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writes:I still don't understand how someone who was supposed to love you, can just up and leave you and never look back. I'm talking about relationships where everything's fine, but then one person does a 180 degree turn and leaves for no apparent reason. Reply to this Question
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reader, meccamega +, writes (5 December 2011):
meccamega is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou one thing I can't stand is the subtle hints thing.It drives me nuts. I can't read people's minds. I can't stand it when people do that to end a relationship.Sux.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2011): Although i agree with the other girls it is possible for him to have what if moments... the guy i lost my virginity in highschool to broke things off with me to get back with his ex when things were seeming likevthey weree getting really good with us. I always wondered if he ever regretted it or thought what if I stayed with her. N years later I come to find out he did have seconds thoughts n what if moments. (He told someone who told me)
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (4 December 2011):
 Hi meccamega,
I have to agree with "cindycares"... This didn't happen overnight. The truth is that he was not honest with you. I don't know how long you you've been together, how well you know each other, or how close, but I can tell you for sure that he's dishonest, liar, cruel, and selfish.
I hope you feel better soon. After knowing what kind of person he really is, don't waste anymore of your precious time thinking about this guy. Don't try to make sense of nonsense. What he did was hurtful, and shows no class. You deserve better.
Good luck/best wishes.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 December 2011):
 They never do a 180 degree turn for no reason at all- unless they are mentally ill.
The truth is , that they have been inching away since a long time, and they have given out, intentionally or not, subtle or not so subtle signals that they were pulling their energy off the relationship. Signals that the other party fails to pick up , or, often,notices but does not WANT to pick up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011): My thoughts on this that everything was fine for one person in the relationship, but for the one who left everything wasn't fine and they just didn't have the guts to say anything or work on the problem they had with it and so they just gave up and left. That's what I have come to see over time. I might be wrong though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2011): i believe this is called "commitment phobia."
as soon as they are expected to really commit, they run for the hills
its one thing to be in a good relationship where you both promise to love and respect each other, its a whole other thing to actually be hitting the serious point.
some hit later then others :(
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