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Why do married men lie and tell you there are separated, when they not?

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Question - (4 December 2011) 11 Answers - (Newest, 5 December 2011)
A female Australia age 41-50, *exy babe1980 writes:

Why do married men lie and tell you there are separated, when they not?

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A male reader, JustHelpinAgain Canada +, writes (5 December 2011):

I could turn this question around, why do women have sex with men before they've taken the time to discover if there is an honest bone in his body?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2011):

Everyone below is correct.

By telling he is 'separated', give you false hope about the posisbilitiy of the relationship, but keep a way for himself to back off at anytime, he wants.

By then, he will tell you, "my family is reconciled, I have never promised you anything". And, "as a woman at middle of 30s, you should have known what it would end up".

Cut him out right now, if you have yet done so.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2011):

they think they can get sex

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (5 December 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony aunt would you date him if he said he was married?

they lie so they can get laid... have a relationship...

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (4 December 2011):

Miamine agony auntBecause they want more sex, and they know if they tell the truth, the other woman will run off.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (4 December 2011):

Honeypie agony auntTo gain a woman's sympathy and trust. To make a women who would NEVER sleep with or date a married man interested.

Because he is a douche lord.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011):

Why not? If women aren't smart enough to know to stay away from a man who is separated then that's their own fault.

I mean separated means still married doesn't it?

It's all about the sex OP it's that simple. People lie to get what they want all the time. It doesn't make it right but it happens. But these things are easily prevented.

You know that separated is more like a 'break' than a break up. So if a person is idiot enough to date a person who is only on a break then they can't cry and moan when they discover they were just a rebound or sex puppet.

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A female reader, chickpea2011 United States +, writes (4 December 2011):

chickpea2011 agony auntHi sexy babe1980,

Because they have no character, integrity, honor, immature, selfish... They are pathetic, have self esteem issues, narcissistic, compulsive liars. Who knows why they are this way? Something happened in his childhood, past relationships? Or maybe it's in his blood...

At times in life, you will meet men like him, but do not let this experience discourage you of meeting future men. I know that this must have been difficult, and hurt you deeply. I know that it took from you the ability to trust men. Just know that it's not fair to punish future relationships because of this looser. I hope you don't think of him anymore, and be strong. Be glad that he's out of your life forever. I feel sorry for his wife, for wasting her precious life, trusting a coward like him.

Good luck/best wishes

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (4 December 2011):

CindyCares agony auntBecause they know that many women would not sleep with a married man.

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A female reader, tennisstar88 United States +, writes (4 December 2011):

tennisstar88 agony auntSo you'll play along with his affair.

Do you really expect married men to be honest? They're already lying to their wives by going behind their back with a mistress. Then they continue to feed lies to their mistress about how they're going to leave their wife one day. When in reality they have no intentions to!

Unless it's a legal separation, he's still committing adultery.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011):

they are looking to cheat on their wives and they know you wont just go with it.

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