me again. I... (read in full...)

Why won't he video chat with me?

Q.   So i have been dating this guy online for about 2 months.. We knew eachother a long time ago via facebook. There was a break in the middle and we started talking again. And few months ago he told me he wanted something more than plain friendship and ...

A.   20 May 2012: It might be simply that he is - like myself - embarrassed by either his appearance or the possible mess of things behind him when he is on video chat. I had skype installed on my PC and never used it for video chat. Other than insecurity about being ... (read in full...)

How can I get girls to think I'm mature rather than thinking I'm an asshole?

Q.   i am very social have a bunch of friends but when theres a girl i like there are few that understand my humor. most girls when im trying to flirt with them they think im being an asshole. every once in awhile ill find a girl whos cute and doesnt ...

A.   17 May 2012: Maturity involves thought and tact. By listening calmly and attentively to the girl you are interested in, meeting her eyes, and being sincere, you will acquire her attention. Joking and being crude or stupid or silly only works on a few women. Most ... (read in full...)

I don't know how to talk dirty to him!

Q.   hey everyone im looking for a little advice here. i have a great bf and all is well. problem is im rather shy and hes asked me to talk dirty to him in bed (just every once in a while atleast).... iv never really done much talking at all in that ...

A.   13 May 2012: What you should do is ask him to write you a list of his favorite fantasy words you could say. Do not be put off if some of those dirty words or phrases is shocking and weird. We men have perpetually dirtier and dirtier minds as we grow older. If he ... (read in full...)

Would you date me?

Q.   I am not the most picture perfect teenage girl in the world and I feel really insecure because of it. My stomach is not flat and I don't have a gap between my thighs like most girls these days and I don't have a bald weird looking 'area'. Although, ...

A.   13 May 2012: While I have noticed it far more common that heavier and heavier girls seem to be the norm and seem to have boyfriends more often than in the past, it doesn't hurt to wear form-fitting clothing that is loose around those areas you feel uncomfortable ... (read in full...)

If a girl dry humps a male virgin, does it mean she has taken his virginity?

Q.   Hello. I'm nervous on asking about this, on here. But, I guess my question is appropriate, to ask on here. When a girl dry humps a guy, does it mean he can no longer say he's a virgin? Like, for example, does it mean he's had sex, and, as a result...

A.   11 May 2012: Loss of Virginity is the act of a penis entering the cusp of a vagina. If no penetration of the vagina occurs, then the persons involved can still be considered virgins in physicality, if not mentally. Virginity is more of an issue for women du... (read in full...)

Does my boyfriend secretly want me pregnant?

Q.   Hello Dearcupid, I think my boyfriend secretly wants me to get pregnant. He keeps asking me when my cycle is, and brought up how I threw up one morning. I'm on the pill, so my breasts have gotten bigger and he asked me if I thought it was because ...

A.   8 May 2012: I agree with all who have posted answers below. To add my perspective, I personally am about the age range of your boyfriend and have an impregnation fetish. I am married and my wife was on the shot (Depoprovera) and is now on the pill. We are h... (read in full...)

Are men put off by women who have given birth?

Q.   question for the men on here.. Are men put off by women who have given birth? either because they watched their partner give birth which has put them off sex and can't get the image of their head of seeing partner being stretched and watching som...

A.   8 May 2012: The thing that most disturbs me is the stretch marks. Some women get them, some women are lucky enough to not get them. I know that the skin stretches to accommodate the growing baby, but there are safe creams and lotions and vitamins which c... (read in full...)

I don't know what to do with our relationship anymore!

Q.   my boyfriend keeps telling me and everyone else how he's so in love with me and stuff but for some reason i dont believe it...i love him more than anything and i would do anything for him..he has anxiety which causes him to have mild depression ...

A.   7 May 2012: Two choices... Stay or leave. If you stay, you must learn that we who are afflicted with depression and anxiety can sometimes just need time alone with no one bothering us. We sometimes want someone to just "BE" present and yet remain silent wh... (read in full...)

Should I ask out my coworker?

Q.   Hi I'm in a predicament. She's my office girl that does all my payroll stuff, and ever since she started working with us, she has always made a habit to bug me. And knowing that she is bugging me when she had a boyfriend at the time, I'd just give ...

A.   7 May 2012: First off, this is sexual harassment and you have a legitimate case here if you are not comfortable with their comments and stares. Somewhere in your workplace is a hotline phone number you can call to report this behavior. This phone number c... (read in full...)

I masturbate 4X a day and I'm depressed about it

Q.   i am 18 year old boy...still single and virgin, i want to experience sex and love,i am curious to know the pleasure when a man is been kissed by a woman, i masturbate 4 times a day..and i am very much depressed about it; what to do ? ...

A.   6 May 2012: You have no reason to be depressed if the masturbation is what is depressing you. Finding the right person who is totally in to you is more important than losing your virginity. Losing your virginity is overblown and more of a religious morality... (read in full...)

Do men find women attractive if they're breasts aren't even?

Q.   Just a quick question... Do you find a woman attractive even if they have asymmetrical breasts? I know many womens breasts are different but mine are by about half a cup size to about a cup size when I am on the pill or on my period. I am think...

A.   6 May 2012: Miss___Confused, ALL women have asymmetrical breasts. The muscle beneath your breast is what determines the fat tissue which makes up the size of the breast. If you are right-handed, your right breast will be slightly firmer, higher, an... (read in full...)

Should I contact him or did he think I was too pushy?

Q.   Hey everyone! Im 17 years old and was at a party a couple of days ago! I was picking music on an ipod when a guy comes and agrees with my music taste so we start talking and standing close.we stood up a against a wall and i thought he was really ...

A.   6 May 2012: You could either just ask the guy if he likes you or not. It would be quick, like ripping the band-aid off. If he does liek you, go from there. Just be safe and remember that men like to put on a facade when around their pals. That facade is somet... (read in full...)

Why does he pretend he has no feelings for me?

Q.   PLEASE ANSWER, ANY ADVICE IS GREATLY APPRECIATED. okay lets try keep this short and sweet! ive had a friend hmm.. lets call him Chencho. so chencho and i have been friends for around 3-4 years now and we have always had chemistry. we talked fo...

A.   6 May 2012: You seem to have no direction in this situation. Your emotions are running rampant. You need to do two things: 1. Check for STD/Pregnancy just in case. 2. Give up on him. He is manipulating your feelings for him in order to brag to his friends ... (read in full...)

Is it ok for a couple to be Bisexual?

Q.   Hi im 29 and my girlfriend is 22 not long ago we both opened up while watching porn together and said we like same sex no matter if its 2 chicks, 2 males or 2 transvestites we just love it. We both really love each other and want to spend the rest ...

A.   6 May 2012: There is nothing wrong with exploring and enjoying whatever brings you pleasure. Unless it harms anyone outside of those involved. Too much religious morality has infiltrated the bedrooms and minds of people who are or desire to be open to bisex... (read in full...)

I take class and teach ESL at the same university abroad. My peers/classmates are also my students. Where do I draw the line?

Q.   I'm 22 and teaching ESL (English as a second language) at a university abroad. At the same university, I'm also taking a class. After class, I hung out with my classmates who are also my friends. Later I found that they're taking the English class ...

A.   6 May 2012: I would suggest you make a mental shift in your own mindset. When you are a classmate, you are in the classroom in which you are the student with said classmates of your own. When you enter the classroom as TEACHER, be strong, firm, and object... (read in full...)

My LDR g/f is an actress and has to kiss other men. I feel uneasy!

Q.   Hello, actually I am in a long distance relationship since last 10 months and these months have been extremely good. As in, we enjoy each others company and love to talk to each other all day and spend time together. But the thing is that since last ...

A.   6 May 2012: When you are with your girlfriend, are you usually all alone when you kiss, hug, and go wild on one another? What you have to realize is that actors and actresses on stage or in films or even on tv are in a room with DOZENS of other people whe... (read in full...)

Do other people masturbate weekly? Use lubricant?

Q.   im only thirteen but i masturbate up to 14 times a week usualy to the point of an orgasam and i often use lubricant to help prevent friction. I would like to know how much other people masturbate weekly, dose it end in an orgasam every time, do you ...

A.   6 May 2012: LONG ANSWER, but WORTH THE READ: At age 13, your body is filled with hormones you have never had to deal with before now. You have urges and erections for things you never imagined would ever stir these feelings before within you. Masturba... (read in full...)

Was I being a pushover by agreeing to my friend's demands?

Q.   I've had my best friend for about 5 years. He's a dude and I'm a chick but we have a really siblingish friendship, we're the same age and we often tell each other everything. But recently he's been kind of selfish and insensitive. ...

A.   27 April 2012: I would suggest you have him go with you to buy supplies for painting his requests. Have him foot the bill and refuse to pay for any of the supplies yourself if he wants it painted. Then tell him you will charge by the hour for painting these t... (read in full...)

I'm curious about how others would describe the way it feels when their significant other touches them

Q.   I'm curious about how others would describe the way it feels when their significant other touches them. :) I know when my girlfriend touches me, it's almost indescribable--she'll stroke my back, shoulders, arms, hands etc., sometimes really lightly ...

A.   27 April 2012: When two human beings come into contact with one another, there is a magnetism, a chemical reaction, and hormonal exchange. Sometimes that magnetism repulses, sometimes it attracts. When my wife touches my arm or hand or shoulder casually, in... (read in full...)

Why do men only ever approach me for casual sex?

Q.   Hi all, I'm 21 and have never been in a relationship. Nor have I ever been truly asked out or taken out on a date. I've had sex and guys pursue me with only this reason in mind it seems. I'm not a whore though and don't sleep with anyone/ever...

A.   27 April 2012: As a male member of plentyoffish.com and a few other sites, I can speak to your problem. Many men on dating sites are simply looking for a f*k buddy, a friend with benefits, or a one-night stand. Most men on dating sites are not looking for any ... (read in full...)

She said once we were married the sex would get better, but here I am a year later and she still does not want sex!

Q.   I've been married for about a year, and my wife only wants to have sex about once a week (if that). She has had minimal interest in sex since we first started seeing each other about three years ago. She has said she's just not that interested ...

A.   27 April 2012: You lucky man... If she is willing to have sex with you more than once a month after age 30, you are a lucky husband. Most men who have been married for a while or even a few years will attest to the fact that wives generally stop caring about their ... (read in full...)

How do Arians see Librans?

Q.   this question is for those agony aunts who have knowledge into zodiac signs, but if you wanna have your say, go for it. i've read articles about the compatibilty between a libran woman (myself) and an arian man (my partner). the results are prom...

A.   25 April 2012: Watch this: http://www.milkandcookies.com/link/168440/detail/ That is a video of the Showtime Channel's Episode of Penn & Teller's "Bullshit" on Astrology. Note that it contains adult language and nudity. If you were to take all the horoscop... (read in full...)

Guys, what do you look for in a girl?

Q.   Guys, what do you look for in a girl? This includes personality and looks. I know everyone is different. Also do u guys believe that when a guy is a player he can change once he meets that right girl??...

A.   19 April 2012: Honestly, I will tell you the truth, as mean or harsh as it may sound. While some men like women no matter what they look like, and some men seem to prefer women who have a lot of "jiggle and bounce" I am not one of those guys. I like women ... (read in full...)

Could this relationship be real-and if it is, could it be possible?

Q.   Okay here's the deal. I am fairly openly bi, have only specifically told about 5 people but in general I don't care what people say and think about me and I think most people have guessed because of various reasons--mainly, my inability to keep my m...

A.   19 April 2012: Labels and semantics tend to limit and restrain relationships. You seem to have a healthy mutual love for one another and there is no real reason to place a tag on it. Just BE. You need to think about how you feel about each other and just l... (read in full...)

Does my sister need mental help?

Q.   Hi everyone, just wanna thankyou for spending your time reading this. Not really sure where to start but im very worried about my little sister. My dad has brought me and her up by himself for the majority of our lives. My mum smoked and was on d...

A.   19 April 2012: If you have not already done so, tell your dad everything that you know and suspect. Tell him you both need to get her under control and perhaps get her into a mental health clinic or rehab. She needs order and structure to make sure she will be ... (read in full...)

Is it fair that my family smoke around me when I'm pregnant?!

Q.   Dear cupid aunts im 22. and pregnant. And have moved back.in with my parents because the babys dad left and as i was living.with him in a rented house i now cant afford the rent on a single wage. I love my parents and am grateful for all.they ...

A.   19 April 2012: For all of these replies stating that it's the parents house and thus their rules, get a clue! The dangers to pregnancy and the pregnant woman are well documented. For those parents and people living in that house not to consider the health o... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend watching "normal" porn?

Q.   My boyfriend of a year watches porn. I have often asked what king of porn he likes. I found out on his computer last night that he has been watching porn that involves young supposed high school girls with their teacher? I am so confused is this ...

A.   18 April 2012: Many men watch a wide variety of porn. Most men have specific fantasies that remain fantasies and would never be something they would consider acting out in reality. These are only threats or risks if they cannot differentiate between their fantasy ... (read in full...)

Is it fair that my family smoke around me when I'm pregnant?!

Q.   Dear cupid aunts im 22. and pregnant. And have moved back.in with my parents because the babys dad left and as i was living.with him in a rented house i now cant afford the rent on a single wage. I love my parents and am grateful for all.they ...

A.   18 April 2012: Show these videos to your family: Pregnancy and Smoking (Pregnancy Health Guru) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i-LqwmfHZDY Secondhand Smoke http://www.videojug.c... (read in full...)

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