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This new guy is different. I like him so much. But why can't I stop sexual texting and flirting with all the other guys, still?

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Question - (6 January 2012) 3 Answers - (Newest, 6 January 2012)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend and I have been together about a month now and I have started to really care about him but I dont want to hurt him.

Before I met him I use to talk to a lot of other guys some I just flirted with but other I use to text sexual things, pics, and have phone sex one of the guys I did mess around with but no sex.

After I met my boyfriend I wanted to change and stop all of that, but ever since we've been dating I havent been able to stop talking to some of the guys. I try just deleting their numbers and saying I wont talk but then they end up texting me or I end up texting them and talking sexual I dont want to cheat on him, but sometimes its just hard for me to say no.

There is still that little part of me that wants to talk to them.

My boyfriend and I also decided to not have sex or do anything sexual until marriage which I am fine with, I havent had sex, but it does make it a little harder to say no to other guys who want to talk sexual to me I want to stop talking to the couple of guys I talk to its just so difficult for me.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2012):

You care about this new guy, but not enough. End your relationship because you are wasting his time.

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A male reader, confusedguy777 Australia +, writes (6 January 2012):

quite frankly you seem to need the attention due to low self esteem as was the same for my former gf.. i can tell you it wont end well for you if your bf finds out so if you truely care for him you will stop the cheating. honestly what your doing is cheating and its horrible.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (6 January 2012):

Honeypie agony auntYou know a lot of people calls sexting cheating? And in my book it is too.

You seem a little insecure or immature. Maybe you need to figure out WHY you can't "help" yourself.

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