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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (14 July 2010):
Oh you need to get out! and yes have him slammed in the pokey. there are so many good guys out there that are in their right mind, to treat you like a lady and have an awesome relationship! instead of worrying all the time why he's locked in the bathroom. if your gut is telling you something go w/ it until he proves you wrong but until then! keep your eyes open as well as your mind. you know what some of our biggest problems are? we think w/ our heart to much instead of using our heads!
Good Luck!
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reader, sara69 +, writes (14 July 2010):
sara69 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo not barley leagal its children under 12 and if you think thats ok then your just as sick as he is
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reader, sara69 +, writes (14 July 2010):
sara69 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionKid thats what type
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (14 July 2010):
Well, whatever the porn is, if it's that bad, then you must leave him.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (14 July 2010):
 Just curious, what do you consider the "worst kind of porn"?
And for the record, I hope you can see that all of this is a bad sign from him.
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reader, sara69 +, writes (14 July 2010):
sara69 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCome to find out its the worst type of porn......
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (7 July 2010):
Wow there all good responses take your pic.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (4 July 2010):
You know why? he wants to leave you? because he got caught!
so of course he's going to say that because he wants a response from you like he wants to hear you say, oh no honey i don't want you to leave. he's looking for a reaction because he's guilty and wants to know where he still stands w/ you if you don't believe me try him and say i don't want you to leave i just want you to be honest w/ me and have trust in our relationship! and see his reaction and what he says?
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (1 July 2010):
Wow not good well why don't you make your point you go in the bedroom and lock your door and if he knocks tell him you need your privacy! and if he gets upset then tell him this is what you do to me doesn't feel good does it? and then maybe he will know where you are coming from? i mean try some things first before you kick him out or call it off find out for you what his problem is? and if it's something you can't handle then you can make your decision on what you need to do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): Sweety take my advice. Dump him. If he is telling you it is 'none of your buisness' then he is not trust worthy which means he is not worth it, and believe me when I say any girl who has some self respect deserves a good boyfriend or partner who tells them the truth. If you really do suspect it is masturbation than you should probably have a talk to him and see what you can do about his 'problems' but if he keeps telling you to bug off please move him out of your life and take the utmost care when choosing your next partner because we all need sombody in our lifes we can trust.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (28 June 2010):
He's flipping things back onto you. He said he's leaving you because "you don't trust him...."? Well don't be fooled, HE is the one who is being secretive. He didn't even give you a chance to have a reaction. If he is watching porn, how does he know how you are going to react? Maybe you'd be okay with it. Maybe you'd just rather he be open and honest with you. And because he's being secretive, he's blaming you?
This sounds like the best thing that could possibly happen to you. It gives you a glimpse of what kind of future you have in store with this guy....
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reader, maxxie +, writes (26 June 2010):
 please, dont be naive. he is watching porn, thats what men do in the bathroom with their laptops. maybe you should talk about sex needs.
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (26 June 2010):
 Hello,
I think he was just masturbating. Don't let things get too broken.
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reader, sara69 +, writes (26 June 2010):
sara69 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI confronted him about porno and now he wants to leave me because he says that i don't trust him. i just want honesty what should i do? i love him but my emotions are going crazy
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): It's difficult to cheat when you're locked in a room alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): 90+% chance its porn. He wont answer bc hes embarrassed.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 June 2010):
Porn. That's the most obvious answer. I doubt he's cheating. That would be too obvious. Unless he's an idiot.
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reader, kitty-cat=] +, writes (25 June 2010):
![kitty-cat=] agony aunt](/avatars/4e276644-588c-43d2-bf37-fe35b92660b5.png) he could just be a very private person. i get embarrassed over nothing things and will refuse to talk bout it and get angry. and then when i don't tell they think im doing something bad. maybe he is just a private person. be sure to tell him that whatever hes doing he can tell you, and it wont change how you feel about him. hope this helped! :)
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reader, Yos  +, writes (25 June 2010):
 'None of your business'!?
That's a rude and confrontational response.
One thing is clear: it can't be good, because he doesn't want you to know about it. If it was fine, he'd not mind telling you.
So you have every reason to be paranoid.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (25 June 2010):
After more than a year and saying "None of your business"? That doesn't seem like long term boyfriend material, I'm afraid.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 June 2010):
 Especially with his "it's none of your business" response my guess is he's masturbating to porn. That's a little ridiculous to lock himself in the bathroom with a laptop and refuse to talk about it... Don't think he's cheating though.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (25 June 2010):
 Probably masturbating.. so what is the problem you have with him?
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (25 June 2010):
 I would assume he is punishing his monkey with a spanking.
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reader, sara69 +, writes (25 June 2010):
sara69 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have asked he just says it's none of my business
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reader, TimmD +, writes (25 June 2010):
He's probably masturbating to porn or nude pictures. This leads to the age old discussion on whether or not porn is considered cheating, which has varying opinions. That aside, I think the biggest issue is him hiding it from you and just not being honest.
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reader, Yos +, writes (25 June 2010):
Have you asked him what he's up to?
Can you hear a lot of typing? He could be talking on messenger to someone. Or he could be looking at porn. Or he could be addicted to something like a game, or gambling.
I suggest trying to have an open yet gentle talk about it.
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